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mii4u:
U are really but a child.

English please, come back when you can put two English words together.

nairalanda1:
So, your mum was not wired to handle a lot of things, I daresay?

So your dad was not wired to understand this fact? Then I understand why you will never understand and will ultimately become a SIIMPle man.

Kingzjayzee:
A South African man, Dr. Bakhe Dlami, has revealed that his wife has full access to his phone and his bank account “belongs to her.”

The marriage counsellor and psychologist disclosed this in a Facebook post on Thursday, November 20,

The father of three said he owes his woman loyalty, commitment and treats her like he would want his two daughters to be treated.

“Husband of 1, father of 3, always home latest 6:00PM (unless work demands), my wife has FULL access to my phone. My bank account belongs to her, hers belongs to myself; we are one. I'm in this marriage thing a 1 000%,” he wrote.

"I don't do half commitments. And yes, I'm there for the fun. If there's no fun, intimacy, connection: I don't want it. I believe in being a "gentleman", chivalry, decorum. I'm not a simp, I'm a leader. Not a dictator, but a leader.

“I owe my woman loyalty, commitment. I have 2 girl children. I treat my wife like I'd want my daughters to be treated. I strive to be a better husband & father each day. I come from a painful background; have to do better. I can't fail myself. Foolishness is stumbling where your predecessors have.”


https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2025/11/my-wife-has-full-access-to-my-phone-my-bank-account-belongs-to-her-i-treat-her-like-id-want-my-daughters-to-be-treated-south-african-man-say.html

what's this Simple man from south Africa saying?

Who cares if he dies for his wive?

Women are naturally not wired to handle a lot of things, so don't expose them to such things.

There is a big difference between treating a woman right and being a SIMPle man.

mii4u:
Who gave birth to u without training u did u such a great injustice. Who do u communicate with pple outside?

Please go back and demand for training before it becomes late.

Tueh.

Grammatical errors everywhere, ashi, aka gbolo puci can't even put simple words together.

Education na your mate?

mii4u:
My friend kip quiet and do ur findings before quoting me. Go and listen to the first wife story, it's not different from Regina's story.

uur popsy karn nevaa bi ars rich as Ned. Na gate man yar popsy bi 2 Ned.

mii4u:
My friend kip quiet and do ur findings before quoting me. Go and listen to the first wife story, it's not different from Regina's story.

when a woman with no husband, no responsibility, no child or baby mama and will must likely kpai in her father's house unmarried is advising and supporting the wife of a billionaire to leave her marriage.

Then it is over

mii4u:
Regina is on drugs buy some of the drugs wre introduced to her by her husband for his pleasure.

Ned Nwoko is far older than Regina and he more clever than she is. He kips talking about the smoking thing before pple so that at a time like this, he can have a witness in the house.

Regina is a junkie, but Ned played a part.

When emotion and lack of content meets logic, sensibility and brains this post you just posted without any evidence to back up your claims against Ned's involvement in drugs is what you get.

If you are so sure that Ned was responsible for turning Regina into a druggie, then go a publish on social media.

Make you go relax for prison.

How you protect a druggie and try to create falsehood is you just being wicked.

Why are other wives not running mad like Regina? All this little girls in your street doing drugs were also introduced into drugs by their fathers.

We4all:
Many men have been sleeping with their daughters and there haven't been a public or social media uproar, but now every man is standing up for the man who was supposedly falsely accused by his wife.

The question is, why did the woman accuse her husband in the first place and how was it determined that she lied? I am not holding brief for anyone, but the police should investigate this thoroughly as it could be a case of the woman retracting her accusations because she is being threatened by her in-laws.

investigation is free, you can go
and carryout your own investigation. And tell us how he did it.

No man celebrates a man who abuses his daughters sexually.

Men will never support such evil, so na you know where them they celebrate that can thing maybe in you family

DatNiggaDaz:


What an obsession of our Neigbours from the East. Truly our neigbours are the movers and shakers of Nigeria. Anything about them is recognized, talked about gossiped.

Some earn their daily bread and feed their families since Tinubu failed to favour them and their families just by talking about our neigbours from the East

This thread is just one example to the fact that some people who for whatever reason dislike our neigbours but cannot feed themselves without being possessed by some kind of obsession spirit

Are you a woman? Cause you sound like a scorned woman.

godliman:
Please those from that axis educate us, was it a Christian dominated community?

So you are more bordered by the Christian word attached to a very atrocious act of terrorism against children and the vice principal a father and husband rather than the killings.

No worry, e go reach you one way or the other.

Orlandoo:
Consequences of marrying someone you could birth.

Reverse psychology. Well done👍

So a woman of 24 years is not matured, reasonable enough to know what to dish out online and what not to dish out online?

I see nothing but a drug influence woman speaking, The Tonto dick style. It's all drugs and Ned was right.

I have seen women who are still responsible and married at 24. No noise, no fuss!

Georgry:
This one is commendable, anything to ease the burden on the already over burdened Nigerians is very welcomed.

They abolished it and replaced it with what? How you people believe this Govt baffled me.

Nigerians should wait till 2026, as see what replaced these charges. The new tax policy is worse than this abolished taxes. You will pay through your nose. Wait and see!

Don't celebrate yet, excerpt you are gullible.

breathless:
"Pastor", you don't have to go personal and refer to my comment as "meaningless" just because it does not go down well with you neither did I "teach or giving wrong advice that is not in line with the will and intentions of God".
Seeing that you quoted scriptures to state/support yours, kindly quote the ones that talks about women sharing financial responsibilities or does being "a suitable helper" mean only sharing financial responsibilities to you?
My "advice" was in my last paragraph as "added bonus".

Bro. I'm not a Pastor, I didn't go personal because I believe people must have opposing opinion or perspective to life. It's a freedom we all enjoy.

My response to you was spun out of the need to correct some wrong notions and points you made.

That the responsibility of a home solely lies on the man alone without the support/help of his wife in 2025?

We are in an age when everything and norms have changed to survival of the fittest, an age when we all rely and need each other, friends, loved one, family, even strangers and God almighty to survive in this world. is when a full grown woman who is married and has a source of income and capacity to help her home (Children and husband) will selfishly ignore and refuse to help and allow a man shoulder everything. Mehn.... She is a wicked and heartless woman who was never meant to be married.

Any man who does not assign or ask for help from not just any woman but his wife to help the family once in a while is heading straight to an early grave and early health challenges it might not be scientifically proven, but it's naturally proven and tested. He will die for nothing!

But I can't live your life for you, if you feel it's all your responsibility in this life to shoulder all the challenges of your family without the help of your wife bro. then it's your choice and wahala.

When I heard a lot about issues regarding men and women, I had to ask this question.

WHY WAS EVE CREATED AFTER ADAM WAS CREATED❓ I wanted to know the purpose and why a woman was created. Even the name of a woman was given by a man not God.

Genesis 3:20 states, "The man named his wife Eve, because she was the mother of all living".

In this verse, Adam gives his wife her name, Eve, meaning "living" or "life," based on his faith that she would become the mother of all humanity.

Mother of all humanity this is not child's play, it is a big responsibility to her children and her husband.

There are a lot of women who understands this, there are billions who don't even know why they are created.

Like I said before, it's not personal bro., let's pray that our young men have a better understanding of what a woman is rather sex, big yansh and breast.

I pray we meet women who understands their purpose on earth and the right woman. If you marry the right woman believe me half of your problems is solved. No jokes bro. Half of your wahala done solve.

When the wrong women finds a place in the life of a man, she makes it hell.

Have a nice day👍

BlocksNG:
Tinubu should do the needful, an idle president is a tool in devil's hand.

Hmmm that one na person?

The man is thinking about 2027

This is where my questions, concerns and answers about practical Islam are.

And I ask again.

Why is practical Islam so different and in opposite to the teachings of Islam?

This is a man that is regarded as extremist, a man that emboldens terrorism, yet being booked my Nigerian Muslims to teach them on practical Islam.

Will he teach them anything other than extremism and terrorism?

Codepain:
No controversy
Just stupid twitter ants that think they can dictate who Muslims bring for Islamic conference
I swear Kuffar have a lot of audacity

What these Muslims will cause in this country all in the name of religion.

An extremist is invited to indoctrinate them.

Hamas rejects ‘dangerous’ US proposal at UN for Gaza

In a statement published overnight by Hamas on behalf of the Palestinian factions — the terror groups operating in the Gaza Strip, led by Hamas — says that the resolution submitted by the US to the UN Security Council is “dangerous” and “an attempt to subject the Gaza Strip to international authority.”

The statement says the Palestinian factions reject any clause relating to the disarmament of Gaza or harming “the Palestinian people’s right to resistance.”

The statement also rejects any foreign military presence inside the Gaza Strip, saying it would constitute a violation of Palestinian sovereignty.

“Any international force must be directly subordinate to the UN and work in coordination with the official Palestinian institutions, without the participation of the occupation,” it says.

The UN will vote later today on the resolution endorsing US President Donald Trump’s comprehensive Gaza ceasefire plan, which will deliver Gaza to an International Stabilization Force (ISF) and an apolitical Palestinian administration overseen by a Trump-chaired Board of Peace.

Under the plan, Gaza is to be demilitarized and rebuilt, although Hamas has so far refused to agree on the matter of demilitarization.

https://www.timesofisrael.com/liveblog_entry/hamas-rejects-dangerous-us-proposal-at-un-for-gaza-stabilization-force/

Africa, well it can't happen in Nigeria.

No Nigerian leader can try it, excerpt you don't like yourself and the air you breath by daring to stay in power for more than 8 years.

honesttalk21:
You probably are getting my earlier explanations now. I said it was better you started another thread to take your questions one by one then you say I should answer at least one question

You asked:

1. Is it the same Koran they study?
2. Are they the real or fake Muslims?
3. Do they study and ready the same things you study and ready in Koran?
4. Why is Islamic teachings that sounds so beautiful and enticing so opposite to its practical application?

I answered that it's the same Quran and explain varied understanding and application based on different motives.

Your fourth question I understand is related to various untoward actions considered to be done by Muslims. Latest estimates for Muslim population is put at between 2.0 to 2.05 billion. Of this number at least 1.5 billion + are peaceful. I reckon you know a fair number of Muslims you interact with that are peaceful and non troublesome.

I don't know what you mean by correlation between Christianity and Islam but all to know is that they are both closely related Abrahamonic religions with few differences that seem to matter. They are somewhat viewed as the most populous religions and as such significant in worldly affairs.

Those who claim Islam is an inherently violent religion ignore the overwhelming majority of adherents to the faith — there are more than 1.5 billion Muslims worldwide — who live peacefully.

https://www.usip.org/publications/2015/11/islam-religion-peace

if over 1.5 billion Muslims are peaceful, why do we have a hostile, violent and war torn middle east?

This is where bulk of the 1.5 billion Muslims come from but the middles east remains a region without Peace, rather unending wars upon war.

Another close example is northern NIGERIA another flash point for Islamic terrorism with no end in sight.

Where is the peace?

muyico:
This pure assault, any laws defending our teachers??

Which teacher?

Find out what happened first, this are the same teachers we hear about them abusing children sexually and direct assault on kids.

Some kids die, some left with permanent body damage.

Why will a parent go to school just to slap a teach? Ask yourself

I am not paying school fees for a teacher to abuse my child

muyico:
This pure assault, any laws defending our teachers??

Which teacher?

Find out what happened first, this are the same teachers we hear about them abusing children sexually and direct assault on kids.

Some kids die, some left with permanent body damage.

Why will a parent go to school just to slap a teach? Ask yourself

breathless:
1. If the wife is working class, Is it expected that the man pays 100% of the rent?
ANS: Yes. You are expected to "chest" the full rent. That's 100% your responsibility. Remember you took her from her father's house where she knows nothing about paying or sharing rent. However, wisdom dictates that you get an accommodation that's within your means and make projections for future increase.
2. If the wife is working class, is it expected she contributes towards children school fees or the man pays 100%?
ANS You pay the school fees 100% bro. Again, choose a school you can afford and get the termly bill and pay directly yourself. Make no mistake of giving her the money to pay. If she does pay, it should be voluntary or freewill and ensure you reimburse her as soon as you can. However, if she's "magnanimous", she may take care of some things like the child(ren)'s lunch pack/box(es), extra clothing etc.
3. If the wife contributes financially, is there an expectation that the man does chores? (Ps I don't want to do any chores in this life apart from occasional cooking lol).
ANS This can occur especially of your spouse is not the "domesticated" type. She can use it as an opportunity to "rope" you into doing chores. That's when you'll be called to "bring out the food in the freezer to microwave for yourself or the children because she's running late getting home". Trust me, women have ways of making you do things you ordinarily will frown at but you won't due to the circumstances. However, try make yourself useful when at home by taking on some chores intermittently like clearing cobwebs , help iron her clothes for church while she's in the bathroom , clearing and washing dishes together as a way of bonding etc.
4. If the wife contributes financially how does it affect the decision making in the family?
ANS You don't get to make decision by fiat but through dialogue and compromise (which can sometime hurt your ego)
The last question is ONLY for married men who share bills?
I don't share bills with my spouse but she supports voluntarily especially when she senses I'm not financially buoyant and I make up for it in KIND.
5a. Do you feel respected by your wife when you share bills with her?
ANS During my "downtime", I had to reorientate my mind that she was earning her money with my name and what she
*5b. If you don't share bills with your wife and she keeps 100% of her earnings to herself, what do you think is the purpose of a woman working?
ANS Don't go into marriage with this mindset bro. Women want some level of "freedom and independence" including their finances. Let her spend her income the way she deems fit. That's a way to know if she's a good or bad with finances and to what extent you can trust with your finances or that of the family.

As an added bonus, I suggest you both have this conversation not with the mind of sharing financial responsibilities but to build and secure your future financially. Have a goal or plan and be committed to it wholeheartedly. For instance, if you earn more, you can suggest to her to use her income to run the home while yours is put into capital projects like securing landed properties, setting up and running a family business etc.

All the best.

How men, SIMPle men lost everything to women I just shake my head and laugh.

Leave all this meaningless things you provided here as answer and pray you find the right woman for you.

A woman who can not share her earnings once in a while or help/support her family (husband and children) should remain in her father's house, because she is a selfish person. Selfish women usually are not recommended for marriage.

Because, even if you have all the money, do you think life can't happen to you? What about your health? What about you get involved in a health challenge that incapacitates you?

Does it mean since you can't provide the marriage is over because she can't help or support with her earnings?

I want to advice young men with good mental standing, If you have a woman that is selfish and can't help you once in a while, can't buy you things, can't go to the market but stuff and cook for you as a man she claims to love and you know she has the capacity to do so, bro. You are with a selfish woman, leave her.

But if you think she is beautiful and you can't leave her and find a woman who meets the condition or reason God in heaven created a woman in the first place to be a help mate or support you in this short life of yours on Earth then remain with her and don't complain later.


Gen 2:18

"The LORD God also said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him a suitable helper.”

This is the reason God created a woman, I pity men who don't realize this and think they should carry all the borden and suffer alone on this earth without the support of their woman or wife.

Any woman who fails to help her man or husband has failed her number one assignment from God and the reason God created her and should remain with her father in her father's house. test their love, not by sex and love making, but by understanding her and her mental and family orientation.

A woman who spent time with her father and love her father will naturally see the need to support her dearly beloved husband if she has the means and capacity to help him.

Because her father is her role model and she saw what her father went through to sustain the home.

Get close to God and see that God has solutions and answers to all your questions and confusions

So bro. Stop teaching or giving wrong advice that is not in line with the will and intentions of God.

Fonyen:
Tanzania on USA mind.

Feminist won't like this.

is Tanzania a country place or thing?

The people who sold democracy to us are yet to have a fellow President, do you think they don't know what they are doing by not letting a woman sit there?

Obrigardo:
Well 2028 will prove her wrong
The Simpsons prediction must come to pass
A woman president will come to clean the waste and corruption of the tyrant predator trump's admin
Either Kamala Harris comes again or we have President Ocasio Cortez

Lol.... You dey dream my guy!

God1000:
She's right, we've seen it twice, first it was Hillary Clinton and later Kamala Harris, two remarkable women.

If a country as powerful, advanced and civilized as america is afraid of having a female president, it says a lot

Of all the positions in America it is the most powerful position a woman craves to have, it says a lot about that particular woman. Because the question is why does she want the most powerful position in the world?

If she can't be in the battle front like men, then she can't sit on the most powerful seat.

Women should be in place of love and feminity because the position of the President of America is not one a woman can handle.

pdppower:
They should not complain. After all, shebi they claimed "Bandits are our children". Let their children continue torturing them. When they are ready to tackle them they know where to find them.

First and foremost how do you call terrorists bandits?

How do you kill 16 people and still be labelled bandit?

honesttalk21:
Hello. Let me draw your attention to the originating or opening post. The author began with elaborate and diverse issues in the early paragraphs but pay attention to the thread topic.

In lime with the header he challenges that how can Islam reject the Christian idea that someone can bear another person’s sins, yet the hadith in Sahih Muslim 2767 appears to say that on the Day of Resurrection Allah will give a Jew or Christian as a ransom for a Muslim, or place Muslims’ sins upon them? How do Muslims reconcile this with their claim that ‘everyone bears his own sins’?

It is important for clarity and not distortion to keep issues centered so there isn't confusion or further misunderstanding. With regard to your question which in my view are not fundamentally related to the post but further concerns I acknowledge my limitation of not personally knowing or working with any of the groups you listed, and resultant inability to speak of their inner motives, structures, politics, or how they interpret religion. I can only explain the difference between mainstream Islamic teaching and what violent groups claim.

I however implore you to have these taken singly in another thread to keep this post centered. Also don't be too eager to get all answers at once but be patient to acquire knowledge about and understand which is less likely to be swift.

So the only answer for here is the Qur’an is the same. The difference is not about the Qur’an but how people interpret it, what is learnt and what political or ideological goals they bring to it. Violent groups extract a few verses, remove all historical context, reject classical scholarship, and weaponize religion for their own agendas.

At least over 1.5+ billion Muslims live normal, peaceful lives but the news focuses on conflict, not everyday goodness. Terrorist groups exist not because of Islamic teachings but because of politics, war, failed states, occupation, poverty, and ideological manipulation.

Thank you sir, but your reply is ambiguous and multilayered.

Can you please simplify for my understanding?
Because I personally don't understand the correlation between Christianity and Islam.

Especially when you said 1.5 billion Muslims are peaceful.

I await your honest reply sir.

Samesame247:
I blame Donald Trump for this; he stirred the beehive

keep playing politics with human lives until you or your loved ones are the next victim of insecurity anywhere in Nigeria.

BlackfireX:
you will be diaappointed wirh that guy...

he will start quietly...then try to spin it...bring in christiaanity...then shift all you peacefully pointed put on christiaanity.


my brother islam does not mean peace ... it means submission .

submission to Allah + muhammed decisions
yet they claim he has ni partner.

they accused chrisianity on the concept of salvation that God dosent require sacrifice, intermidiaries , ransom, replacement , becaause of...

but anyone who send prayer praises on muhamed his sins will be forgiven. if you go on hajj and round the stone like the pagans do your sins will be forgiven. if you kiss the black stone sins are forgiven . infact it was because of people sin thta the kaaabaa that was white became black... and so many others

but when we open the Quran and hadiths sahih muslim 2767a 2767b 2767c 2767d where christains and jews are ransom for muslims.
it becomes another thing entirely a confusion ... you see lies upon lies to cover up arabu level lies.

Dear honesttalk21 can you respond to these concerns?
These and many more are of great concern to sane people.

You can't preach peace and love but practice opposite of everything you teach.

Please clarify these concerns.

Thanks 👍