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OverCalculating:
This isn’t about insulting men; it’s about holding up a mirror and self reflection. The traits below describe a pattern of behavior that I have closely observed in Nigerian men, that quietly erodes self-respect, ambition, and control over their lives. The sad thing is that many of them don't even know about it.

As a man, If you see yourself in several of these points, it’s not a verdict. It’s a starting point. All you need to do is just to recognize the habits, then start finding how to break them and rebuild discipline, purpose, and self-respect.

As a lady, if you observe these habits in your fiancee, you don't need to worsen the case for him by feeling it is normal. It is either you choose to help him rebuild himself with discipline and self respect or just walk away if you think you can't tolerate it.

There is a serious problem with your guy if:


1. He has a victim mentality.

2. He complains instead of fixing his own problems.

3. He's easily influenced and always looking for validation from others.

4. He can't control his sexual urges and food cravings.

5. He has weak eye contact, sloppy handshake, and is afraid to stand for what he believes in.

6. He's a nice guy who's always available.

7. He believes his parents are responsible for his miserable life.

8. He smokes weed. He's a weak man.


9. He distracts himself with pleasure and has no purpose in life.

10. He can't control his emotions and gets easily offended.

11. He is desperate and puts women on a pedestal.

12. Likes gossiping about others.

13. He's fat and in terrible shape but doing nothing about it.

14. There is lack of self-discipline to take action.

15. He gives constant excuses and whine about his problems.

what's this nonsense?
Them tell you say riches and wealth na by all this nonsense? Worst part is "13. He's fat and in terrible shape but doing nothing about it" Are you being objective or you are just here to body shaming fat people? You are too petty.

That body you think you have, are you the one that created it? I have seen a lot of slim people with 7 packs still broke and purposeless. I have seen countless slim people craving to have some flesh on their bones.

JimmySwaggart:
Na for where them dey see them be that.
Insecurity everywhere. No be person wey dey alive dey fan football club. This elites can sometimes be very insensitive.

Is Atiku the president of Nigeria?

You go vote incompetent Tinubu, then they blame Atiku who is not in Government. Make una they check una head ooh

MT:
Are they alright,?

When did they deem it fit to congratulate a local team in Nigeria?

they all have the right to support any team of their choice.
If you and millions of Nigerians have the right to support Madrid, Chelsea, arsenal, man utd and other European clubs.

Why is it a crime for Atiku to be an arsenal fan?

You people should get serious and objective in this country and leave frivolity alone. We have more important things to worry about.

XTruth:
Killing they leaders yet they aren't surrending what does that tell you.
A simple failed libya attempt.

After killing they leader trump think they will be a internal fight for power but the reverse was the case.. even the citizens now in support of the regime.

During the so called rescue attempt a USA military Chief said every single Iranian with gun were aiming at the USA..

No one want his or her country to be like libya.

If they love the status of their country, why are they help the Mossad and CIA with intelligence? Iranians want the Ayotallahs out. They want freedom.
Iran must not have a nuclear weapon. For your safety and the safety of all humanity.

God1000:
The comedian has chickened out again, the unhinged coward is so disoriented




Iran isn't Venezuela

They play!
Over 11 Iranian leaders and generals marked for termination would have been sent packing out of this world to meet their maker in the early hours of today.

Top on the list is their parliament speaker and President. These two men would have gone to paradise to meet Mohamed for what exactly?
Thanks to Saudi Arabia and Pakistan.

Top Mossad and CIA Intel. you for wake up this morning crying 😭.

Lol ...

Samantha125:
What if the lady is like some of us and doesn't eat food from those local street restaurants?

No doubt, the food is delicious, but I've only had bad experiences with them... Each time I eat them, I have this tendency of either getting a bad runny stomach or heartburn... My mother then once said something that made me to entirely stop eating them, she told me how some of those local street restaurants use good luck charms to be attracting customers and that my body is probably resisting them.

Life is simple, go to any eatery of your choice eat and drink whatever you like at your own expense. Madam pay for your food! Then swear for una? Spend your money on yourself, na your money.

Free things kills ooh... Ask so many ladies, they have all been used because of free meals. Abi them done use you join?

Stop being hungry only when you meet a man jor.

Just imagine, What if the lady is like some of us and doesn't eat food from those local street restaurants? some of you that never visits the restaurant on your own, but will quickly remember the best restaurants the moment a man says "I like you"😂

Amotolongbo:
You just lost your sight for nothing.
If the God is so powerful like they claim, why did he allow the bullet to hit her and go blind.
If it was a a test of faith, why not the God make her see again since she had already withstood the temptation and passed successfully?

Emancipate yourself from mental slavery

instead of attacking the culprits, you are attacking the victim for her faith and believes.

It's such a shame that we have lost all our moral and human compass.

Must she be shot?

Wealthyonos:
It's clear you lack wisdom and knowledge. Who instituted leadership and politics? Who made the first king in the Bible? Who said the elder shall serve the younger? I was being sarcastical when I mentioned heaven. U will just wake up from your miserable life and be attacking people.

Your Knowledge and wisdom starts and ends with believing that heaven is the cause and solution to all your problems.

In America, people don't wait for heaven, they go all out and demand for their rights and good government. Stop waiting for heaven.

Go out, vote and defend your vote, stop being miserable and lazy, stop waiting for god to come and wash your plates after eating. Stand up and wash your dishes yourself.

You have the knowledge and wisdom of a Lazy man.

Wealthyonos:
This one one day will say he wants to enter heaven abi?

Politics is an act of man, God did not device it. Heaven has nothing to do with Nigeria politics.

Better wake up and see that your fellow men don't suffer you just because they are leaders. Ensure that your vote count.

b2strike:
Forgiving and accepting her is an extra layer for a solid marriage. She is truly remorseful, hence the fear and lies. She's a good lady. Go ahead, have time with her, sleep with her, impregnate her before marriage.

see this one they believe woman. You think the man that impregnated is the only man that has entered the place..

Woman go really use you.

Stephen0mozzy:
A virgin female doctor?
Hehehehe.... Asin, not to sound ignorant o... I guess there are tons of females who go through roughly 7years of medical school, 1year of housemanship, 1 year of youth service, around 3 years of junior residency...

Well, to return to your query... It could really be that she was ashamed, but I think she could have brought up the truth that she already had premarital sex before and doesn't want to do it again, without revealing anything about the abortion, and without claiming immaculate abstinence...but alas.

As you said, you like the way she carries herself.... Now I want to hope you rushed marriage preparation because of her value as a woman, AND NOT BECAUSE OF THE ILLUSION OF RETAINED HYMEN?

If the hymen was all you cared about, then I guess you should look for another resident doctor whose hymen is still resident in its natural position.

But if you want to marry her because of her personal qualities, see how you can forgive her LIE, but know that something built on a foundation of lies, already has a k-leg.

I wish you the bery vest.

You are neither here nor there!

She lied, she was deceptive abinitio and that deceiption invalidates everything about how she carried herself. She is unprincipled and dishonest. How she carried herself but couldn't say the very simple truth about herself.

Even if I can't advice him to continue or stop, I will asking him to use his teeth to count his tongue. Next time when a woman tells you she is a virgin try to confirm it yourself.

My friend had a similar experience, but in his case it was a surprise to him. She never opened her mouth to tell him about her virginity. It was when he tried to have a penetration that he knew about her virginity.

He immediately stopped, he was shocked and queried her on why she didn't tell him from the beginning. She said, she wanted a man that would love her like a normal girl not because of her virginity.

My friend never touched her until their wedding night. the experience was that he confirmed it himself, but in your case you couldn't confirm, it was your right to confirm. But you failed woefully.

I blame you for falling so cheaply to that lying tongue you are about to marry.

Tunmise40:
Good. At least this would bring more money for the economy and strengthen the naira somewhat

Mr dream boy

Sonofgod1990:
I love guava pass All my 7 girlfriends but excluding my sweet baby mama

Arsenal 1 vs Burnley 2 ✅

PSG 4 vs arsenal 0 ✅

Omo you no go sleep well after Arsenal lands the double in few weeks from now.

Jakarta:
Go learn how to read and understand, or tell chatgpt to Elim5 my comment for you.

go and learn how to make rational comments in public space.

The man is saying the truth about this useless govt. And you are linking him up to Tinubu.

Jakarta:
Where you not once part of them, E no favour you now, you wan claim better person pot calling kettle black. Ogbeni start to distribute laptops and phones.

Go and sit down.

Amaechi never hid is disdain for Tinubu's incompetence from the beginning.

He never supported Tinubu any day!

DrabeeyIsBack:
Slavery or foolishness?

Both 😂

Fearyourcreator:
As per say you blind normally with your cohorts supporting Obi

Really?
Let what befell Nigeria, befall you and your family.

Since you have eyes to see, you and your family will see the conditions of Nigeria for 6000 years. From insecurity, inflation, unemployment, poverty and hardship. As millions of Nigerians are blind to see, you that has eyes will see all of it for 6000 years, Amen.

The debt is scary. What is subsidy money used for, where is subsidy money?

The annoying part is we are not seeing anything meaningful from this useless govt.

Jorussia:
Oga Adultery is the same for both genders.

Is a man with 4 wives committing Adultery?

Amotolongbo:
Is this a script for content or you are daydreaming?

Learn from other people's errors and stop asking irrelevant questions.

You wan turn Shiloh to your birth ground?

Has a woman ever loved a man without conditions and benefits?

I met a girl recently, After 2 days she texted me that she is hungry. I was like what the F I'm I doing with this level of woman? The next day I stopped talking to her and eventually quit.

Gone are the days when ladies went for struggling men. They all want an already made man. This is why you mustn't pity them.

As the love of a man is free to his woman, the love of a woman is dependent on benefits and what she can get from that relationship. So when I see some uninformed and ignorant men it's all love is laugh.

lordm:
If civil servant with lower salaries are building, what's your excuse?

how many civil servants do you know that built a house with just salary?

I mean salaries only, without loans or stolen money.

WatchYourSix:
U are the one defending nonsense….by justifying harming ur fellow human being just because u think being ur daughter give u the right to harm her in the name of discipline ……its the father that set herself up

Don't worry and don't discipline your children, they will become wayward and bring shame to your family.

Since you think proper discipline and upbringing is a crime.

pharmacist:
https://healthdictive.com/diet-plan-for-prostate-health-2/

No be only plan, do you know how much is in your plan? How many men can afford your plan?

WatchYourSix:
lol… u are just desperate to justify wrong harming a human being ……
discipline cannot be in any form…… thats why u have a word called domestic violence….

she just set her father up! Stop defending nonsense, no father goes this far without a reason.

madridguy:
Is she too big for her dad to discipline or what?
No man will be happy beating her adult daughter in that manner. She should listen to her dad and be a good girl.

This evil pikin done finally set her papa up.

I pity the man she go end up with....
No father goes this length for no reason.

Didi2d:
The gun dey on transit probably for a purpose, but the person wey dem wan hit get strong head.
Just saying, it might be for other purpose sha

H.I.T things, But that person no go die easily. 😂

DuttyChuks:
Their hatred for Christians are beginning to show up. Thanks to social media, it will expose them more.

Firstly, that's not virgin Mary, secondly, The Catholic Church that introduced it have lost their path and direction by having a Pope that has lost its purpose and direction.

Give that image ciga make em smoke jor!

Gbadugbakun:
You guys can't win the winner of PSG and Bayern. Arsenal won Atletico yesterday because ATM is currently a below average team.

for your information, arsenal won bayern this season.

So which be you guys can't win?

SadiqBabaSani:
The North actually plotted a couple against Tinubu, yet media visibility is never given to it, Why?

nah villa cook or cleaner go plan coup?

Abeg go sit down!

Freshtruth:
Jesus am in trouble

while I wish you well and pray you find solution to your problem.

I want to also criticize you constructively bro.
Take no offense.

You no try, you saw traces of blood in your saliva and you did nothing?
Bro take your health seriously and quick intervention could be the difference between life and death. correct me if am wrong.

Go to the hospital for full evaluation of your health.