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That story really brought me to tears man. . . . Nice one

Anyways, I think Dew is a home wrecker. . .

@ Poster,
I think I'm gonna throw up after reading this thread. I can say that most of them are true about females but except the part on the 5 minutes issue because if I say 5 minutes, I'll get ready in less than 5 minutes. With my schedule, I am so use to be being early or on time. Anyways, good job. At least other guys in here will get to understand the opposite sex better.

and now i winnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

CH3COO:
born flirt? reference to me?

I dont know. You said it

Some people in here are born Flirterers.

That dude whom shot people is Korean not Malaysian. . .

StephenP:
That was the fucking dude who shot 32 people at Virginia Tech. If he didn't kill himself, I would have gone down there and killed him for scaring my entire family. The fucking bastard!

YES! Thats what I thought so too. Hope he rot in Hell!  

CH3COO:
I'm Malaysian  

Ha! Dont kid yourself Bro. . .  Na waaa oooo. . .

rubylena, so you no longer want to date me?

HAHA! What a name. . . .

CH3COO:
yeah what about my profile pic? think i'm cute or what?

Since when you became Asian

NAH. . . . THATS NOT YOU AT ALL.

Why does most women feel all they need to be happy is having a man in their life? Women

are likely to be single than men, so when they do finally have a man, they tend to be very

happy and fulfilled. Why men on the other hand, tend to be happy when pepper rest.

Really? I dont think so. If I dont have a man in my life, its fine by me still

[quote author=Chi*Babe link=topic=150774.msg2520877#msg2520877 date=1216316779]OK Wendy, (You asked for my story, )#2

I'm one of those that ended up in the emergency room after a late night fight! After i started to find out so many bad things that my ex was doing, i confronted him. he didnt know that i had already saw text messages on his phone from a woman who was asking him to come back to her house. I woke him up to talk, then i asked him why a girl was texting him to come over. he couldnt come up with a lie fast enough, so he was like "where did u see that ?" i went to pick up his phone and he FLIPPED OUT!he ran to the kitchen, grabbed a butcher knife and started swinging it around screaming "put my phone down!!" i reached out n told him to put it away, right at that moment he sliced across my left pointer finger as he was swinging. i went OUT OF MY MIND. he threw the knife, so i clawed the hell out of his face and chest, and slapped him sooo hard. he wouldnt move after that, just let me hit him. blood was on the walls, on our bed. He was stunned when he realized he actually cut me VERY DEEP so he went into "sweet innocent" mode and said he has to take me to the hospital. he didnt want me to have him arrested. he was like " you see what our relationship has come to"?

Hell yes i saw! We ended up in the hospital for hours. he begged me to forgive him and says that he never meant to hurt me. the bleeding wouldnt stop. i had to get 7 stiches in my little finger! I didnt want him anymore, so those words meant nothing! but this is what can happen when things get TOO crazy in a relationship. all in a short period of time i saw his true colors, and we were FINISHED.

Now u all can see why i call him balding baboon? It turned out he was so much more UGLY ON THE INSIDE. How did i know what other crazy things he was capable of? Wendy hopefully your not taken advantage of, since most guys here seem to think being "submissive" is a good quality in a woman. It doesnt mean u cannot stand up for yourself and be smart about how a man is treating u![/quote]Oh Gosh. . . . That is so sad. . . Glad you left him for good. Serve him right!

forbidden5:
If I had a chance, I would marry an asian as well.

Really? Why's that?

AnthonyKil:
No Baby, she loves it. Thanks to you. And since she loves it, I bet you'll like it too. What do ya say girl?
Treat it as a brother helpin out his sister.

ANTHONY!!! YOU DID NOT JUST SAY THAT! Thats disgusting. . . . Ewwwwww! What da carrots!
Dont talk to me like that or I'll pluck you grapes!!! Or is it raisins

Happy Birthday to you,
You are born in a zoo,
With the elephant and the donkey,
And the monkey likes you.

chika98:
more like why do African men marry big white women ?

Do they

AnthonyKil:
GABBY!!! YOU ARE SOOOO RIGHT!!! She loved it and she begs me for sex 3 times!!! I love girls whom are sooo sexually active like her but unfortunately, her behaviour sucks. :-Oh well, as long as I can screw her, the rest does not matter no more!!!


Gabby, you keep the money. That information is worthevery penny!!!

REALLY OH LORD. . . . SAVE THIS BROTHA'S SOUL. . . . . HE IS SOOOO SCREWED. . . . .

O GAAAAAAAA OOOOOOOOOOOO. . . . I thought this discussion has ended

martho:
pure rubbish, naturally i got passion 4 big girls,does that makes me ugly.

abi you tell em oooo

martho:
it depends on what u mean by monster,am athletic,average height,sexy and fine,all kind of girls appreciate me,and i still maintain i got love 4 big girls with hips,it runs in my family, i think the ugly ones makes too much noise.this is baseless and childish,am out of here.

Guys like you makes the world a better place.

CH3COO:
yeah. no skinny man in his right mind would want to be squished and squashed by a fat monster. fatness

CH3COO:
why are you advertising yourself to me? I am not gay bro.

Bro, why are you so mean at times? Na waaa oooo. . . .

To: Mustay

Ok Bobo, I'm very sleepy so I am going to go to bed. WIll reply your post tomorrow if you dont mind.

Odabo bobo.

Mustay:
ok


Me sef don understand

wetin dey confuse you now?

Yeap and its not from Ashton. Its from Anthony. Byt the way, their all me Brothas.

sistawoman:
Yes. Just wondering because i have 5 and i know first hand how divorce does them. and I know how having one man after the other will do children as well, i have watched it happen to other females

I also as a mother of 5, all with the same father, can only image how it must feel to have different baby-daddies let alone two ex-husbands.

So I was just wondering how many children you have and how many times you have been divorced.

I'm not married and have no children but I know how does it feel to be the child of a divorced parent and with different parents and different brothers and sisters.

ohhhh . . . The one about is Gabrywyl Mushlings? Thats not my thread bobo.

HMMM! Now I;m the last one!!!

sistawoman:
And how many children do you have?

you dey talk to me?

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Mustay:
your "interactions" on your thread

Which one?

THANKS GABRYWYL that has really helped.

No probs. Wishing you all the best in your future endeavors.

reason for this is i do not want to put the kids through another divorce, if i marry it is because i believe it is forever and hence why i take so serious.

Yes, you are right but then again, you cannot predict of what will happen in the future. Like they say, Life is like a Box of Chocolate,you never know what you're gonna get.

Your children might have a hard time but they will understand eventually.

I know for a fact that if you love someone so much, its so difficult to let the person go and because of this, you really have to make the wises decision before its too late.

I think I am feeling your pressure after reading your post and if I were in your shoes, I really can't breathe right now. Anyways, the milk has been spilt so if I were in your case,  this is what I'll do:-

we have a 6 month old son together (I have children from a past marriage, I am divorced). I also worry about his underlying character, he smokes pot-which I have categorically told him i will not accept as a wife.

Since you both have a son together, maybe you could advise and pursue him to stop smoking pot because it won’t be healthy for the baby. It wont be easy but I think if you take one step at a time – like maybe to decrease the amount of smoke per week and try to cut down slowly by slowly (considering to the fact that you really love him and if he really loves you in return), both of you will be able to conquer it. Tell him that he is doing it for the baby (that is if he is ought to be a responsible father).

Now we have had a tough time since we met adjusting to one another as culturally we are so different and I (as he has) have found our ways very different which has often led to misunderstandings.

Yes, I know what you mean but I don’t think that is a good excuse because of cultural differences. There’s one real life true love story I seen on TV the other day. To cut short, an American man whom could not speak in Arab at all fell in love with an Egyptian lady whom could not speak in English at all during the war time. Both speak to each other with their own native language yet somehow both understand each other. After they got married, the guy went for Arabic class and the girl went for English class. They have been married together for years now so no matter how far the culture differences is, if its true love and its made to be, nothing can go against it. I have a Naija bf and we also have our cultural differences but we learn to follow each other’s culture so its not biggy.

Now I am being pressured for marriage, which we have got booked in a few weeks but I am now having second thoughts. His visa needs to be renewed and as he has not done well in his studies he fears it won't get renewed and (although he says this is not the reason he wants to marry-so he can get a spouse visa) I am worried that marriage at this time is for the wrong reason.

You have married your ex husband before so if you marry again and it does not work, why is this time so difficult?

I love this man truly and when things are good they can be very good, but, he has cheated in the past (although he swears it wasn't sex) I forgave him but I worry as he is so secretive with his phones.

The thing is that if you really love him like what you have said, you should be able to trust him and to forgive all his sins in the past and move forward. That’s the reason why these days marriage in people falls apart because there is no trust and forgiveness and understanding between the two and as they always say, it takes two hands to clap.

I worry as he is so secretive with his phones.

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. A couple must be able to be honest with each other you know?

He can be very lovely but there is a very arrogant, stubborn selfish side to him that I am not sure about.

My dear. No one’s perfect in this world but if it is really bothering you, just speak freely with him. Maybe he is not aware of his bad side cause no one told him?

I would like to marry him but under such circumstances I think it best to wait.

If you have to wait, then just do it. Don’t rush yourself and in the end you will pressurize yourself.

I know though that if I cannot marry him I will lose him as if he's visa is renewed he will leave to study in London-as it is cheaper, or if not renewed he will have to go back to Lagos.

Have you ever heard of the saying that if he is meant to be yours, than he shall be yours? Whether if he ends up somewhere else or not, if he is meant to be yours, he will be eventually. You never know, you might go and visit him in his country or maybe he got a job in your country. . . . Anything can happen.

I think what’s more important is your son.  Think about him first before any other thing.

HEY!!! I THOUGHT I WAS THE LAST ONE!!!

dre101:
Gabby no dey go anywhere
She is addicted already, very hard to leave nairaland.

Continue to enjoy yourself on nairaland jare

Yeap Dre. . . . Am in deep trouble for this addiction. . . . .

Mustay:
Are you sure your aSHTON is not another factor?

What do you mean

[Gabry stares at Mesmerize, lucabrasi, CARUSO and dreeldee. . . . Hmm! ]

By the way Wendy, do you have a picture of you by any chance?