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What's so special about BBNAIJA? The so called Reality TV is just another form of acting, nothing more. They call Living in a room full of cameras a reality show? What do people even learn from watching such shows? What's even so special about the so called reality TV shows?

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signs that may indicate she is still single and available

No matter how a woman tries to pretend that she is off the market, some obvious signs may still give her up.

1. She adores other couples but the smile never lasts long.


2. She is single and available if she talks freely to every guy.


3. She frequently makes eye contact.


4. If she's always out with girlfriends, she may be still single and available.


5. She never answers the question.

6. Replies your messages almost immediately.

7. She's talkative.


8. She appears flirty


HOW TO BE CERTAIN

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Dammylois:
Die ke? U be JESUS? Well no be jump we dey jump o,after all the months of preparation I no go gree mk You say na jump....Nice but complicated

Reminisce when I was 15, almost killed myself over a girl. Its still possible o but...e hard!

OceanmorganTrix:
Go on dry fasting without swallowing saliva for sixty days and you are good to go

Haba that one too much now. I better join the priesthood and remain celibate.

OceanmorganTrix:
11. No post her pinsure, una fit break up

That's very true o, I dn get that experience before.

1. Do you love him/her?

2. How much do they love you in return?

3. Would you die for him/her?

4. How well do you know him/her?

5. What are your reasons for accepting to get married?

6. Would you rather be with your spouse to be or would you be with your friends?

7. Are you still thinking about your ex?

8. How compatible are you together?

9. Will the Union stand for better for worse?

10. How do you handle quarrels and disagreements.

Never share;

1. Pictures of your identity card.

2. Your daily or weekly itinerary.

3. Your phone number or cellular contact details.

4. The car you drive.

5. Information about your family.

6. Unverified Political tirades.

7. Information about your family.

8. Information about your assets.

9. Extreme social or political or religious views.

10. Disagreement with your significant other.

1. Words are powerful, Go to your mirror and repeat the words ‘I am confident’ as many times possible.

2. Learn a skill and improve yourself through practice.

3. Expose yourself to slightly challenging Situations.

4. Be calm in social situations, listen and connect with others.

5. Show empathy and be genuinely interested in others.

6. Build rapport with others and be the first to give honest appreciation.

7. Watch and learn.

8. Pamper yourself.

9.Understand that failure is in a process and not an end of a process.

10. Know that not being liked by someone is irrelevant.

Research reveals that most cheaters are narcissists or they possess most of the narcissist’s characteristics and are excessively preoccupied with themselves. People may cheat on their partners for the following reasons and more:



SELFISHNESS

Selfish people do many irritating things. When one is always concerned about himself and less of others, if they be in a relationship, cheating on their relationship will seem a lot easier. Thoughts like; I should go out with Amanda, she’s got great physique, wow! Jane really is hot, I should get closer to her, and so many other negative thoughts will eventually mature into the act of cheating. While thinking how much he admires Amanda and Jane he never thought of how his partner is going to feel knowing how he thinks of other women. A selfish partner is most likely to cheat.



EXCITEMENT

Fun is a great deal and some people can sacrifice anything for it, even when it’s hurting a partner’s feelings. When you are glued to thoughts of excitement you get when you are involved with people emotionally or otherwise, this single act might end up in cheating on your relationship. Sometimes when you are too excited over specific things, you could see nothing wrong with stepping on a few toes just to achieve your aim.



NATURE/ WEAKNESS

Urges and thoughts that are sensually or emotionally related are natural in every being. That notwithstanding, one has to be disciplined and cautious because not all you feel you want are good for your well-being. Some people bother themselves a lot less than they should especially when it has to do with cheating, it’s then that we often hear people say ‘it’s in our nature to cheat’, ‘you can’t cheat nature’, ‘don’t try so hard to hold yourself back from what you can’t’. These people actually submit themselves to their weaknesses when they feel the urge to get emotional or lustful with people who are not their partners.

There are many other reasons why people cheat on their relationships. There is this popular saying that "do not put all your eggs in one basket". The question is, why people choose to lie. I have met many women who are OK with being a side-chick. You don't have to stress yourself by keeping multiple secret dates. Why not stay single and be free. Its sure better than getting stabbed someday.

iamJ:
there are girls that u date, and there are girls that u fu:ck on the side simple

no rules, some girls arent useful, use them and keep them hanging

And when your girl cheats on you, don't complain

How do people cope with multiple dates?

Am wondering why anyone would want to date more than one person at a time. Dating just one person to me is tasking enough for anyone to even imagine being in a relationship with more than one woman or man, except of course if that’s the only thing you do, womanise or jump from one man to the other. However if you are the type who is still single but always surrounded by attractive men or women of opposite gender, who also feel attracted to you, then it could be really hard saying “NO” all the time.

Your work, lifestyle or some other social activities may greatly affect the relationships you have. Although it is possible that some romantic appointments can still be platonic in nature, there are times all you want to do is stay single for a while but that doesn’t necessarily mean you must do away with every other socially romantic appointments or engagements with those persons you really want to be with.

Whether Platonic or intimate, having multiple dates can be sometimes hurtful to yourself and others too. Here are 5 ways you can cope with multiple dates without getting yourself hurt or hurting anyone.

1. Make no promises
2. Avoid chatting on social media when tipsy.
3. Keep it casual
4Give him/her the impression that you are all already in a serious relationship
5. When things get heated, try not to talk about it.

Ok, that's just five, Add yours, let's go.

Every guy who has not had the best of luck in relationships should get a female best friend, with no strings attached. You could learn a lot more from her. There is this saying that “the world is a man’s world” but in aspects of relationships, women have a bigger part to play. I just tried finding out from my female best friends the things men do that women find unattractive.

1. TAKING SO MUCH TIME TO GET READY

Its hard to tell why women take so much time to get ready but when a man takes longer than a woman, then you both are going to completely miss the function. A man who is so detailed about his looks is no different from a woman. “I felt so much like a was dating fellow woman, like I was a le5b1an” says Jessica W.

2. BEING A BRAGGART

She has probably turned a richer, more handsome and better groomed guy down so what are you bragging about? Hell knows you are not the richest guy on the planet. Even the richer dudes keep a low profile so quit being a braggart.

3. COCKINESS

“You could be the smartest, wealthiest, best-looking man, but if you can’t stop talking about yourself, it’s not going to happen.” – Christina W. This is the greatest turn-off for all women. You don’t own her so stop acting like you do.

Every man owes his woman to work hard and reach the peak of whatever they do. In fact women generally are attracted to ready-made or successful men. Success has many friends and is also a key to attracting your “miss world”. The puzzle many successful men find difficult to solve is; how to decipher if a woman truly loves them or she is just a gold-digger. No man wants to be in a relationship with a woman who is only interested in his wealth.

As a result of some not so good past experiences, many successful men may feel that a woman can only be interested in them because of their wealth. This assumption is not always true. Make no mistake about it, no woman wants a broke or jobless guy. Also, there must be that one woman you have come across who is/was not interested in your finances. The question is; how can you tell the difference? I think it is not that difficult.

1. SHE MAKES NO DEMANDS

She would never demand from you to fulfill her personal needs. A gold-diggers’ demand for money is endless and relentless. If your Lady is always complaining to you about what she is lacking, she might just be another gold-digger. A woman who is genuinely interested in you would try as much as possible not to place the responsibility of her financial needs on you.



2. SHE IS APPRECIATIVE

Gold-diggers have this feeling of entitlement. They are never appreciative. They feel that it is your responsibility to provide for all their needs and when you fulfil those needs, they never truly appreciate. Check this out. How is her reaction why you buy an expensive gift for her by sacrificing your long pending wish? You’ll get all the answers you need.

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Many years ago when I was much younger, I was very inquisitive about how the universe came into existence through the words GOD uttered, which made the reality called "NATURE", I was also inquisitive about the nature and existence of mankind and life itself. Growing up, I learnt that Life which is as a result of the 'force of nature' is indeed a mystery and how it came to existence purely metaphysical and beyond the grasp of human intellectual and intuitive capabilities. For this reason, my energy was poised on trying to understand the human psychology, relate with, and understand the POWER of the MIND coupled with requests for God to grant me the psychological abilities and telepathy to know exactly what people are thinking. All to no avail, those childish prayers never came to pass, until the advent of social media.

The social media have come with many advantages. Interacting with people on social media is a very interesting experience. I have learnt much more about human psychology and behaviour on social media in a short span of five years than my over twenty years on the outside world.

Facebook for instance have been my greatest tutor. Thanks to Mark Zuckerberg for bringing to us this brilliant concept. It is through Facebook that I have come to understand people better, as it provides a sneak-peek into the innermost minds of people; how they think and why they think that way. Recently, public opinion via social media is gradually replacing opinion polls as the results collected are very similar. That is to say that with social media, one does not need any magic wand or special psychic ability to decipher the views and positions of our present day youth on pertinent issues of our future and development as a people.

'Nigeria is in a bad situation'. Every youth understands that. The first question now is, how do we surmount our challenges and make this country better? If I am asked this question, the answer is simple. Revolution! An Ethical Revolution; A complete change from our haphazard way of doing things. Can we do it? No! we cannot, if all we do is bicker, complain and rail insults on each other through social media rather than discuss issues that directly affect us and YES, if we take our destiny into our hands, make vital sacrifices, unite and together fight the oppressor.

The 2015 elections which were characterized by chants of "change" is now history. May 29 2017 marked exactly two years in office of the new government. For some, there has been tremendous progress while others argue that in the last two years, no progress has been made.

The 2019 elections are already at the corner, refreshed political ideologies are beginning to emerge "zoning" "change the change" "not too young to run" Contestants have already started the usual scheming and manipulations. For some of these people, it is a 'do or die', elections are a must win. Many have been tested before through the office  positions they have held in the past and have failed woefully by every standard or are still currently failing. Rather than honourably take a bow and apologize to the masses, they still seek to impose themselves on the people. More troubling is the fact that these are the people who enjoy more support from the poor impoverished masses especially the youth. One would wonder why it is so.

Judging from comments of people and opinions on social media, there are clearly five groups.

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Those who always pitch tent with the winning team



The first group believe in the winning team. They always follow and support whoever they think has a better chance of success irrespective of the person's credibility or mode in which he is going to succeed. There is this saying that 'if you cannot beat them, you join them'. To this group of people, leaders are appointed by God and even if they perform below expectation, it's still in line with God's design.
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Most relationships start with a simple crush. You spend all day thinking about that person you so admire. Lucky for you, your crush returns your feelings. Then you go out on dates till it gets to a point when you have absolutely no doubt that you are in a relationship. As you spend more time together, there is need to constantly spice-up your relationship just to renew your love and make it more interesting.

At the early stage of the relationship, it is normal for all parties to work twice as hard to make the union worthwhile. However after spending quite some time together, the over-zealousness starts to diminish. Reality begins to set in. No love is lost but staying together with one person for such a long time could be so boring. Here I have listed quite a number of things you could do to spice-up your relationship and make it more interesting.

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1. Surprise your partner with a special date night.

2. Throw a surprise party for him or her.

3. You could offer to help your partner with some tasks especially if they are so busy.

4. Try cooking something for her.