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Wikipedia describes Jealousy as an emotion; the term generally refers to the thoughts or feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and envy over relative lack of possessions, status or something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a comparator. Jealousy is closely related to envy but they both differ a little. It is a threat to something we already posses by a third party. Whereas envy is a reaction when a person lacks something and another has it.

Don't waste time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind.

Mary Schmich

We all feel jealous at some point. It is part of human nature. Men get jealous as do women. The difference lies in the way either gender or an individual is more likely to react and what makes us jealous. The reasons men get jealous in relationships would be a topic for another day. Today, we will be discussing the real reasons women get jealous in relationships.

1. Insecurity

2. Paranoia

3. Obsession

4. Reality

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1. If you swallow seeds from orange or watermelon, a tree will grow in your stomach.

2. If you get too close to a boy, you'll get pregnant.


3. The older a person, the wiser he becomes.

Some people become dumber when they grow older.

4. Eating hot food too fast makes you never grow.

5. If your right hand can touch your left arm, then you have attained maturity.

6. Children who have a sixth finger will grow to be witches and wizards.

Maybe, but I have never seen them fly.

7. Money is the root of all evil.

In fact the lack of money is the root of all evil.

8. If you keep making that face, you'll one day remain like that.

Really used this phrase a lot on my younger siblings.

9. The blue side of an eraser is meant to erase a pen.

I always ended up tearing out the sheet and starting afresh on a new page.

10. Eating Raw groundnut will make you to deaf.

How? I have been eating raw groundnut since 1800.

11. What an elder sees while sitting down, a child cannot see even if a climbs a tree.

Ok, but I have also met many elderly men with no sense.

12. A red dot appears on your forehead when you tell a lie.

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WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF

Everyone loves the feeling of being wanted or seen to be $3xua11y attractive by the opposite gender. But relationships as a whole sometimes may be too tasking or challenging that we may find ourselves single for quite a long time.

Staying single for a while doesn't make one lose his $ex-drive, rather you may even feel more pressured, a resultant from the natural hormonal flow. Many result to self-help which may not be so satisfying as the actual thing and is also injurious to your mental or psychological health. However, a brief night of passion with someone - or anyone attractive enough to you can be a great way to spice up your single life - but only if you stick with the rules.

1. Define what you want.

Before you delve into the sheets, make it clear to him/her that it's just fun you want to have at the moment, no other strings attached.

2. Don't trick yourself

Ok, you have been eying this girl or guy for a long time but he didn't quite give you any attention but now you met in a party or club and he's all over you. Before now, he or she seemed way out of your league. Don't trick yourself that it is all beginning to happen, It's just a one-night-stand. Keep this at the back of your mind so as not to end up heartbroken when it eventually doesn't work out.

3. Beware, not everything is as it seems

Did you just meet in the club after you've had the fifth bottle? She may be your grandma's age yet looking twenty's to you. Remember not all is as it seems especially when you are tipsy.

4. Be safe

He or she may be married, have a fiance/fiancée or a psychopathic partner. Don't get caught! Again, $T1's are real, play safe.

5. Don't let daylight catch you

To prevent (3) above, keep it clearly what it is or not feel bad for a whole week, don't let daylight catch you. Have a get-out phrase, "go now before my wife catches you" (even if you don't have a wife) or "I need to go prepare for work".

6. Be frank with him/her

Yes, you had a great time and they probably enjoyed the time too but you need to straighten it out once more - "You are really good, i enjoyed every bit of it but am off the market". Make them know that it was just a momentary impulse and nothing more.

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Who doesn't have that one friend that fell in love at some point with the wrong person? Observing from the sideline, we knew this fact but could not bear telling them the truth. So we kept 'mum'. In the African context we call it "witchcraft". He or she must have been bewitched by a " love portion ". Else what would have made them fall so mindlessly for a " player " or "lunatic" so saying.

All thesame, they (we) seldom realise it by themselves (ourselves) and its like "what the hell was I thinking?"

We have all heard the quotes "Love is blind" or "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder". Another quote says " love is not blind, it sees all the negatives but still puts up with them". But, trust me when I say "believe these statements at your own peril".

Really, what's beautiful should be beautiful to everyone else (not just to you who is in the relationship alone). Love should never be blind to negative things happening around it. When things are not going well, love should try to fix the "negatives" and not ignore them.

You should never get so hypnotized by love that all you see is "beauty" while everyone else sees "disaster". For example, your partner abusing you daily, verbally insulting you or deliberately starving you of affection for months without end, are obvious evidences that they don't really love you. But because he is so rich or handsome, she is so curvaceous or pretty looking, we still love them so much, it feels like we cannot survive the earth without them. We are so blind to every other logical facts about them.

Most times we are not even conscious of the fact that we are love-blind. A person may be so blinded by love to the point that he does not even notice some red flags about his partner.

Here are some indicators that you may be indeed love-blind.

1. You stop thinking of everything else but your partner.

2. Everything and everyone becomes secondary.

3. There is no limit to what you can do for your partner.

4. You stop deciding for yourself

5. You are obsessed with him/her.

6. You start excusing obvious bad behaviour.

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10 SIGNS YOU ARE BLINDED BY LOVE

Have you ever fallen so deep in love but later realized she was only pretending to love you in return and using you?

It is often believed that guys are generally "bad" because we talk more openly about girls, relationships and sex. So there is this widely believed notion that guys do more of 'the using and dumping thing'. But this is never specific or more inclined on a particular gender. Girls use and dump guys too. She may pretend to love you but she's only interested in your bank account, fame or some other form of gratification (maybe her main boyfriend isn't doing it too well or is lacking in some other romantic aspects she craves for)

If you are a guy, watch out for these signs from your girl. If she shows too much of them, she may be only using you.


1. Is she always absolving herself of her financial responsibilities?

2. She loves to shop on your credit card/Wallet.

3. Is she always giving you excuses? (She complains of headache or claims to be having monthly wahala).

4. She would not go on a date in a taxi.

5. Her friends don't like you.

6. She only wants it when she wants it. (Never cares about you)

7. She is always telling you what to do.

8. She only calls you when she is bored, lonely or sad.

9. She never hesitates going straight to the point.

10. She is always needing something from you.

GUYS TIPS : SIGNS SHE IS ONLY USING YOU

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sarahade:
I'm loyal and I don't do any of those stupid things because I'm so confident in the woman I have become if you try me just say bye bye.
If I come forgive you first time no try am again because I go leave you like speed of light.

Hmmmm, Be careful not to fall for the wrong guy in the first place. Some of we guys are so good at cheating and we never leave any clues. Lol

Lionessza:
1. You say ," women get jealous and heartbroken when cheated on ". So men celebrate being cheated on ? Lol. No one likes being used or cheated on.

2. There is nothing wrong with the loyal woman , the problem is the guy who doesn't appreciate it. All the points you listed as the reasons why men cheat on loyal women are bullcrap. Men who are cheaters will cheat on a loyal woman, on a hooker , on a serial cheat, on an extrovert who parties and "doesn't nag", on an independent woman who isn't submissive , etc. These are just guys who don't know what it is they want or aren't really interested in having one partner . Full stop.

Never said there is anything wrong with a loyal woman. Read the full article here

We were having a round-table all guys discussion inspired by some b0ttles of beer when this topic came up. As is usual with such social talk, a near drunk fellow asked, "why are fair pretty girls mostly flat-" bummed" and dark facially ugly girls mostly plumpy with thick oranges and wider h1p5". And all guys roared in readiness to have a big bite. Everyone enthusiastically tried to outspeak the other. I just don't know why we guys love bad talk so much.

But it seems true, really. No one did try to doubt this assertion. It was all agreed that it is indeed a fact. The fairer her skin and prettier her face, the slimmer and taller she is likely to be. The darker her skin and uglier her face, the more she is likely to be thickly endowed upfront and down below.

Even racial evidence supports this theory. Wh1te American and As1an women are mostly flat behind while b1ack women no matter how slim still have large-fleshy and curvy assets.

S,3xine$$ is Afr1c@n, its in the genes.

10 SIGNS YOU ARE JUST A BACK-UP BOYFRIEND

It may or may not be so hard to get over your ex. All depending on the scenario that led to your breakup in the first place. Its easier to forget someone you only dated for a couple of weeks than it is for someone you dated for years and had a commitment with.

But really, dreaming and having fantasies over your ex should normally not be anything to worry about. It feels much better if you feel good about them than if they left a hurtful scar that traumatizes you when you think of them. The problem arises when you start hoping to have them back and it becomes an impediment on your current relationship.

If you are having these feelings, then you are not yet over your ex relationship.

1. A thought of him or her still sparks your life

Oh, how romantic and emotionally satisfying he was. If this keeps crossing your mind every now and then, it only means you are yet to get over them.

2. You still feel you want to spend time with your ex

Calling it just a ‘casual time’ will never change the fact that you want something more than just a ‘casual time out’. Don’t lie to yourself if that’s what you really want.

3Memories of his or her jokes make you laugh

Its quite true that good memories are worth more than emotional scars. But when these thoughts cross your mind too frequently and make you smile, you are probably still in love with your ex.

4. You still feel the impact of his or her touch

The thought of your ex’s touch alone still mesmerises you. And its even much more when you feel them in a hug or dance. Its a sure proof that you are still in love with him or her.

5. You are able to overlook all of what made you part ways now

What you felt was the reason why you both couldn’t work out now feels like really nothing. Then you wouldn’t stand a man who earns a moderate income but now you are thinking he might just be the right guy for you.

15 SIGNS YOU ARE STILL IN LOVE WITH YOUR EX

Every woman wants a stable relationship where all her needs are fulfilled. In fact women get jealous and heartbroken when they find their partner cheating or not being true to them. So it is normally expected that the more nice and faithful a woman is, the longer her relationship would last. In the real sense, this seems not to be the case. Good and loyal women also get cheated on, are abused, used and dumped just like any other side-chick.

Some guys are natural born ‘players’. Even a pretty, submissive and loyal woman may not change their game of getting in and moving to the next available target.
Also, loyal and faithful women often trust too easily. This makes them more vulnerable to fall for the wrong guys who end up using and dumping them.
With all these evidences, the very many different notions and assertions that faithful and loyal women are more likely to get used and dumped seems like a truism.
The question is WHY? Why do some guys tend to take nice and faithful women for granted? What are the attributes that loyal ladies possess that are unattractive to some men? Why are good faithful women not getting the relationships they deserve?

Here are some of the reasons

1. Loyal Women are too submissive.

2. Faithful women have a higher tendency to nag.

3. She is too needy of affection.

4. Loyal women appear more desperate.

WHY LOYAL WOMEN GET DUMPED JUST LIKE ANY SIDE "CHIC"

If you are fond of eating while holding your phone and chatting at the same time then you probably take your devices to the toilet also.

The times we shake hands with people, touch money, share a pen or touch stuffs around, we pick germs. This is the essence why frequent hand washing is often emphasized by health experts.

But when last did you clean your phone with a disinfectant? Or have you even ever did it?

Some of us wash our hands frequently but still not as frequent as we touch our phones. We are so addicted to phones we cannot even afford a 15min break off the Internet while taking a $h1t. And you know what that means, no matter how clean a toilet appears, it's never a very hygienic place. Things may mistakenly touch and in turn attract other germs which attach to our phones and find an easy way into our system.

Make it a routine, clean the surface of your devices with little disinfectant and wool everyday.

XhosaNostra:
There should be a balance. No lady wants a doormat sissy as a boyfriend. Show her you can be just as tough. When your lady was pulling all those stunts on you, why did you stay? Don't act pathetic & then blame ladies when they can't deal with your weak ass anymore. If you don't like something, don't put up with it because of "love". People in general are annoying. It does you a world of good to cut some off sometimes. You can't keep going in circles & accepting disrespect. Cut a bytch out of your life & save yourself some stress.

The fact is some women are very poor in making good choices when it comes to guys. But its usually not long before they realise. SOME LADIES, Not all. Although MOST that I have met are just like that.

CaptainJeffry:
It depends on the type of ladies you go for. The probability of your assertion may be there when dealing with undergrads.

You may be right.

Annibel:
become a bad boy na... is that hard??

I have since perfected in acting like one but can never maltreat a lady.

Earthquake1:
You were not a nice guy, you were a guy with a low self esteem.

If something is harmful to you it is right to cut it off nothing bad about that.

I don't think it has anything to do with esteem especially for the fact that she later realized her mistake and regretted the choice she made. But it still doesn't answer the question, what's about the bad boys that some women fall so easily for?

Lately, it is becoming increasingly common the hear guys say these phrases "I was dumped by my girlfriend because I was too nice" or "Because I loved her so much, she started taking me for granted". It is sad but a fact that girls these days mistake guys gentility, patience or meekness for weakness.

Contrastingly, most if not all women claim to want a nice guy, but when they finally meet one, he seems not to be their type. They disrespect and talk down on him. In reality, bad boys who even abuse women get the best and prettiest ladies.

The question is, WHY?

Why is it that ladies who claim to love the generally described " good guys " still fall for the "a$$h0les"

I once dated this girl for a few months. She would not pick my calls or reply texts except when she felt like. She was always going ON and OFF. Nevertheless I was usually the first person she called if she ran into some trouble, got bored, needed some help or her first boyfriend got her side-lined on Valentine’s day.

I mustered some courage at a point and decided I couldn't bear it anymore.

Many of my peeps have had similar experiences with women.

Guys and Ladies, I need you to help me out on this one.

WHY LADIES TAKE NICE GUYS FOR GRANTED

The fact that you made a vow to stay with someone until death does not mean you have to stick to that person even if the marriage is not working for you. If you know you can no longer bear it, quit! There are close to 7 billion people on the planet, chances are high that you must find one and fall in love again soon. Many singles, widows or widowers are surviving on their own and living a happy life.

If you can no longer tolerate the attitudes and inadequacies of your partner, quit and move on with your life.

If what you feel is no longer love but resentment and deep anger or hatred, quit! Avoid stabbing anyone to death or getting stabbed yourself. Life is too good to die such a tragic death or getting your hands soiled in what you may never recover from.

8 EXCEPTIONS TO THE PHRASE 'TILL DEATH DO PART' IN WEDDING VOWS

I found myself staring, my eyes fixated on hers. She sat on a chair with a table in front of her. The table was filled with books. It appeared she was working on her weekly lesson plan. This day was a Sunday. The sun was about setting as some cool breeze blew across the Mangrove Forest. It rained heavily earlier in the day and the weather was so cool, the type described in novels and displayed by Bollywood movies.

Her face appeared all naturally clean and dry like she just had a bath, with neither makeup nor earrings. The perfume of her seductive fragrance captured the air adding more friendliness and attraction to her alluring looks. Damn, She looked so beautiful, I' had fallen so madly in love with her in just a few seconds.

WHY LOYAL WOMEN GET DUMPED JUST LIKE THE SIDE CHICS

She looked back at me with a deep sense of intimacy. Could she be feeling the same way? or Is she just impressed by what I had said. Maybe I really made sense. I tried searching my head. How did we get to this point? I could not recall; the last thing I said, what we where talking about or why she was looking at me that way. I tried thinking harder but it all came blank. Is this a dream? I remembered my way of differentiating dreams from reality, dreams have no beginning. "This is probably a dream" I thought to myself. How did I even get here in the first place.  I could not even remember anything that had happened in the last one minute. It was then I realized that something was wrong.

"Chidinma, why are you not having any ear-rings on"

I tried a diversionary tactic.

"Ummmm, so you don't want to answer me, you are trying to divert the topic abi?"

She replied still looking seductively at me with her white eyes and wet inviting lips.

Shit, that didn't even work, I need more time.

8 INEXPENSIVE WAYS TO GIVE YOUR PARTNER A SPECIAL VALENTINE TREAT

Maybe am having a memory loss. My mum used to tell us stories of her grand-father who had a serious case of Dementia, he could not recall anything past his childhood. He lived as a child until he died. But he was about a hundred years old, I am only 27. Maybe it is because I slept for too long. I thought of going back into my one room apartment, but some hard shackles held me down.

I was beginning to get really scared. What is happening to me?

Some flash of memories came back into my brain. Early in the morning on that fateful day, I had washed my bed covers and other few clothes, dried them downstairs and had gone to sleep just before it rained. It must have rained on them.

"I will be back shortly, let me check something downstairs"

I said in a soft tone, having found enough reason to leave in the middle of the conversation and buy more time.

A conversation I could not recall any part of. She gave out a sign as if to say finally the burden has been lifted. Standing up, I hurriedly rushed towards the stairs. On reaching the stairs, I looked down below to the ground floor. The stairs looked limitless like a deep bottomless hole. Clearly I knew that I was HALLUCINATING. I could remember many things except why I was feeling the way I felt and seeing what I saw.


Closing my eyes and opening them intermittently, I succeeded in reaching down the stairs and headed straight for the line outside where I dried my clothes. There was nothing there. The ground was damp and saturated with water, yet no sign of any clothes on the floor.

Chidinma must have helped me pack them. I hurried back up the stairs. On reaching the corridors, I decided to take a peek of my room.

The apartment was a one storey building with four rooms on the top floor including a sitting room. My room was the first after the stairs, the next room was Ikechukwu's while the third was Chidinma's directly facing the sitting room. The rest of our colleagues were accommodated downstairs and a second apartment near the school we all tutored.

MY WORST RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE

I very carefully tried to push the door open but the curtains offered no resistance as I staggered into the room almost stepping on Ikechukwu who was lying helplessly on the rug, raising my head, I got startled, everything was in perfect order. The bed-sheet was neatly spread on the bed. My under-wears all neatly arranged in the bag I normally put them. If Chidinma had helped me pack them when it was about raining, then who the hell spread the bed-coverings and arranged my wardrobe. Definitely not Ikechukwu.

Ikechukwu was a carefree guy, his room was always scattered. He had no time for himself neither did he have time for anyone else, not even the sexy looking Chidinma, who every guy had a crush on. And these are the only people who have access to my room. IK literally lived with me. The thought of Ikechukwu made me recall what happened earlier that day.

IK came into my apartment that morning, he headed straight for the kitchen as he usually does. There was no food so he decided to Cook nodules. He was a better cook so I let him do all the cooking. My kitchen was always stocked so no one felt cheated. IK was cooking a well spiced meal of nodules and fried eggs, when I started

"my guy, my Battery de down today and I no hold shi shi"

"So what's the plan" he replied "abi make we add this Snapp for the noodles?"

I thought that was a perfect idea. We both liked been int0xicated, so we decided to give it a try.

"I need more inspiration sha, this one no fit high me the way I want"

I added.

"Ok, I have another idea,"

IK said while leaving the room. He returned with a parcel of carefully wrapped white paper, opened the pot of boiling sweet nodules and added a pinch of seasoning powder. I asked him to put more, he added just a pinch.

"Guy, put this thing well now"

Collecting the parcel, I emptied half of the content into the pot, added more water and allowed it to boil. We ate to our fill that morning. Even Chidinma had some spoonfuls as she kept forming 'I am not hungry'.


This story was only the beginning of my end. I kept waking up in different places just like this. This happened  for two straight days. It was then I vowed never to mess with curry wrapped in white paper again.

HOW TO AVOID BEING FRIEND-ZONED AND TIPS TO GETTING OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE SITUATION

Valentine’s day is always a good day but it is sometimes a good day with many problems. One of which is having a string of plans you may want to execute on a low budget. Try these 8 Inexpensive ways to give your partner a special Valentine treat

DONADAMS:
bia OP,,,no 3 is not expensive abi?

What's expensive for you may be cheap for another. Lol

smalls001:
Wrong / incorrect perception.

Seriously? Or am I always dating the wrong women?

Culin:
So what if all these things are regular things done by Bae?

you can try something different.

ReinaFarine:
In summary, just show her you love her... If you need millions to do that, check the relationship again..
I'm going to do 4,6,7 and 8 for bae.
LDR is a bitch during this season..

Exactly, a relationship should be based on mutual love. If she truly loves you, then she wouldn't mind.

Stevengerd:
Well she's gonna follow me to the studio tomorrow. best val gift i can afford.

I'll make this 11. Nice one

chidynks:
this o.p is one sided ...all u listed out was things to be done for the ladies!!...don't u consider we Men too!? abi to experience good things of life no fit us?....would it be a crime if them ladies give us a nice treat?........this o.p must be high on feminine weed!!

The ladies have their own coming. Just be patient. But only very few naija ladies would even spend a dime on their guys. Its guys who mostly try too hard to please their ladies on Valentine.

coolestofall:
Op what is wrong with u, did u hv 2 use d word "broke"? Nice topic but bros b mindful of ur words o.

coolestofall:
Op what is wrong with u, did u hv 2 use d word "broke"? Nice topic but bros b mindful of ur words o.

Noted. But there is nothing wrong with being broke. Its just a stage of life. The point is, even if you are penniless, you can find other ways to enjoy your val.

I know many of you guys are thinking deep right now on how you are going to spend your Val with your main chic. Some have already perfected plans while others are going about in search of where to borrow money just for one day. But seriously, if she is your main chic and she loves you as much as do her, then she wouldn't mind. All she needs is your time, attention and affection so quit putting yourself through all that stress.

Here are some low-budget things you can do for your girl to make her val worthwhile.

1. Cook her a meal

2. Give her a pedicure treatment

3. Take her to the beach

4. Call her 10 times

5. Try a body Ma$$@ge

6. Send her a voice note

7. Write her a poem

8. Write her a naughty love letter.

9. Do some house chores for her (wash her und1es, lol)

10. K1$$ more and have 53x. Its very important.

8 INEXPENSIVE THINGS YOU CAN DO TO MAKE A SPECIAL VALENTINE'S DAY FOR YOUR PARTNER

Some rich guys have this feeling that all women are interested in them because of their money. I mean no offence guys, but seriously, if all you think you can offer to a lady is money, then you've got no game.

Not every woman who tries to get close to you is interested in your riches. There is always this one pretty girl who doesn't give a hoot about your finances.

We have all read very many articles on how to spot a gold-digger but only a few write-ups actually side with women who love genuinely with no monetary strings attached.

Its quite true that Money is important in every relationship as no woman wants a hopelessly broke and jobless guy. But how then can you tell the difference between a gold-digger and a woman who is only in quest for a stable financial life.

A lady who comes from a rich background and is used to some extravagant lifestyle may also be mistaken for a gold-digger. There is also a difference between a woman who obviously loves money and is attracted to successful men with the one who only loves money and money alone.

A gold digger is a person who is primarily interested in their partner’s money and what it can do for them. This is not to say a person cannot be interested in you because of your success or wealth but not necessarily try to use any for personal advantage.

Unfortunately many guys tend to believe that the first calling of attraction for all women towards a man is money. This could be the reason why more relationships are failing on a daily basis. She needs much more than just money. Show her love and affection, k1ss her publicly, give her your time, have m0re $,3x. If she gets tired of all these then she may just be interested in something else.

Read the article 10 signs she is not interested in your riches

Beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder. This statement seems so true.

I once dated this girl and it was hell and a swell time all in the mix. Either she could not go on a date to cheap places or always wanted a specific gift.

Such girls are shamelessly manipulative. On her birthday, you have to buy her a gift, take her and her friends out and spend your last dime. She still expects you to do same on your birthday! You have to plan something for Valentine's day, Christmas or your anniversary else she'd go haywire.

In a nutshell, she acts like she is doing you a favour getting into a relationship with you. She feels too good for you or any other man, constantly threatening that you up your game else she'd consider the other options.

But love makes you so blind, covering your eyes with a big log so you can hardly see. Love is like a drug addiction. You can be so blinded by love that your love for a person is what leads you and controls all you do and think.

Girls also have similar experiences with guys too.

Are you blinded by love?

Think about it, apart from the hot steamy s,3x and the money, what else can they offer?

Read the article 11 Signs you are blinded by love

A group of people are assembled, confined to a limited space, given strict rules to adhere to with cameras all over the place to monitor their every move. The idea is usually to compete each other out with only one contestant emerging as the winner. The fact that the contestants are all aware that they are being watched makes it something other than a reality TV show.

Reality TV shows are different from documentary television in that the focus is more on drama, personal conflict, competition and entertainment rather than educating viewers.

I recall when survivor first hit the screen, then came American Idol, Big Brother, Big Brother Africa and Big Brother Nigeria. All of these so-called reality TV shows have nothing spectacularly fascinating about them that is truly worth the hype. But these shows get so popular. The question remains, why all the fuss? What’s so special about reality TV shows that would make some people rather tune into some shows than watch a presidential debate? 1000 more words