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Hi Nairalander,

I need your advice. Apologies for the typos in advance. Every names mentioned here are also fictional.

So there is this Lady, Tayo that I was a good friend with, she's cool, attends the same church with me and I wanted us to date and possibly get married. I push for her to date me for 2 years but she didn't agree. It wasn't long before a childhood friend of mine introduced another Lady to me by the name Tolu. Tolu is very well brought up, and a good speaker and I thought other things will fall in place.

Tolu and I dated for a few months and then got married 6 months after. I know I made 2 mistakes, first, I married in haste (but can we really say 6 months is 'haste'), and secondly, I then took her to the church I was attending with my supposedly Cruch, I told Tolu about Tayo before she sees her in church.

The problem is that my wife and I always fight a lot, especially in relation to the Tayo girl. To the extent, Tayo and I don't even talk again, blocked Tayo on every channels and with time, forgot I once had feelings for her.
God bless us with a Baby boy and I recently got my wife a car to support her hustle and to help with her transport, especially with the Baby. I put her through driving school and got her a driver's license and then she started driving.

Sometimes last week, My wife had an accident with the car, the baby and the mother are safe, we just needed to fix one or two things on the car, less than a week after that, hot water poured on the baby boy while she was prepping the Boy food at the kitchen. By the way, the Baby is already 9 months old and you know, a baby boy, if not properly watched, will injure himself with anything they found their hands on. This is the case with our Baby, while my wife was prepping his food, he picked up the flask with hot water and it poured on himself. Thank God, it wasn't much and the Baby is recovering very fast.
A few days after the hot water incident, my wife was coming back from the Hospital where she want to do checkUp on the Baby, she later called me that the break of the car failed and that she managed to get home with the car. I called the Mechanic and he gave a testament to it that the car should not be taken out after he looked into it until we change whatever is damaged in it. We fix it and then he said it's okay to move with the car now.

Why am I bringing this story to this place...My wife and I had an argument yesterday, which was a Sunday, she claimed that Tayo is the one that is trying to kill her and the Baby. She was introduced to a Pastor that testify to the fact that somebody in our church is the one that is trying to do her harm. I do not take it easy with her and below are our chats on the subject.
Please guyz, note that I love my wife so much and I've moved past my past, but my wife will keep talking about sh*ts that are not real, and it's really hurting our family.
Please advise me based on the chats below, am I too harsh on her? should I leave the church because of her, where I have built good relationships and God is blessing me? or how can we just move forward without the past hunting us down again?

Matured minds suggestion alone.

I fear, when this killing reach Lagos, maybe that is when we will all wake up and fight this government
#RevolutionNow

Why is it not hitting Russia for God sake??

For me, It was in my secondary school, I was going to meet my mum in her office but there are these 2 dogs beside her office that people around are always in fear for.
That fateful day, I just wanted to do something abnormal, like move to the dogs and play with them. I was moving towards one when the other one starting running towards me. I swear, I ran so much that it until I fell down flat with a wound that these dogs stopped pursuing me. A day I will never forget.
That doesn’t change the fact that I still love dogs till date.

That is the true definition and d knowing what you worth. I hope you are currently doing something right now that is fetching that mimimim of 9M naira??

Ole will definitely be sacked
Good luck to him

Just man up and marry her whichever ways, don’t do court yet until you do your dna…