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pcguru1:
It doesn't have to be your reality or any body's you can't or shouldn't be enduring in marriage. Do you know what it is to be frustrated everyday in a marriage that frustration leads to resentment and from resentment it leads to hatred and from there its easy for any marriage to pack up. People think its all prayers yes prayers is vital but you have your role to play too to ensure you keep your partner happy. You don't see that way because you assume women's happiness is irrelevant that's the way society treats things. And that's terrible

I'm a lady sir now read my comments again .
Fairy tale is finding a prince charming / Cinderella that after marriage it's all gonna be enjoyment no stress

Reality is opening your eyes, hears etc wide before settling down with someone and expecting the worst in them. If you want a long lasting marriage with every day thing there
The world is messed up and the reality is that very very few people if any would end up with people who ticks all their list spiritually, sexually, financially, socially, mentally etc the list is endless

Even if you do there would be deep shot along the way would you always take a walk.

pcguru1:
From your comment its obvious you are an unfortunate fellow

Naa it's just reality I'm a lady by the way

I'm not saying compromise iseasy, but most of the marriages we see that have lasted long weren't built on a bed of roses, there is a lot of cover up and patchwork

EfemenaXY:
I'm not going to respond to this.

You just did

FortuneTeller:
My husband declared he was a sexual expert before we married as well. Men often overestimate what they can do, because women never tell them. I don't think his wife would be sleeping in another room if he was really that good. I'm sure his wife gets the urge to have sex at times, so why not use the available man at home? She's not attracted to him.

As a for medical help, there is nothing wrong with him. He gets hard as a rock. He just doesn't want to do anything except his regular 5 minutes. I'm not dealing with that until I want another child.

Sweetheart thank you for saying this. At least this will open the eyes of men a majority of whom can be egoistic and forget that sex is a two way thing, the other persons preferences matter. They will loose their women to guys who know how to observe, and give girls what they want.

Men really think lavish spending is all a woman needs?

EfemenaXY:
You compromise and make allowances for everything else (values, etc) not sex.

Sex is the deal breaker.

Why not?
Many of our mothers compromised na, with cheating husbands who wouldn't touch them for years that was one of the secrets to their long lasting marriages , even wives of successful men, and men of God are sex starved

When would women stop killing themselves over men
If he is faithful fine if not, who cares

StakerLives:
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get the message and dont confuse us here

Now You seem more confused that the person who set the question