₦airaland Forum

Wike is a cry baby, it's obvious nobody has ever had the gut to tell him no, not even the sitting governor of his own state, he's just been humbled by a "mere" soldier, he must feel so embarrassed waking up this morning.

amazingspiderma:
500k is no longer a decent salary even for a bachelor in the face of the economic summersaults policy of the current administration.

500k earners were said to be middle class before Tinubu regime, to be honest with you, 500k is no longer a big money in Nigeria.

Equal2DeTask:
What about those earning below 100k?

100k is like 3500 naira daily, that's barely enough for morning and afternoon food for one person.

seunmsg:
Depends on the person. The responsibilities of an unmarried man in his early twenties earning 500k cannot be compared to that of another married man with four children and a wife to cater for. The young guy will be able to save if he’s prudent while the married guy will struggle to manage the salary monthly without taking additional loan.

Considering the fact that only about 5 percent of Nigerians earn that much, that's to tell you the level of suffering Tinubu and you guys has brought on Nigerians, i even thought i was living extravagantly, until I was able to accept the reality that this is the new normal now.

mrvitalis:
There is no excuse now why Tinubu won't restructure the country and give yorubas Lagos

The only difference is that it restructuring Nigeria demands a constitutional amendment which means 2/3 of state assemblies have to be on board.

breadtoaster:
We all not perfect, I can state some of the obvious ones he had issue with

When we came together, I was a loud person. I liked to express myself openly, even during arguments, so I would talk loudly. He, on the other hand, is very quiet. That was different for me, so I had to learn how to express my anger calmly — which feels weird because there’s no energy in it. How do you show happiness or unhappiness without life? How do you just stay passive, as if the issue doesn’t exist, and feel comfortable going through it without feeling anything in your body or the need to actively do something to change it. We were somewhere were a lady as talking passionately in a group sort of, the next thing i saw my husband ask sorry do you have an issue with me? because the way you are talking? this lady was just talking, I didn't honestly notice any energy directed at him but he cant just stand high energy sort of (maybe his nature i dont know). it was so embarrassing to everyone there and he didnt even know what he did was wrong. Since then, I am scared to have him attend any social thing that would be in a group setting because I dont know what low self esteem attitude he would potray or antisocial attitude.

I’m also a blunt person. I tend to say things as they are. For example, I might say, “Haba, you’re not even assisting us to do better. It’s been months now, how many times have you applied?” instead of saying, “Please dont forget to apply for something for us today.” then tomorrow " pls apply for something today", then tomorrow continue again. That's too much energy, I dont even have it, I have so many conflicting priorities, assignment, group work, full time job, full time school to handle. How do I baby a grown adult to do what they’re supposed to do when they should do it?

I’ve always been that person who doesn’t need to be pushed to act. I’m not the most diplomatic person honestly.

For example, when he said if he doesn’t use a condom, there’ll be no sex because he doesn’t have a job here and he clearly isn’t applying, I felt hurt. Why should I be treated that way, after having only two sexual experiences in my entire life, you arent even looking for a work and I keep begging, when we can find two jobs , do together and it would be our money? So I told him, “Let’s just go back home to Nigeria where you have a job, so you can be able to knack me appropriately. But I’m not having condom-based sex for months, which means we won’t have sex again until we’re in Nigeria.”

That annoyed him because he felt I was threatening him by saying he should go back — meanwhile, that statement included me too, not just him.

Diplomacy at that point would have been to just agree, look sexy, and maybe hope and pray that during a knack session, he’d throw the condom away and want it raw.

But honestly. I’m wired logically — all that “arrangement above” feels like too much mental work. Thinking about how to “trick” someone to get my way doesn’t come naturally to me. Yet it seems most people don’t like the plain truth — they prefer to be “tricked”.

For me, it’s the opposite. I get angry when someone tries to trick me into doing something. I hate it with my life. I feel manipulated. I prefer you to sit down and talk about issues with me, reason them out logically, and find a middle ground. If that middle ground isn’t working, I’d want to comeback and say, “This ground has shifted o, I’m not feeling this middle ground anymore,” and then we talk again until we find another way.

Another thing I do — I might innocently say, “Ah, so-and-so just started this new side hustle o, what can we also do?” I don’t realize it sounds like comparison to him. But I’m genuinely only trying to share something that inspired me, to start a conversation about how we can improve our lives. He gets upset, saying I’m comparing him, while I’m just thinking about survival and progress.

When he wasn’t applying or doing anything on this our hustle to survive, I told him at one point, “This is becoming too much. Between school, work, and trying to study for certification exams, I’m stretched. When I come back from work, maybe you can help us with cooking since you’re not applying for jobs. If you were applying, I’d gladly cook for hours after work. But I can’t keep doing everything. This is a contract job — what if they don’t renew it? We should be putting in serious effort.

Yet, he never applied or showed concern. He’d just casually apply once in say two weeks. And I kept wondering how he really thinks we’ll survive. So I decided I won’t cook, since he’s not taking responsibility — I’d rather focus on the priorities of finding a better job so we can take care of our needs and I wont keep living on credit, because any credit we end up taking is in my name and in my credit card so I have the loan on my end consciously or subconsciously.

Oh, and I also talk to my friends on the phone. It’s not like I’m doing bad things — I just want to learn, share ideas, and stay sane. He, on the other hand, doesn’t really have friends — not here, not even back in Nigeria. Maybe some people from school, but no close friends or anyone I know. Just living alone. I used to think that was strength, but I didn’t realize that lack of social interaction could haunt me.

So now, he expects me to also live that way. But abroad is already lonely and depressing — how do I survive without talking to people? I need communication for my mental health.

The thing is you guys are not compatible, and getting married to someone who's not compatible with you only means misery, not all relationships should end in marriage, the thing is only love is not enough to keep a marriage, as an adult you should know that, I love him or he loves me, that is just about 10 percent of the marriage because apparently love is just a feeling, action really matters, and that's where so many of us makes mistakes, you need to be able to identify red flags, you need to study their character, know their temperament, look at their effort towards the relationship and most importantly determine if you both personality and goal really align, the absence of this only means you're signed up for torment...




For example, from your explanation your husband is obviously a controlling husband who wants to micromanage your affairs, only this bad trait will make you feel suffocated and trapped, simply because someone has taken your autonomy away and now you are scared to do the little things that really matters to you like dancing or talking to people on the phone, this will only lead to anxiety and that's more problem for you.

Exousiang01:
You assume they are police officers and based on that assumption you are making this kind of statement.
Until some of you start rottening in jail you won't know what libel and defamation is.
Were they on police uniforms?
Were there in police van?
You just saw some people chase a car shoot it and booooom.
This GenZ una go learn the hard way when the time is right.



I could say the teenager in the GLK is an internet fraudster and a member of a cult group which I might be 90% right about but the law doesn't permit me to say so.

I think you're insane, the Nigerian police has been doing much more than this, they operate with inpunity, Nigerian police that kidnapped, Handcuffed and blindfolded Very Dark Man in the presence of Banks security camera, some months ago Nigerian police shot and killed a school kid because his father was running away from them, i can provide you with links of incidents where Nigerian police has done much worse than this but here you are talking about defamation, that's absurd.

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I don't know what Nigerian leaders are smoking, I think they need their head checked.

1. the APC has wiped out the entire middle class group in Nigeria by plunging millions of its citizens into multidimentional poverty.

People who earn about 300k in Nigeria before APC could live a decent life, drive a nice car and take care of their family, now 500k is barely enough for fueling and accurate maintenance and feeding monthly yet less than 7 percent of Nigerians earn this monthly.

2.the naira is now inherently useless, an average Nigerian youth is frustrated because they are living through the worse cost of living crisis in decades, they seem hopeless because they have to pay 10 times of what their parents paid in prices of commodities, shelter and food, services, Child care expenses, entertainment etc, while minimum wage has barely triple.

3. Power generation in Nigeria is still at about 5000 megawatt for a generation of 200 million people with millions of Vibrant Youth who need energy to power their future out of poverty.

4. Cost of energy both electricity and fuels is so high that it has multiply the cost of production in Nigeria, this has eaten deeper into profit margins which means our youth have to work much more harder(thank God for technology)

5. Nigerians in general are not safer under APC, Kidnapping cases have gone up exponentially while Fulani herdsmen wouldn't let the people breath, Nigerians who genuinely wants to farm are too afraid to do it, security issue has only gotten worse.


10 years of APC and no problem has been solved, we have only been running around a circle while the ruling class and oligarchs gets richer, the Youth and Gen Z of this country are the ones feeling the heat the most because they are the ones whose future has been jeopardise by the lying APC government who feels they have fulfilled a non existent promise, the Gen Z will one day speak up and it will be very terrifying.

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madridguy:
This is a great news. Kudos to the FG for the great initiative.
If Ade dancer is not pleased with the update, he should go to court.

Governors should stop seeing HoA and local government chairmen as their house boys.

You use to be one of the few sane APC supporters here, the matter is currently before the court, any sane person will know that the local government allocation should be held until the supreme Court passes their judgment, the fact that Tinubu is paying the allocation into a private account is simply subjudice and illegal, you should be the first person to condemn it because APC won't rule forever.

Bendeco02:
The man didn't post anything that made anyone to rethink

Here in Abuja, i hear hausa and other northern people saying Yoruba are the most tribalist.

Igbo have their bad side as well but not tribalist.

You guys don't know how other tribe sees you people, especially recently.

Wait let tinubu finish his tenure as president so that you will feel the hit. You will not feel the hit or observe it well now because politicians are trying to please tinubu for politcal gain. But the masses of other regions don't like you, just that you guys are not much outside your states.

. It's spelled "heat" why not try to educate yourself before spewing rubbish on the Internet?

maiunguwar:
The northerners are watching how their brother is being victimized and the president is not doing anything about it.
This is one industrialist that should be encouraged and protected at all cost, but it seems the authorities prefer the days of massive importation of fuel by tank farm owners.
For sure this will have both economic and political consequences

Them Don swear for una.

I don't know why Obi wants to play politics with everything.

The new tax law has been passed and will become effective next year, a lot has been said about this particular law and a lot of people including me are curious as to how the Nigeria Revenue Service (NRS) is going to determine taxable income of Nigerians?

Do you mean we have pay tax on all the credit alert i receive when my income in that money is less than 5 percent on the total sum?

I think this is the theory people are currently throwing around which in my opinion sounds disastrous.

I think the government should should sensitize the public more about how this Law will work since it's implementation is just a few months time, those who have an idea of how this is going to be implemented should please help us out.

Hope no be Tinubu you dey talk about? I no really understand.

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Omoawoke:
So much evil in the land

People think there’s a devil in Hell… big no, devils are in Nigeria currently. One country with —

Developers of fake drugs and foods
Dangote truck killers
Kidnappers
Bandits
Boko haram
Ritualist

One country fa!

Everything is wrong with Nigeria, a country where the best brains work as a gate man and the worse brains work in nnpc because of nepotism, a country where merit system has been thrown into the bush.

Should we call a spade a spade abi make we just lock up?

Nigerian pastors are running mad because of money, one even said jesus don't like poor people.

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Anybody with eye could see it, people who earn 300k monthly before are said to be middle class, 300k is barely enough to fuel your car monthly now, if you take your family to eateries during weekend be prepaid to spend about 50k, if you spend that sort of money twice in a month your salary is gone.

Topman7:
I believe Tinubu can do this. 100%.

We all know he can't, you're just deceiving yourself.

Nigeria no really dey save at all, data breach for just a few hundreds of naira.