₦airaland Forum

Seun:
Thanks b2dl.

bagoma, salsera: the idea is that Germans are efficient people. They only talk when it's necessary.

ahhhhh dammmmmnnn what planet are you fromSeun hahahahahahaha

you would be surprised how much germans talk ,even when it's NOT necessary! specially german WOMEN - ask some of your homies that were married to a german

teaser:
i proposed to my wife to be without an engagement ring,2 days after she bought one for me to put on her finger

sad ,sad,very sad - you should have done it the right way and not be so stingy .
I feel sorry for your wife ,because she had to buy her own ring

he better have a ring when he is getting on his knees or the answer will be NO

wow I have learned something new today.in my culture it makes no differece if you give from right or left hand.never knew it makes such a difference in africa.

I am not sure but I thought I was reading on the net that it is not good to hand something over with the left hand because that is the hand you clean your butt after using the bathroom? but I'm not sure if I got this right.

zebudaya:
true you have forbidden fruits but you also have hypocrites judging who a young girl should date, But once they are in America there's a breath of fresh air, they can do what they want, when they want, how they want it, plus they have all the money they need, then after a while they get bored and want to have fun and feel good. That's where I come in provide that excitement in their lives. Also Americans avoid speaking to them because they have heavy accents, but oh no not me, I know how hard it was for me to communicate with an accent, so I'm more patient with them and accept them as they are, and in the past 2 out of 3 times I have been sufficiently rewarded .

This time it's just a matter of time, I have much more experience and I have a whole year no need to rush!


P.S Thanks for the name pronounciaton, and by the way although you drive me nuts! welcome to Nairaland
P.S how did you stumble on a Nigerian site anyway? it seems you are always on and checking my replies "see what i said about providing excitement in their lives"

thanks for the welcome,

I drive you nuts? aaawwwwww c'mon - that easy a woman can drive you nuts just by written words? LOL

It might seem to you that I'm always on,but I just let this site running on my pc while I am working,I get all replies per email,so therefore I don't have to check the forum .I just go in quick and answer.

are you satisfied with the answers?

zebudaya:
well german girls come to America every semester (Exchange program) , met three of them Alke, annaliesa and ivonne and the way they look at me it looks like they want to taste the forbidden fruit . And when the time is right I'll give them a sample.

they are younger than you anyways!

you sound funny,like we have no forbidden fruits here in Germany,don't forget ,we have many many nigerians in germany .

give them a sample,but make sure you wrap that pickle up

ps: her name is not Alke,it's Elke just for the records

I have all this already here in my country ,so I have to say thanks for the offer,but NO.

zebudaya:
I know what the topic is Germanlady I started the thread. You are just mad because you don't have a comeback!

Your english is wonderful too, would you be my sugar mama we don't have to live where i'm a nobody because i'd love to be somebody a big big star!!!!!!!

u need to read my postings carefully honey - in my world there are no suger mummies,respected ladies get all the sex from black men for FREE. you have to pick desperated german women ,with 4 kids by 4 different men,but then again,they have no money to spend on a boy like you,they have to feed their kids.

so why should I spend my money on you?

I keep my money in my pocket PLUS I have all the fun here in Germany.too bad for you sweetie,sorry.

but good luck in your search

omonozozo:
It is the fault of the Government of the Countries where these fake marriages take place. All these problems would have been avoided if only they just ask the foreigner to pay for their citizenship like is done in Nigeria.

you got a point there omonozozo - unfortunatly you can't buy everything with money

zebudaya:
You say I'm mixing it up because I'm providing valid reasons why a marriage would fail. because I'm telling you that even if the African Loved her, there is a high probablility that the marriage will fail after a couple of years, but Oh no you want to believe that "he married her for papers' when almost half of German-German marriages fail anyway

Lets say they divorced after 2 years and they had a kid, what do you want him to do burn[b] his green card[/b]?

I noticed you didnt say anything about the African man's German chick being bottom of the barell etc,

jesus lord have mercy, helllllloooooooo

***You say I'm mixing it up because I'm providing valid reasons why a marriage would fail. ***

THIS IS OFF TOPIC, read topic again !!!! topic is getting married for green card, NOT why marriages fail, mymymymy am I speaking chinese or why you don't understand me,is my englisch so bad

pls someone tells this man what we talk here.

ps: ***I noticed you didnt say anything about the African man's German chick being bottom of the barell etc,***

I do not answer this here,because this is also OFF TOPIC, open up a new thread and then I might be answering if I have to say something important I'll make sure I'll do it there.

take it like a man - things like this happening everyday - everywhere.

just go on with your life until you find a good woman who does not dump you for another man.

mamaput:
Me am 42

mamaput,I see you are my age,and I also saw your email address in your profile is ending with .de

are you german?

zebudaya:
Germanlady

My point is that the divorce rate in Germany is about 40% which means almost half of the marriages fail, okay so there is 40% chance that the African/German woman's marriage would succeed then add the facts that there are language and cultural barriers, we don't speak German in Africa so most times the man cannot fully express how he feels, then Germans drive him nuts because in your own words "He is a nobody" just because of the color of his skin. And people look down on him constantly, and expect him to fail, be lazy or irresponsible so mentally he is off. Also the society does not accept his kids even though they are German. Let's not forget Germany's Nazi past this is what only the 2nd Generation since WW2 so we are dealing with the children of those who fought world war 2 with hitler (hardcore NAZI's) since the fruit does not fall far from the tree i expect the kids to be somewhat prejudiced if not racist.

Also you said the average german woman would not hook up with a black man because "he is a nobody" so there is a huge chance that the woman the average African is with is chaff, bottom of the barrell, a reject that nobody wants, there's not much to do there! so the relationship is doomed from the start unless he has exceptional patience. So when a relationship fails you should not jump to the conclusion that he was there for papers, It could have been love , but love grows cold and when it does it leaves a hole.

All in all Germany and Russia are bad places for black people to be they should run as far as possible

you are still missing the point - the topic in THIS thread is and always was >>>>>>GETTING MARRIED FOR THE GREEN CARD-or PAPERS <<<<<<<

topic is NOT the DIVORCE RATE or racism in germany.

we are talking about the REASONS why so many african men arer getting married to german or american women and LIE from the very beginning, they lie about LOVE just to get their advantage and that is the topic here, using WOMEN and KIDS !!!!!! and missleading them with their words.

I am sure any woman in this would understand my feelings towards this.who wants to hear the big I LOVE YOU and the man is lying straigt in a womans face with the papers in the back of his head, that is very shameful and showing of his selfishness !

the divorce rate is a totally different story,why not open your own thread about it,because it's a different topic,and has nothing to do with this topic here.

again,just for YOU - this topic is about GETTING MARRIED FOR GREEN CARD,so stop mixing things up!

in my country guys love women sometimes that talk to a man first,because many german men are shy compared to black men.

I am sure it's a culture thing - german men would tell her in a rude way to back off (if she doesn't get the signal ),so no missunderstandings,and she better back off .LOL

trust me Uche2nna ,you will FEEL it when the right one is coming across - your heart will be beating up to your neck and you get this funny feeling in your stomache that you have never felt before

if a girl is forcing herself to a man,there is this little word - N O

just tell her NO and that's it ,what's the big fuzz?

there are just 2 ways,either its yes or no

as for me I am done with this subject

moving to the next,because with this one we got stuck

@zebudaya


your words: God knows that anybody that's thinking of dating or marrying my sisters would be responsible and wouldn't think of doing such a thing because blood would flow!

ahhhhh now I see you do understand where I'm coming from in this case  it's different when it's your family ,right? so now you get at least an impression how people feel over here.

I am not here to prove anything in  numbers - I have eyes and I see what's going on here with many african men in my country
- and THAT you can't take away from me,cause I LIVE it first hand - and you DO NOT.

yes people get married for different reasons .but FOR PAPERS (and therefore lie to women) is plain mean and selfish.it's a crime and against the law.

you are missing the point,we are not talking about DIVORCE RATE or BLACK MEN IN JAIL (so don't change the subject pls).we STILL talk about getting married for papers.can't you see the difference?

zebudaya:
You see what you want to see. If you want to see mixed kids from broken homes, and whose fathers have left them you would see that. I am very sure that there are responsible African men who fall in love and marry the person they want to marry and are living hapily with their families. You just don't want to believe it happens and when it does you say it's an exception.

You are just perpertuating a stereotype that the foriegner is only there to rape, steal, and pillage your resources. I have given you an example of my german cousin who visits us every year even though her parents have not being together for the past 25 years, what more do you want? Please give the African a chance if he/she messes up then criticize and punish all you want, but you refuse to give them the chance. Ohh they just want paper

Aren't there german fathers who leave their wives and Kids. You are just being very pessimistic look on the bright side it won't hurt your eyes.

please don't twist the word in my mouth.we are not talking about CHANCES,we're talking about FACTS.

first of all we are talking about african fathers/producers of babies for giving them papers - german men don't need papers,that's why I don't refer to them.that is another different story.

second  I don't talk about rape ,steal and pillage our resources.I am talking about kids,that are missused for only ONE reason ,to give an african man legal papers to stay here.in other words they are missleading german woman just to get their stay, and that I don't tolerate.it is not FAIR.a lie is a lie.god knows it.

just because your cousin is a good example does not mean all is good.

I live in this country for 45 yrs,what do you think you can tell me , what I see and know about african/german relationships here.

you have NO IDEA,sorry to say that.

there are responsible African men who fall in love and marry the person they want to marry and are living happily with their families. of course they exist - but the majority is NOT.and it's not I want to seee what I feel like seing.

it is in the open for all to see who live in this country.I am no judge,but I am a woman and I see how things are going in this case.

out of 100 mixed relationship german /african 90 will fail,and that is a fact not just because I see it that way.why not ask your brothers who got married just for papers?they will tell you the truth.I read it in this forum so many times and I am shocked.

just imagine,we change this story a bit:
let a german man fool with your sister and let him tell her he LOVES her and he want to be with her for the rest of his life ,after they are getting married and have kids ,the man tells her ,sorry now I have my papers to stay in africa ,i want a divorce and bring his german girlfriend here to africa.and he dissapears and leave your sister alone with the kids and a broken heart.

and let this be not only ONE german man,let it be as many men like african men come to germany.maybe you would feel sad and disappointed too for your sisters and the abbandoned kids.sit down and think about it.

I wish it would be different.it would be all good for EVERYONE.

omonozozo:
It is true that the mixed-race kids in Germany are disoriented. Very sad indeed.

disoriented? nawwww,I would n't call it THAT.

they are just more used to the german way of life then of their fathers country.so they feel more german then african/american

unless the mother can try to teach them some things as far as this is possible for a white woman.

that means a white woman have to be into the african/american culture,so they can help the kids to understand better.

alot of german women have never been with a black man before they meet their babies daddy,so how could they know about their culture?

many ladies are aware of the kids fathers culture though and they are trying their best.

so you see it varies very much - knowledge is the key

out of how many?

I see things every day here.Of course there are menthat takes care of their kids,but I see more single /divorced white women here with mixed kids than happily married ones.MOST fathers are gone andthe mother is raising her kids alone and the husband that LOVED her from the first minute on they have met is married to another white woman or ist getting his black girlfriend from nigeria. I just wish they would play with open card before they have kids.

I can't give you no exact numbers,I can only go by what I see and experience.sure there are always exeptions .

I feel sorry for all this mixed kids that are produced for just ONE reason, for the papers!

that's another aspect ,not to forget about.

and I know many of them,you can see them everywhere here and when you ask where the father is - well he is gone,sad sad 

that's why I preach to each and every african men I meet here in my country,if you need a woman to get papers,get one you REALLY LOVE within your heart.that way you will be a happy husband and your family is respecting you and you're not just an USER and LAWBREAKER, never forget an HEARTBREAKER as well.

that safes you money,pain and health/stress.

you are right debuz,I won't reply to him anymore ,that is to show I'm done with him.  

confused is just one person here,I really don't understand why you talk to me if you are so disgust by old women.
you should just leave it alone and mind your own business ,because nobody is forcing you to respond.

but it seems like it's a challenge for you hahahahaha you can't stop

leketoye:
Now don't you darling or sweetheart me. I hate your guts and thats it.

to bad for you hahahahaha

see that's what I mean by you guys are sooooo fast with LOVE and HATE, that is really funny

you don't have to love me ok ,just be mature enough and step back with respect before you sound childish and make a fool out of yourself.