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seems all the housemates except bisola are high,
John looking feminine with this hair without his shirt on.
but damn kemen so someone can't grind on u in a party again without u trying to force something, now he is trying to relate to the jacuzzi incident.
efe is all over marvis this night

okay the party is starting to slow down now,
boj2 goodluck on ur surgery wish u speedy recovery,
mehn if winning big brother is on dance Debby would have won a long time ago, she hasn't sat down once.
is efe kissing marvis

this party is too hot, this live band is too good

tboss and Debbie's outfits don't look so old school to me but they look good,
bisola is really looking nice today
ese and Uriel look ok, ese always looks like she is having so much fun.
marvis looks like she got the house helps clothes, but she looks good
I can't believe some one can look at efe and think he is less than 30, see as his old school clothes fit him so well.
this live band is killing it

the house mates are now gathered in their bedroom singing, Debby rise playing the guitar

geekybabe:
TTT is the definition of agbaya.

he started the a*ss grabbing thing

actually bisola started it when she was grabbing Bally's ass through his pants and talking about how soft it is

bisola, marvis and Uriel even debby all had their asses grabbed, wow kemen asks if he can he can grab bisola's from inside her knickers and she agrees, efe and marvis grabbing each others ass
well bisola gave kemen a good night today

I don't understand this night everyone is grabbing everyones ass.

so ttt has finished with tboss and is on to ese.
kemen wants to try with tboss.

bisola is now facing kemen seriously grinding on him, ese's boobs though. damn
please what's wrong with kemen. he's humping bisola.

mehn wetin efe dey do so abeg. what is he looking at see how he is holding Uriel from the back and staring straight down lolzz abeg efe oh.
he has stopped.
uriel's body is good though

emperormossad:
Hope your day was awesome?

it was good, I'm guessing urs was too since u clearly woke up in a good mood today

aww biggie will soon tell ese to stop

Oyind17:
Shut up already! The guy took time to explain to you and you're still asking silly question.

u r part of the problem , something that has ended u want to revive it.

I don't know why posters still argue with threebear when he has shown he is ready for everyone, even if he gets 30 mentions on this thread alone he will answer to all, lol.

LordAdam16:
Here is a sentence in the post you quoted.



And I'm all in in the whole gender equality (not just gender equity) thing.

I wouldn't respect people I don't see good in or agree that they should have more say in how the world operates.

When I made that statement, it's like pressing the pause sign on emotions, and hypothesizing about what would have happened if ladies weren't around. It's similar to people saying Nigeria has potential, some good and all that, but why did Lord Lugard bother to form Nigeria.

Just look back at the thread. You are clearly in the minority. And by minority, I mean less than 5%.

Now imagine that the majority of the ladies with the shoddy mindset they've displayed being someone's gf, wife, employee, employer even, daughter. I mean they don't live on Mars. They are mostly educated, with decent IQ scores, and even have the civic right to decide who rules the nation, their state, or LG. But something so clear is lost on them.

So yeah, why did God bother?

And apologies if it hit the wrong chord with you. I couldn't hate ALL ladies, that's sexist.

-Lord

alright, apologies accepted.
but instead of wondering why the female gender were created and how the world would be without them. how about wondering why stupid people were created, and how the world would be without them.
because I know there are stupid people in both genders, like the fool above saying he knows what all women want just because he is married. and according to him what all women want is to be married and have kids, even when if he bothered to do a simple research he would find that its becoming common for some women to not want to get married, and for those that want to get married, some say they don't want kids, either their biological kids or adopted.
so u see shoddy mindset is not limited to ladies, so u don't come off sounding sexist even when you're not.
am not trying to sound rude or condescending.

emperormossad:
I would have said one crate of beer for you also but I wouldn't want you tripping down the alley you know...*winks*. God bless your wisdom.

thanks, but u had d strength to reply so many people on this thread. lol.

LordAdam16:
I think I have a valid point to make on this topic because I'm a moderate alexes. I'm not a complete alexes like this guy, but I'm a guy who reads and watch movies about love, but never gets it. Marriage sounds like a sh*tty arrangement (no offense to married folks), and I scoff when I see pre-wedding photos. I'm like this man laughing with glee with his wife-to-be could be her killer tomorrow. The majority of females in the US who die are killed by guys they're in a relationship with (as a gf or as a wife).

Alexithymia does have it's good sides, I'm a pragmatic humanist and a brutal realist. But it can be an awful curse in a sea of emotional no-holds-barred homo sapiens.

And that brings me to my main point. No matter how many times you tell a lady you don't want to marry her, it wouldn't stop her from falling in love and getting hostile when you remind her of your existing agreement. It doesn't matter if she's intelligent or dumb, a NASA scientist or a marketwoman, a 70 yr old or a 15 yr old, an introvert or an extrovert, a mel or a san.

Your ex was an exception not the rule.

And I'll know because I've NEVER being in a romantic relationship with anyone. I haven't dated anyone, and right now, wouldn't even if I had a gun to my head. Ladies, regardless of age, intelligence, or personality, are as fickle as the wind. They are only as reliable as a speck of dust in a hurricane. Which is evident by the fact that more than 80% of the ladies who read your account (most of them def educated), didn't even care to understand your position.

F*ck a lady more than once, and if you are cool, with good looks, and a bit of cash, she'll already be imagining her wedding night with you. You don't even have to date her. I know because it has happened to me severally. Before I said, you know what, f*ck this, I don't have the time, energy or will to pander to people whose self-confidence and decision-making ability are about the size of a pea.

Maybe it's the Nigerian factor, maybe it is a female thing. But I don't have reason to believe that it's either of those things. Marriage doesn't need to be a ceremony for the whites, so yeah the girl could ask you to just wife her on the road with an eligible clergyman, court person or JP on a lunch break. And clearly, the majority of males on this thread too have shown to not have simple comprehension abilities too.

Being honest and straightforward in all ramifications is worthless. That's why the Yoruba demons don't care. Convince her she's the only one and break her heart when you're done with her. Because whether you are honest with her from the start, she'll still see an expected end as a messy breakup. So, why bother yourself?

For me tho', I can't go through that hoop. Sounds like taking a flight from Lagos to London, then from London to Abuja, when I could just take a direct ticket from Lagos to Abuja. And I like to respect ladies even tho' they evidently don't respect themselves enough.

So, I'm not going to tell you what to do. You're an adult. But I'm going to tell you this for a fact.

Even if you gist a girl. Tell her there's no chance in hell that the relationship will end in marriage. And she agrees. Weeks or months down the line, she'll still fall in love (I don't know how to explain this, the closest I can get is that humans like to have what they can't get) and hope she can change your mind to marry her. And every time you tell her no (basically reiterating what you've told her since day 1), you'll just make her more desperate and hostile. And God help you the day she snaps. She could destroy your house or worse maim/kill you (whether it's an acid or a knife to the chest).

I'm incapable of loving a lady, so I don't NEED to maintain relationships whether platonic or romantic. It's physiologic, so I have it easy. For you and several other guys, all I can say is, be careful.

This is one instance where HONESTY IS A BAD POLICY THAT CAN POTENTIALLY RUIN YOUR LIFE. Unless you find an exceptionally lady, which as you've probably figured out is rare and there's no way of knowing if she'll be an exception before you go all in.



There is a huge difference between what people read and what they understand. It is actually a phenomenon. Read this BBC future article on the spread of ignorance. That article is just a foundation.

The majority of humans are zombies. I don't mean post-apocalyptic zombies in the movies. I mean healthy, educated zombies with jobs and families. And politicians, social engineers, advertisers, and marketers know this is the world's best kept secret.

The person you quoted def read the OP, but s/he comprehended something different. What s/he read was interpreted differently in her brain.

And even if it was interpreted correctly, it doesn't stop s/he from still having a distorted view point. It could very well be that s/he doesn't care if the OP said it pointedly clear that he wasn't interested in marriage from the get-go. S/he is probably disillusioned that it is not possible for anyone to say that or for anyone to really mean that, and that maybe it was a ploy by the OP to eat his cake and have it. And that the lady in the OP was manipulated, basically a victim of circumstance (despite her being a full healthy and educated adult capable of even co-managing a business with the OP).

The human brain is a marvel really, a bloody sick twisted marvel.

To your other post about ladies virtually painting something bad despite several good references simply because they did not have her way, that is another FACT. Have you looked at the divorce stats in the Western world? Or the near divorces that people call "happy marriages" in Nigeria with regular third-party mediation.

Most ladies want to have their way or raise hell. They'd change the narrative, do anything humanly possible to make sure they f*ck you over if you don't let them have their way. And if that includes tagging a beautiful relationship with terrific history as a mistake on a whim, then so be it.

There are exceptions, but everyone has a limit. A girl who you think is understanding you may just be piling it all up, waiting for that perfect moment to pounce on you with the favorite--I've been managing... (don't need to finish it, you get the point).

Seriously, you look at the female gender and if you're a creationist, you ask the question, why did God even bother? Like did Adam complain that he was lonely? There are animals that can reproduce without mating. So the reproduction reason does not fly. God created women to f*ck men up, and they've done a pretty good job, starting from the Apple.

-Lord

its really sad and shocking to me to see some of the responses on this thread. I mean for God's sake the guy told u, am not going to marry u, and u agreed to date him, now all of a sudden, he is a fool, he is evil, he deserves to be beaten, I mean what didn't I read? for being honest?? while u the bloody liar, who agreed to date him is now a '''victim''.
at least he told u d truth. he gave u a choice. tomorrow we ladies say we want a guy who is honest, who is good, kind, thoughtful. but when we see them. smh..
am going to have to read up on what u mentioned about the spread of ignorance, cause I can see it happens a lot.
u made some good points up there however ur last part made me sad, is that how u see all women. u don't see any good in them that u wonder why we were created?? if I'm misunderstanding ur words please let me know. I've seen some of ur posts and I like the way u reason so I would like to know.

Bisola has fallen to the floor because of laughter, she can't stop laughing, abeg wetin them give tboss eat, see as others were eating theirs as if its chicken

1bkaye:
Tony's diary session.

They exchange pleasantries. Big brother tells him it's his eviction diary. BB asks him how he's feeling. Tony says he feels indifferent and that sometimes when things are coming up, maybe an hour before he sometimes shakes, he doesn't know how he feels, he's still hoping he won't be evicted. He's trying not to be idle to avoid thinking too much. BB asks him what he's thinking about, Tony says once in a while it crosses his mind, he talks to himself a lot, he tries not to talk about the nomination though he spoke about it briefly in the morning or yesterday but just to air out positive vibes with the housemates. He has not really gone into the process of thinking too much.

BB asks him how confident or 'scared' he is feeling, Tony says he's confident, he's not in control of the votes so he doesn't know what's happening outside but he's remaining positive. That he really doesn't want to leave. No matter what happens he's sure he has connected with a lot of people outside, he's sure he has fans that have voted for him.

BB says he understands his positivity and optimism but he should still take into account that it may be his last night. BB asks him what he will miss the most if he leaves. Tony says he will not miss anything, that from the day he got in he has learnt to be a better person, stronger in mind, optimistic etc. He says he will miss friends because they have become a family to him, he will miss BB's voice, he says he's sure BB will also miss him. He will miss the fact that he may not be able to learn things he may have learnt if he stayed, he has learnt how to work well with people etc.

BB asks him if he thinks he has done enough to draw votes from Nigeria to keep him, he says he thinks he's done enough, just about what 4 weeks can hold, although he doesn't think it's the end, that he knows there's more to come. He says he doesn't plan his day, he lives his life as it comes, that there's a lot of things people don't know about him and his lifestyle, that they may be surprised when they learn more about him and things that he does. He says he's confident that he's done what he's supposed to do.

BB asks who he thinks might be leaving tonight rather than himself, he says Marvis. He says Marvis is unique, that though she's a girl, she's not a 'girly girl', some people may not react well to her personality but he has bonded well with her. He says she may not be the 'ideal' type of woman in terms of what is accepted in Nigeria and he fears that, he says they get on well etc, he says he fears he might lose his friendship with her.

BB says it is a crucial night in his life and wishes him the best, Tony says thank you and asks if he can say something else, Tony thanks BB for the opportunity to be here and hopes this will not be the last time he will get to banter with BB, he thanks BB for correcting his puzzle, that initially he thought it was prank but realises it was good judgement. Tony also thanks him for the haircut and jokes that he finally looks like a human or something.

BB says that he hopes he stays but if he leaves the only man that can stop him is himself, he wishes Tony all the best, the eviction diary session is concluded. Tony leaves.

thanks so so much for the update, I wish u were there to give us updates on the confessions.

vladimiros:
her Boring Unit that has given us Efe with his hilarious pidgin

or Bisola with her loudness

and TTT with his dance and dance skills? don't forget his funny stories..

I don't know about u, but the last 2 eveictions and now shows her boring clique is LOVED by the entire Naija..

bisola may be loud and funny, but I can't get behind people who taunt others in the name of ''jokingly teasing'' them, when they won't tolerate such if done to them.
no comment on efe and ttt.
so what has marvis given us??

marvis asked by biggie who she thinks deserve to be in the house and she calls her boring unit. she thinks we care to see her gossip and eat all day long.
I actually felt bad for gifty when she said bisola keeps being rude to her and she has to make an effort to ignore her and not take it to heart, cos I know bisola can't take half of what she dishes out to gifty.

thanks to all those updating, please continue for those of us that can't watch.

peacettw:
I really do think we need to cut Kemen some slack. I hardly watch the show but I have read all the updates here on this forum to conclude that kemen has esteem issues. We all have pointed out numerous times how he either lied or exaggerated a fact so what's different now? Isnt it just possible that he just said this to impress his buddies while unwittingly setting himself up? Again, the constant bashing of his lips is getting worrisome.The man didn't create himself. Let him be.

there is no cutting him some slack, that's why I suggested he goes to look for help maybe a psychiatrist, for his self esteem issus, however low self esteem or not there is no defending what he said.
about his lips, people do need to leave him alone.

teelaw4life:
I tire oo, in a sane society, person go don write petition. Infact, popos go don invite am for discussion sef. No be say na person holy pass, but that kind of mind no just be at all. He ought to get more than just a talking to from biggie.

no be only u tire my brother. coolestchris is busy defending him, talking about ladies dressing, kemen that said get gifty drunk. did he care whether she wore bikini or hijab, he said get her drunk, have sex with her, then tell her its a mistake irrespective of what she wears. just see levels of planning. who knows maybe biggie may have punishments in store for him or biggie may move on so that it doesn't become much more of an issue. if kemen wins bbn I will be very very sad.

coolestchris:
Like attracts like...only a foolish girl will get herself drunk in the presence of a guy

I really don't know what to say to u. so if a girl is drunk she is available for rape please every body should try and live in a world where they are accountable for their own actions. if a guy rapes a girl who is drunk, he does so not because she is drunk but because he wanted to, that's the simple truth. may I never come close to guys like u and kemen in this life.
I know you should never allow yourself to be drunk and unable to control urself (am guessing that's ur point?) but its still not an excuse. anyways am talking about kemen who deliberately wanted to get gifty drunk, or wait for when she is drunk to do so, then tell her its all a mistake. can't u see he has it all planned out #premeditated. that's my point.

honestly kemen should be the first person to go home. saying that he wants to get gifty drunk and have sex with her or have sex with her when she is drunk then tell her that it was just a mistake is not acceptable in the least.
all the other housemates sins (gifty is dumb, her accents. marvis gossips, Uriel is a backstabber, tboss is arrogant etc.) is not up to what kemen said. This just makes him the worst housemate in this bbn. who jokes with rape.
I hope when he gets out he can get help for his low self esteem. so he can stop saying some kind of things, before he starts doing them as a result of desperation.
His apology is irrelevant.

whizqueen:
nice points though.

. But must it all be about getting a job? Why cant you learn a craft or trade And Make yourself a professional at it. Or how long do you intend to be an employee? Better goan learn fashion designing And Make yourself classy, you wil earn far more than what those bank staffs earn with peace of mind together with.

The girl that styles my hair is just 19. She has 7 apprentice with 2 shops in surulere. She even has refused to go to school sef. Some of her apprentice are way older than her than She even calls them "aunty". We the clients wont stop patronising her because She is damn good at what She does. If She eventually goes to school i'm sure She wont bother looking for job after school because by then She can even double Some peoples salary.

Bottomline is get over the mentality of looking for a job and work for yourself. Learn a trade, start up a business and do something meaningful with yourself. The to years you'd spend looking for job as a graduate you for don turn professional tailor by then.

I understand what you are saying and the point you are trying to pass but the post says specifically for job seekers, people who prefer having a job than being an entrepreneur.

explorers I've learnt so much by following ur threads

I don't understand these housemates shey they nominated miyonse and soma, now they have been evicted and they acting like they can't believe it. bunch of fakes.
abeg gossip unit should start abeg. I know they are very happy.

aww see how the crowd was sad. efe busy forming 1 kind sadness when he knows he is very happy inside. miyonse will soon cry also

aww soma is shaken. he is not just in d mood at all. aww he is crying