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What does serious date mean?

I joked i'd have to find a ginger man to have the ginger little girl i so want!!!

Having someone stay in your home is a mindfield.
I have done this myself-as a single person-with kids and eventually you get to the point where you have had enough

mcclaren!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!very funny-i'm ginger and proud-

Sorry-nothing to do with being Nigerian, but alot of people think i'm either Scottish, or irish, cos of my colouring, Very pale, ginger with freckles!!!!!I find it quite amusing,

lack of confidence to say-sorry i'm not interested, i suppose.Hasnt learnt its ok to say no.

I'm quite interested to see there are people who believe sex is for marriage only, to be perfectly honest.

Not sure how to quote-but, in response to Omega25red


so how did you end up leaving



-forgive me if i got the name wrong.
-I did get counselling but that wasnt until several years later-he actually in the end left me for someone else,
and i thank my lucky stars for that because he is now with someone else who sadly seems to be in denial about the abuse he is giving her-and i get on really well with her, she confides in me and is like me talking several years ago which is rather strange.
We have kids together so thats why we are still in contact.
But the self esteem issue is very important and i think as has been said by many people before me, the bruises, they heal but its the emotional scars your left with which are so hard to mend.

Cannot agree, sorry-noone is more or less likely to be unfaithful-based on the colour of their skin, it is ludicrous to even suggest it.
AS i said before, i'd never cheat bt if i did-its because of whatever reason i have not because i am white.

Very true-some people cheat-basically-whatever and whoever they are,

I dont agree with saying what a white person or black person will do-i would never cheat, i am white, i am sure that colour has nothing to do with it.
You cant say that all white people or all black people are a certain way-unless you have met every single one of them.

There are many reasons why people cheat, i dont think whether a persons emotionally strong would definently stop them from cheating or make them want to cheat.
THe reasons people cheat-well theres so many, some complex,some quite simple.
From speaking to my girlfriends it seems one common one is that men may have everything they could possibly want but they still want more-but dont want to bite the hand that feeds them-and break up with their girlfriends.
Of course i spoke to my friends so i say "men" but obviously i know-both men and women do cheat.

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if you girl is under the ARV treatment,she cannot infect you,i have been positive with hiv for 9yrs,i am on my drugs,i married and my wife has remain negative since after marriage,we have a daughter who is also negative,so with the right treatments you people can live you life.


I didnt know this-is it true?

If they aren't ready to see a therapist and their women aren't leaving . . . .
How then would change come? Most times, the abused helps the abuser continue the act
and that's why I recommend severe enlightenment for both parties.
On no account must one accept abuse of any kind; sexual, physical, emotional etcetera.


yes i agree-where is the need to change if the person is abusing and abusing and having no consequence for their actions.
if my child does wrong and he has no consequence he will continue to do wrong until he has punishment for that act and a reason to not let it continue.

Sadly-and i know this from first hand experience, being in a relationship with a violent man-be it verbally,sexually physically or whatever-it kills your self esteem and more often than not you get to the point where you think-what is the point, i might as well stay-i'm never going to be free of this person.
It f**ks with your head and its SOOOO important you seek counselling to get out of that trap of not feeling worthy of being with a decent,loving man.

THere are unfaithful white people as there are unfaithful black people-colour has nothing to do with it.
i would never be unfaithful but thats not cos i'm white thats just because i'm me!!!