Freedomforall:

If he doesn't celebrate you, celebrate yourself.Get friends and family members and co workers and do your own birthday simple.

ObaIgwe1:


I feel your pain my sister.

I hope your husband is strongly behind you.

I am a guy, but I have seen a lot of injustices and gang up against innocent wives, even to wives that go extra mile to please her in laws.

I had to fight with my own family cos of the injustices they are doing to my uncle's wife just because they don't like her, no matter what good she does to please them. But my uncle defends his wife at all times... More reason they hate her.

God will help you and see you through my sister.

ObaIgwe1:


Just pray you don't have terrible MIL.

Some just hate their wife in law for no reason, and nothing the wife does is right.

Some feel jealous because their son spend more time and money on the wife than her...

Pray hard dear.

ObaIgwe1:


Just pray you don't have terrible MIL.

Some just hate their wife in law for no reason, and nothing the wife does is right.

Some feel jealous because their son spend more time and money on the wife than her...

Pray hard dear.

Stanleyafam:
Marry ur friend and remain happy... Una no go hear.. Why is it the women always complaining, most of them follow money.. They marry for money..

Please marry a friend.

supersystemsnig:



OMG is this for real, you guys should chill out and take this off NL plz..You guys need to meet up in person and talk things out...this is unfair to the both of you, what about the good times you shared, however few? it ought to count for something don't you think?

mrphysics:

This is internet, it doesn't forget. Both of you should stop insulting yourselves online. And you are a lady, learn to follow due process in settling issues. If you are tired of the marriage, kindly approach a customary court and they will duly end the marriage.

If you don't like some of his attitude, then approach his people and lay your complain. Nairaland is not for both of you alone.

adl:
@Op, Taking a look at what you have written so far I think you do not understand your wife. If you live on the mainland and your wife is a banker, then 5.30am is actually too late to leave the house every morning .

Coming back in the evening, once she can't close at 4pm, then you should know she can't get home any time before 9pm. All what you have written is actually a no case.

Forget all the people commenting in your favour, most aren't married and will act differently if they are married.

On the sex part, you need to improve yourself. If you aren't romantic or nagging a woman all day sex can't be in her mind. And having sex with her when she inst ready will give her bruises. So, you need to improve on that. Send her romantic text, give her a massage when she is back, welcome her with a hug and kiss and you will see her body ready for you.

@ Facebook posting, she was wrong but since that account has been temporarily deactivated, you should let go. Its wrong to conclude she is cheating because she us active on social media. If you give her the care and romance she wants, she won't be that active on social media.

@ beating her, you committed the unforgivable offence. How can you beat her? That's totally wrong. Go beg your in laws. Go beg them seriously and be ready to receive the insult if your life. No one will take it no matter the circumstances.

Then you sent her packing, that's bullshit. What happened to for better for worse. Don't destroy your home. Go take your wife back home.

And going forward, pls stop being selfish. Always consider what she wants in all situations and learn to compromise a little hear and there.

Filipinobaba:

I am not surprised at this post my dear... Keep it up... Changing monikers to wash your dirty linen in public will Do u no good. U make my life a living hell and you expect me to smile and clap hands for you. #WifeForSale send me a mail if interested mtchewww

ijapa888:
So people want an update on the matter?
I'll provide more than that.
I want to let you in on some of my mistakes so you'd be better equipped when choosing a life partner.

Courtship
I entered into this relationship with wide open eyes despite the fact that i never met her mother.
She never showed up during the wedding and six years on I'm yet to set eyes on her or even engaged her in a phone conversation.
Reason is, she left her four kids (including Wifey) and their Dad at their tender ages and has since not returned.
She is alive and well, remarried and started another family with another man in same Lagos state.
News has it that she now has cancer or had a stroke or both.
Shouldn't i have bailed?
She was replaced with two other women who she grew up to know as step mothers.
Naturally, a mother will focus her energy on the upbringing/welfare of her own child not her step child.
Probably where she lost it.

Physical Abuse
Domestic violence here was initiated by yours faithfully.
No pride derived from doing that but i assure you some situations require a bit of letting out, some release, although they yield no good results.
No sane man in black Africa can pride himself of not having at least fantasized about hitting a foul tongued woman.

About the facebook account, it was not deleted but deactivated.
You can deactivate your facebook account one minute and be invisible to all your facebook friends.
Once you log on with your username and password you're back online with all your contacts,messages and pictures intact.
I found her account with the controversial picture on it and commented thus:
Looking so available.
Voila!
Facebook account gets deactivated.
Wonder what other comments must have followed or what prompted that quick action.

When you say career woman, I'd prefer a highflying woman who has a job with future prospects.
One with certifications to secure her area of speciality in her chosen career not first degree equivalent.
A seven digit salary if you like.
Official car to cap it all.
Why risk family for a job that hasn't given you a raise or a promotion in 5 years?

I'll have to sign out from this thread after this time out.
I'm feeling naked on here.

sisisioge:
Babes, I pity you. I can only imagine how tough it is to be married to a man without drive. The men here will come for your head for daring to wish he would do more with his life.

Anyways, I think you really need to wake up to your responsibilities and totally stop trying to make him do stuffs. One day, in the not so distance future, he would realize just how lost his cause his and sit up. Quit the insults, quit the nags. He will soon realize.

BTW, I hope you've been separating your ventures... I don't trust men who allow a woman take the financial leads in the family. Whew!

Kondomatic:
I pity that man. Not just because he's not doing anything useful with his life(according to you) but because if you can insult and thrash him like this on a public forum then only the gods can tell what he's getting from you at home.

You have a business, you've got cash to give your children a future so technically you're the man of the house so deal with it.

Men have been dealing with scenarios like this since the days of Adam. What some women do is go to their husband's office or shop, spend few hours, go home, cook and watch Telemundo until their husband returns at night for sex and their husbands are not crying foul.

I thought you people claim to be capable of doing anything a man can do? Even better.
Good, the role is being reversed so deal with, divorce or self terminate.





I am not in any way trying to support him or his lazy ass but I really hate to see people useless their partner in public, bet it online of offline.

Nutase:
Just be a good role model to your children so they don't turn out like him. As for him you cannot teach an old dog new tricks so you have to learn to accommodate him like that.

ipobarecriminals:
the prayer warrior. above me should continue.We can't just just continue to bang the throne of Grace/Mercy with prayer.A dull child failed his exam,u blame one old mama from ur village as the architecture of ur misfortune.Do u knw how the man struggle and managed to grad with dat 3rd class?U knw how many E,D,F,F carryovers b4 one bald prof Janduku let him GO?U expect peep like dat to go for MA/MSC?. MA/PGD nor be moinmoin.Dnt be deceive by pali,those without. PHD,etc are making wave un their respective job.Urs is to sit down and have heart 2 heart discussion. Reporting him to baba/mama won't solve anything. Wish u well

HRHQueenPhil:
first thing is not to insult him, you saw something in him before you married him. secondly and most important, you need to be more prayerful. bishop abioye of living fFaith Church winners wld say fasting is demonstration in desperation, so not to go running to any man of GOD, settle down and pray. it's our month of supernatural breakthrough, am inviting you to any living Faith Church, attend and see Wat GOD will do for u in dis month. congratulations in advance, GOD bless u