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2cul2care:
Such is life bro, never spend money on a woman with the intention of marrying her, its a terrible error.


Besides from your story she never loved u, she just saw u as an ATM.

Move on bro she'll get her own fair share of karma in the future

Thanks so much

prizlezzlalasky:
@ op I rarely comment on threads but I'm forced to .

Your gf is heartless and doesn't love you. She had been with you all because of the benefit that comes with it. Pls I it is better you forget about her because even if you convince her to marry you, trust me that marriage won't stand the test of time because of the recent trend in divorce and infidelity .

I will advise you to accept the hard truth and move on with your life.
You have a brighter future and you don't have to the your happiness to a lady who doesn't appreciate you.

Look around you, there is one lady who loves you for just being you but you give a blind eye to it because of someone that doesn't care.

Cc Giwoni

appreciated

lereinter:
Don't thank me joor

lol. Just that you people are making me know my worth and correct my wrong acts.

lereinter:
Ode Ni op
Medical students are supposed to brilliant but you be mugu Maga
You didn't go abroad because of gf
You are stupid

noted, Thanks.

earthsync:
well op the excuse that girl gave nothing but flimsy on why she can't marry you in my opinion. I think she doesn't love you but is just with you for what she's gaining (money)

Thanks for your contribution, well appreciated

Martinez39s:
She even inadvertently gave you a hint when she said she would dump you if you failed your 2nd MBBS exam. You were just her school ladder and equipment. When a lady tells you rubbish like "I can't marry you because my parents won't let me," or she brings up tribal differences, just know she is not interested in you. Would the excuses be effective if Bill Gates or Ned Nwoko came for her, or if she really wanted to marry you?

More generally, there is nothing like genuine love from a woman to a man. The love you see in the movies doesn't exist; it's just an illusion and scam dwelling in the deceived minds of males. A woman "loves" you for what she can get from you. I think I will start working on my redpill series very soon because of your case.



https://www.nairaland.com/5695941/many-memes-redpill-guys-get


https://www.nairaland.com/5150034/boys-get-here-mumu-must

Thanks.

Martinez39s:
Being a simp is terrible. You were nothing but her disposable utility (especially for school work and school needs). GreatResearcher1, what do you have to say?

Really. I never knew before. thanks

LLobiorah:
Exactly, thank God you have known now. Dating an Anambra man or woman, the love nah owner's risk, especially if you dy reason long term 'marriage'.

I'm really learning a lot.

akaahs:
I dey vex with you, why advising him to accept her when comes begging? No any right thinking man accept such a person in this situation.
The op should just forget about her Afterall she benefited alot from him

thanks. well said

kokaneprodigy:
That her mama part na format. I won’t be surprised she discussed nothing with her. I’ve done this to a lady before. We were friends with benefit, she started catching feelings and I didn’t want to damage our friendship once I saw someone I wanted to officially date and marry, so I dropped the format to absolve myself of the blames this time na my papa I use. Till date the babe no like my papa o. God forgive me.

LOL.

kokaneprodigy:
She’s not or no longer into you, she doesn’t want to end up with you forget all those excuses. It’s her decision and not her mom’s. If a lady is into uno Jupiter can tell her not to marry you she will fight it to the last. Women in love are very stubborn.

The sad truth from your story is that You enticed her with money. You were her ATM and the only one investing in the relationship.

Like I always say always gauge the interest of ur partner, in words, investments in you and actions.

human psychology 101

thanks, well appreciated.

luminouz:
Thanks for this. I was so confused as to the reason why they dont marry from their state. But since you're also Igbo,what's the big deal in discriminating against you na? If na Yoruba geh, I fit understand.

archaic mentality which was rampant in the 15th century is working on their 21st century generations which is a big problem for them. How can ones parents determine who their daughters or sons will marry? What if it did not go well with whom they chose for their children? May God almighty heal all of them for their shallow mindedness. Some of them claim to even be Christians and they never come across where the Bible says in the book of revelation that there should be no decriminalization be it tribe, or any form among the Christians.

Chi59:
I have no clue. When my ex just started acting funny, he wanted a break, I didn't really think much of it. The break broke up what we had, but it never crossed my mind. Till one or two years after when I started hearing about anambra people. Different stories from different people. I matched it up with what I had noticed in him and what he told me about his family. I started seeing a probable reason why he must have acted the way he did.
Whatever their reasons are, are not tenable. Why carry on a relationship with someone when you know that your people will not allow you to marry a non indigent person? And I think this issue of not having a mind of their own is a major contributor to the problem.

What I discovered from Anambra people is that they come around someone for their selfish interest only.
My own question is that; does it mean that God did not make some of these so called ''Anambra people'' to marry or be married by other people?

SweetCunt97:
Try not to get a lady from anambra next time. It's only a few family that will allow their kids marry from Ebonyi.. I don't know why but that's just how it is. Good luck

Thanks, noted

Michelle55:
Hmmmm... Move on, you will do just fine. The way i see it oh,you guys ain't meant to be together.
Focus more on yourself and be happy

Noted, thanks

[quote author=Bigdanns post=88638932][/quote]Alright, noted. Thanks

Trex4:
I'm sorry bro. My advice for you is to take my advice......don't ever call her again. Don't even read not to talk of replying her messages. What you need now is to focus on your self. Trust me there's more pretty and better girls out there why get so sad? Your exams and your degree are important.

I really appreciate.

lefulefu:
brotherly ditch that girl before she makes u to lose concentration .imagine u trying to concentrate on studies and ur mind is going to the way the girl is treating.i believe there are beautiful nursing students in ur sch..u could hook up to one when u almost through with ur studies.No let this girl make u lose road biko .

Thanks a lot. I do appreciate.

Blackbishop:
From my experience, she left me with the excuse of her mum been a prayer warrior and she has seen it that we are not compatible.. just a week later the mum approved another guy with a car and a good job for her. Not up to a month the guy gave her belle. And denied her bcuz the guy don marry and has a family. Gbam she came back begging me that it was a mistake and I should forgive her and even give her money to abort it so we can go back to our relationship...
Bros I blocked her, it is more than two years now early this month she used another number to call and begged I should unblock her that she wants us to go back to dating. I said I have heard, wetin man go do dey mans heart
Those who live by the nana die by the nana..

Once pregnant for another person, I cannot abort neither will I marry her again...

zexy2030:
Go get more characterly beautiful woman, they are many out there, don't worry u r making more money. That girl has been betrothed. Forget her she will be the one calling very soon. Stop calling or weeping over her. You have given her too much power over you... just acted a simp.

Thanks so much

zexy2030:
This is the mistake he made. Another point even ibos fear anambra, it is mostly anambra to anambra. Then if eventually she marries you, she married you for ur resources which she believes would become hers after having kids for you.
In short Anams are very selfish sets of beings.

Thanks. I appreciate

Chi59:
Anambra people trended on twitter the other day.
My advice for anyone dating anambra person, if you're not from the place yourself is to see the person's people one on one and find out where you stand before you go any further.
They hardly marry non indigenes.

wow, thanks

Jaybeth:
Hmm.....This thing called love has sent so many men into permanent depression, extreme hatred of the opposite sex and financial emptiness. The O.P has learnt his lesson.Pick up your self and always remember to love yourself first in your next relationship. For a girl you haven't married, for a girl you weren't the one that paid her fees upon her admission, never allow yourself to be manipulated into thinking that you are responsible for her day to day survival.You have been inducted into the club of broken hearted guys.Pick up the pieces and move on.Nothing do you.

Noted, thanks.

lefulefu:
you are in med school and u allowing woman wahala to weigh u down and u know med school is quite challenging.If i were u i would just jejeli dump the girl and face my studies head on.She has already told u that if u fail any of the external medical exams she will break up with u.that ought to tell u she is a good digger.Dont know why some of u guys are weak anyway.There more beautiful female nursing students u would come across as u do ur medical course so why u scared to break up with her .anyway its ur life sha .for me i cant allow woman issue to weigh me down..not when i have a challenging course at hand.If u let this girl keep distracting u u will fail ur exams.see her as someone placed by the devil to become an obstacle to your road of success.if u start seeing her as that u will know the right action to take .

A big thanks

opineflu:
what an experience bro,let me clear man that girl never loved you one bit.
Knowing well that her mother would never support such matrimony,she kept that from you for a long time.It so bad she went ahead collecting your investment with no promise of a sound dividend..she had your fooled bro, i know moving on would be hard, considering the trust you bestowed on her.
Man staying away and starting afresh is the right and sound decision lest you breed bad blood between both families.it way deeper than you can comprehend

I appreciate

antidisestablis:
I just want to ask you a question. All the money you are given to this lady where did you get it from?
Leave the lady alone, her mind is made up she can never marry you.

My hard earned money. Thanks for the advice.

iphanyi10:
since you said you don't mind the insults, op you are a fool!!! a very big one!!!
1) you allowed her control the relationship from the very start
2) you think you can't get someone better if she leaves
3) you even dismissed a chance to have a better education all because of a girl you are not married to
4)you lavish her with Money to show your masculinity.
5) you act desperate and in need with her.

now that we have established the fact that you have been a fool, let's talk about the solutions.

1) show her you love her but don't act thirsty
2) set ground rules but learn to relax them when need be
3) give her money when necessary but don't be her ATM.
4)don't talk about the marriage proposal again, refer to no1

let me tell you something, if you've actually wrote the truth in your post, she would be the one on the losing side if the relationship ends, she is always acting this way because she knows you're easy to manipulate. no one wants to lose someone precious as you. Be a man!!!!

Thanks. I appreciate. I'm learning my lesson already. You people are source of help to me.

Bush2013:
I am a medical student too but in Ebonyi. If you r in Ebonyi we can Meet because I am in town. You bleeped up but we can't throw the baby away with the water used in washing him

willing

jumpampass:
You are mumu man. Take red pill and go ask for refund.

Thanks man.

Ricchcream:
Why must you marry before leaving to study overseas? Is it a requirement, or just your brother's suggestion?

I suppose, from your account, that your brother is the one taking care of you, and by extension, your girlfriend, financially. Does he know about her? .

Yes , he knows her.

missimelda01:
It could be that her parents influenced her decision, she wouldn't mention marriage in the first place if she didn't see a future with you or maybe she got bored of the relationship and found someone else...things like this happen, it's sad.

I already told you to move on, life happens.

I think the influence is majorly from her female friends

danduchi:
@Giwoni, get yourself another girl, give her spend time with her and completely avoid this your said gfriend. Give her excuses when she demands for money. Be a man, be strong. Make her know u have another lady and see how she come begging for your attention

Thanks. I appreciate