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Romance / Re: Sudden Increase Of Single Ladies Above 28: Ways Of Salvaging The Situation by GoldenSpine24(m): 11:07am On Jun 21, 2017 |
loooollllzzzzz..so interesting. Naija guys and ladies are really intelligent. Different opinions; some address why the situation exists, others talk about why the situation will continue. Still others don't even think there is a situation to salvage.. and yet, others redirects the question to the opposite gender while backing their grounds with tenuous examples. ....# Difference dey between disagreement and understanding o. When it gets to sensitive issues like this, we've got our decisions to make. However, though I may be wrong i think..things do not work ONLY because decisions are right and when it doesnt work out, it doesn't make a decision wrong. Truth is that not everything in life is about right and wrong, do's and don'ts especially issues like this. It's mainly about perspectives and believe me there are lots of interesting perspectives to this. I think we all know what works well for us while learning from the experiences of others both +ve and -ve. While we keep an open heart to learn more from one another, realize that it may not be our favorite person that tells us what we need to learn and work on. No need for attack..lolz... As all of us dey look this thread, we know where the thing pinch us. In the we really do not have anything to prove to anyone. We only have one obligation to ourselves: self-honesty. The most important thing is learn but and tell yourself the truth. I hail naija well well.. Nairaland reminds me of a line in late lucky dube's song: Different Colors, One People Peace Out |
Romance / Re: Sudden Increase Of Single Ladies Above 28: Ways Of Salvaging The Situation by GoldenSpine24(m): 10:23am On Jun 21, 2017 |
Sezua: Thanks sir....#appreciation |
Romance / Re: Sudden Increase Of Single Ladies Above 28: Ways Of Salvaging The Situation by GoldenSpine24(m): 11:29pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Nice one op. I believe it's directed towards all those who desire a marital union cos its obvious from some of the comments from ladies here that being married isn't a criterion for happiness.... Anyways My 5 cents, Reason 1....Some of them have been jilted unfairly early in life and maybe failed to grow emotionally and are still scared of losing their hearts again. However, to counter that, If you never use your heart to love, who cares when it gets broken? Reason 2....Some make a choice. Maybe environmental background or advise suggests that when they are older than a certain age they could settle. Again, we will always learn everyday. Marriage is the only institution you receive a certificate before you begin.... Reason 3...The attitudes. Oh, lawd! the attitude of some ladies make u want to cringe!!! Some are unnecessarily rude without cause, some believe that they are divine gift to man and therefore show an extreme level of pride cos of attention left, right and centre. Some get so choosy and blind their eyes to true intentions. If a man is financially dependent, has ambitions, worthy goals but not as rich as you would want him to be....I think if a lady despises such a man,she needs to be checked again. What prevents you from also sharing your ambitions or goals with him abi you nor get? Have something worthwile your are working towards, maintain a positive attitude of where you are headed and watch how he will unleash his undending stream of love and support towards you. Reason 4..Preconceived Ideas..When you prejudge an event or person, you will almost find nothing good. Imagine a lady telling me the other day; All men are the same no matter what. How do you prejudge a person before getting to know him..then i told her i assumed she was going to be married to a woman..When she forbade it, I asked her; Then why do you pray to God for a kind, loving and chaste mate if all of them are already the same, does it make sense? Keep an open heart dear ladies.. The truth is; if you are one who desires marriage, not getting a suitable mate at a certain time can have its emotional toll on you either male or female. It's not easy for our ladies out there. We know they go thru a lot. If you are a lady and fall within the scope of this thread, you know if you have some homework to do. You know where the shoe free you or pain you. We are not perfect doesn't mean we would not try. Why not look for the nuggets of wisdom from all the comments and improve yourself; attitudes, goals, open hearts? All the best to the ladies. Peace Out 13 Likes |
Romance / Re: Ladies, A Guy With Street Intelligence Vs Academic Intelligence? by GoldenSpine24(m): 10:49pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
...A hybrid of both will be nice.However, it should tend more towards a little of streetiness in the intelligent guy than intelligence in the street guy. Besides, a lady can teach the academic man how to improve his social life. If he is responsible, and adds a little social flavor... Babe thats tripple A standard... |
Romance / Re: Marriage And Tribalism: What's Wrong With Stereotyping Or What Makes It Right? by GoldenSpine24(m): 6:11pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
Amarabae: I do wish more people see it from this angle. I have a friend who wanted to tie the knot with a lady from the east. His dad was vehemently against it. Even threatening to disown him. He used phrases like "Selling our culture", "belonging to a foreigner" ..... He went ahead to tie the knot in the registry. Years down the line, they got to love the lady. The father says that she is the best Igbo girl he has ever seen. An he told the dad: "she is the best to me cos she is my wife. However,there are more if only we dropped this blindfold and gave them a chance". Im wondering what happens if two people fall in love and cos of ancestral stereotyping end up marrying one they do not love. When problems arise later in marriage... and he or she decides to think about the los-love..it can kill. |
Romance / Re: Marriage And Tribalism: What's Wrong With Stereotyping Or What Makes It Right? by GoldenSpine24(m): 5:33pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
nkowalo: Lmao.. really? how sure are you bout that? |
Romance / Re: Marriage And Tribalism: What's Wrong With Stereotyping Or What Makes It Right? by GoldenSpine24(m): 5:32pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
marvin902: True tho. A lotta preconceived ideas breeds the fear of the unknown. You see families, parents and friends try to advise the intending couple thru sermons to guard them against what they themselves can't really explain or defend. |
Romance / Re: Marriage And Tribalism: What's Wrong With Stereotyping Or What Makes It Right? by GoldenSpine24(m): 5:29pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
asuustrike2009: I love this. 100% Objective. |
Romance / Re: Marriage And Tribalism: What's Wrong With Stereotyping Or What Makes It Right? by GoldenSpine24(m): 5:28pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
dingbang: On point sir. They make up tribes. So i guess it's the qualities of people that is seen that should be looked into not judging them based on tribes.. fair? |
Romance / Re: Marriage And Tribalism: What's Wrong With Stereotyping Or What Makes It Right? by GoldenSpine24(m): 5:27pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
Kondomatic: Thanks for your honesty in airing that. But of i may ask, what do you think the right thing should be? |
Romance / Marriage And Tribalism: What's Wrong With Stereotyping Or What Makes It Right? by GoldenSpine24(m): 4:40pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
I get baffled alot by this issue. Why do we stereotype people or tribes based on general assumptions? We even advise one another to desist from forming friendships or marriage alliance with certain tribes; This tribe is so rude, that tribe loves money, this tribe is so dirty, that tribe is so arrogant, authoritative and proud and the list goes on... Sometimes we hear that south-south men are authoritative. Then i wonder; are these people authoritative because they are from the south-south or they are authoritative because they are men? We also hear that a particular tribe loves money. Again i ask; Was there no love of money before the formation of that tribe? Do tribes makeup people or people make up tribes? Fellow Nairalanders, please feed-in your perspectives... Let's talk.... |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: 2016 Firstbank Graduate Trainee Programme by GoldenSpine24(m): 1:54pm On Jun 13, 2017 |
Scented: Thanks for the education ma'am. Sincerely appreciate. Success to everyone! |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: 2016 Firstbank Graduate Trainee Programme by GoldenSpine24(m): 9:32am On Jun 13, 2017 |
prettyboy5: Bro, try understand his context. He isn't putting him down. What he is only saying is that such attitude may not go a long way in helping him. That is, despite the whole email body that was sent, the only thing he could pick out was a perceived flaw. It kinda (tho maybe wrong to you sha)portray an attitude that fights against the team spirit you rightly talked about. It's more like trying so hard to look for a flaw and forgetting to focus on the overall positivity. I believe that's what he meant by not bringing such an attitude. You also have a very strong point too. All the best to us. Peace out 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Ladies!! If Your Man Does These Things, Just Please Marry Himladies!! by GoldenSpine24(m): 7:32am On Jun 13, 2017 |
......and when he comes along they remember that's there is that standard their prospective guy must have that the OP forgot to talk about. Then go for another one that has little or nothing and who also to him has everything to gain and nothing to loose. After being bruised, they say we guys are all the same. Ladies, they exist. Forget modern trends and read in between the line. Between dark and white exists many shades of grey. |
Romance / Re: Ladies, Who Else Thinks I'm The Hottest Guy On Nairaland (photos) by GoldenSpine24(m): 6:01pm On Jun 12, 2017 |
Wait...Wait... Kwontinu 1 Like
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Romance / Re: Biblical Proof Of Why A Jobless Man Should Not Get Married. Check Out Number 2 by GoldenSpine24(m): 5:47pm On Jun 12, 2017 |
Sirhethat12: Nice one. Though i think it's all about balance. A woman was created as a complement so he needs to have those qualities, true. So she will have something to complement. However sometimes we yield to the decisions or thoughts of a woman not because we wouldn't have an idea of what to say but for the fact that it still part of what dignifies her. For the dummy answers part: Come to think of it. A man isn't perfect so from time to time he will make mistakes. Sometimes that yielding is what makes the woman set things right with her certain decisions that if the man had made,could impact negatively on the home. While the man has a role to play, i think it's complementary for both parties and most importantly its about balance cos balance creates happiness. our points are mostly in sync, but Nice one though. |
Romance / Re: Nigerians Don't Be Over-smart! Do The Right Thing (photos) by GoldenSpine24(m): 11:36pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
Ruggedfitness: sure. Tho i still have a problem building endurance during games |
Romance / Re: Nigerians Don't Be Over-smart! Do The Right Thing (photos) by GoldenSpine24(m): 10:15pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
Ruggedfitness: The wall seat and treadmill.. |
Romance / Re: Men Who Beat Their Wives Are Domestic Animals by GoldenSpine24(m): 10:05pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
lolzzzzzzzz.... So how una go gauge power to know say you fit beat am? Abeg to me o.... It should never come into the picture. When you quarrel with your best friend you they beat am? Then how does one beat is wife if she is his bestfriend? Make your spouse your friend so if friction comes, where romance doesnt work, friendship will sort things out... Beat ke...Very wrong!!! |
Romance / Re: Nigerians Don't Be Over-smart! Do The Right Thing (photos) by GoldenSpine24(m): 10:01pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
vikiylove: Mehn! i follow tire o. everything dey get small small modification. maybe somebody don read say take fruit and has gone to order one trailer of oranges to they suck 10 10 daily. E go just read this one weak.. Anyways me i thinkbody fat bulds up from the things we consume and it will reduce partially after burning it through exercise. However, the most important thing about body fat building up are the things we do when we are not exercising. Which is what i feel we need to watch out for more.. My thots anyway sha... |
Romance / Re: "If Your Girlfriend Demands For Money Routinely, She's A Prostitute" - Omokri by GoldenSpine24(m): 11:19am On Jun 10, 2017 |
Thing is... there is a difference request and demand o. permit me to talk about it on the following grounds: 1. It is a no-sex-before-marriage relationship. 2. They both truly love each other. Based on the aforementioned conditions, she has no right to demand money from him cos truthfully he really owes her no obligation at all, since they are still courting. When it comes to requesting, a lot is involved. How long the "friendship in the relationship has grown" and how deep too. Honestly girls i know who truly love their guys hardly request every now and then and also, guys i know who truly love their girls find no hesitation in giving. and who says He could not also request from her. It's not foolishness by any measure. Yes you are dating. But you are also friends. Dont you request things from friends both guys and ladies alike? Bar the naughty guys and ladies; have u ever begged before on the road? It's never easy to do so. It's similarly not easy to request something from someone you are not comfortable with. When she requests and you don't have it, transparency comes in and vice versa. He or she is more or less saying; "I'm comfortable with you enough to let you into my needs. Can you assist? Since the relationship wasn't built on that there will hardly be any issues. True love is about friendship and friendship is more bout giving than getting. Fastforward to marriage, both parties then have obligations toward each other. Why this issue raises lot of straws in the air is that the relationships all around us most times is based on gratification and instant fixes. Until we face the real issues lets not be surprised that what we pursue still comes back pursing us. When we replace love with gratification, we'll see the real difference. |
Romance / Re: .... by GoldenSpine24(m): 2:53am On Jun 10, 2017 |
Breaking the habit depends on your mindset and your strong resolve to fight it. Some side effects are; loss of motivation to achieve your goals, inability to think clearly, always feeling physically and mentally weak, you may begin to have a degrading view of women and men as mere tools for sexual satisfaction which is NEVER TRUE cos every human has dignity. Even your job sometimes suffers, and social anxiety and esteem issues will pop u. If your addiction is that deep, you've got a real fight on your hand which you have got to start sooner than later. [/i]But, it is a gradual process. You did not form the habit overnight , so my friend you can't kill it overnight. But with each gradual fight even in the face of relapse, maintain a positive attitude, it will carry you all the way thru. [[i] |
Romance / Re: Bride & Groom Exchange Wedding Outfit: Hit Or Miss?? by GoldenSpine24(m): 10:38pm On Dec 20, 2016 |
nonsense.....na this kind thing u dey tell me as i dey sip my moringa abi? 1 Like |
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