stanliwise:
here is my number 08172833073, whatsapp me, atleast you don't know me. so you won't be afraid of mockery.

Thanks..I’ll reach out

stanliwise:
your mother isn't too fit to occupy this position. you are not looking for and advice here. you need a better way of thinking that is all, you need someone to understand your story and tell you what they discover, this could be the breakthrough for you. Depression most time is when the brain has run out of possible ways of thinking.

Asides my mother there’s no other person I can think of, everyone judges or thinks I need some sort of prayer or deliverance. The only person who used to not judge me and listen to me, happens to have fallen out of love with me. And with the rest of my friends, a problem shared is a problem to mocked with someday soon

stanliwise:
If after speaking to someone you feel that you have a sensation of calmness, then find the right person, this person just has to be able to listen to you without judgement or too much emotion. After listening the person should be able to tell you what he has learnt from your story. or what he thinking. Not like an advice though, but more of like throwing light to something, to make you see it in a much broader way.

That person happens to be my mother, but I can’t tell her what I’m going through because it’ll only worsen her health condition. So it’s basically just me, myself and I

stanliwise:
please do, I wish you the best. Feel free to PM if nees be.

Do you think it’s okay for me to tell my friends I’m actually suffering from this?

stanliwise:
Depression is a result of impasse which the victim has no
solution in their head of how to overcome often because this
situation has no actual or immediate solution or the healing
process takes quite long. It is a kind of long term
sadness, nothing will seem to take your mind out easily.
if you can't afford a psychologist, this is what you can do.
1. You must hang around things and people that takes
your attention, e. g discussions, playing games, watch the
movies you like,
2. have a blackboard(someone that listen to all your
complains without getting bored and do not advice you
directly)
3. A reinforcer(a person whose job is to ensure you do
normal task like eating, feeding, goto work and do things
you find attractive).
4. Lastly, the person that would ensure you start tackling
the situation realistically either by finding a job or learning
how to forget people you have lost. he may need to refer
you to a professional if need be.
This person can be one person and the activity you find
attractive can be one or two. By weeks you would
improve. I am a living witness.

Thanks a lot... I really appreciate this, I think I really do need a psychologist, because right now I’m in a very terrible position..

stanliwise:
A clinic should be able tob direct you to one.

Alright. Thanks

stanliwise:
You may need a professional counsellor to help you heal faster bro.

I thought about it several times but not sure how to go about it either

What gets me through it every time, is remembering that I’ll be leaving more pains for the few people who love me especially being the only child of the house... And also to disappoint those who are patiently waiting for my downfall. I won’t hand them that in a plater of gold. They need to do more...