Peace out folks, I'll catch you all on another informative thread. This thread has taken up my time like say na me create am, this is why I don't like signing into my account to particiapte on threads because before you know so much time passes by and you've not really achieved much with your time and day, except to banter words back and forth with people from the immature to mature, downright stupid to sensible, rude and polite and so the list goes on.

Well it felt good to articulate my thoughts in writing.But NL you will not be a time waster in my life ooo.

Dabossman

You had me LOL at your posts and gparker is actually a lady . I hear you too bro but common for goodness sake what difference does it make that you were asked the questions from a mini laptop or from a sheet of paper?

I can't believe the controversy this thread has generated but I'm glad this issue came up because now I know what the general public thinks but I have never been afraid to stick out or of being different and regarded as the odd one If I know deep within me that what I am going on about is not fundamentally wrong, out of line or that it goes against the principles of natural justice, fairness and sensibility

Truth be told I won't crucify a person if they showed up at an interview with a laptop like I did it provided they don't start answering my questions from it (I didn't do that). I was apllauded once for the use of it, so I know there are like minds out there and someone out there will once again appreciate my style of doing things because like me they have no qualms with sticking out.

I actually do have 21 questions prepared but I always narrow it down to 5 or 6 crucial ones. And when conducting interviews you as a recruiter should damn well be prepared to take your time with the process, abi you want to ask your questions and then rush off an applicant because you have others waiting outside? Haba show some fairness, you can cut short the interview when you feel an applicant is rambling on and on without making sense, but please and please let them have their say too.

The laptop was on hibernate mode so powering on didn't take up to 5 minutes hell not even 3 minutes. But you will agree with me that this girl sha has a damn good head on her shoulders even if you don't like the laptop thing .

Richy

I hear you, but the laptop in my case wasn't used to answer any question at all. It came on only at the point where I was asked that common interview question Do you have any questions?

The whole idea wasn't to go there and begin to answer my questions from the laptop oooo. And for folks saying the interview is all about the applicant being assessed and the applicant has little or no power I strongly disagree.

Since I've taken the bold step to assess interviewers via some tough questions of my own I have walked away with an inner peace and clarity on what to do next. Most of them begin to stammer when I ask questions like How does the company encourage the learning and development of it's staff? They stammer because clearly they have no structure or plan on ground for that.

Anyone who doesn't answer my questions satisfactorily gets deleted from my memory bank as I walk away,whether they are 20 candidates to pool from me I refuse to be desperate and to waver in my quest for a fulfilling job and a decent employer who will meet me halfway and hold up their own end of the bargain.

I have worked in places where I had to call my oga at the top at the end of each month to remind him to pay me, the place was not structured at all there was no fixed date for paying salaries. I always had to make that call and he had the nerve to tell me to always do that and I thought to myself nobody reminds me to show up for work 5 days of the week, why do I have to remind you to pay me?

Another organization, went to hire new staff myself included when it already had challenges with paying salaries of staff that were on ground. It knew damn well the difficulties it had financially at the time but then hired new staff. Our salaries were never paid as and when due, and when it was paid it was never the full sum. Meanwhile you would have incurred debts from family and friends while waiting to be paid.

DUE DILLIGENCE IN MY INTERVIEWS IS CRUCIAL, I'VE GOT THAT POWER AND I WILL USE IT FOR MY OWN GOOD I WON'T BE FAZED BY THE FACT THAT THERE ARE 100 APPLICANTS OUT THERE VYING FOR THE SAME JOB OR THAT AN EMPLOYER HAS GOT ALL THE POWER AND I HAVE NONE.

@ Ladeski

I think I know who you are and I get the feeliing you are part of the recruitment firm I talked about. Well I always leave each interview with a positive and negative feedback did I hear what the interviewers said yes, do I agree with all of it hell no because I know who I am and I know my self worth as a person.

Who are you to tell me I will remain unemployable with this attitude of mine? Have you become the Lord God Almighty who holds the entire world in his hands? Well guess what this attitude of mine as crass as you may think it is, will take me far because this ATTITUDE is all about changing the things I can, accepting the things I cannot change and asking for wisdom to know the difference. THIS ATTITUDE also says ENOUGH is ENOUGH NO MORE BS FROM EMPLOYERS OF LABOUR.

I have been scheduled for several interviews this year alone, four of which I declined for personal reasons and I have received positive feedback I am the one treading carefully because I don't want to get my fingers burnt again. And this laptop thing wasn't an issue at all with another interviewer and it was actually applauded. They didn't think it was unprofessional like you put it. I AM NOT IN A POSITION OF WEAKNESS AS YOU PUT IT AS A MATTER OF FACT I AM IN A POSITION OF POWER TO TRANSFORM MY LIFE AND MAKE THE CHANGES I WANT CAREER WISE AND IN OTHER AREAS OF MY LIFE AND NOTHING ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE NEGATIVE FEEDBACK OR BUTCHED INTERVIEWS IS GOING TO STOP ME FROM MAKING THAT CHANGE.

If you are going to be late in attending to an applicant then why don't you do the courteous thing by apologizing for your lateness rather than carrying on like it's not a big deal? My time is valuable to me and it is mine, if anyone is going to waste my time I would like for that person to be me. I told you and your team before that I want to be treated with the same courtesy I extend to others is that too big a task to ask? Ohh I forgot you are in a position of power and I am in a position of weakness right?

If a recruiter does not care about what I think but only cares about filling a role and getting paid for his services then I say goodbye oooo, I don't need that sort of recruiter. Most of you HR Professionals have no clue whatsoever on how to be decent professionals and reliable ones. It's all about the naira and woe be tide the candidate right?

WELL LIKE I SAID I AM ALSO ASSESSING ORGANIZATIONS TO SEE IF THEY ARE THE TYPE OF ORGANIZATION I WANT TO ALIGN MYSELF WITH, APPLICANTS ARE NOT THE ONLY ONES WITH FLAWS. RECRUITERS ARE ALSO KNOWN FOR EXAGGERATING AND OVER STATING THEIR POSITIONS, HOLDING THEMSELVES OUT AS BEING ETHICAL AND PROFESSIONAL WHEN IN TRUTH THEY ARE NOT. Not refering to your firm in particular just saying in general.

@ hardbody

At last someone who understands and shows he is proactive and forward thinking.

Clearly a lot of my naija people are stuck in their old and traditional ways of doing things, refusing to change with the times and current trends in our world. If it is to imbibe negative aspects of the western culture that do more harm than good most people will do just that, but to embrace positive aspects na wahala.

By the way the laptop thing is not something I saw in the west or copied from them ooo, A naija CEO actually gave me that idea of carrying soft copies of documents rather than hard copies when I worked with him.

@ tlops

Actually for me it's easier to carry the 2-4kg laptop, than the sheets of paper because often I tend to lose them while in transit either on the back seat of a taxi while trying to re arrange my bag or something.And I am prone to squeezing sheets/pieces of paper and throwing them away because it's just messy for me to have sheets/pieces of paper lying around in my bag

@ slimyem

No be oversabi dey worry me ooo, I carry it because honestly it's just tidier I wasn't trying to show off at all and I once worked with a CEO of two companies and he was the one who actually taught me this thing of carrying soft copies. You always show your immaturity on threads with your insults you really need to grow up and show some class girl

@ naijacutee

Helloo I didn't have a modem or access to the internet during the interview it was just the laptop and the MS word documents on it I needed. The idea wasn't to start researching the company while there I had already done my home work also I wasn't reading any notes from it. The laptop came on only when the interviewer was done asking me questions and then asked if I had any questions of my own.

AdoOloro: I am able to figure out gparker and hammedkola are the same person. (diff account operated by one individual).

Like I advised, go to a job interview with something that will really help you at the interview. Something like a private jet to ease the difficulty of transportation and to avoid lateness.

Omo people like this still dey naija? I think say na me be the last one wen go wake up, not knowing...

Guy, you are honestly not making any sense here ooooo. What do you mean people like this still dey naija? How you figured out that hammedkola and I are the same person baffles me I'm still scratching my head on that one. Do we sound the same? And why on earth would someone create a thread only to register a new ID to write a long epistle like the one I did.

Interesting topic,

I figure AdoOloro is being sarcastic. Well I'll share my personal experience with you, two weeks ago I had an interview with an oil & gas firm where I took my laptop with me (it's actually a notebook, the mini laptop). I took it along because it has my resume on it as well as a list of questions I've prepared for every interviewer I'll be meeting with. In addition to that I just feel it's tidier to go with soft copies rather than hard copies of such documents.

Well guess what? The feedback I later received from the company as well as the consulting firm responsible for the recruitment was disheartening,hilarious and annoying all at the same time. They felt bringing a laptop to the interview was unnecessary and it was also a minus for me. The recruitment firm pretty much berated me for doing so and asked why I carry a laptop to interviews (this particular interview was my 2nd with the firm and one of it's clients). I was even adviced to carry hardcopies of my resume and a diary to make notes during the interview.

Me, I just thought to myself these people are not serious oooo. In this age and time of information technology, if you can't see or understand why I brought the laptop or the necessity of having your documents together in one place and on soft copy which makes life easier then you shouldn't be in this line of business. I also felt they weren't a forward looking and up to par organization.

Is that going to stop me from taking my laptop to interviews HELL NO, because as far as I am concerned

1. The interview is a two way business conversation and if the laptop is a tool that will help or enable me conduct my own interview who are you to tell me otherwise. Moreover if people are comfortable carrying hard copies of documents everywhere they go I am not.

2. The only thing I would do differently next time regarding the laptop is that, I would inform the interviewer from the start that I plan to use my laptop during the course of the interview because it has my resume and list of questions on it. I won't even say it, as if I am asking for permission to use it. I will say it assertively like hey it's the IT age get with the programme .

3. I realized some time ago that I have some measure of control over the interview as an applicant so I no longer let people bullshit me in anyway ooo. Gone are the days when an interviewer will have the upper hand at my interviews I am so changing the game to make sure I walk away with a better deal than I've gotten in the past.

As you are assessing me to verify my suitability I am also assessing you to see if you are the sort of organization I want to align myself with. I am sick and tired of feeling cheated and being short changed by some of these naija employers.

Well I have since decided to severe my ties with that recruitement firm because not only was I disappointed I wasn't even given a chance to explain why I carry the laptop with me to interviews. I could have done that in writing via email but I felt this people would think I'm either being combative or making excuses so I didn't bother and having met with two of their clients so far I think I've had enough because the experience in both cases wasn't nice at all and I'll be damned if I put myself through that ever again with any interviewer.

In my first interview with a client of their's I was spoken down to by the client and basically belittled & ridiculed. In this second interview I was asked to come in at 11:45am but when I finally walked out of the building it was 2pm meanwhile I wasn't asked to take a written assessment, fill out any sort of paper work oooo. I thought this is crazy a mere oral interview shouldn't last this long.

Some employers don't have any qualms with wasting your time or failing to apologize for wasting your time. But if you as an applicant dare try that you would be called all sorts of names. We've sha suffered as applicants in this country, but me I have resolved to be change the way my interviews are conducted and how I am treated.

If I make any sense at all then like this post. LOL

Are you folks for real? That is just so unfair and unjust and to think I got an airtel line for use I'll either drop it or use the line only as a receiver for receiving calls.

It's too bad you folks live in PH, because I have a trojan treadmill for sale in Lagos. I bought it for personal use but ended up using it a total number of 3 times only because the nature of my job (which involves frequent travel) didn't allow me use it often, I'm selling at half the price I got it. 70K

mutaad: BE A POSITIVE THINKER MARRIAGE IS MORE INTERESTING AFTER SOUND EDUCATION.

Are u sure about this? What do you mean by sound education anyway? Is it sound education in formal schools or sound education in the school of life and being street smart?

As a pessimistic realist it's going to be hard to convince me on this and please all you optimist who are good at preaching the 'be positive' gospel while trying hard to convince my likes over to your way of thinking abeg free us ooo, we all can't be the same.

As sick as this may sound pessimism rocks, because as a pessimist I don't bullshit myself into thinking what happened to Cynthia Osokogu can't or won't happen to me so I take extra precautions on security.

I also do not bullshit myself into thinking what happened to debrief & cotton 101 of the family section in their marriages can't happen to me so I'm extremely cautious when it comes to the issue of marriage and by the way these couples all have sound education ooo to the best of my knowledge.

Chini,

Biko how exactly does one send a voice recording online, enlighten me oooo, because me I'm not all that internet savvy I'm asking because I would really like to know how it's done. Just getting the hang of some internet tools and now this?

Anyway wouldn't it be easier to just go through resumes, select candidates and do a live voice audition for them? Voices can be sort of distorted and deceiving via recordings oooo. Speaking from experience

Never mind my question, I just googled how it's done. What I should have done in the first place.

Not necessarily, I often go for the casual corporate look. Not too casual, not too corporate. I've never been a suit person because of the hot weather in naija and I realize most interviewers won't crucify you or put you down because you didn't wear a suit (if you can pull off the casual corporate look).

Your dress code may also depend on the industry for example the banking industry loves the suit thing. Why don't you try the simple but cute gowns you can wear to work on a normal day, there are the kind you can also wear to church because it's decent & cute. Try that with a pair of high heel covered shoes.

Sir Gbogs: A suit is very formal, best to go with it.

Good advice, but it's often refreshing to see a candidate turn out differently but nicely without adorning a suit it's become so tiresome to see applicants all show up in the same attire (i.e the suit). I personally admire the ones that are bold enough to bone the whole suit thing and still look stylish & presentable, they stand out from the crowd. And if there's one thing you want to do at interviews it is to stand out, if you can make that happen with your appearance you've got a fighting chance at getting the job.

But OP don't make it all about your appearance oooo.

Jenny

I'm truly glad that you made it out of your vehicle unscathed. I say thank you Dear God for making it happen because I know that you are the creator and sustainer of all things.

Jenny I also hope you will clean up your act on NL having received a 2nd chance at life like you put it because I've read a lot of your posts and I mentally cringe every time I come across a thread where you are going head to head with other users and bringing on the insults like there's no tomorrow. Girl you've sure got one hell of an acid tongue

I mean you no offence but the One who rescued you cares about what we say and do whether it's online or offline, in private and in public.

@ hardbody

Bros how now? I didn't see your response to my subsequent posts about me being a lawyer and not being able to stand fellow colleagues like you (after I responded to your challenge). Don't even think of derailing this thread with that saga.

OUCH! I feel you but have you told her any of the things you've written here or even all of it? That would be a good place to start, I once knew a fellow in a similar situation who threatened his wife with divorce that quickly wiped her into shape but he told me & a few friends he never meant to go through with it i.e the divorce

It was nice though (for him) to watch his wife arrange her parade and make their marriage work. The same tactic may or may not work for you but you need to rock the boat one way or the other to see what happens. You could slash her allowance, arrange a job or some sort of business for her when the baby is born and she can get back on her feet. You may have to force her into getting work, you know her better push the buttons you know will work on her.

And for those of you who are good at saying

1. Didn't you know she was like this before you married her?
2. You haven't told us the whole story ooo, there are always two sides to a story
3. Until I hear the wife's side of the story I can't comment blah blah blah....

PLS cut the poster some slack and let us all assume his story is genuine, give your advice on the basis of that and don't start with any of the 3 questions above abeg.

Crystal

We are cool, no hard feelings on my part ooo, I just wish you'll reconsider but like you said I don't know all the details so .... no wahala. But you for send my resume naah kai see as oil & gas job just waka pass us ooo.

Ishilove], you wetin dey do you? No be fight now abeg calm down joor. Pls tell me whether I made sense or not? As much as I understand his fears they may very well be un-founded the least he can do is send the cv and then watch what happens.

Since when did sending someone a resume become a crime? I clearly said he can turn down any offers IF he receives any. Please God gave us common sense and an ability to think & reason things through so we won't always run to him about every little problem.

Crystal9t

Guy wetin dey worry you, you dey craze (no offence meant ). Why are you so certain there's a hidden agenda? Haba send the resume first now and then see what happens. Sending a resume is no guarantee that a job will land in your laps, send your resume if eventually you are called for an interview and made an offer or given an appointment letter stating a job description and the perks involved, THEN you can turn it down at that point citing whatever reasons you want to.

The scenario I painted above would be useful in your job search, because you can use that offer/appointment letter as your bargaining power in the search for work. For instance if you are made an offer by company ABC which you don't like, you can simply say company XYZ made you a similar offer which you turned down.... chances are company ABC may up their game, are you getting my drift? I sure hope so

Do you have any work experience since NYSC? It's important that you build a formidable work experience and also become excellent at job interviews where you make employers salivate for you even if you know you are not going to take the job. Bros me I dey vex oooo , see as you just make me dey yarn on top your thread like say na me create the thread. I've said enough

One last thing though, will you take my resume and give it to these folks? Me I'm not joking ooo so respond asap

Me unfinished business with temmy? Naah I guess i just wanted to have the last word on this because he started it with that post about nitwits & fools.

And yes you are kidding yourself when you say you know who I am, I really doubt that. I'm not one of the usual suspects who likes to pick fights with the cabal members. I meant what I said I didn't get a new handle because of you or temmy. Addressing you the way I did earlier was an honest mistake on my part which I apologize for once again.

I know how you NL women in the family & romance section can be, carrying beef from one thread to another but I hope you'll be gracious enough to let this one end here. Hoping temmy will take a cue too.

Okay now I'm really done and out

Wisdom for you right? I sure hope so because you really came across as one hell of an angry and childish dude. Will ask heaven to throw in some understanding and patience too,while you assimilate the wisdom. But what did you do to get them to answer the prayers so fast? I sure could use some swift answers to my prayers

Jidegirl, my bad that epistle wasn't meant for you and I sincerely apologize. No pun intended, I just read through and realized temmy was actually the one throwing words around and by the way I bet you don't know who this is so quit kidding yourself.

I'll modify that post now to address the appropriate party being temmydude. Temmydude I got a new handle for my sake ooo, not to backstab you or jidegirl. You all must have me confused with one of the regulars whom I guess you constantly fight with and yes sweetheart deny it all you want but I know I burst your bubble from your response to me & sienna.

Good to see you are developing a spine about it though, that's the way to go if you want to last in the business world.

Thank you Siena, for understanding my post. I didn't think it was that hard to comprehend

@ temmydude

The idea wasn't to burst your bubble, I just gave you an honset opinion and yes it did seem like you were over doing it, but if it works for you fine.

You talk about respect and maturity, in the same breath you've been disrespectful & immature in your post. Throwing words like nitwit & fool around. My goodness now please tell me who exactly is being immature and foolish? And for your information I am an old user who just got a new handle for privacy reasons.

I didn't know commenting on NL had to do with age or showing 'respect' to an older user who registered one or two years before me. I spoke the truth and if the op can't take criticism he or she won't do too well in business and that's not me wishing him badluck.

You are the one who needs wisdom (bucket loads of it),as well as tact & maturity, Heaven is still in the business of doling out wisdom if you'll just ask. Your human wisdom is truly just foolishness it won't serve you well in that marriage of yours. And like Kobo always says people (you in this case) should really learn how to read (read in between the lines as well)and comprehend before commenting.

You can bring out the big guns, while I walk away smiling as you eat the dust rising from every step I take.

Floxyluv:
Like seriously, anyone would, why would you say such a thing about a noble profession? As a learned colleague, though am still a law student, I'd say your claims should be questioned.

Can you all see why I said I can't stand lawyers? They are always thinking highly of themselves and their so called noble profession while thinking less of every other profession. As a learned colleague What do you even mean by that? Aren't teachers,lecturers, doctors,ICT professionals,engineers learned people?

If I may ask what exactly is noble about the legal profession? Is it the fact you all get to wear a wig & gown that doesn't even look smart but rather tardy, causing folks to sweat buckets in this unfavourable weather of ours? Or is it the Barrister title? No that can't be it because even medical practitioners have titles, numerous ones for that matter from doctor, to gyneacologist, opthamologist etc

Is it the archaic english language of the law (or pardon me it's actually called legal language right?)that makes the profession noble? I'm sure you know the archaic language I'm talking about e.g herein refered to. What's herein? Help me out because I'm still trying to figure out what makes this profession noble.

A profession that pays peanuts and does more harm than good in our society is certainly not a noble one in my opinion. Your courts are congested with cases left, right and center not allowing for swift & efficient execution of cases, matters drag on forever with no end to litigation, failing to bring justice to victims of injustice. Judges receive bribes to delay cases or pronounce a verdict in favour of the paying party (believe me I know what I'm talking about).So I ask again what's noble about this profession?

I repeat I am a lawyer who's been called to the Nigerian Bar,I realized a long time ago this was a bullshit career path one I regret. But I thought to myself hey what the hell you've come this far just go through with it and change career path afterwards.

You may find all of this unbelievable but I'm not cut out of the same cloth as most lawyers, who take unnecessary pride in the profession, it is whacked. And if the profession was all that great why didn't the lawyers from Naija win us the bakassi case? I hear Nigeria went to court with over 10 lawyers for that matter while the camerounians went with just two and they got judgment in their favour

Me, I'm done talking. You, hardbody and anyone else who cares to join in can knock your heads against the wall about my claims and the fact that I just ridiculed our noble profession. HAH noble indeed

hardbody:

You wrote well, but i challenge your claim that you are a lawyer. It is not true sir. you are not one, neither by calling nor by orientation

Hardbody, you challenge my claim?

Now that's typical Nigerian lawyer language & attitude

But hey I'm not offended and yes I'm a lawyer why would I make a claim like that if I wasn't?

Not everyone on NL is pretencious you know, still lol at 'I challenge your claim' you are a lawyer indeed.

Jellitah what's with the pictures? I didn't get the message ooo, but the part about ashawooo Mrs got me laughing why would you even say that and what do you mean by ashawoo Mrs?

@ OP I don't know what it is with the Mrs title but I've seen a lot of attitude at the work place from married women on this issue and most of them don't seem to like the office culture of people being addressed on first name basis.

Ok first of all who is Patrick Obahiagbon? Don't know him and I don't want to know him, your ex's ITK (I too know) attitude plus big & unnecessary grammar is the reason why I can't stand lawyers and to think I'm a lawyer myself well I don't practice and I don't care much for that profession it was a gross mistake on my part.

Anyway back to you, sorry for deviating I think you should send your cv sending the resume doesn't mean you've accepted to take her back. If someone offers you help that doesn't involve you doing anything indecent or illegal please take it.

Now if you eventually get a job through her mum just continue to make clear your stance on your relationship with her and keep the entire family at arms length while being respectful from a distance. That means no more attending birthday bashs or family gatherings of any kind, please also express your gratitude for the job (if you get it) but getting up close & personal with any family member is a big no.

Now while you are on the job do your work diligently & ethically, be an honest employee build healthy relationships at the work place with colleagues & superiors whom you can use as refernces in your next job if the need ever arises. Strive to ensure you are found with no faults so even if your ex's mother wants to sabotage you for any reasons it would be glaring to all that it's a witch hunt.

I want to believe this girl and her family are sane people who won't go after you viciously if you refuse to date her afterwards.

@ Marvelck

You and your numerous tales about women on NL don dey tire me oooo. Like someone said you could have helped her by giving her the money or raising some part of it, instead of coming here to write a long epistle about trusting God and depending on Him for our needs.

I have no problem with people looking up to God for help, but I do have a problem with hypocritical folks like you who are quick to preach the message of trust in God while doing nothing to help a person in need . How the hell do you think God works in the first place? He works by using human beings on earth, He makes a way for people through other people. He won't come down from Heaven to do that He uses and will continue to use willing foot soldiers to show His love and goodness.

You are a typical example of the sort christian James talked about in the bible, the christian who has faith with no good deeds, he puts it this way faith without works/good deeds is dead & useless it does no one any good (I'm assuming you are a christian because of your reference to God and all). James says if you meet a brother who has no clothes, shoes or food to eat what good does it do for you to tell him go well and God be with you without giving him some food, money for food or even some clothes/shoes to use (it could be used clothes) but that won't matter what matters is that the brother wasn't left alone.

I am no saint but the things that aren't too hard to do, I strive to do them. What you should have done or should do next time you come across someone in need is to ask them What Can I Do To Help?. Sometimes the answer is obvious and sometimes it's best to let the other party decide for themselves what they want you to do.

Like I said I am not a saint but this life has taught me to never walk away from a person in need without offering genuine assistance through deeds not mere words, talk is cheap and there are far too many talkers like yourself who are just full of self righteous talk and no action. I believe the phrase is empty vessels make......

Purebarbie

You are starting a girl's club in the job section ,

Well I can only hope you have good reasons for doing that e.g you want girls to network and share job prospects/opportunities they are aware of with each other.

Genuine reason

5 or 6 years ago I heard a true life story of a lady who was going to get married to a certain fellow, she worked with the SSS at the time and her office insisted on doing background checks on this guy. I hear it's a standard procedure with the SSS to have employee's potential spouses investigated (I've only heard ooo, I stand to be corrected)

Well this fellow was investigated and it turned out he already had a wife with 3 children, who resided in an interior part of his home state. He was also a fraudulent fellow who had duped a lot of folks and was wanted by most of them. I'm sure you can guess what happened next.....of course you can , the wedding never took place.

My Thinking

Now that story really made a mark on me and I decided there & then, that I would also have a potential spouse investigated by the SSS or CID if I ever decide to get married. I don't need to engage the entire bureau to do that I can find one or two resourceful staff of these institutions who are willing to make money on the side and pay them out of my pocket to get the job done.

Besides there are far too many homosexual men masquerading as straight guys who want to get married and cover their tracks, I say an investigation is necessary. I don't know how a man's s e x u a l preference can be uncovered while running background checks on him but I'm sure something of that nature would surface in the course of investigation from a secondary school classmate or a scorned ex lover etc

Constant viewing of the crime investigation & investigation discovery channels on dstv only reinforces my stance on investigating a suitor before marriage. Who On Earth Did I Marry is an all time favourite I do not miss on investigation discovery.

Evil can be up close and personal, you really do not want that evil to be your spouse.

@ temmydude

You started a thread and you are the only one who has consistently posted on it, causing the thread to move into page one.

I think you are trying too hard, maybe it's aggressive marketing or just plain desperation. I'll go with the latter and why don't you let the quality of your service speak for you rather than shouting up & down on NL.

This thread would have served you better in the health section.