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A foremost Consulting Firm requires the services of qualified candidates for the following vacant positions at their Lagos office.

1. Script Writers

Requirements;
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Knowledge of Professional Writing
- Ability to Detect Errors in Written Contents
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines


2. Video Editors

Requirements;
- Must be good in Adobe premiere pro (cs6) or cc.
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines

Applicants must live around Anthony (Lagos) and its environs.
Suitable applicants should send their Curriculum Vitaes and Cover Letters to the following;
Script Writers ---->> titilopemajayi@gmail.com
greenpenwriter@gmail.com
Video Editors ---->> udhour@gmail.com

A foremost Consulting Firm requires the services of qualified candidates for the following vacant positions at their Lagos office.

1. Script Writers

Requirements;
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Knowledge of Professional Writing
- Ability to Detect Errors in Written Contents
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines


2. Video Editors

Requirements;
- Must be good in Adobe premiere pro (cs6) or cc.
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines

Applicants must live around Anthony (Lagos) and its environs.
Suitable applicants should send their Curriculum Vitaes and Cover Letters to the following;
Script Writers ---->> titilopemajayi@gmail.com
greenpenwriter@gmail.com
Video Editors ---->> udhour@gmail.com

A foremost Consulting Firm requires the services of qualified candidates for the following vacant positions at their Lagos office.

1. Script Writers

Requirements;
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Knowledge of Professional Writing
- Ability to Detect Errors in Written Contents
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines


2. Video Editors

Requirements;
- Must be good in Adobe premiere pro (cs6) or cc.
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines

Applicants must live around Anthony (Lagos) and its environs.
Suitable applicants should send their Curriculum Vitaes and Cover Letters to the following;
Script Writers ---->> titilopemajayi@gmail.com
greenpenwriter@gmail.com
Video Editors ---->> udhour@gmail.com

A foremost Consulting Firm requires the services of qualified candidates for the following vacant positions at their Lagos office.

1. Script Writers

Requirements;
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Knowledge of Professional Writing
- Ability to Detect Errors in Written Contents
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines


2. Video Editors

Requirements;
- Must be good in Adobe premiere pro (cs6) or cc.
- Good use of English Tenses and Punctuations
- Attention to Details
- Willingness to Learn
- Must be able to work with Timelines

Applicants must live around Anthony (Lagos) and its environs.
Suitable applicants should send their Curriculum Vitaes and Cover Letters to the following;
Script Writers ---->> titilopemajayi@gmail.com
greenpenwriter@gmail.com
Video Editors ---->> udhour@gmail.com

GlobalPen, a foremost Consulting Firm in Lagos needs the services of an experienced Driver.

Requirements:

1. Applicant must be male and not older than 35 years.

2. Applicant must have a valid drivers’ license.

3. Applicant must have a good understanding of the Lagos road networks.

4. Applicant must be a man of integrity.

5. Applicant must prove to have a good understanding of car maintenance and repairs.

6. Applicant must have at least SSCE.


Qualified applicants should send detailed Curriculim Vitaes to; globalpenconsulting@gmail.com

GlobalPen, a foremost Consulting Firm in Lagos needs the services of an experienced Driver.

Requirements:

1. Applicant must be male and not older than 35 years.

2. Applicant must have a valid drivers’ license.

3. Applicant must have a good understanding of the Lagos road networks.

4. Applicant must be a man of integrity.

5. Applicant must prove to have a good understanding of car maintenance and repairs.

6. Applicant must have at least SSCE.


Qualified applicants should send detailed Curriculim Vitaes to; globalpenconsulting@gmail.com

nnamdibig:
Maybe because they are already blackmailing him that since he got married, he has changed and now acting if wife's instructions.
But don't listen to all these. So far your hubby isn't around, all that he(BIL) is doing is wrong. And you simply have to speak up(which you just did).
Why will a 26yr old graduate not understand all these and not respect himself?
Look at the safety aspect of it. You are not safe sleeping with drunkards every night. That is enough evidence for your hubby.

Waooh! You talked as if you live with us. My MIL once told me that my husband "no dey think about them again" since he got married and that she had to run to her prayer partner to help her o. I am sure she or they have been blackmailing him with this. MIL also said to me "I think you are the one controlling your husband before".

@nuelyoyo, my husband is not rich yet but he has very good prospects. He has good plans for everyone in the family. Perhaps, they are angry at me and my son coming first in his decisions.

mrjojo:
Am sure you are Yoruba, hence, cooking for him for 2 weeks while he waste it , the rudeness. Do you call him "Brother" too? This Culture of calling BIL " brother" kinda makes them feel entitled.

Don't feel bad reporting to your Mum please, and the him moving to his sister house is in your best interest. Don't feel bad about that too, because at the end of the day if anything happen to you courtesy of the friends he bring, it just sorry that will end it at last. You have a right to feel secure in your own home. and yes it your HOUSE!!

I call him Uncle XYZ. Thanks for the advice sir.

nnamdibig:
[b]
Your in laws are just angry because they feel you are in charge. [/b]Any of them that is comfortable with that should allow your brother in law to stay with them

@Bolded, I think you are right because an inlaw told my husband that I said I am the "sole commander" now. I was lost because such topic was never discussed to my hearing. I don't knooow how that came about. I don't know why they feel threatened by my presence. Sincerely, I don't know.

My MIL once asked me if I will become proud when my son and I join my husband in the U.S. These are one of the disturbing questions, remarks and comments she makes to me.

nuelyoyo:
The mistake you made was not reporting to ur MIL when ur BIL started misbehaving, you allowed him report you first to his family and twisted the story in his own favour. Reporting only to ur hubby when he started misbehaving wasn't enough, you should have taken ur time to call all your in-laws, starting with ur MIL down to all ur hubby's siblings. You should have continued to report every single occurrence of his misconduct to them. That way, they would have had a second thought when he reported you to his family that you locked him outside (which isn't true), at least they would recall that you have been complaining about him, and wait to hear your own side of the story before taking sides. LEARN TO BE PROACTIVE.

My MIL was with us the day this late night visits started and I reported. After talking to BIL, she came back to tongue-lash me for 3 good hours anddd lectured me in how my BIL is the head of my family since my husband is not around. MIL and others always conclude that I don't like BIL even when they are seeing the evidence of his misdeed. They said I only want him out of my house. When I resulted to cold treatment to BIL's attitude, they told my husband that I don't laugh, talk or play with them. That I enjoy staying on my own. MIL has caused me more pain by seeking advice from her, she knows how to manipulate the other inlaws when am not there.

@nnamdibig, my husband is non-chalant about correcting his brother. I sincerely don't know why.

@ Akorkor and soonest, my BIL does not really like the idea of leaving because there won'tt be freedom for him at his peep's place. Anyway, that is not my headache. Thanks for the advice ma.

@Naomi14, you no send anybody at all. With my cold reaction (I don't gist with him) to his atitude, they cconcluded that I don't like his presence in my house and they are all angry and blaming me.

@Ifyalways, I quite agree with the idea of maintaining my stand on the issue. They have all agreed that he should stay with married SIL. Thanks for the tips ma.

[quote author=Giddyperson post=64575075].

michlins:
Some family find it difficult to understand that their members are married and now require privacy. Tell your husband about the situation but first visit your MIL and explain the unfolding situation to her and her family

This simple step has caused me more pain. They are all saying they have always known that I don't likke him and don't want him to stay. Staying is never my issue. None of them is addressing my issue. No one even talked about me cooking breakfast for him for 2weeks and he refused to eat it. I told him I'll stop doing his brkfast if he'll keep wasting it and he simply said no problem. No one addressed that too.

dingbang:
Not one of my family members will live in my house in the first few years of my marriage...

Please talk to your husband biko..install spy camera in your house, then send the video as an evidence to your husband about your brother's wayward attitude.

Thank me later with a bottle of wine

I did that for several months and nothing changed.

@BruncleZuma, my inlaws have resorted to BIL staying with my married SIL.

sisisioge:
Please did you report any of these to your husband with evidences before? That's what you ought to do before things moved further up. Will the bil dare try that if his brother were around?

No strangers in your house.
No hard drinks in your house.
No late nights in your house.

These are your rules. And they are not too much to ask. You will bolt your doors by 10pm...if it doesn't suit your bil, let him trek again to wherever! All this worrying about bad name is inconsequential. You are a woman that's got to protect herself and her wards, if anything bad happens now...even your husband may not be able to help you. EOD.

The only one with evidence was the issue of drinking. He caught him once.
My BIL does not bastardize the issue of friends when my dh is around. He comports himself.

@ Olalan, mrjojo and thorpido, my husband is fully aware of his brother's attitude. I told him severally to address the issue when it all started (over aa year ago). However, my BIL's issue worsened. I had to resort to telling BIL my expedtations cheerfully, respectfully and jokingly, but the issue became worse. He will only say okay and do another one. I had to tell him with all firmness yesterday amd he said I have no right to tell him that and what do I mean that this is my house.

All my inlaws are calling for my head for telling BIL to stop drinking with friends in the house and to stop bringing them to the house. My husband initially said his brother's behavior is uncalled for, and he later changed it and he blamed me. He started taking his people's side.

omotolanibaby:
to me it's ur husband that supposed to caution him and set d rules for him

He refused to do that for reasons best known to him.

katchycouture:
then you have to over look your brother in law because your husband is not fully on ur side, don't do what will create problems between you and ur husband.. if he is in support of his brother's life style then so be it, just make sure ur room is kept locked all the time and ur househelp is kept far away from rape and other form of abuse... my advice to you is to just ignore your brother inlaw and don't threaten to send him away from the house againecessarily, let him do as he pleases in his brother's housee..

kpele, all will be well

Thanks mama, but I never for once said he should leave the house. My offence is telling him to stop drinking in the house and bringing friends in. They have all agreed to let him stay in my SIL in-law's place henceforth. I tolerated more than enough, I need to protect myself, my baby and my Hh too.

nnekaike:
@ greenpenwriter.Your BIL is an unserious fellow,and will never know how life is.The initial mistake was allowing him stay in the house after your wedding.If am in your shoes,to avoid BP,Discuss with DH on how you can raise little money give it to him to rent a place of his own,so he can start life and bring all the friends he want.ITs your home,and you have all rights to decide what happens anybody that can't take it should hug transformer.Don't succumb to emotional blackmail,let them know your firm ground some Inlaws can be something else.

@Bolded1, Exactly!
@Bolded2, he has been told to move to younger SIL's place, since I don't want him to live with me (acccording to my in-laws).

hunniesuzie:
Lol. Greenpenwriter [b]where does your husband stand in all of this? [/b]In any case anybody that cannot abide by the house rules is free to go and rent his own house. Afturoh he's a grown man shebi? Except he is paying rent with you sha

You people are very patient in this place sha, very calm and loving wives. I need to learn at your feet

Initially, he said his brother's actions are bad and suddenly (perhaps after talking to his peeps) , he started blaming me for telling his brother not to drink and bring friends to the house. That since I wanted him to leave the house for me, he will leave. I felt so disappointed in my DH. None of them is even talking about the main issue or reprimanding him for giving me so much stress.

Lilliesbud12:
@greenpenwriter.... ur in-laws are not being realistic. they can't take what you've taken so far. I also feel the guy has been wanting to leave but he doesn't know how to tell his parents to get an accommodation for him since he actually doesn't work.

pls remain good no matter what, don't succumb to emotional blackmail either. you self you tried, I understand you were trying to be nice but really he should have left when ur dh had to travel... please accept the peace of God. leave their matter in God's hands esp if ur hands and heart is clean. Take care.

I am so sure of this. May God help me.

Jina24:
When it comes to in-law matter ehn, the case is always tiring. Every step you take is always read with one meaning or the other and its usually in the negative.

Okay, if I were in your shoes I just might not have confronted my BIL directly not because I can't (my head dey touch too sometimes) but I will rather channel all the hurts I feel on my hubby till he takes the right action and caution his brother.

For everything he does I don't like I will so yell at hubby after all, it was he who encouraged such behaviour in the first place.

I might not say direct words to my BIL but my countenance and rapor with him will definitely send my message.

You know its easier to handle your own people then in-laws.

May God see you through all this.

Cc: greenpenwriter

@Bolded1, these has beeen done on several ocassion. I mean a million times and it yielded no result. Rather, he wants to start seeing me as a nag and that I don't like his brother.

@Bolded2, it was with this option that they said I don't like his stay in my house and they held on to it. They even told my husband that I don't play or laugh with them. That I'll rather stay on my own than talk to them.

katchycouture:
if I talk na they will say I'm teaching you bad thing....

I spoke with my husband some hours ago and he started by saying it's not good for his brother to bring friends and all to the house. We had a break in converstation (phone call) and during the next conversation, he was indirectly blaming for giving his brother rules on not drinking and bringing friends home. I'm just so disappointed at him. I cried bitterly.

Meanwhile, I have repeatedly told my husband to call his brother to order on this issue in the time past. I guess he did not, because the guy intensified his misdeeds. I had to resort to telling my BIL calmly about what I expect from him. Things actually got worse. I had to tell him with all seriousness and firmness today, but he told me I cannot tell him not to bring friends into the house.

katchycouture:
if I talk na they will say I'm teaching you bad thing....

I spoke with my husband some hours ago and he started by saying it's not good for his brother to bring friends and all to the house. We had a break in converstation (phone call) and during the next conversation, he was indirectly blaming for giving his brother rules on not drinking and bringing friends home. I'm just so disappointed at him. I cried bitterly.

Meanwhile, I have repeatedly told my husband to call his brother to order on this issue in the time past. I guess he did not, because the guy intensified his misdeeds. I had to resort to telling my BIL calmly about what I expect from him. Things actually got worse. I had to tell him with all seriousness and firmness today, but he told me I cannot tell him not to bring friends into the house.

nnekaike:
@ greenpenwriter.Your BIL is an unserious fellow,and will never know how life is.[b]The initial mistake was allowing him stay in the house after your wedding.[/b]If am in your shoes,to avoid BP,Discuss with DH on how you can raise little money give it to him to rent a place of his own,so he start life and bring all the friends he want.ITs your home,and you have all rights to decide what happens anybody that can't take it should hug transformer.Don't succumb to emotional blackmail,let them know your firm ground some Inlaws can be something else.

@bolded, my mum warned me about this and I dismissed it by telling her guys don't have issues. They (my in laws) have suggested that he should move to my DH's younger sister's house. The guy does not like the idea of staying with his other siblings or parents because he can never be free.

Dear Mamas,

I am member of of the Newborn thread, but had to use this moniker to conceal my identity. I have a serious issue and I need sincere advice. This is an epistle.

My brother-in-law has been staying with my husband (on and off) before we got married. Our marriage is 2 years old. He started living with us fully by time we were married.

My husband left for the U.S to acquire Masters / P.hd degrees in August 2016. Our plan is to join him (including my BIL) by December this year.

Ever since he left, my BIL has been putting on some attitude that I don't like. All these he did not do when my husband was around. He brings in all manner of friends to the house everyday till late in the night. Atimes, I walk to the sitting room at night and meet strangers lying on the couch. Some cook indomie in the kitchen when am off to work. Some even sleep over for days and he won't let me know. He brings them in immediately I retire to bed at night and sneak them out. I once confronted his friend I saw in the house around 11pm and he simply told me that the guy is sleeping (without informing me prior).

He will go out and come in with friends around 9-10pm and those ones will not leave until 11pm or more. Some days ago, some strange faces came in with him around 8pm and they simply walked to the bedroom area (in the dark as there was no power supply at that time. We only kept light in the sitting room).

He entertains his friends with all these gin (ogogoro) brands when am off at work. The only time I asked him about it was when I saw an empty bottle of gin under the couch (he forgot it there). I kept it and asked him about it when I got back from work. He "repectfully" told me that he used it to entertain his friend.

An issue cropped up 4 days ago, he left with the house with his friends around 9pm and around to 11pm, I heard him open the main door. Thus, I assumed he is back. I told my House Help to put all the bolts on the door and go to bed that I will re-check the doors before I sleep.

I was baffled when my husband's elder sis called me at work and asked why I locked my BIL outside yesterday. I argued with her that the statement is not true, until she told me that it was my BIL that said I locked him outside and he had to trek to a friend's house around 12pm. From BIL's explanation to her, he opened the door briefly to take phone charger "to 11pm" and he ran out immediately.

I was bitter and angry that why is this guy trying to give me a bad name? That I chased him out because my husband is not around? The question now is; Why can't he knock the door harder when he discovered all the bolts were locked from inside? Or call my phone lines? Or shout my name by my bedroom window (we stay on the ground floor)? Or know my window frame? Or wake my HH help up through her bedroom window? My BIL simply called his parents and siblings that I have locked him outside, and that I don't want him to stay in our house again.

For the very first time, I told my mum abt an issue in my home. She called my MIL to please put my BIL in check and that ordinarily an adult (my BIL) is not supposed to be staying with new/young couples in the first 2 years of marriage...and that she kept quiet because I said my BIL is a good guy. She also told my MIL to him to saying he'll still scatter my HH's head with wood one day. This is a girl that does not talk to him at all. I have also warned him about these in the time past, but he still persisted with the utterance. All these talks between my Mum and my MIL intensified the heat. My DH people blamed me for telling my mum about the "locking my BIL outside" incident.

When I got back from work that day, my BIL came to me and said it was not my fault that he was locked outside...that my househelp said I was the one that locked him outside and it got him angry. This was a girl that was fast asleep that period cos she'll be going to school the following day.

AND TODAY, I told him that he must not bring friends to this house again and he must not bring ogogoro to this house again. He simply told me that I don't have the right to tell him that. I said it is my house and he said who told me that. He said he has been bringing friends to his brother's housee before he got married and I can not stop him now. I said he should come to terms with the fac that his brother is now married. He insisted that I don't have right to tell him not to bring people into the house or HIS ROOM. This conversation has caused serious issues and my DH's siblings has told him to leave our house.

I want you all to sincerely point out my faults cos they are all on my neck that I don't have a right to tell my BIL to stop bringing ogogoro (gin) and friends to the house again.

NOTE: My BIL is 26 and an unemployed graduate. I am also 3 years older than him.


Cc: All Mamas.

Dear Mamas,

I am member of this thread, but had to use this moniker to conceal my identity. I have a serious issue and I need sincere advice.
Dear Mamas,

I am member of this thread, but had to use this moniker to conceal my identity. I have a serious issue and I need sincere advice. This is an epistle.

My brother-in-law has been staying with my husband (on and off) before we got married. Our marriage is 2 years old. He started living with us fully by time we were married.

My husband left for the U.S to acquire Masters / P.hd degrees in August 2016. Our plan is to join him (including my BIL) by December this year.

Ever since he left, my BIL has been putting on some attitude that I don't like. All these he did not do when my husband was around. He brings in all manner of friends to the house everyday till late in the night. Atimes, I walk to the sitting room at night and meet strangers lying on the couch. Some cook indomie in the kitchen when am off to work. Some even sleep over for days and he won't let me know. He brings them in immediately I retire to bed at night and sneak them out. I once confronted his friend I saw in the house around 11pm and he simply told me that the guy is sleeping (without informing me prior).

He will go out and come in with friends around 9-10pm and those ones will not leave until 11pm or more. Some days ago, some strange faces came in with him around 8pm and they simply walked to the bedroom area (in the dark as there was no power supply at that time. We only kept light in the sitting room).

He entertains his friends with all these gin (ogogoro) brands when am off at work. The only time I asked him about it was when I saw an empty bottle of gin under the couch (he forgot it there). I kept it and asked him about it when I got back from work. He "repectfully" told me that he used it to entertain his friend.

An issue cropped up 4 days ago, he left with the house with his friends around 9pm and around to 11pm, I heard him open the main door. Thus, I assumed he is back. I told my House Help to put all the bolts on the door and go to bed that I will re-check the doors before I sleep.

I was baffled when my husband's elder sis called me at work and asked why I locked my BIL outside yesterday. I argued with her that the statement is not true, until she told me that it was my BIL that said I locked him outside and he had to trek to a friend's house around 12pm. From BIL's explanation to her, he opened the door briefly to take phone charger "to 11pm" and he ran out immediately.

I was bitter and angry that why is this guy trying to give me a bad name? That I chased him out because my husband is not around? The question now is; Why can't he knock the door harder when he discovered all the bolts were locked from inside? Or call my phone lines? Or shout my name by my bedroom window (we stay on the ground floor)? Or know my window frame? Or wake my HH help up through her bedroom window? My BIL simply called his parents and siblings that I have locked him outside, and that I don't want him to stay in our house again.

For the very first time, I told my mum abt an issue in my home. She called my MIL to please put my BIL in check and that ordinarily an adult (my BIL) is not supposed to be staying with new/young couples in the first 2 years of marriage...and that she kept quiet because I said my BIL is a good guy. She also told my MIL to him to saying he'll still scatter my HH's head with wood one day. This is a girl that does not talk to him at all. I have also warned him about these in the time past, but he still persisted with the utterance. All these talks between my Mum and my MIL intensified the heat. My DH people blamed me for telling my mum about the "locking my BIL outside" incident.

When I got back from work that day, my BIL came to me and said it was not my fault that he was locked outside...that my househelp said I was the one that locked him outside and it got him angry. This was a girl that was fast asleep that period cos she'll be going to school  the following day.

AND TODAY, I told him that he must not bring friends to this house again and he must not bring ogogoro to this house again. He simply told me that I don't have the right to tell him that. I said it is my house and he said who told me that.  He said he has been bringing friends to his brother's housee before he got married and I can not stop him now. I said he should come to terms with the fac that his brother is now married. He insisted that I don't have right  to tell him not to bring people into the house or HIS ROOM. This conversation has caused serious issues and my DH's siblings has told him to leave our house.

I want you all to sincerely point out my faults cos they are all on my neck that I don't have a right to tell my BIL to stop bringing ogogoro (gin) and friends to the house again.

NOTE: My BIL is 26 and an unemployed graduate. I am also 3 years older than him.


Cc: All Mamas.

marksleek25:
please is post 2 still available?

Yes, it is. The interview is tomorrow. You can send me a PM to give you the office address.

GlobalPen, a foremost Consulting Firm requires the services of qualified candidates for the following vacant positions at their Lagos office.

1. Creative / Business Writers

Requirements;
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Requirements;
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Suitable applicants should send their Curriculum Vitaes and Cover Letters to globalpenconsulting@gmail.com

GlobalPen, a foremost Consulting Firm requires the services of qualified candidates for the following vacant positions at their Lagos office.

1. Creative / Business Writers

Requirements;
- Passion for Writing
- Attention to Details
- Ability to Detect Errors in Written Contents
- Willingness to Learn


2. Service Quality Auditors

Requirements;
-Height: 5'4ft
-Enjoys Traveling
-Outspoken
- Male or Female

Suitable applicants should send their Curriculum Vitaes and Cover Letters to globalpenconsulting@gmail.com

GlobalPen, a foremost Consulting Firm requires the services of qualified candidates for the following vacant positions at their Lagos office.

1. Creative / Business Writers

Requirements;
- Passion for Writing
- Attention to Details
- Ability to Detect Errors in Written Contents
- Willingness to Learn


2. Service Quality Auditors

Requirements;
-Height: 5'4ft
-Enjoys Traveling
-Outspoken
- Male or Female

Suitable applicants should send their Curriculum Vitaes and Cover Letters to globalpenconsulting@gmail.com