if you are a Muslim this issue does not concern you much, as a Muslim the issue does not affect you much, but for educated fellow or a Christian or self religion practice this issue concern them alots

if you love the woman,and the woman also like you, but the kids hate you, ask you self what are you going to do,

loving a single mother, you have to understand this,its is so complicated ,three people cant start internal love, only two people can start internal love,

that is why bible said only two join two,



its is only pretty much when the single mother baby is still small,maybe months old,or Just a year old, you can still try to living without much stress, and the woman must let the baby know you are the right father for he or she

not that single mother does not deserve love, but think twice , most parent dont pray for their children to date someone who has marry and have a kids b4,you know why? even you too cant

guy Think about it,its is not a crime if you desire your love that way, but make sure you complete you love story

tpia:

I dont know why most of you are missing the point here.

One man's meat is another man's poison. That's all.

Some single guys dont mind dating single mothers. All this brouhaha is mostly a Nigerian/African thing. Cultural hang ups and all that. I've noticed most guys who do date and marry single mothers, tend to be very reasonable types with a mature outlook, regardless how old they actually are.

But anyway, no need to start pontificating over the matter. If you know you dont like single mothers, then simply date girls who arent baby mamas. Why most of you always feel the need to start badmouthing single mothers _{who you say you cant date anyway} is beyond me.

And single motherhood isnt a disability plz. Una don bring una African mentality be that.

Its a matter of personal preference, thats all. If someone starts a thread saying they cant date Nigerian men, or listing the disadvantages of marrying Nigerian men, most of you will be up in arms.

Honest to your self let me ask you this simple question,if you have a Sister who have  2 kids or 1,and the kids are not happy about the man who there mother choose to love , are you going to advise your sister to leave the kids and fellow that Man,

This issue is not only about the MAN and the WOMAN,is about the Child or the children that matters
so you marry a single mother na you own bi Pero dat,and make sure you complete your Love story

most of the men you see who fellow single mother,most of them wanted something from that woman, PASTOR Chris Okotie You said he marry to a single mother,if you ask PASTOR Chris Okotie ,he discover an instruments in the hand of that woman to use for his own interest,

There is nothing like New brand.Tokunbo will alway Be tokunbo, many Single mother who have good life style,but you need to think about the Formal Husband, and her kids,

And you need to think about your Parent too, to make them happy, though they cant choose for you, but they deserve a little honor especially your Mother

handicap have there choice
Blind people have there choice
Deaf have there choice too


have you ever see any pastor who went to marry a blind woman because of love,pastor them self have there choice,
pastor sef get level,most pastor wife they fine, how many pastor wife get wowoo,
have you ever see a prof man marry to someone who cant write his name e.g maybe iya Alanta

so let to be honest to our self, people marry to there standard,

go marry single mother na your business, But if you know you can complete the story go for the woman, and dont hurt her more

Nobody is forcing anyone to marry a single mother, yes is none of our business,once you find joy in it sound great, But make sure you complete your story of love

people into single mother relationship 99 % of them didnt complete the journey,

So think twice b4 your promise a single mother, b4 you added more to her problem,if you know you can fulfill the promise or you cant stand the problem in future dont log in, MA SE TE RE SI

We have to be honest to our self

How can a man who as never marry b4 go and marry a woman who has 2 kids or 1 or 3


The best lover for that kind of women is to meet a man who already have a mistaken issue too, or a rich man who does not care about Love,

There are a lots of men their who has money to just help and enjoy there self with the woman, that is not Love

For a young man who wants to start up life is not advisable to start with that


If you never fall into this Game you wouldn't understand,is very sweet to say there is nothing much in marrying someone who have a baby sound good,

who will enjoy this relationship is the only the woman and the kids and her family will totally happy in this relationship

but for the man family big lie,

For example i have fell into many relationships , i try to set them up,when i dig into my physiological research i discover the lady loves the kid more than me no matter what i did,,she like to take first attention on the kid more than me, through that i experienced

i cant tell them not to care for the kids first ,it is a normal nature for all women to act that way,if is me i will do the same thing, so at the end of the research i discover is not Love is Infatuation or conditional Love or self Piting relationship

So young Guy Shine your Eye, if you want a Pure Love in your Affairs

But if you Like the woman ! you can manager the risk

But if you don't Like! You can successfully enjoy the relationship

But if you Love !
I advise you dont try to fall into that kind of life many thousand of women waiting for you, you can change environment you will see a alots single lady out there who are seriously in waiting for you

Difference between Somebody you Love & Somebody you Like


In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster.
But in front of the person you like, you get happy.

In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring.
But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.

If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush.
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.

In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind.
But in front of the person you like, you can.

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy.
But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.

You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love.
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them.
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.

The feeling of love starts from the eye
But the feeling of like starts from the ear.

So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears. But if you try to close your eyes, love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever, …

if i say cry, i am not talking about crying like a baby NO ,but water must drop from your face !!!

So my men Let say the truth, if you fall in the position of marrying someone who have issue like this,No bi Love na like

No Pastor will like to Join three people for marriage

if a woman have a pregnancy before marriage Pastor will not bless them you know why? God said only join Two people 2geda




Physiological Question

If truly you love the lady and the lady already have 3 kids b4 or 2, why must you have another children ask your self?
if you desire to have your own biological child for what purpose?
So marrying A woman who have a baby think twice!!!

If truly you love the lady get ready to face a lots of issues in future,you might love her mother and the child but the kid hate you ,what are you going to do ask yourself,

if the kid hate you,and the lady loves you so much,can the lady hate her child because of you or leave her child and stay with you?

But anybody can fall into this mistake too,


Only if the Lady have a baby like 6 month 1 year,,the woman must let the baby know that you are the only father of the baby and you must have a court backup,

you must treat the baby like your first child with happiness,even when you have yours or not for the lady you must treat them the same way,you should even care for the first child than your biological children

Best Solution to this issue
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-231751.0.html#msg3449651

Disadvantages of marrying Someone who have a Baby
Tip

The case to face
1.You are not the first on her heart
2.You Might face a lot of challenges in futures

Tip 1

Ask the woman that she should point one out of you between The BABY and YOU and Her Mother and Her Father, who she love most? and she should step how the love great in his heart,ask her to swear and to be honest

Samples of what will be the result
1.She will select The kid
2.fellow by her The mother
3.She will pick you ask number 3 sometime she might pick you for number 2
4.The father or You can even be Number 4

If the Baby recognize his blood father that is another Disadvantage!because if the blood father came to visit ,the house mood will change with the kid

No matter what you gave to the kid if the kid see his father he or she will prefer to be with his father than you at that moment,

And if the baby is more than 3 year is i advise you,you think twice b4 you fall in a infatuation you call a true LOVE

i want to tell you,anytime the woman look at the ex man kid he will always think of him for Good or Bad,which divert you woman attention at that moment

and if the baby notice you are not the biological father,and you are try to punish he or she for mistake he or she might look at you like a Stupid man,and her heart will full of jealous,

Tip 2

After you have labour the woman ex man kid.the man might come in future and request for the child only if the child didnt not have a brighter future he will not bored



Solution 1

Only if the baby accept you as the father from the bottom of his heart,or they never tell he or she that you are not is biological father

Solution 2

There is a court paper to guide you that you are the owner of the kid


All my friend we have to be honest Blood is ticker than Water

anyway True love is blind,only if you are blind you are ready to face alot of stupids thing in futures

And remember getting marrying you are not the only one getting marrying the Both family must agree to be one too if you want to have happy family

if you accept the lady and you parent refuse

, you can post your idea

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However, Reincarnation is totally opposed to the teachings of the Bible and of the Koran. You can no believe in Reincarnation and proclaim that you are a Jew, a Christian, or a Muslim, Reincarnation is a grave heresy against these three religions

we have see many case every where that some people who as die still liveease where.are you telling me that this people are source of devil,

Have seen story of a person who is dead and tell the person who killed him, and tell the person that he should not tell anybody. He told my uncle something that shock him that, we are just giving our self a big problem. He said there is God; he said we cannot know the true fact until you are dead. He said he has only limit he can say to him. Because there is a big different between a dead person and a living soul. This is live experience
The Bible teaches over and over that you and I will go to Heaven or Hell after our only life on earth, without any reincarnation, "as it is appointed unto men once to die, and after this the judgment" (Heb.9:27).

The bible also record that nobody has see heaven, until when Jesus will come back. There will now be judgment.

and it is written again that- it is appointed unto men once to die, and after this the judgment"

which one are will going to believe?

do you think bible is a completed book?

thanks Mr mmonwuba,
You have a good idea,but think of this sir,we dont say that there is no God.But who is God?that is the fact we want to bring out here in this forum.we africans must leave from enslaving of our memory.
some poeple believes that :-
celestial church
cherubim and seraphim
jehovah witnesses
muslims.
catholic
are not christian.which mean they are non believers

we like to know if satan is the true God or not?

some says satan also mean God.that the father of science,and supernatural being is the father of technologies.



more story coming soon

satan is not evil?.

ok

For my next edition we shall talk more about Jesus
Content- TRUTH ABOUT JESUS!
Chistain believe that jesus was a real person,that once walked this earth time ago,and was the son  of almighty God…, but the academics dispute jesus’s historical reality,Atheists say there is no God whilst thousand of people claimed to be helped by God.
It is also confusing,just what is the truth?THE HISTORICAL AND SPIRITUAL TRUTH ABOUT JESUS!
This new edition we talk secret about him what people don’t know about him, what I will say may shock you, but remember you want the truth so wait for that edition
• How and why Christianity became the west’s premier religion
• The astonishing truth concerning the founders of Christianity
• The amazing truth about the person of Jesus
• What the gospels don’t say about the trial and death of Jesus
• The real truth about Jesus and Satan
• Why Christian belief work effectively for so many people
• The bible-a book of mysticism and black magic
• Why some say he die on the pole
• Why other religion says he did not died.Did he truly ran away?
• You will know the truth when this edition comes out

Am starting this page, for us the sit on and to know the fact about ourself.Nobody is here to judge any body. And any
religion or any spirit being. Or human being. Nobody is here to change you from what you belief. Just reason the fact and error, to enable you to hold till on what you belief.
Are religion and religious differences to blame for war and conflict? Many war leaders have claimed to have God on their side, but should religion get the blame? A "War Audit" commissioned for the BBC programme "What the World Thinks of God" investigates the links between war and religion through the ages. It was carried out by researchers at the Department of Peace Studies at Bradford University.
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If you believe in what bible tells you, you will always blame God? Go and make research about bible, bible contains a black magic.

Are we created by God?
What is our blood group when he created us?
How many blood group we have now? How come?
Where does woman come from?
Where does man come from?
Maybe man comes from mars planet?
Maybe woman come from venue planet?

Why Christian is more popular in West Africa?
Why religion is the cause of war?
Why Britain represents Christian?
Why Arab represent Great One?

Why we black take religion as a business?
who brought Christian and the year
Who brought Great One and the year
What happen to those who didn’t belief in Christian? Jesus
What happen to those who didn’t belief in Great One? God
When we die where did our soul go instantly?
People who have die for about 1.4billion year ago still in grave?
The year of the world is about 1.4 billion now?
Who are the people in heaven?
As anybody live in heaven now
Where is Jesus
People say Jesus is  the only one heaven with God
People say Jesus is God
Does Religion Cause Conflict
Religion allows us to hate one another
Can religion be blamed for war?
Religion Causes War Religion makes enemies instead of friends.

Is there God?
Who is God?
What is the definition of God?
How many God we have?
What is your partnership with your God?
Is there any Almighty God?
Do you believe is him?
Where is God living today?
Why did you like him?
What did God understand? Your words or your mind?
Does God like our prayer
How does deaf speak to God
how does he look like?
What language he speaks
what language he hears?
Where does he live?
What was is mission before creating the world?
He is omniscience?
Does God have wife?
Does God have children?
His he almighty?
What religion is he?
What tradition is he?
What is the name of God?
What is the nick name of God?
What image does he look like?
He is white of black image?
He is female or male
what is the weight of God?
He is hairy?
What culture his he?
When was he born??
Does God have biological structure like you?
What blood group is he?
What genotype?
What interest he has in mind before creation
before creating anything does he knows
•   Then
•   Yesterday
•   Today
•   Tomorrow
•   Forever
•   End of the world
Does he know your next micro minutes?
Do you believe what ever you do he knows about it?
Which means he is your witless?
Does he also make mistake?
if true is the one that created Satan? Did he forgive him
if not? Why?
Can Satan ask for forgiveness?
Why Satan refuses to apologies
If Satan as forgiving today what happen next
does he forgives and forgets?
Does he jealous?
Does he kind?
He is tall or short?
If God is love why some poor and some rich?
If God is kind why some born in the time of war and die?
If God knows the end, why he create sins
If God hate sin why he created us
He was said after creating a man he regretted
If God knows he will be disappointed in us why he cannot destroy Adam and eve
If God knows Satan will disappoint him why he create Satan?
Where does God he comes from?
Who create animal
for what purpose animal existing
Do you remember there are dangerous animal before?
How many type of animal we have?
Who create plant?
For what purpose plant for?
How many plants we have
who create insert
for what purpose
you remember there are dangerous insert
what are sins?
Who create sins?
For what purpose sins?
Those sins have a grade and level?
We were told God as use water to wipe always the sin before time of Noah
Where did sin come from again?


who is Jesus?
For what purpose Jesus for?
How many countries believe in Jesus?
Who is Jesus mother?
Who is Jesus father?
Is that truth Jesus is a holy baby?
Where is he born?
How many country he went to before he die
how many country we have before Jesus die
Who kill Jesus black or white people?
Who is Jesus white or black?
Does he have sister and brother?