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flokii:
@OP wa se awon orire kan.. Say Amen

I love d fact that you want truth even if it hurts.. Your type is very rare

Well back to d issue.. Sex wnt keep a man, ur morals will. I would advise you not to compromise ur standard for someone you've not gotten married to yet.
Look around you, so many failed and unhappy marriages due to deceit and lies. Dnt rush things, the good Lord is on ur side.. *cheers!

That's fact right there!!!

SMH

EternalBeing:
What happened to for better for worse? GOD hates divorce! The guy is not womanizing, he's not Poor, not even that he's a wife-beater or trying to use her for money rituals. Why on GOD's green Earth would you advise her to divorce. Watch your soul before you find yourself in hellfire. Even if you are hell-bent on going to hell, don't take her with you....

It is clearly evident that you are one of those that read the bible upside down. Why, if I may ask, on God's green earth, would you quote one mere part out of context just to make a weak point? God never said He hates the divorcee-He said He hates divorce. So PLEASE don't dabble hell when reflecting your ignorance. It's a worse case scenario at best, at that can shock some into sitting up. I don't advocate divorce, but a miserable marriage also kills the soul and opens the door to all manner of unfavourable results. Please, endeavour to read carefully- then read thoroughly again for good measure before spewing your guts for the general public. I no know who send you, but tell them you didn't see me.

I really hate such scenarios.... But unfortunately, it is already too far gone to be dwelling on the past. At the very least, you can see that a lack of foundation has come full circle to haunt you. You can't change a man-that's a conclusion he has to arrive at by his own damn self. Getting married doesn't mean everything will fall into place-you have to work at it-really, really hard!!!!
You need to first sit down and make a core decision: what is the best version of you? Your husband is not the definition of you-you define yourself. As a child of divorce, I know how far-reaching the decision you make has consequences, with or without children involved. You deserve to be happy first before you can share that to the ones you love. Rather than focus on the flaws, look for the beauty and build on them. Go on a journey of self-discovery and discover him from scratch whilst evolving yourself.
The other alternative though maybe not what you would want to hear: get the hell out of there rather spend the rest of your days in misery! Life is so much more than that! Either way, make sure it is a decision that gives you peace-and one you can live with.

While I applaud her "stooping low", the truth is that the Nigerian economy isn't exactly conducive towards it own citizens. Without being bias, I know it's much easier for foreigners to be accepted/promoted; the average Nigerian Joe faces an uphill task. Even his own people won't embrace his own ideas/products, they'll be waiting for " overseas" version.