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chiommy123:
peace of mind? he's got a bigger problem for himself. the wife may accept her now how about the kids and when they grow up

dingbang:
You can see that its working, the new lady should move in with him

InvertedHammer:
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The family loves their ailing father so much that 3 months after his death, they still didn't know that he died until they were informed by the Rev. Sr's side of the family.

So much "love" for the old man. Yet they want his property.

Ok.
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NwaAmaikpe:



Only God knows the number of married women this Emeka Ugwuonye has screwed in the guise of helping them.

For this woman to say she is no more interested in the marriage, it means she is a bloody cheat who has been getting thrills outside.

Technology is the bane of today's marriages.
Why will any man allow his wife use a smart phone?
I like how he smashed her phone, that shows he is a real man who values his wife well enough not to lose her to online predators.

The number of married women on Baddoo now are even more than that of single women.
Wives now video call nude with their Facebook lovers at night.
All because their husbands were stupid enough to let them have an internet enabled phone.

Walahi, any married woman using a smart phone is potentially unfaithful.
Chikena!!

Thank God for the wise IPO who won't interfer in a married couple's matter.
Emeka Ugwuonye should allow married couples run their marriage however they deem it fit.

Treasuredlove:
Hmmm sometimes lack of communication is a problem.
Does she know how much you earn?
Does she know what you have in your account? Or you choose to keep it to yourself?
Does she understand your job? (Do you tell her about how work goes down, your runs etc?)
Does she understand your dreams?
Etc
If the answer is no to most of the questions, please call her and start intimating her on these stuff, it might even ginger her to work even harder for your mutual financial gain.
If she still doesnt understand all these, please involve your inlaws to talk some sens e into her. Sometimes the wisdom of an elderly person is all you need.
Please disregard all those children shouting that you send your wife away. A good marriage is something you work on everyday, it doesn't just happen.

kennygee:
If the man is open about his finances, the excesses of his wife will be curtailed. Its possible she is making such demands cause she knows her husband can meet them.

Richy4:
I don't really care if money was the issue.. what I care about is your safety.. u might be eating one day and choke due to the fact that the food or water went to the wrong channel... she might just stand there and watch while u struggle.. because that's what people with zero feelings does.. I might be reading too much meanings into such careless talk but... hmmmm..

Just let her clarify such awful statement so that you know where u stand with her.. U can't stay with someone with zero emotion for u man

LordKO:
@OP

You're dealing with a self-centered woman - that's one of the offshoots of conceitedness, and a major hallmark of conceited people. She can only give gratitude to you or feel satisfied when your act of beneficence in particular and conscientious decision in general favours her, why you become a stingy/uncaring/self-centered person to her eyes whenever you made a conscientious decision that isn't favourable to her. To remain in her good book entails you being servile - volitionally or otherwise - to her (loyalty can't earn you understanding from her). If you give in to her shenanigans at this juncture without having her to change for good, be ready for emotional and psychological abuses in the near future - that's if she hasn't started meting them out towards you already. For now count yourself lucky if she's no moral vice too, because if she does, sorry will become your name.

Well, personally, I wouldn't advise you to call her parents instead I'll advise that you solve the problem once and for all - calling her parents will mean given in to her shenanigans and that will only worsen things in the long run. It'll result to a situation whereby she'll always blame you for her own irrationality and expects you to also beg her at all times in such occurrences.

Solution: firstly, you must always uphold the principle of coming into equity with clean hands. Always give in your best at all times but never lose guard to her. To achieve this you need to tell yourself truth that your peace comes first before her wish - to her, it's either your dominion or your dignity (this means your sanity is at risk). If you can implement this perfectly well, I tell you that she'll volitionally get off from her high horse in a no too distant time to re-embrace oneness with you - but this will only happen if she's truly committed to the union and has an atom of genuine love for you. However, if the headache becomes permanent, you do what anybody that operates on principle will do.

For now, remain thoughtful towards her I say, but forget oneness or trying to force it to exist, because it's literally impossible to achieve oneness in absence of mutual conscientiousness. But of course, independence doesn't mean absence of thoughtfulness.


I'm so grateful for this your contributions, that's exactly what the situation is, will apply some principles to solve this once and for all

thorpido:
Did you show her your paypacket?
Maybe she believes you have more money.You need to communicate more.

Richy4:
I don't understand the part u said the feelings was dead... What's there to do salvage again qin a relationship when the feelings were dead...

Did she say that out of anger or was it the simple truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me God?

plavic:
My bros, a woman who is not yet married to you is NOT your wife.

That said, sex is not just a physical thing as it's also spiritual. The moment you join yourself to a woman, there is a transfer o. Both negative attributes and demons can be transferred to you.

She is also promiscous meaning she sleeps around. Bro, runnnnnnnnn! And get yourself delivered by a true man of God otherwise your business continues it's downward trend.

BUT

If you really love her, you need to marry her so that your relationship can be accepted by God and also take her for deliverance alongside yourself where yiu can be transformed thoroughly. OTHERWISE FLEE or you will not have mb to seek for more counsel.

bye

tugar:
Considering recent happenings in marriage : disobedience,killings, infidelity, divorces by women ,what can a man benefit from marriage this present time when they can resort to babymamas for offsprings. can we discuss this maturely.

emmanuel1990:
oga walayi talayi ayam nt understanding, unknown people are coming to visit ur wife in ur own house？ in ibo land where i come from even in ur absence unknown man cannot visit a married woman, if nt the villageer will send her packing on ur behalf..

my advice, get a house close to ur finally base, where u normally spend most of ur time, then relocate, if nt get ready to marry s new wife..

obiksam:
House please kindly advice. My friend married since 2011 and when ever they fight his wife will ran away she is from delta onitcha ugbo and my friend is from umuahia. He was doing well later lost his job and decided to relocate back home. According to him that she have ran out up too 6 times. That first was 2011 December when she was pregnant of there first child that she ran to her village and spent up 3 weeks,second time was 2012 June after her mother left for omogo she ran out with there just 3 months old baby to owerri but for the intervention of his dad she came back. The third was 2013 when she was 8 months pregnant of there second child that she ran to lagos leaving there duaghter with him and spent 1 full month and later came back. The fouth was on june 2014 that she forcefull left there 6 months baby boy and ran to Gods no where and later came back after 2 weeks. The fifth was on 31december and that she came back on 14th January. As of yesterday I visited him he just told me that her wife has ran away again leaving her children with him since 9th of April.
When I asked he said that they exchanged words so he jokingly ask there 3yr duaghter to spike her wife which she did and her wife turned beat her and then slap him so he gave her back the following day she left. I also ask what was her parents reaction all this while he said nothing. that they even encourage and accommodate her when ever she ran to them that to the extend the father told him that he ask her to go to lagos and stay with her sister . From what he said that he have spent alot of money going to bring her back even have gone to native and churchs seeking for peacfull marrage no way,even his mother,sibling and family member now look down on him. Please what should he do he said that he will not go for her again.

dairykidd:
This is a sad case but can be remedied.She has fallen out of love...and i don't know why she doesn't give u food anymore but u should do ur best to get close to her no matter how hard it may seem at first just keep trying and don't quit till she begins to warm up to u gradually and also begin to do the things that made her fall for u in the first place. when ur relationship becomes boring and uninteresting partners tend to look for what is missing outside instead of trying to fix what they have and ogbeni u gat to act swiftly b4 those bhad guys start to take advantage Seriously about the association with ppl u asked her not to and her being stubborn, as a man u got to be firm really firm but do it lovingly let her know how things should be done or how things would benefit the marriage if she see's it from ur view..talk to God too but if she's already lost just bon d matter and move on,u cant be married strangers forever na..or do u want to stay married to someone else's lover? Since u don't do divorce well... all the best

Alexk2:
Please be sincere and tell us the whole truth....what did you do wrong or what are you doing wrongly?

RiloKiley:
1. Why did she stop giving you food?


2. How many ex does she have that u. said "most'? How did u find out? How r u sure they are her exes? Was she discussing anything bad with them?

3. What does she stand to gain by associating with those people? Why don't u want her associating with them?