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i would forgive anything. if my partner was to sleep with another woman--- i would have to see what is wrong in our relationship that he feels he had to even think about doing that in the first place, and if he slipped up and is truely sorry, then God will forgive him, so must i also.

i think a lot of people will say that if he knows this he will take advantage of it, well no, not for me and my relationship because we are both in God, and both desiring to be the best we can be in our relationship with each other and, more importantly, with God.

thankyou very much for your help.
I know GOd is in control and it is the ONLY way it can be.
I talked for a long time with my fiance on the phone today and he was great. We prayed together a lot and i feel much better about things.
thanks for the weblink,

hannah

I'm a british girl and my fiance is Nigerian currently studying in India. I was out in India with him for a while and had a great time and got along brilliantly.

My problem is, i'm concerned about how accepting of me his family is. They think that because i'm white i may leave him in his old age, or cheat on him. None of these things are even entering my mind, i am a strong Christian and have strong values with regard to these things. My fiances brother has suggested that if his parents do not agree to the marriage then it is a sign that our relationship shouldn't occur, Gods way of telling us "no".

My problem is, should i view all the obstacles we might have to overcome, and the possible loss of both of our families, as a sign from God that we shouldn't be together--- or as merely an obstacle we have to overcome? I love this man with all my heart, only God do i love more than him, and previously my fiance had asked God many times about me and had things confirmed to him about our relationship.

I'm just really confused. Should i be with him even if our families say "no"?
he is 25, i am 23. If we marry it will be in 2 years.
i only want to do God's will-- but i don't know how i can even know what that is anymore,

He has been refused a visitors visa for the UK 3 times now. I am able to travel freely to India and have done so.

Hannah

I wish people wouldn't flock to London like there is nowhere else to go. I personally cannot stand London--- there are so many nicer towns and cities in the UK. Oxford or Cambridge outside of London are really nice places to see-- and the countryside also, or small market towns. London is sooo hyped up its sickening--- and houses are VERY expensive... like £500,000 or more for just a one room apartment! crazy people!

The grass always does look greener on the other side . It rarely is this way though-- the grass is just different, not greener .

When your choices become limited and difficult, they suddenly become surprisingly more desirable.

You get to another country and what you gain on one hand you lose on the other. I'm talking--- sacrifice friendship and family bonds for guarantees of having a house to live in always and enough money to buy basic food and healthcare. I'm in the UK and the grass even looks greener on other sides from here (and i should be very happy and secure here!).... i talk to and learn about Nigeria and Nigerians and envy their simple life and strong beliefs and family bonds. I am at an advantage though- i can change it and go where i choose and desire (and will readily take the chance if and when it presents as the right time) Ultimately, your peace is determined only by yourself and placing yourself in greener pastures will leave you with the same blank hole inside and wondering "what went wrong? I thought life here was meant to be good?"