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 Literature › Re: A HOLD FROM THE PAST- Women fiction by Harmonyemerald(f): 7:38pm On May 30, 2016 |
Is she mad? No really, is she mad? |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: GTB Aptitude Test 2016 by Harmonyemerald(f): 9:00pm On May 18, 2016 |
TheUnderDog:Hi please can I always get a copy of the national cake. Nancyikedife@yahoo.com |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 9:09pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
pinkiberry:Love is not alwys the case, I think fear, shame. Plays more part than love 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 2:53pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
Queenss why are we just viewing nd not responding to the topic @ hand 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 8:35am On Apr 30, 2016 |
good morning queens. want to thank us all for our wonderful contributions and experiences on being friend-zoned. one thing i know is that i am a go-getter and before a guy can friend-zone me i go flirt with am silly and he will not only see the green light but also the seven colours of the rainbow. girls make we wise up oo, how many Good men are out there that when we see one, we will let him friendzone us, mbanu!!! following the recent drama between african pop star tiwa salvage and teeblizz, i hve decided that today's hot topic should be "abuse in relationships and depression in nigeria" people who has never been abused often wonder why a person in such relationship won't just leave. but research has shown that leaving isn't always as easy as it seems leaving is the most dangerous time for a person of abuse because abuse is all about control and power . whn tht power seem threatened, people go to extra mile to retain it. there are alotof other reasons why people stay in ranging from fear to shame to low self esteem to love, material reasons, religious and cultural reasons, family values and the list goes on and on. one major thing i have noticed is that most abusive people are usually the sweetest people to date espcially at the beginging part of the relationship that when they start messing up, the partner always stays hoping to change him to the person he was when they started dating. a he acts normal and sweet 40percent of the time and for the other 60, he is beast. b he comes bearing gifts to apologise.he tries to buy your forgiveness c he drives away all your friends because they are a bad influence and are not good enough for you. he is the only one that knows the best for you. d he monitors your every move, call logs,chats, what you wear, where you go, how long you stay where you go. what are your experiences and your opinion on this queens? why do women stay in an abusive reltionship. because when kids are raised in such environment, those kids grow up thinking that it is okay to be in one or they grow up thinking its okay to abuse women both emotionally and physically. for the men in the house, why do you let it get to that point where you think the solution is to hit your woman, your God's appointed helpmate |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 5:35pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Adaobi12:So from him friendzoning you, you. Have friendzoned him too. Okay. Thought you were still crushing on him, that's why I was. Giving you tips on him to get him to step up |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 5:16pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Adaobi12:Are you still crushing on him? |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 5:01pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
pinkiberry:Dear queen,thank you for sharing your story with us. I feel your pain, some ladies get deceived into such messy situation. Am happy that you got out of it when you could. I hope others queens use your strength to escape from their messy situations 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 4:56pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Adaobi12:Then maybe you are not attracted to him enough if u now treat him as a buddy. If you have a mad crush on someone who friend-zoned u, trust,you will be doing what is called mad flirting or. Even go as. Far as telling him how you feel 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 12:50pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Adaobi12:Dear Queen, you are pretty in and out. some men need green light to ask a woman out, some are so blinded by shyness not to see. if you are feeling this guy and you think he is attracted to you, babe use style and tell him. you guys can be talking and u will jokingly tell him that you crushed on him or he is the type of man you thought u cud date. just be free and flirt with words with him.you will be surprised. queens what do you think? |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 11:40am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Hello lovelies, thank you all for the contribution on our last hot topic. AM sure a lot of women got some positive insights on how to get out of a messy situation. Our today's topic when a lady gets friend-zoned by a guy she wishes to be her man. Ladies, are you surprised? Well there is no denial. I have ALMOST been friend-zoned,but as a sharp babe, I escaped. Every lady has had her moment or her almost moment. Share your stories. Have you ever been friend-zoned? What should someone who is friend-zoned do? Should she tell the man or ceize being his friends. Advise us. What do we ladies do wrong to get friend-zoned? Am off to an owambe, hopefully I will get my own mr right.......... Lol, just kidding but its always nice meeting new cute dudes Oya, let's go there |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 7:11pm On Apr 17, 2016 |
tenderlyme:My dear, the most important is realising that you are worth more than you are getting. And that's a step in the right direction sweetheart. Once we accept the truth, the rest of the journey is easy. So sweetheart, there is a man for every woman. And if the man in your life isn't making you feel like the most important thing in the world, then let him go. Its hard, sometimes you want to call, but don't call. Delete his number, delete him from bbm, facebook, just take that step in the right direction. Pray more and you will meet somebody worthy of your love. |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 7:54pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
@ hernyolar. I hear you sis, that is why I created this thread. Believe me, some people are in the mess and want to get out but feel trapped and helpless. Nobody planned for such things, it starts off innocently and before we know it, a family's unity is @ stake. Now can we find ways for these sisters to get out of this mess and avoid being called a home wrecker. Come on, ladies, air your views, experiences and let's profer solutions on ways to get out of this messy trap for those of us inside. |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 4:42pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Hernyolar:Dearie, I get your point, I totally do. That is the reason why I created this thread, where women can come and talk freely and find solutions to get out of their messy situations. Most of them hate what they are doing and want to get out of it. Like your cousin, maybe you could have used another approach to get through to her, maybe it wouldn't have gotten to the selfish stage where she doesn't care about who she hurts just to be with the man. Maybe she wouldn't have married the man. Love is like a web, it clouds your sense of judgement. So let's not be the judge, let's just hope we are able to get through to someone out there to put an end to it before it reaches "the selfish phase". I appreciate your insight and please hang around for more hot topics every saturday. 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 12:12pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
Below are the words of a dear friend who was in this messy situation "When I was involved with a married man, I felt terribly used. I hated myself for doing what I was doing, and yet, I couldn’t help myself. I was helplessly in love." That’s what happens to any woman who’s involved with a married man, because when you’re the “other woman” there are no weekends together, no family parties, no meeting friends, nothing. You are just a mysterious part of a married man’s life that surfaces when he packs his bag and tells his wife he’s travelling to another city. It’s insulting, especially when he says you mean so much to him, but that’s the life you have to accept. And it’s never a pretty sight. And every time you ask him to walk out of his relationship, it would just lead to frustrated tears. There is no way he’s ready to do that, even if your closet love goes on for a few years. It’s the same feeling every morning. You wake up feeling cheated, used and totally and miserably helpless. It’s a disgusting feeling to live with, trust me. Dating a married man is painful and demeaning. And at times, it can take years for you to accept the love of a genuine man you meet later in life. But all this is just the tip of the iceberg of problems when you have a relationship with married men. Please, note some of these words are not mine. For others, we meet a guy and he isn't wearing a ring and you are happy because he is just what you have been praying for. You dance to the altar with a fat envelop thanking God. He is a God sent, attentive, showers you with gifts(married men can shaa give gift for africa). You fall in love only to get the shock of your life, you are the other woman. You are mad, furious but funny you still go back to him. You hate yourself but your heart and maybe your body will always betray you. Ladies out there, is anyone of us in this situation, come and share how you feel, how it started, do you want to get out? Together we all can work towards that. Please remember we are NOT here to judge, no one is without sin but we are here to support, encourage and talk about our deepest feelings. Let's get started 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 11:55am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Indulging in a relationship with married men is confusing, but almost all the experiences that come with it feel the same. And it always starts with the same feelings of confusion, hesitation and attraction. And women, by nature are completely helpless in such circumstances.We love helping people we like out of troubling situations. And admit it, you’d love a man who’s a mess, if he likes you. When a married man fancies you, you’re elated. But when he looks towards you for emotional support and love, the same things his own wife, apparently, doesn’t provide him, you end up falling in love, more with his emotional affairs rather than anything else. It is not a planned event, you just wanted to support, to listen to him, advise him on how to make it work. Ist, it is a harmless date, where he laments about his finances, his wife's naggs, then phone calls follow just to check up, movies to release tensions and to thank you for being helpful, and in all these, he forgets his family turmoil. All you start talking about is the good times both of you share every day. And then, one fine day, just before hanging up he says, “Sweetheart, if only I wasn’t married, I would be so in love with you. And frankly, I already am…” Pop goes the weasel. And so the journey takes another turn The little innocent doe in you (in most cases) braves itself up and walks curiously ahead. You’re flattered to know he loves you, no man who’s so sweet has ever told you something like that. You realize you love him too. But then, what’s the ending of the story? We all know how these things end. We battle with our mind on the morale implications, what God will say, how the society will react, your friends. He’s a married man, and you know you don’t want to fall, but he’s such an emotional wreck, and the most striking part of it all is, he’s totally in love with you. Apparently! Now, you warm up to him to shower him with happiness, and the next thing you know, you’re snogging him in hallways of movie theaters, fantacizing about him, lying to your loved ones to keep your dates with him, it gets harder. You are always with your phone, always jumping. You know what is right and wrong but you can't seem to let go. He is more caring than all your exs put together, you both understand each other and feel you belong together. How you wish he wasn't married, he is your soulmate. Beyond this point, there’s no looking back. You don’t care about his family or his wife. You just want this man. All for yourself. You’re dating a married man, and you want him all for yourself. The worst part of all this is that you’d never really want to be in this place, but somehow, you find yourself here. Lost, angry, annoyed and on the dark side. All of a sudden, you’re not just another nice girl. You’re the “other woman” who’s dating a married man. You’re marked from the rest of the world. You are a home wrecker. But it doesn’t matter to you, because you know this man loves you, and wants you more than he wants his own wife. That’s what we are made to believe anyways. 18 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Hot Topics- Everyday Woman (women Come And Talk About Your Deepest Fears) by Harmonyemerald(op): 7:02am On Apr 16, 2016 |
Hello every woman, girl, lady out there. This is a thread where you can voice out your inner thoughts without being judged. I will be selecting topics that we are scared of talking about because we will be judged, or laughed at or insulted. Men, please you are welcomed to contribute. Today's hot topic is "when you are attracted to /dating a married man" |
| Health › Best Pathology Lab Services In Nigeria by Harmonyemerald(op): 8:29pm On Feb 21, 2016 |
Hello Everyone, After much research I have decided that the best three laboratories in Nigeria are : 1. PATHCARE LABORATORY; One of the world best, top quality and ISO accredited. A south- African lab with locations in Kenya, nanibia, Nigeria, Lesotho etc. The reference point for laboratory services in Africa. The number 1 option and the only lab that offers all sorts of investigations. 2. Mecure health care Ltd 3. Union diagnostic and clinical service limited Feel free to add yours |
| Literature › Re: A Woman's World by Harmonyemerald(op): 10:19pm On Jan 31, 2016 |
********* Ever since Austin has been a kid, it was as if his life has been planned for him, he was supposed to grow up, join the navy, then go abroad for his masters, come back and take over his fathers business. He has fulfilled all those, he just got back from UK two weeks ago and his friend Dave has invited him to calabar for the weekend, but instead of relaxing at a cool bar in calabar and catching up on good old days, his buddy has dragged him to Nsukka, Enugu state to throw a birthday party for his girlfriend. He is actually surprised at his friend because Dave is a chronic player who doesn't believe in spending on a woman. What was that he always say? "throw in a handsome man with a little bit of charm, ladies will go crazy", and that has always worked for him. So why was he spending for much on this particular girl when he has women at his beck and call back in calabar? He wondered. He was so over this party, he would have stayed back in Lagos, instead of coming down here to watch a bunch of under-graduates dance and drink and puke. Why do people do that anyways? Drink so much that they puke. "This party looks kind of lame" He thought to himself before he saw her. "She is on jeans with sneakers" was his first thought. Who wears those to a pool party and her outfit was definitely not yellow or anyway close to white. Most ladies were on bikini and shorts and were busy drinking and dancing but she was just there standing opposite him, having arguments about politics. Now that was something he didn't expect. As he walked closer, he noticed her hair, long, black, shiny, he could bet that it was natural, he could imagine running his fingers all over her hair, scattering the ponytail, breathing in the scent of her hair, it must be lavender with mints, he thought to himself. "Wake up mehn", he muttered as he approached her group, her back still turned against him. "So my dear, GEJ has had 6 solid years and what has he done for the masses? Nothing. He is a good man, no doubt but he is just not man enough to be the president". He heard her saying as he finally reached the group, nice accent she got, probably not a nigeria, he concluded as he took the last step closing the distance between them. At that moment she turned to look at the intrusion to her own private party, but he didn't even give her a chance before he attacked her. "I can't help but hear you judge a man who has stepped up when nigeria was lost to guide us through a dark path, GEJ is man enough to lead, maybe you are just not woman enough to see it, no offence.", he added with a chuckle. She raised her brow to absorb the shock but attacking back. "I beg your pardon? A man who can't sustain the economy, exchange rate is high, oil price is dropping and yet he can't re-diversify the economy yet". She fought back. She isn't one to back down from fight especially not when it involved a stranger who wants to insult her brains and embarrass her in public. Where has he come from anyways and who the hell is he? And why does he keep looking at me like that when he is talking? He looks at me with this intensity I couldn't explain. Well, we argued for about 45mins non stop before we realized that we were alone. Every other person must have left during our back and forth and we were too busy to notice. "Well, am Austin", he said ten minutes later after we stopped argument. I nodded and continued nodding my head to the song that was playing. He tilted his ears as a clue for my name and almost immediately justin Beiber's "SORRY" came on. "That's my song". I shouted. "Come on let's dance". I said as I dragged him off to the dance floor. #don't be surprised, told you guys I was a wild child, a tomboy with no absolute care# |
| Literature › Re: A Woman's World by Harmonyemerald(op): 9:18pm On Jan 31, 2016 |
Episode 1 Anna was a third year student of University of Nigeria, Nsukka, the prestigious nigeria university her father had gone to. Even though she grew up in canada, her dad had insisted all his kids did their tertiary schooling in nigeria, that way they can mingle with their fellow nigerians, get a taste of the Nigerian society, meet a Nigerian guy that understands his background and culture. He doesn't want any of his kids getting married to a white. Hello, guys am ANNA, this is my story, my diary, my life, my world. I wanted the narrator to tell my story but noone can tell my story better than me. I will tell my own part of the story, while the narrator or any other person can tell the story of others in my world. Now a little history about me, shall we? While I was still a child, my mama used to say I was a tomboy, I will ride my brother's bicycle, play soccer with the guys, I never went for any sleep overs, or maybe I wasn't invited for any, who cares, I was busy living in my perfect little world. My parents came to canada when I was 5 and my brother was 13, I was their baby girl, though rebellious at a tender age, they still loved me nonetheless. I don't really remember much about growing up, but I know I was very happy. And when it was time for me to be shipped to nigeria to study Medicine, I was glad. Gosh I missed Nigeria. My first two years in nigeria was crazy fun, I met some great friends lisa and Hauwa. Lisa was a yoruba girl from Osun state, Hauwa was a Moslem girl from Kaduna, and am from imo state, owerri babe and together, we were called the tripod. I was still the tomboy, crazy wild child with jeans and sneakers always, my hair always in a ponytail. I loved my life. I was doing great academically. Everything was perfect, until the day I met him **************** It was my roommate's 21st birthday and her on and off boyfriend who happened to be on at that moment flew in from calabar to surprise her with a birthday. I was dominating an argument about who our next president should be, whether it should be Buhari or GEJ, I am never really a fan of either of them but out of the two, I rather just have Buhari lead us for a change. During my introduction, I forgot to add that I have been obsessed with nigerian government system since I could remember. Mom always said I was supposed to be a boy but God changed his mind the last minute and decided to make me a girl. Back to the present, it was a pool party with yellow and white color them but trust me not to comply, I was with some group of people trying to convince them why they should vote for buhari, I hadn't seen him walk in, I was busy talking, arguing, trying to keep my voice from being drown by the loud music from the speakers. |
| Literature › Re: A Woman's World by Harmonyemerald(op): 2:06pm On Jan 28, 2016 |
Hey guys. Update will be every sunday. Can't do it within the week because of work commitments. Kind regards |
| Literature › A Woman's World by Harmonyemerald(op): 8:46am On Jan 24, 2016 |
Prologue "Dammit!" He cursed as he drove carelessly through the ever busy road. The driver was obviously late for something or trying to get away from something. He looks haunted, chased, pissed I must add. His phones has been peeping for the last one hour, calls from his mum, sister, frank his best friend but never a call from her, ANNA. Her silence haunts him because she hasn't been the quiet type. Never has, never will, so why start now? He tried calling her but something keeps stopping him, if she hasn't reached out, then she really doesn't care. He just reacted to the situation at the time, but now he wish He can take it all back. Let me call her, he thought to himself as he reached out to his phone and punched in the digits he knew so well, "its ringing". He smiled hopeful that she will answer, he doesn't know what to say to her if she picks but he wants to hear her voice. Let me try again, he thought to himself as he took his eyes off the road and when he looked up, he had crashed into another car, as he slipped into unconsciousness, he could remember himself saying, "she doesn't deserve what I did" |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Ahmed Zakari & Co (chartered Accountants) Test Invite by Harmonyemerald(op): 9:41am On Jan 17, 2016 |
Tolakay:Graduate Trainee. Abii na experience hire |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Ahmed Zakari & Co (chartered Accountants) Test Invite by Harmonyemerald(op): 10:47pm On Jan 06, 2016 |
How far people? Situation update. Any G.T heard from them yet? Happy new year folks |
| Literature › Re: Chronicles Of A Housemaid by Harmonyemerald(f): 7:05am On Jan 02, 2016 |
I guess this story has ended. #unfollowsthread# |
| Literature › Re: Chronicles Of A Housemaid by Harmonyemerald(f): 10:00pm On Dec 16, 2015 |
Sweetie, your updates are freaking short.how can two different update be in the same scene and am sure the scene hasn't ended yet. Each update is like 10 sentences.. Nah, can't work |
| Literature › Re: In Memory Only (Romance) by Harmonyemerald(f): 10:36pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Even admin don vex with the story delay. If u post now, we will un-bann you #lol# |
| Literature › Re: Tormented by Harmonyemerald(f): 9:05am On Nov 29, 2015 |
Safarigirl, nice story. Please iits weekend. Update something both here and "in memory only" |
| Literature › Re: Chronicles Of A Housemaid by Harmonyemerald(f): 9:01am On Nov 29, 2015 |
More than 3 weeks now,no post yet? |
| Literature › Re: Your Best Story Ever Read On Nairaland by Harmonyemerald(f): 6:49pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mine are 1. My girlfriend's ex 2. Taking chances by princesa 3. Chocolate n sushi 4. The whole series of a man to call my own and the rest 5. The devil who loved me 6. In memory only (currently going on) 7. False pretenses |
