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@poster Church wedding is gud so far u meet the condition. But as ur case is it wil b gud u do court and d traditional.But both of u can see ur pastor for prayers. He wil understand. Give dat baby a chance.

makky: When a man slaps u & says hes sorry, u accept it and dnt do anytn serious to make it a point to him NEVER to try that again... Be sure to expect more slaps, beating, public disgrace & even using belt on u. Its the hand u give to a man at the begining of d relationship that he mets out to u later on. Always saying sorry even when ur not at fault, giving him what he wants even when u know its at ur detriment, believe u me, it always backfires. Ladies not wanting to leave an abusive relationship is not and never about sex, it is plain Fear & Self denial. The guy has impacted so much fear in her that she cnt leave or even discuss the matter outside. If its a relationship that is well known to ppl esp family, leaving it will be hard. And find this out for urself, once such a lady eventually succeeds to leave that relationship, she never looks back and d man comes to respect her.
Advice; if a man hits u once, leave at once. If u cnt leave, next time he hits u, hit him back or start destroying his valuables... He cherishes them more than u, he wnt touch u cos he will call u a witch. Ive attracted all sorts while growing up and believe me, ive learnt alot and am still learning from things happening around me, i still have a scar on my left shoulder inflicted with a hanger in an abusive relationship way back 2004 and each time i see it, i say a silent prayer for the slowpoke who wud ever dare such nonsense cos na him death warrant he just sign.

Dis is true.

pauli coco: Can someone advice me on my issue! I am not a virgin and I enjoy sex, but I have made the decision of not having a boyfriend, sexual intercourse, sexual contact or self service until I my wedding night. ?? Please how can I keep myself from temptation? (honest and mature replies pls.)

Ur decision is very good if u really mean it. God's help is always available u jst need to be focused.

@ jmoore u c this topic is a serious issue. From my observation I noticed dat ladies (not all) like men dat beat and maltreat them. No matter d advice u give to those 2 ladies they wil stil go back. I am not in support of dis type of lifestyle but to be sincere some ladies enjoy the maltreatment.

Na wa o. Nairalanders dis insult is too much on dis guy. Am sure by now d guy has agreed dat he is a Mumu, Mugu and Ode as u people called him. Now wat is ur advice for him?
@op I advice u to stop giving her all dose guddies and u wil see her real picture by then no one wil tel u wat to do.

ur convocation means alot to ur parents. U shud be glad to av such a father. Instead of asking ur father to back off u shud change ur own plan. Remember moment like dis comes once a while. Allow him. U shud even persuade him to be there if he is not too busy.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Anyone can snap as a result of situation but continuous disrespect is inherent not spontaneous[/quote]that is true o. But such a man wil definitely link his wife's sudden disrespect to d money.

Crown Prince: Any gift from my father in law must be received in discreet from family members otherwise,such boost can trigger disaffections in moment of disunity.

guy i feel u. Discretion is d key. B4 u take such action, u av to consider d future implications.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Accepting is your choice. But accepting money from your father-inlaw- does not translate to your wife dissecting you. That has to do with the type of woman you choose for a wife[/quote]wat do u mean by choice of woman u marry. Anybody can change at anytime.

what do u think about this. It happened to someone not me. I just want us to share ideas on this. A guy was given a cash gift by his father-inlaw to boost his biz bt somewhere along the way d wife started disrespecting d husband because of dat. Let us share d positive and negative effect of dis to educate ourselves. Would you as a guy collect a cash gift of N5m as a guy from ur father-inlaw? Ladies wat's ur opinion on this?

[b][/b]A 70years old man had a disease. He could not urinate and he was in pain? He later went to see a doctor who told him dat he would go through surgery. He agreed. After d surgery d doctor brought his bills. When d old man saw d bills he started crying.
The doctor asked if he was crying because of the money. He told the doctor no but becos he had been urinating right from d day he was born and God never gave him a bill. He realised how much God has been good to him.

In d midst of all ur challenges and problems, do u still av something to be grateful for?

Use this thread to tell Baba God ho awesome, magnificent and glorious he is. Say something sweet to him.

Tell what happen exactly. Then we will knw who is at fault. D lady may not want to pack because of d following reasons- (just guessing)
1. She feels she has given u all d benefits of marriage you now want her to leave. She feels cheated.
2. She suspect u are having an affair behind her.
3. Or maybe u ar too caring dat she felt leaving ur house may be a disaster 4 her.
4. Maybe she is expecting u by now to be talking about marriage and she feels packing to ur house will make u knw how serious she is.
Engage her in a dialogue. She will tell u her mind and check urself too. What have u done?

Marriage is a mutual agreement. The man should bear the burns alone. If he is a stingy man that i dont tolerate but he is a give bt d situation demands that u support him why not. The wedding is for both of u and both have to lay d foundation 2geda. Most women support their husby 2day in many ways and u wil never hear from anybody. If d love is there go ahead. Women are helpmate not a fanancier or breadwinners.