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MzDarkSkin:
[color=#0066ff]I don't want to be insensitive and flat-out say 'that relationship was not meant to be' as I know you are still pained by that but I will say that in my honest and humble opinion, you deserved much better than that.

'It was ordained that man should leave his mother and flee to the woman he loves"  - Dennis Brown

meaning both man AND woman once they reach a certain age where they can make decisions as adults should be able to make a choice and stand by it. It takes a firm woman to keep a man strong, you just need(ed) a firm woman to have your back even if it means turning her back on family because at the end of the day as much as we'd like to make our parents happy, life is all about procreating and starting a faimly of our own. Bottom line.

I am sorry to hear that though. Pick your chin up and be proud that you were a man about it.
Better will come your way bro. Trust me. 

It doesn't really bother me anymore, really, because after that incident I knew where her stance was on the relationship. It went downhill from there, mainly because she kept giving me reason to dump her. Just thought I'd share the story with you guys pertaining to the topic

Mrs.Chima:
Let keep it real, that trick didn't want you.

Trust me, I got that vibe way before that incident, which is why I'm not as hurt as I would've been.

Inked_Nerd:

Awwww

Sorry to hear that.

Hey, life happens, nothing that couldn't make me stronger

I've once dated an Italian woman for a ripe 2 years. Even though she had her flaws, I still had love for her because she was one of the first to actually love me for me. We've long since broken up for personal reasons, but one of the many reasons was because her dad didn't like black people. And him being her dad, she was more or less forced to take his side. What bothered me is that she didn't stand up for herself, letting her dad and co. tell her lies. It was horrible, and it seriously put a dent in our relationship.

I don't think anyone should have to experience that, but hey.

That's life

Love comes in all different shapes and sizes.


Although it's all down to personal preference, why limit yourself? Love everyone

One word: Trust

If you don't trust your girlfriend/fiancee/wife, then why are you in a relationship in the first place? No trust leads to paranoia, and being paranoid can lead to a lot of nasty things. An ex is an ex, and if you truly know your spouse and trust him/her, then there shouldn't be a problem if he/she so decides to talk to an ex. You can ask questions if you have the slightest bit of doubt, it's normal, but it's nothing to get paranoid about if you have your relationship in check.

selena:
Wut silly trick are you freaking talking about?If you dont want the girl anymore,tell her, Am definitely sure she will find someone better.

I agree. Couldnt have said it better myself

Phate07:
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Its know obvious you are a phoking reeeetard. So i wont condescend to arguing ith you.

My suggestion to you is to change the 'm' in your name to 'f', and start wearing skirts.

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Lmao

Next, please?

lmao

Phate07:
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HaveSense, you are not making any sense. So you would rather have your woman be the head of your famil? Huh?

Dude, you need to bleeping wake up from your slumber.
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No, I think YOU need to wake up my good fellow. Wake up and smell the flowers, because if it were not for the CHANGING seasons, there wouldn't be any flowers. This world is CHANGING every day. Who said I would let the woman be the head of the family? Where in my post did you read that? Why are you making things up to further your own agenda? I said that I see NO PROBLEM with a woman proposing to a man. You guys and your weak manhood. So if a woman proposes, the man automatically loses his spot at the head of the household? That his d.ick shrivels up and falls off as soon as she pops that question? Afraid that if a woman does something she doesn't suppose to, you cry foul like children.

Ridiculous.

I suggest you stop living under that pebble you call home and stop being a caveman.

Inked_Nerd:
@topic: Hmmm, interesting responses.

You like a nice guy yourself. I'm sure whoever you're with will be very grateful

Thank you I try in this wretched world, believe me dear.

The only reason why most people think it is wrong is simply because of the fact that they see it as weird. We've been brought up knowing that the man has to make all the important decisions, make the first move, etc etc. But this is 2011, not 1911. Some rules still apply, but our view on relationships has vastly changed ever since then.

People think that if the man accepts the proposal by the woman than that man is viewed as weak, feminine, unfit to be a man. I say to them, if you think that way, than you, too, are unfit for such a thing because your pride and "manliness" alters your sense of reason and judgment. I see nothing wrong with the sight of a woman proposing to a man.

If you do, then that's you. What I would advise, however, is get with the times, because this is a rapidly changing world. What you thought was right today may not be right tomorrow. Don't be stuck in the stone age because you're not open to change.

There's nothing wrong with a woman proposing to a man. We're all human beings in this world, and no one is above the other. Certain cultures and societies may think ill of it, but in my opinion there is nothing wrong at all about that practice.

Love is love, and it doesn't matter who pops the question first.

olgabb87:
i am always the one to get played everytime and its not fair to good girls out there, if men think this is a game and joke shame on them,

That's because it IS a game, unfortunately. Both men and women know how this game works, but only the immature and totally rotten will actually play this game.

Blackberries are overrated anyways.

I've never been a player, but I have been played before when I've met the wrong woman. It was through this learning experience have I come to know how to play the game, and ultimately,

How to play the player.

I've spotted a few of my past relations to try and be slick. You see, I'm a brother with money, and these dirty women see that and try to get their way. These women would ask me for favors, big and small, and try to walk away with more than half the revenue. Best believe I've sent them packing not only with empty pockets, but a slap across the face with the saying, "Try again next time"

I've had a confession or two with my past relationships. But I can tell you one thing, it wasn't on the topic of cheating. Never did, never will.

One word: Yes. People are nicer to good looking people simply because they are good looking. It's unfortunate, but it's true in this backwards world we call Earth. We judge people based on our physical appearance. Something that doesn't alarm us or disgust us generally puts us more at ease compared to something that is revolting, even in the mildest case.

And that's just being real.

There are a lot of definitions of a nice guy, but I think the best definition to describe a nice guy is one whom thinks of the other FIRST before himself. Women are the queens of this earth. It is our job, as their potential kings, to make sure they are cared for, nurtured, loved, respected, and most importantly treated as equals among this world.

There are some nasty women that would take advantage of kindness, I admit, but it's through experience that I avoid those women at all costs. It's one thing to be nice, it's another to be played.

It just goes to show how this world is driven by greed. It shouldn't even matter how good anyone's ex was in bed. They're an ex for a reason. Now if they all of a sudden reminisce about how good the sex was, then I think it's about time to move on and leave his/her dilemma to deal with themselves. Chances are, cheating is not far from the mind.

Lust, insecurity, ill-prepared, there are a lot of factors involved in marrying the wrong person. Hell, one day you think you're marrying the right person, and it won't show till a decade later how many reasons you can choose to divorce that person.

Think before you do anything, is what I live by in this world.

I have earrings. Doesn't make me any more different than the next guy in terms of ability to live. It's my body, I should be able to do whatever the hell I want with it. If you don't like it, there's the door. I can see if it were huge, inappropriate piercings, but it's a harmless earring.

It just goes to show just how backwards this world is when something as little as an earring bothers them.

Inked_Nerd:

loooool, awww not nice. I think they're both lovely young women--but hey, you're entitled to your opinion.

I would agree if they weren't so damn fugly.

Adrenaline, you still haven't answered Ogugua88's question.

Adrenaline:
Please spare me dude, the information has been passed, none of you can claim ignorance when the times comes.

If this "time" will ever come. Till then, I'm sticking with something that makes sense to me.

Adrenaline:
lol@ religious fanatic, hey I'm just a regular guy anyway still trying to gain strong footing in the ways of God, its not easy but its possible. I was busy trying to read some nasty stories in the sexuality section when I stumbled upon the OP's post, I admired the wisdom in trying to bring God's message to a place where it is most likely you will find sinners so I had to comment.

I was't trying to push my agenda on dear ogugua88, I was just trying to make her understand the soul saving importance of accepting and absorbing the information the OP was trying to pass

If you wasn't trying to push your agenda on her, then how come most of your posts has this hint of "Do this, or else" vibe with it? If that was the case, then you would've respected her wishes and moved on WAY earlier.

And may I ask why are you, a God-fearing person, in the sexuality forum reading dirty stories?

Adrenaline:
ok

I just want to know. Besides OP posting religious non-sense in a SEXUALITY forum, WHY try to push your agenda on someone whom truly doesn't want anything to do with religion? Why is it so hard for someone to accept the fact that some people just doesn't want to be involved in religious affairs? I respect you for not going any further and not damning her for speaking her opinion, but I want to ask you something.

How come your kind, as in religion fanatics, try to take their time and chastise people for doing what they want with their lives? You're not living OUR lives, so don't try to say what I can and can't do.

jas man:
You don't have to have an Ex. Ogugua88, don't wear that label as a proud one. Its not a proud thing and it shows character and more. No one want to know about your runway stream of sexuality. People like you'll come back here at 42 like the lady who was sleeping around with the Northerners seeking advices. I hope you'll some day settle down for good, not very sure about that though and I wish you well.

What "label" is she wearing? And how exactly is she wearing it "proudly"? The only thing she's proud of is the fact that she isn't with that person anymore, and that in turn made her stronger and wiser so that she wouldn't make the same mistake again, hence EX. Having an ex is not something to boast about, but at the same time it makes you happy in the end because you're not with that person anymore.

If you ask me, I'd rather have an ex, learn from the experience, and eliminate anyone based upon that experience, than no ex at all.

Like people say, and ex is an ex for a reason. Most of the time the reason is that of cheating, abuse, pain in any way, shape, or form. Sometimes, it's a breakup that you're forced to do either because you don't want to hurt that person or it just won't work out. Either way, it creates a hole. Your weakness comes from this hole. If you have reconciled your differences and moved on with your life, this hole, through time, will heal, and so will the weakness. If you've been in a committed relationship, you simply cannot heal overnight, even if that person was either the best or the worst you've had.

It's quite rude and disrespectful when referring to a woman's focal points when it's not intentional, such as having a big chest and/or a big butt, yet she's covered up. But I don't find it rude or disrespectful when said woman is INTENTIONALLY trying to harbor attention simply because of her assets.

It's like the saying goes, you dress a certain way, expect to be treated a certain way. If you're dressing trashy and/or slutty, you can't expect to be treated with respect simply because you don't even have dignity to cover yourself up, This can be viewed with men as well. However, with this backwards planet we call earth, double standards run rampant, but the underlying point still stands.

Dress like a slut, talk like a slut, expect to be treated like a slut. It's very backwards to say you deserve respect with your ass and breasts exposed for the whole world to see. You can be beautiful and still portray the message of your femininity without having to look like some ho' on the corner of 69th and Crenshaw.