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I can go chop down a tree, does that makes me manly? I can go build a house for my family, does that make me manly?

How about this

I can go work a 10 hour job doing nothing but sending faxes, write reports, and eat chinese food with asians all the while making minimum wage for my 5 baby mommas and 10 kids. Does that make me manly?

The world is so skewed with the view of what's "manly" and what's not, that people don't take the time to think about what the hell they are doing or saying in the first place.

The only time I will kill a chicken is only if my survival depended on it. It doesn't make me less of a man if I decide NOT to kill the chicken. Does it make you less of a woman if you decide not to cut up and quarter the chicken? This argument can go both ways.

Ridiculous.

Wow, what a silly thread lol

It takes time and patience to find someone worth being with. Sometimes it ends with a dud, others a new best friend, but it's wise not to put it ALL into a relationship if you're trying to find a good woman, especially if you're just starting out in the relationship.

Test the waters, see what she likes and dislikes, does and doesn't do. But be careful, because she may be testing you as well.

Another poster said it but I'll say it again.

Time heals.

It's really devastating if you was in a committed relationship, especially if you put in everything in the relationship. It took me a LONG time to overcome my last relationship, but it's like I always say;

Get up, wipe your ass, and move on. Time waits for no man or woman. It's rather time SPENT bettering yourself than time WASTED doing nothing, sulking in sadness.

What have you done to try to "convince" him?

I'm sorry but that just sounds ridiculous.

Anyone that has half a brain knows that it is wrong and utterly disrespectful to sleep in a bed with anyone other than family and/or your significant other. What makes it worse is that her "friend" knows she's in a relationship yet still continues to sleep with her, and she continues to let him. I don't need a mountain of evidence to tell me anything, the act alone is enough to break up with her, or at least considering.

Are you really that blind?

No one gender is more romantic than the other, but more specifically the person. It has been portrayed in media, stories, etc that MEN should be the romantic ones, romancing the heart of women. But in this day and age, it doesn't matter as one gender is just as capable of romance as the other.

Mrs, Chima:
Traditional men are like that and there is nothing wrong with that.  However, the relationship dynamics have shifted over 3 decades and the "typical" roles between men and women are not applicable in this society. 

Each relationship is different and we shouldn't expect others to follow OUR perception of what is right or wrong.

I agree, because this isn't the 1940's or any time period before it. This world has changed so dramatically, like in the west, that for example you can see gay couples congregate much more compared to, say, 20-30 years ago. I have to say that tradition has waned a lot over the decades and more and more people just do what they like to do.

It's like people say; Get with the times, or get left behind.

Mrs, Chima:
What are you doing under my bed?

SHH, not too loud, I'm hiding from the stupidity on this thread

It all comes down to personal opinion, really. Some people like it, some people don't. Personally, I'd rather be the one proposing, but I see no problem with a woman proposing to me. That just means she beats me to it, but it's all fair game.

There are only two things I believe in when it comes to that: A friend, and a girlfriend. There is no in-between. I'm a man that respects a woman enough NOT to use her as only an object of sex.

Someone give these niggas a drink of water lol

190:
^Go and sleep my friend (under your bed)

After you

Seriously. Make me a moderator, I'd clean this site in no time lol.

This is in response to Topsoldier's topic about this being a Nigerian-only website.

Dear Topsoldier

I'm sorry you are so offended by foreigner presence on this forum. I'm sorry that it causes you so much anger and resentment that I have access to the internet and enter "your" forum as I please. I'm sorry that I have laid down opinions every once in a while on this website. I'm sorry that I have taken a liking to this website. I'm sorry that I will keep returning no matter how much you detest it. I am so very sorry that I will keep coming and continue to explore this site to my heart's content, no matter what you or anyone else say.


Signed


A foreigner

That's why you test the waters. If there's a sweet melody in the waves of the ocean, then take a chance. If it turns violent and waves crashing against each other, test another spot It all depends on patience. Don't ever rush into anything you know nothing about. That's why some people frown upon young men and women getting married so early in their lives because 9 times out of 10 it will end in divorce.

toyemz:
@Havesense1

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people differ and how they react to different situation in life differ
Take for example the way several people react to grief, some never get over the loss of a loved one, and grieve forever, some move on in life, never forgetting but allowing time to be the healer.while others cant get over it and actually kill themselves as a result
one man meat is another man's poison
Honestly this situation has happened and i witnessed it, it didnt happen last year but this year
i think you need to see it before you believe in
and as you can see even with that belief people still differ


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Oh yes, I understand people differ, but my quarrel is about people who lie to themselves and say they are gay, when they really aren't. Heartbreak and abuse cannot "turn" you gay unless you was already gay.

toyemz:
^^^
I dont beleive that there is no such thing as turning gay
i have seen it with my eyes
and know for surch the switch was made as a result of the traumatic experience she went thru

take me for example
i have been straight all my life
been  with and loved men
if tomorrow i becaome gay due to a twist of turn
no one and no one can convince me that i had gay tendercies or that i was born gay

it's like a friend of mne said
sometimes women experiemnt with such things
just to see how they are

People nowadays hold homo as the new "in" thing. A new trend, so to say. A lot of people hang around others that are blatantly gay, and next thing you know, they "turn" gay when they were obviously straight before. People in their 30's and 40's, who've been straight all their lives, all of a sudden "turn" gay. This could be more in the closet than out in the open, but it's most definitely there. A lot of people would be straight, turn gay, then go straight again and label themselves "bi".

What the hell?

I understand there are a lot of closet gays out there, but let's get one thing STRAIGHT. If you was straight your whole entire life of living, and one terrible break-up made you turn gay?

Stop lying to yourself.

I've been in numerous break-ups, my women friends been in numerous break-ups, we aren't bawling in a corner saying we're gonna date that handsome woman/cute man down the street. I don't have a problem with gays. If they're happy, then let them. But SOME people need to get over themselves and leave gays to the ACTUAL gays.

Some men and women are warped in the mind as a result of upbringing, past relationships, deeds or misdeeds etc. It's unfortunate, but some people are allowed to procreate and teach their children all the evils in the world.

My opinion would be to treat women well ALL the time. It can be boiled down to the most basic of sayings: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. You want respect? Give respect, but only to those deserving. You want kindness? Give kindness etc.

There are people that would take advantage of this, but that's where COMMON SENSE comes in. That boy has COMMON SENSE, because obviously he knows RIGHT from WRONG, and that it's WRONG to treat people unfairly.

That boy's father, however,

This is exactly how it is where I come from. Women, and sometimes men, think that because you had rough relationships, then the best thing to do is jump ship and start dating/sleeping with the same sex. They think that it'll cure all their problems and that they're avoiding more conflict. Nine times out of ten,

They are wrong.

In the case of a woman, they have this lovely thing called PMS. Now we all know the symptoms of PMS include wild mood swings, among other things, most of the time. Now, imagine two of them at the same time. Also, don't forget the fact that people are NOT tolerate of gays, and would do ANYTHING to get you to know it. A newly "turned" woman or man cannot deal with the stress of being subjugated to various hate crimes as compared to more hardened gays who's been on the other side for years.

There is no such thing as "turning" gay. You're either gay, or straight. That's like saying you have white skin, then black skin whenever you sagged your pants. More often people find MORE problems rather than fewer because you are switching over to a totally different lifestyle that comes with its own set of rules.

Ridiculous.

Well, other than weight, do you see the accessories she has? Is that a toy watch? What the hell? Looks like one of those toys you find in a happy meal at McDonalds or something.

Being overweight is one thing, but looking like you don't give a damn is another.

Do you really expect to find love in a person who's interest is money and money alone?

Good luck with that.

Love is Love

Funny, how when if this was to happen to you, most of you would be practically begging your wife/fiancee/some ho to give up their life so you could live.

Funny how every time I come to this topic, there's an ad about interracial dating. Coincidence?

Everyone can bark however much they like, it will never change anyone's opinions towards a certain race or what race they like to date. Bottom line is, color doesn't matter, because the heart is black and white.

That is all.

People still find offense to that word? Get out of slavery times.

I understand that it was, and still is, an offensive and degrading word, but look at how the world uses it now? The word has been watered down so much that it doesn't even matter anymore. Stop living in the past.

This is the 21st century, if you can't handle what people say to you, go lie in a ditch for a few decades. The world will be better off without you.

There is no question. I would gladly exchange my life for my wife's survival.

MzDarkSkin:
[color=#0066ff]HaveSense1 I feel you bro.  
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I understand some predicaments that would force someone to choose a side. But if you can't stand up for yourself, then I don't think you should be dating.