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To thread starter.

Are you muslim? I'm guessing this boyfriend of yours is a Hausa and or at least Muslim being that he's from Kano.  If he is Muslim, I'd like to also know if you are as well. If the situation is that he is Muslim and you are not, then I can very well see your mothers concerns. Even if he, your boyfriend, is not pushing the issue now it is almost certain that he will in the very near future, when he feels as though he has you more on LOCK, ask you to convert. La, DEMAND OF YOU TO DO SO if the relationship is to continue, would you be ready for to make such a change for him is the question needing answering.

By the way, I see that you reside in Abuja. My wife's uncles has recently come back from there and showed me some pics of the place and man--- it has really changed for the better in the past 7 years since I was last there. New construction is going on everywhere and completed new building and many other project have been finished since then. It really looks like a very modern city that is developing rapidly. I'm happy to see that the Nigerian government is at least making some significant achievement in at least some areas. From the looks of it, by the time the 2014 CW games come around Abuja will look like something comparable to a major East Asian city. I really thought that that churchgate Tower project was going to be another typical white elephant project, though I hear that they've actually completed the first stage of the project on prior to schedule. Humm, impressive.

I'm proud not to be white.

tpia:


hero looks young, innocent and sweet?

Hater.

TOH:
You sef, can't even spell your own screen name. isnt it lucabraSi?. If you can't reason and see i was explaining to getahad that first post was in regards to your comment and not his then there's really no point in discussing with you.

Please go and sit down.

anyway lol londoner, at the end of it all, do they even marry these women they claim are so much better? Dont they just do hit and run leaving fatherless kids all over the world? Abegi

Who's that girl behind you on the left in your Avi pic?

SeanT21:
You have a wife? In Your Pic you look so young and innocent sweet.

I thought You were in college for a minute.

You have any kids?

That pic was taken 2 years ago, I was 26 then. I've been married for 6 years now, and we have 2 kids. A boy who's 4 and a girl who's 1.

SeanT21:
Hero are You a nigerian?

No, I am not, though my wife is-- so I've been to Nigeria a few times to visit and I spend a decent amount of time around Nigerians; mostly Igbos though.

onyinye2:
@ hero

Was Abia State the only one you went to??

No, I've traveled through almost every single state in Nigeria. The ones I like best were Plateau, Taraba, Adamawa, Benue and Cross-River. They were all very beautiful and clean states, and I've heard that since that time, ten years ago, they've become even more tourist friendly. I'd love to go back to all of them. These aren't my pictures below though they give you a good idea of the beauty in which I speak of.

Taraba State
https://img2.travelblog.org/Photos/11183/88910/f/559862-Grass-fields-0.jpg

https://img2.travelblog.org/Photos/11183/88910/f/560271-Highland-tea-plantation-0.jpg

https://img2.travelblog.org/Photos/11183/88910/f/560373-Shopkeeper-0.jpg

https://img2.travelblog.org/Photos/11183/88910/f/560441-View-0.jpg

https://img2.travelblog.org/Photos/11183/88910/f/560443-Antelope-0.jpg

https://img2.travelblog.org/Photos/11183/88910/f/560416-Travellers-herald-0.jpg

Adamawa

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/c/c7/Hills_near_Ngaoundal.jpg/800px-Hills_near_Ngaoundal.jpg
https://g-ecx.images-amazon.com/images/G/01/ciu/02/40/d59192c008a076116a5e5010.L.jpg

Aba was a real dump when I went there like 10 years ago. I've made the mistake of going there during one of my trips to Naija and it smelled like crap, and the trash heaps around the city were so many and so high one would mistake it for a big Urban landfill. Sewage flowed down the dirt filled streets along with putrid seepage from the garbage piles-- turning the roads into putrid smelling mud slides that folks just walk through like it was nothing. It was ludicrous, and I was pissed to see thousands of people actually living in that latrine of a city. I've heard they did a bit of reconstruction and clean up in the city since then. I hope so, because it really needed it.

https://images.biafranigeriaworld.com/BNW-Aba-Owerri-Road-on.jpg

https://images.biafranigeriaworld.com/BNW-osusu-rd-aba.jpg

https://images.biafranigeriaworld.com/BNW-Ngwa-Road-on.jpg

Some outlying areas of the city were ok though.

yong babe:
@ Topic

because we Nigerians r too smart for our own good.
we keep trying to cheat others. From the president right down to the shoemaker

And here in lies another additive problem. SMART? You call that being smart? No sweety, that's not being smart-- that's being criminal. It doesn't take a smart person to disregard a peoples and or person trust in you to maintain funds or possessions in which they've in trusted in you to maintain honestly and judiciously. No that is not a smart person, that's a CRIMINAL minded person. There is nothing smart about such actions, and it doesn't take a genius to establish a scheme to take someones money, it actually quite easy-- all it take is the right gullible/trusting target. In the uS such people are thought of as an idiots and sinister, wile amongst the mind in of many in Nigeria and elsewhere in Africa such idiots are looked upon as being SMART, CRAFTY. Like I've stated before, it's the backward mentality in which is holding back much of Africa.

I'm not calling you backward, though perhaps you should choose your words more wisely.

lucabrasi:
its all very well and good for you both living abroad to proffer solutions,but are you willing to or are doing something to change the situation,
most people living abroad will go on about how docile and quiet nigerians are in the face of corruption and systemic breakdown and expect them to take action but these gys contend with a lot of stress and do not have the basic amenities you all take for granted so if anyone believes in nigeria and really wants change then step up and do something without waiting for others in nigeria

No you got it all wrong. You can not expect someone in a far away land to want to help a people who show absolutely no get up and go in making moves to help themselves. If people see that you are making grounds and in a viable struggle for bettering your situation then they'd be more than happy to step in and help, but if they see that you aren't do a damn thing for yourself other than complain about the situation and hoping and praying someone else comes and solves it for you, then they aren't going to be willing to do a damn thing for you. You have to help others help you.  Were are the action communities, afterschool programs, where are the civil rights organizations? Where are the neighborhood watch organizations? Where are the PTA organizations? Where are the food bank organizations and habitat for humanity type establishments? It doesn't take the government to establish these esential things in which can make huge differences in a community and nation. Here in the US, these types of not-for-profit community organizations provide the equivalent of hundreds of millions of $ in aid to many families throughout the nation, and the government has little to nothing to do with them. In a nation like Nigeria, these should be all over the place, though I have the feeling that Greed encompasses the mind of so many in that nation that such community additives are unthinkable-- for that PROFIT will not be obtained out of them.

davidylan:
she's the typical AA, plenty of raw talent very little brains to harness it. Just like an orange, once sucked dry it becomes as useless as chaff.

You are such a hater. What is up with you making all of these mean-spirited comments about AA? Did girls call you names, turn you down for dates and green card marriages? Did the boys bully you around, joke you and call you names? Did you have an AA girlfriend who dumped you ass for no good reason?

TOH:
How are you solving it? I'd like to know. With all your rappers and coonery entertainers. What exactly is it that you people are doing to resolve your issues. Teen mothers, theft, gangs, homicide.

How dare you say you people say you are resolving these issues, when these are the very things your "musicians" are ADVOCATING IN THEIR MUSIC?

Do you even think when you spew such bullshit? Do you sincerely think if Nigeria has half, infact just 10% of the opportunities blacks americans have, we'd have the problems that we do?

Another lame ass assumption of lies made by another Ass. I'm not often much into teach fools though I like you, so I'll make an acception for your Ass.

You talk about teen pregnancy.

Since the 1990s, many measures associated with teen pregnancy in the United States have shown improvement. For African American teens, the rates of pregnancy have declined, as has the percent of high-school males who report having impregnated someone (Leigh & Huff 2006). Although female teens are not always impregnated by male teens, the increased and consistent condom use among African American male teens undoubtedly also has contributed to this decline in teen pregnancy.

http://www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/research/researchconf/leigh_abstract.pdf

Teen pregnancy rates in the United States declined steadily from 1991 to 2005—from 60 out of 1000 teenagers in 1991 to 40.5 out of 1000 in 2005. In 2006, however, the teen pregnancy rate increased to about 42 out of 1000. Approximately one-third of young women in the United States become pregnant during their teens. More than 80% of teen pregnancies are unintended and unintentional. The highest teen birth rate occurs in Hispanic women (83 out of 1000 in 2006).

Declining teen pregnancy rates are thought to be attributed to more effective birth control practice and decreased sexual activity among teens. The most dramatic reduction in teen pregnancy—23%—has occurred among African American teenagers.

http://www.womenshealthchannel.com/teenpregnancy/index.shtml

You talked about Gangs, not realizing that gang membership has risen amongst all groups except AA who's rates have remained steady for years now. You fools love to just make up shit. Present documentation to prove your rubbish if you're so content on speaking it.

The gains in black buying power reflect more than just population growth and consumer inflation, Humphreys said. He also pointed to the increasing number of blacks who are starting their own businesses. As evidence, he cited Census data released since his last buying power study that showed the number of black-owned businesses increased 45 percent from 1997 to 2002, far exceeding the 10 percent increase in the overall number of U.S. businesses. Black buying power grew 165 percent from 1990 ($318 billion) to 2007 ($845 billion). That compares with 134 percent growth in disposable income for the total population.

The share of buying power controlled by African American consumers will rise in 47 states, with the largest market share increases coming in Mississippi, Maryland and Georgia. They also represent the states where black consumers account for the largest share of the total: Mississippi (24.3 percent), Maryland (22.2 percent) and Georgia (20.8 percent), along with the District of Columbia (30.6 percent).

African American buying power will total $845 billion in 2007 and is projected to top $1.1 trillion by 2012 -- a 34 percent increase over the five-year period.

At current the AA market is larger than that of Mexico, in who's market is over 4 times as large as Nigeria.

African Americans now make up a greater proportion of Southern college students than they do of that region’s population at large, according to a new report. But while closing that persistent gap is certainly significant, the report highlights others that still remain.

http://www.insidehighered.com/news/2007/06/26/enrollment

chi-baby:
plssss ooooooomake una no deh vex ma sista TOH oo if una no wan feel ma own heat cah una no go fit stand am ooooo, loooooool.

@TOH

sis calm dwn abeg no mind them sha, silence is golden and most tymz da best answer 4 fools. looooooooooool bless xx

So you call me a fool for speaking the truth? Why is that?

Dude, first of all-- you'all need to stop attempting to change the subject, why attempt to turn this into some kind of competition? Second of all if you are going to play such games at least do so with credible counter responses; you just sat there and told a bold face lie, as usual, in some asinine attempt to get one up on the AA. How stupid can you be attempting such a thing, knowing damn well that all it'll take is a simple google to prove you to be the lying ass you are?

By 2003, sex had replaced race as the primary factor in life expectancy in the United States, with African-American females expected to live longer than European American males born in that year.[42] In the same year, the gap in life expectancy between American whites (78.0) and blacks (72. had decreased to 5.2 years, reflecting a long term trend of this phenomenon.[42] By 2004, "the trend toward convergence in mortality figures across the major race groups also continued," with white-black gap in life expectancy dropping to 5 years.[43] The current life expectancy of African Americans as a group is comparable to those of other groups who live in countries with a high human development index.

Do not attempt to play a stupid game of comparison with us, because I'll make you look a fool every time. As the quoted piece has shown, we AA have problems, yes, though we are resolving ours; what progress have Nigeirans in Nigeria made? Show something, becaue most of all I've seen, read about and heard of is mass cases of regression back in to worst conditions than they were in decades passed. This is sad, and I really want to know what the hell is going on. I want to someday see a strong and prosperous Nigeria in the mid of other strong and prosperous nations standing strong.

I want to know what is the problem and what plans are on ground to solve them, if any. Many of you talk about leaders being the problem as if the leaders are not the same as all of you; when in fact they are the same as all of you are. You all come from the same ethnic groups in which all harness the same values and customs, so if something is wrong with you leaders then I can only assume that something is in fact wrong with cultural mentality of the Nigerian people, for the most part. You can not tell me that if those who are the leaders today and in who were so in the past were replaced some random others of the Nigerian society that those random other would not have acted just as corruptly as those who've had and have the opportunity today to lead with greed. I'd have to be blind and irrational to believe such a thing.

All good nourishment for growth starts at the roots and works its way up. If the grounds in which the roots are buried are negatively corrupted then then that in which they spawn will also be so. I think my Igbo mother in law was correct in her assumption of that Nigeria is harshly inflicted with a case of what she calls "The Big Man syndrome" in which places in the minds of many that they have to do any and everything to be the boss, to get to the top, to be the leader or the chief and to stay at such level. Humm, as we Americans say, there's too many wanting chiefs and not enough content Indians.

mightydick:
is corruption not worse in America/Europe? is it because it is not reported those countries?

If it was then they would be as bad off as Nigeria. Corruption is everywhere but everywhere it is not as potent as it is in Nigeria. In the west, Japan, Korea, China there is corruption though there is not so much corruption that roads aren't continuously built and well maintained, good transportation systems aren't existent and or extremely dilapidated. Trash heaps fill the streets cause funds aren't being spent to discard the trash, and jobs are so few and far in between that the average citizen lives on less than a dollar a day, and electricity is an off and on treat along with working forms of communications other than word of mouth and the written media. Hospitals are nearly useless do to lack of supplies and a decent number of staff. The police and military are a joke, because they're underpaid, under trained and under equipped to cary out their jobs as desired.  I'll stop there for that I think you get my point. There's always going to be some level of corruption in a society though it is paramount that the society not allow the level of corruption to become so extensive that the nation is not able to maintain itself as such the situation with Nigeria and much of the rest of Africa.

They believe that having sex with Albinos will keep you from getting AIDS and that having sex with a baby will cure you of AIDS.

Dumbazz unlearned Africans will believe ANYTHING from the whiteman.

You aint lying.   Too many take the propaganda text as paramount truth, still being manipulated into selling out their fellow black folk for them 400 and 500 years running. How despicable.

davidylan:
Did stoning, hanging, lynching, slavery, segregation . . . piss you off about America? Nah such happens only in Africa no?

Wait . . . the story about honor killings in the US and UK . . . nah how can those piss you off about them? They are white no?

Pedophilia (dateline MSNBC for example) in the US? Nah that must have been africa in disguise.

The nooses hanging in school courtyards in the south? Nah must be those depraved animals in Africa.

Daylight robbery in Katrina, wanton looting, the homeless . . . only in Africa no?

What else pisses you off about us?

I however notice our website doesnt piss u off just yet . . .

Of course all that stuff is just as senseless and despicable as the other,  though let be real here. While one addresses these situations head on with legislation changes, stricter law enforcement and other means to address people's concerns with the mishaps, the other does nothing but attempt to push the concerns under the rug and or scare  people into not wanting to talk about them and or encourage the incidents as tolerable and good for the land. One most often take proactive measures to correct the ills and the other most often does noting and or actually encourages the ills as good for the people. This is were the difference often comes in. Yes every place has its problems though the true difference comes in in how the various places address and deal with these problems. African nations are not dealing with their problems at all and or are not doing so with fortitude enough to resolve them.

TOH:
Never said it was an excuse. I'm sure Learn To Read is still on PBS

My problem is with your garbage of "this is why I hate Africa. so backward" thus my REMINDING you that such isnt just restricted to that continent alone. Ok?

and as for you being sick and tired and hating the place. That's good to know so how about you and your crackhead alter-ego Exponent leave this place?

perhaps if you'd read our comment more open mindedly you'll see that we're not saying that we hate Africa but that we are tired of the way its being abused by both the African and the foreigners. There is not excuse for the continent and its people to be in a worst place than they were at at the end of the colonial period on the continent. We're saying that Africa and Africans can be and do alot better than the current state they are in.

LASIEFAIRE:
VERY disappointing. Strange - a closer look at this incident might reveal that no criminal act took place in the first place.
I remember one incident vividly, someone got the nerve to shout OLE OLE for no apparent reason,
next second a mob was gathered serious lynching this young man, if not for the rare timely of MOPOL the brother would be dead.
Capital Punishment of any kind- with a few exception- is unjust.

Not too long ago a crowed in Lagos claimed some women turned into women form after first being a cat. They surrounded her and accused her of being a witch and then attempted to beat her to death with sticks and bricks and all kinds of other objects. Then you had to famous case of that Amina women who was accused of having an affair with some guy, and was thus sentenced to death by STONEING after she had her baby.   SICK SHIT!! The guy, who most likely raped her, was let go scott free. How despicable.   This is the type of shit that pisses me off about much of Africa. The dumb backward shit that still goes on.

TOH:
Dude shut the fuk up

and last i checked the same is done in the Middle East

Right you are. Is that suppost to be an excuse for such actions or something?  

And folks wonder why Nigeria and Africa as a whole isn't advancing. This is one excellent case in point. Too much backwardness.

Liberia was one when the AA ran it, though when the natives took over,  it all went to crap as usual. You folks have too many conflicting tribal/ethnic hang ups to get anything done right. The simplest tasks like voting turn into violent, murderous blood bath events. It triflingly ridiculous.  What kind of mindset must a people possess to go out and massacre  over 3000 people with machetes and other blunt objects in a span of a few days simply because simply because some white dude in far away Europe said something negative about their faith? What kind of mindset must it take, to go out and systematically slaughter nearly 1 million people in just a few days simply because the said people were of the ethnic group of most of the leaders in your nation? Satanic is what kind as far as I'm concerned. 

Now, I'm not saying that this is the mindset of all on the African continent though it is so of enough to keep shit from working smoothly there.

419 Day!! Humm, just joking. But aaaah, doesn't Nigeria have an independence day holiday?

I am not Exponent. If you'd like, have Seun confirm it by comparing our IP's.

EXPONENT:
NO We can't get the ISSUES right!


It is in your GOVERNMENTS best interest to have HIGHLY EDUCATED people within its borders to allow your COUNTRY to compete at a GLOBAL LEVEL.

if your government refuses to educate its people it is because YOUR GOVERNMENT wants its people DUMB!!!

Why?

Because DUMB people are easily corrupted and cannot THINK out the box.

Well said.