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You are now scared of telling him the truth because you know he will send you packing, but same thought never occurred to you when your legs where widespread. If your hubby is smart, he will definitely find out because you will loose guard when the wind of doubt (not knowing if he has or hasn't told ur hubby) come crashing on you.
Well the matter is simple, you give money once, he will keep coming back (even asking for additional kpekus). You don't give he will indirectly blackmail you and you still get kicked out.
Worst even is that no kids in the marriage, which is even a passport to your exit. So pack you luggage as you will be on ur way soon or even soonest.

In summation, YOU LOST THIS BATTLE.....

Miami11:
Maybe he is the stubborn kind that will never accept change,
I dated someone that use to refuse to apply deodorant/ he reaked of heavy man sweat, I bought him deodorants as gifts, he never touched them, besides he was lazy among other vices, am glad I ran for my life.

I understand your point. Ego and pride is always a mans challenge.

However, I will always propose that females look for a man who has understanding and respects your opinion.

Life is too short to live a miserable life.

rolled:
Man when nor won spend nor dey look woman
Run for your life
That's how I thought I could change my hubby
Now am depressed,sad,confused,quarrel everyday
My own even get serious mouth odor join
To buy clothes for himself na problem
Imagine someone dey wear green shoe and pink shirt
I don die
Everyday I dey pity my life

Since you are married to him, you can gradually suggest clothing's for him to wear. He has mouth odor, you can get mouth wash for him or try to ensure he brushes his teeth after eating.

I suggest you start looking at the solutions rather than dwelling on the problem. Because the more you thunk of these problems you only get bitter depressed,sad,confused,feel like quarreling everyday.

ephi123:
Exactly! I spotted this as well and was wondering about that date

I feel it was arranged report to attract public sympathy.

Please are their lab scientist here to vet the analysis of this result. Some things did not syn with me about this report. For example

1. the sample was received on the 12th of July 2015

2. Final report was on 31st Dec 2015. (that is a 6 months gap to get a result for an endangered baby)

3. The report did not specify what sample was been tested for the cannabis

4. No signature or stamp to authenticate the result.
5. the FONT and FONT size are not the same.

I dont know who else thinks that this report was doctored to smear the lady (note: I'm not exonerating the lady as I do not have all the facts)

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Really appreciate and value everyone's response.

For those saying I should invest in landed properties, I already have a 3bedroom flat and about to buy another land.

Please am not going to reply pms. Anything to be discussed should be here.

Thanks and Godbless

Is unfortunate how inconsiderate the opinions of people are as seen in lots of bias comments from people. None of those kicking against your decision to buy a car put into consideration your personal well-being, emotional, psychological and physical stress of going to work everyday. Life is too short girl, your happiness is paramount and more important than the feeling & opinions of people.

Beauty attracts a man but character keeps him!!!

Hey Girl!!! Go for your car baby and make life comfortable for yourself. You work hard to make your money, you need not stress yourself too to spend your money.

"Don't listen to what people are thinking about you, because they are thinking it anyhow". Les Brown

Are you a fast thinker? answer this.....

njokusboy:
So you no know say we be misogynist before?
We have also been called bitter, frustrated and heartbroken... anywhere you see frustrated NL males in dis section, na we be dat oh

Wouldn't be surprised if you guys are labelled misogynist if you guys move to adopt the 3rd option. (from a ghost follower of this thread)

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Front page please @ Moderator

TheDauraMallam:
http://www.jwfacts.com/

Enjoy and thank me later.

MzNelly

Yea, have seen that and many more.

Its hard for JW's to believe that all voluntary contributions made to the society are used to fight lots of legal cases.

Jozzy4:
I thought you gonna give me scripture , but All I see in your post is emotion .


And is there a scriptural injunction that tells you to celebrate your date of birth ? Why didnt we see any friend of God in the scriptures doing it ? Why is it that only that of pagans are documented ?



I do that everyday. No until we party or some group of boys beat me mercilessly as done in todays birthday festival rituals . So cruel .



its there for a reason ( 2 timothy 3:16,17) .

A book written in 1848 named " THE HISTORY OF THE CHRISTIAN RELIGION AND CHURCH DURING THE FIRST THREE CENTURIES said the idea of a birthday festival is far from those early christians .

Is there any scriptural injunction for celebrating "Anniversary"?

Case in point Our Kingdom Ministry Aug 2014 "Celebrating 100yrs of Kingdom Rule" ()

MzNelly:
Is there a Scriptural injunction that tells you not to celebrate your date of birth? To give thanks to the Giver of life?

That two people fvcked up on their birthdays means it is scripturally wrong to celebrate yours? Tell me something else.

I'm a passive witness (Agnostic maybe) for now.

Lots of JWs are disillusioned. I never forget the incidence that happened in 2009 in Eastern Nigeria, a CO committed suicide in the wee hour of the morning in the cong he was serving and his corpse was taken to morgue and till date no one was allowed to question why or what happen?

Sisters are not allowed to marry who they love but must "marry only in the Lord" while brother are at liberty to "convert and marry".

My problem is with those 7 men in Brooklyn that are lording it over people and family.

MzNelly:
Lol, anyone who has done deep research knows there's nothing scripturally wrong with birthdays.

The problem with the Witnesses is that they are too over zealous, and want Scriptural backing on everything, even in issues that just needs their own discernment.
The worst part is that they then impose it on others, which is beyond preposterous,

Have you had time to read the "Shepherd The Flock Of God Book"? (if no, its available online)

I felt disheartened to see the biased writings of the governing body and hypocritical anecdotal scenarios.

E.g. Unmarried young people who move in together commits a sin but unmarried Elderly folks are allowed to move in together not counted as sin.

MzNelly:
You want God stand before you and say "I exist" for you to remove any traces of doubt from your mind?

They're tons of things you and I don't see, but we believe they exist because we feel proof of their existence.

Have you, for once, tried to search for proof of God's existence?
No, right?

And yet when I say you don't believe there is a God, you write notes to confuse yourself on your aforementioned stance.

I personally detest it when JW's call anyone with contrary opinion to theirs an "apostate".

As a JW, we don't celebrate "birthday" but celebrate "Anniversary" (e.g. wedding anniversary).

The reasoning book defined "birthday" as the "anniversary" of one's birth. OKM Aug 2014 titled "CELEBRATING 100YRS OF KINGDOM RULE"!!!

Can any JW here cite scriptural backing for anniversary celebration

MzNelly:
Em....

Do you believe in the Bible?

Hello Miss MzNelly.

Its really nice of you to awaken your brains to the realities of life.

I share your concerns Permit me to make varying contribution to your diary.

I was also raised in the "Truth", was baptized at age 14. The only organisation where your zealousness is judged based on how much time you put in field service and your spiritual progress in I'm now a passive witness cos of the irregularities that is rife within the "JWs". I followed the Australian Royal Commission's investigation into JW's child abuse and I was shocked to my feet to see how "Elders" from "Bethel" responded to the prosecutor and Judge. The following are my own concerns:

1) Why should an Elder be deleted because the child enrolled in a University?

2)Why does "JW" condemn the United Nations to be the disgusting thing/Wild beast while they are registered NGO with UN?

3) The misuse of scripture text is common among the JW.......

paulGrundy:
This your moniker writes like a big fonted handle I know in nairaland.... Hmmm....

sorry you are mistaken..

JW's please watch your kids and siblings closely so they can be safe from predators (paedophile)...

vooks:
Jehovah's Witnesses have a strong policy of not reporting members to the authorities.

It is very horrifying that over 1000 cases were reported in Australia. There are countless in the US and the UK of same child abuse.

Can't help but imagine what the total number would be Worldwide.

"The Child Abuse Royal Commission has exposed what might be the worst culture of sexual abuse and cover up within a church that we have ever seen. That church is the Jehovah’s Witnesses." - Public Media

"I used to pray to Jehovah to put angels around my bed to stop my father coming to me, but He didn't help me and my father didn't stop." - child abuse victim BCG, former Jehovah's Witness
29 July 2015 | ABC NEWS
A paedophile who admitted to molesting his daughters was not believed or sanctioned for it by the Jehovah's Witness Church, the royal commission into child sex abuse hears.
It is the second day that church elder Dino Ali has been questioned about the way he responded to one particularly shocking case of abuse.
Yesterday a woman known by the initials BCG, who was a member of the Mareeba congregation in Far North Queensland in the 1980s, 1990s, told the commission that when she spoke to the church hierarchy of the abuse against her and her three sisters she was treated with disdain.
This morning, in the face of new evidence, Mr Ali was questioned by counsel for BCG, Pauline David, about why no finding of abuse was made despite the perpetrator BCH making a confession.
...The commission has heard the church has not reported a single suspected perpetrator of child sexual abuse to police despite there being more than 1,000 since 1950.
BCH was eventually tried and jailed once his daughter left the church and reported the abuse to police.
Mr Ali was questioned by counsel assisting the commission, Angus Stewart, this morning about why the church did not take that step itself, seeming to suggest the church believed it was up to the perpetrators to report themselves.
Angus Stewart: Do you not think this man should go to jail?
Dino Ali: I'm very happy that eventually he did for what he did.
Mr Stewart: Well, that was only because BCG, some years later, found the strength after she'd left the church to report to the police. In the interim, you and your colleagues didn't report to the police at all.
Mr Ali: No, we didn't.
READ FULL ABC NEWS REPORT: http:///Ikz8lG, http:///YJxLp4
http://edition.cnn.com/videos/world/2015/07/28/australia-jehovah-witness-sex-abuse-hannigan-lklv.cnn

[Image: Brother Dino Ali's life story appeared in the February 1, 2012, issue of The Watchtower magazine]


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