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Tashaamania:
This is what happens when people make sex a priority in relationships.

Anyways, that wasn't too good of him. So if eventually you two get married and for some reasons, you are not home, he'd start sleeping around?
The choice here to make is entirely yours.. You know if he has been showing some signs of unseriousness in the relationship before now and dont disregard the friend's advice. Weigh all of them, if need be dont call him for a while, take your time off and see how sorry he gets when he tries calling. People deserve second chances sometimes.

I really do not know how to tell people to leave their relationships or stay. You are the one dating him, you should know better.

U see of all comments u are the only one that made sense out of it...........pipu here on NL are very good at saying wat they can't really do, if he calls her back he deserve a second chance instead stewpid advice pipu r giving her to throw away 5yrs relationship out just like that...........at sometime we men are found of throwing away wat we cherish smtymz, only for us to realize hw useful they were.

@OP pls 5yrs is not a joke, stop calling him for now, but pls if he dare calls you or text you reply him with absolutely maturity, he has stayed longer in the relationship in the 1st place, he deserve a 2nd chance if only he requested for it with absolute sincerity........I still say 5yrs ain't a joke*******and for those blaming you for dating him dat long, only there rough pussy can tell the numbers of guys they've dated within 1yrs

Swagt101:
One crate of orijin for u bro

5alive will be better broda

Ijebu-Ode-born businessman, Sola Oloko, had
high hopes about investing in his state of origin.
But for reasons he said he had yet to
understand, attempts to make that dream come
true have been met with an unexpected negative
reaction from the Ogun State Government.
Oloko said he got a call from a frantic worker on
May 14 that everything he had built with about
N35m on his 2,593sq metre land along the
Lagos-Ibadan Expressway had been destroyed
by state government officials.
Oloko was obviously depressed when he
narrated how all the joy he hoped to derive in
contributing to the development of his state, was
turned against him.
He told Saturday PUNCH that he got a summon
to appear that same day (May 14, 2015) at the
Ministry of Urban and Physical Planning in
Abeokuta, on issues concerning the land.
“I was at home on May 14, when some of my
workers on the land called and said a team of
government officials with mobile policemen in
tow came to the land and said I should appear at
the Ministry of Urban and Physical Development
in Abeokuta. I went early to Abeokuta the
following day with my documents with the hope
of resolving any issue about the land with the
ministry,” he said.
But while he was at the ministry, a government
demolition team allegedly led by the Director-
General of the Ogun State Bureau of Lands and
Survey, Mr. Wale Osinowo, (who held the
position until the Ogun State Governor, Ibikunle
Amosun, dissolved his cabinet on May 25, 2015),
went to the site and reduced the structures to
rubble.
“I was shocked when I was told that the place
was being demolished. How could that happen?
I run as many as nine filling stations in the state
as part of my contribution in investing in my
state. The state government has always said
there is need for investments in the state. What
then have I done wrong?” he said.
When our correspondent asked Oloko if he had
all the required documents of his land, he
promptly presented C of O and land use permit
which were duly signed by the state surveyor-
general.
“I bought the land legally and got the certificate
of occupancy and other documents which were
duly signed by the surveyor-general of the state
in 2010. I started construction in 2011. But work
on the site was delayed because of the slow
pace of the work by Bi-Courtney on the Lagos-
Ibadan Expressway, I had to suspend the
project.
“I only recommenced work on the site when
Julius Berger took over the construction of the
road. So far, I have spent N35m on the project.
When the government bulldozers came, they did
not even mind that I already had massive fuel
tanks buried in the site, they reduced everything
in sight to rubble.”
Upon his appointment as the Director-General of
the Bureau of Lands and Survey, Osinowo,
vowed a clampdown on land speculators.
Osinowo had said at the time that plans were
underway to reclaim all properties illegally
acquired in different parts of the state.
Oloko said his land was acquired legally because
he never liked doing things in such a way that he
would run foul of the law.
“If the government has some clarifications to
make on my land, why go behind me to
demolish the place if not because this is
deliberate?” he said.
Saturday PUNCH learnt that no official stop-
work order was issued on the property by the
Ministry of Urban and Physical Planning; neither
were the structures marked for demolition at
any point in time as stipulated by law.
According to section 53 of the Nigerian Urban
and Regional Planning Act where an
unauthorised development is being carried out,
the concerned government agency has the right
to issue a stop-work order “pending the service
of an enforcement notice on the owner, occupier
or holder.”
Section 56 of the act states further that the
“control department shall give a reasonable time
not exceeding 21 days within which the
developer shall be required to comply” with the
provisions of the stop-work order.
[/media-credit] Site of the demolished filling
station
Oloko said this was why he believed that the
demolition of his property was an action brought
about by animosity towards him.
According to him, destroying a multi-million
naira project without taking steps stipulated by
law is taking impunity too far.
“Is this the change the government has been
telling people to expect?” he said.
However, the Ogun State Ministry of Urban and
Physical Planning said it knew nothing about the
demolition.
Our correspondent got in touch with the Bureau
of Land and Survey to find out what could be the
reason the property was demolished. The
spokesperson, Mr. Demola Orunbo, promised to
discuss the issue with the Director-General
(Osinowo).
The following day when our correspondent
spoke with Orunbo, he said “I don’t know what I
can tell you at this time. Please go ahead and
publish the report because I spoke with my DG
(Osinowo) this evening and he said he knew
nothing about the demolition.
Several attempts have also been made to speak
with Osinowo directly but he did not pick calls
made to his mobile line. A text message also
sent to him went unanswered.
Our correspondent also contacted the
immediate past Commissioner of Information in
the state, Mr. Yusuff Olaniyonu, but he said he
could no longer speak on a government matter
since the cabinet had been dissolved. However,
Oloko has said it is laughable that the officials
are denying carrying out the demolition because
they knew it was illegal.
He said if nothing was done on the issue, he
would seek legal redress as soon as possible.

Dear Senator-elect Buruji Kashamu: The first
time I heard that agents of the National Drug
Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA) lay siege to
your home in Lagos, I wanted to pick up a phone
and call you. No, I did not have your phone
number, and I do not have it even now. No, I
have never met you. I have no personal
connection with you. I never did and do not
desire one. Not because I dislike you. But mainly
because we are not involved jointly or remotely
in any issues.
Yet we are linked. We are linked because you are
a Nigerian. I am one too. We are also linked
because you are a politician who will make laws
and influence policies that will affect me, my
family, society and Nigeria as a whole. The
Yoruba word for a politician is “oselu” – one who
manages the town, or society. I do not know
what the equivalent word is in other Nigerian
languages. The Yoruba one suffices for the
purpose of this letter. It shows the significance
of the matters at hand.
There has been so much said about you in the
news media. Like many news and information-
seeking persons, I have come to know you
through the media. Most recently, I read that
men of the NDLEA came to apprehend you. They
wanted to take you away, perhaps extradite you.
It was about an existing indictment of drug
dealing. whilst you were in the USA many years
ago. The news is that the indictment has been
pending for years, almost twenty years.
The NDLEA said that you were invited to their
offices and you refused to comply. They came
combat-ready, and wanted to take you away by
force. You locked yourself in and even
threatened to commit suicide if the NDLEA
agents forced their way into your rooms.
I was concerned. And I am still.
First of all, do not commit suicide. You know that
life is sacred, and we should not take it lightly.
You have been elected as Senator, one of the
highest political leadership offices. In fact, in
Ogun state, your home constituency, to date,
you came out as the topmost elected person
from your PDP political party. You were the only
Senator elected on the platform of the PDP. All
others came through the APC, which was in
opposition at the time of the election, and has
become the new governing party. You hold an
elevated position. You have a major
responsibility – to your constituency, to your
party, to the country.
If you ask me, I know many of our compatriots
who will say that the NDLEA visit at this time to
your house was God-sent. Your name was mired
in allegations. “According to official record,
Kashamu has been a target of both the U.S. Drug
Enforcement Administration (DEA) and
Immigration…(also) Customs Enforcement (ICE)
of the Department of Homeland Security (DHS)…
He was further indicted by the Grand Jury in the
Northern District of Illinois, United States on
heroin trafficking charges, “ the NDLEA has
stated.
How can you shoulder the important
responsibility of being a Senator with such a
serious accusation? How comfortable will you be
to make laws amidst allegations of law-breaking
by your very self? How do we, your compatriots,
explain to all those foreigners who ask whether
a Nigerian Senator indeed was a wanted person
for such serious charges?
Incidentally, you have a unique opportunity to
show who you are. Is the Senator-elect Buruji
Kashamu truly a convict in waiting, a runaway
from the law, a once-drug Lord who hides in
Nigeria, a professional criminal who seeks
immunity through political shenanigans of a
country gone wrong under bad rulers? Or is
Senator-elect Buruji Kashamu a misunderstood
gentleman, a yet unknown political mastermind
who needs an opportunity to lead his people, a
rich mogul who made his money through lawful
means and now wants to use his riches for the
benefits of his people?
Rumours abound. According to media reports,
many of your co-politicians have stated in turn
that you were a thoroughly good man, a devoted
party member. But many others said that you
were a terrible fraudist, villain, and that you
deserved time in jail.
But who are you?
So here is the deal that will stop the rumours.
Here is the golden opportunity to have your say,
have your case made, and have a decision.
It came when the NDLEA guys invited you to
come visit their office. Not for keeps in the
smelly rooms of our country’s detention places.
And, heavens forbid, not in the horrific Nigerian
jails that make life hell for all who pass through
them. But to be extradited to the USA.
As I understand it, the trip overseas is not to jail
either, no matter how much better the United
States’ incarceration services are. It is an
invitation to a country where you once lived and
prospered. An invitation to speak truth to facts.
It is an opportunity to deal with the accusations
and allegations in a court where justice can
prevail. It is one sure way to end the rumours
about who you are. It can stop the name calling,
shed the wrong labels. If you are indeed a
misunderstood gentleman, this is the-lifetime
opportunity to clear your name. Even if the local
court disallows your extradition, you should not
accept it. “Oruko rere san ju wura ati fadaka”. (A
good name is worth more than any jewery and
ornaments).
Think of it. When you return, a free man, there
will be numerous people, cars and buses to
celebrate your victory. Then you will have your
name, dignity. You will have your credibility. You
will walk with your head high. And you will be
able to serve as a Senator, who deserves the
platform.
You should seize the time and get the mess out
of the way. Avoid the actualization of the saying,
the long arm of the law is going to tap you on
the shoulder some day.

The National Drug Law Enforcement Agency
(NDLEA) and Peoples Democratic Party (PDP)
Buruji Kashamu have been involved in a legal
strife concerning Kashamu’s extradition to the
United States for drug trafficking charges.
This formal extradition suit number FHC/ABJ/
CS/479/2015 came after a company of NDLEA
officers surrounded Senator Kashamu during a
six-day siege of his Lekki, Lagos residence.
The officers vacated the when Justice Okon
Abang of the Lagos Federal High Court
instructed NDLEA officers to leave the premises
and suspend all actions concerning illegal
exploits.
“In this case, the NDLEA is very jumpy, nervous
and unsettled because it has exposed its
unprofessionalism.”
When a SaharaReporters correspondent called
to secure information from the Chicago Attorney
General’s offices, where Kashamu’s extradition is
originating, an official with the office told our
correspondent that, “I know who you are
speaking of, but we can't talk of any extradition.”
The official, realizing they may have
unintentionally confirmed that an extradition
process was in order from the US government,
talked back their remarks to the correspondent
saying, “I want to be clear, I did not confirm that
there is an extradition in order.”
SaharaReporters has had anonymous sources,
as well as official NDLEA sources, confirm that
the US government placed an extradition
request to the Nigerian government to extradite
Kashamu to the US. The US Embassy in Abuja
and the Attorney General Office in Chicago, USA
have refused official comment on anything
related to the Kashamu case.
Pending approval from the presiding Judge,
Justice Ibrahim Buba, Kashamu has filed a
committal suit against the Attorney General of
Federation and the Chairman of the NDLEA
denouncing them for contempt of the court.
Previously the NDLEA position was that the now
Senator-elect Kashamu was innocent of these
drug offences, citing that it was a case of
mistaken identity.
These two contrasting stances suggest that the
NDLEA’s involvement with the extradition is
based on larger international and national
interests to extradite Kashamu for future
peaceful relations with the U.S., according to
one analyst.
In response the NDLEA filed a preliminary
objection challenged the jurisdiction of the court
to entertain Kashamu’s contention.
The NDLEA lawyer, A.M. Sunday, said that the
organization has filed a motion which will
reverse the May 26th, 2015 order of the court
which dispersed the 50 operatives that seized
Kashamu’s home.
Kashamu’ lawyer, Mr. R.A. Oluyede, claims the
NDLEA’s claim is not relevant. Oluyede has
encouraged the judge to prevent the NDLEA
from oversteeping legal jurisdictions. He says
the court should repeal the NDLEA”s warrants of
arrest that attempt to extradite Kashamu.
Oluyede also sought a court order that calls on
the Inspector General of Police to issue
additional security for Kashamu so he is
protected from any attempts on his life.
In a bench ruling, Judge Buba declined any of
the new orders presented, instructed all involved
parties to cease from action that undermined
the court, and said the matter was adjourned
until June 19th.

Is see nothing than just a typo error
So what's ur claim @OP?

Is that a white polar bear?

nmanma1:
why looking outside where pretty gals full naija.

He needed a wife not just pretty girl, who will continuously demand for iphone 8 even before it is released

But y are all white? Hmmm I sense a frat here

I.T should be scraped, I don't knw y government initiated it in the first when they know there won't be a space for us at the labor market to fix in.......I've been submitting my I.T letters for 6months now, yet no one is ready to pay, just at home sleeping and gambling around the street

Not a selfie, guess a camera was given to an hunter to take the pinsures

Its a welcome development

daben1:
you've been sleeping with your wife for four years now yet no pregnancy and just one se.x, the girl is pregnant, do you need an Angel to come and tell you that you're potent? Sorry to say this, fom all indications, if truely you're responsible for the pregnancy, then the problem is from your wife and not you!

Sir before I met the other lady its been months I've slept with my wife cos she's having a church yearly fasting for 40 days, we've agreed on it that it would let her be

misspicy:
This is a very sensitive issue....
OP,i tink if ur wife hears abt ur escapade with Adesewa,she will be really heartbroken and may divorce you.
On the other hand,this is a test of her love for you because you did not do it intentionally.
But are u sure of the paternity of that child?
i tink Adesewa has sumtyn shez not telling.
The best thing to do now is to pray for forgiveness from God,af a heart to heart discussion with ur wife and hope that she understands.

I could see frm her intentions, she told me directly that I may not believe but if I wanted a DNA she's won't mind, but she made it clear also that its my call if only I want her to keep the pregnancy, if it left for her own decision, she would go for abortion has she's not ready yet,,,that statement alone scared me

veegirl:
i'm sorry but i've seen lots of movies with this story line.

But if its true, then i think the only logical thing for u to do is to tell ur wife everything. Starting from how u cant father a child. Be prepared for the worse. She might even leave....but dont stop begging her.

I fear I might lose that innocent lady........*sobs*

CertifiedFreak:
Dude, two ladies ain't enough to give you a heart attack. Wife the other, your wife's indebted to her already so should make for a seamless coexistence.

Sir i tot of that but, at same time I felt guilty as I lied to her about my condition for 4yrs, she has waited too long to loose me in the end, and again I only felt attraction for the other lady, I love my wife more

veegirl:
Is dis real? Cos it doesnt sound real to me

Why would you say that?

****Pls warning before you read, I want you to knw this is type on a mobile phone, and again I plead with you pls and pls try and finish reading this story before your comments thanks........***











Without wasting much of time this is my story
I was at a bar very close to my place of work, with the major motive of getting drunk, I had always visit the bar each time I remember wat d doctor told me, 3yrs ago, dat I may not be able to father a child with my low sperm count, I knw within me dat I've wasted lots of my sperm, in some useless relationships, before deciding to get married so I assume its my punishment, I taught of dis statement several tym only for me to end up getting drunk, another thing that captured my peace is conceding with d doctor not to tell my wife, the woman that came into my life when I had nothing, she accepted me just for the sake of love, no matter how hard I tried to show her the love she deserved, this piece of secret wouldn't just let me, now its been 4yrs after, she hasn't knw yet, hmmmmmm! I was abt to finish d 6th bottle of my beer when I felt a hand touching me, I looked back to see a young beautiful lady telling me something I can't really comprehend, d only thing my brain could translate was that she's so beautiful and light skinned, she came closer, picked something on the floor which I studied carefully happen to be my car key, hey thanks I manage to collect the key frm her, she looked at my hand and return her face back to my eyes then said "u r married nd yet u find pleasure drinking dis much, are u having issues u would like to discuss?" I looked at her, if only she had knw my intentions, if only she's knws hw I wish to talk it out wt sm1, without relenting I offer her the next seat, then speak out everything in me, she felt sorry for me, she asked if I could drive myself home, I manage to say yes only for me to stand up frm d chair and fell back to the seat, she picked d car key and helped me out of the bar, I notice I was at the back seat of the moving car, then I slept off, I woke up in the morning looking confused and shocked wen I saw her beside me unclad, I woke her up, then asked where we were, she said its her room, she couldn't allow me to drive alone after the discussion, and she asked me several tymz my address but I wouldn't wake up frm my slumber to say smtin sensible enuf, then I asked her y she was unclad, had smtin happened btw us, there she started, that she was lonely and depressed that was the reason she came to the bar in the 1st place, she just quit her relationship of 15 months wt her overseas boifrnd, when she received his wedding pictures and a letter frm him begging her to forgive him as he has to marry the white lady for him to able to stay abroad after his visa has expired, that he would definitely come back for her, she narrated, she was confused and wanted get drunk too, when she met me at the bar, hearing this made me felt sorry for her too..... After all this conversation we ended up having another 2 rounds of sex, then we both decided to call it a quit as she knws am married and I knw her bf may come for her anytime too....but we both really helped each other to get off the thinking stress that very day, we exchanged num, her name was so sweet to save on my contact (Adesewa) remembering my wife could be asking strange question if I used that name, I quickly changed it to (my Boss) and I left for home. I met my wife waiting all night for me, I immediately lied that I went for an urgent meeting with my client in another city, and my batry went down to make a call, I apologized, then she gave me a hug, she stepped back and looked at me, then said darling u looked rough, did u by any chance get into drinking again, she has warned me never to take alcohol anymore, I left her and went inside the rest room, my heart filled wt remorse nd regret, I love her very much, several times I think ow life would be witout her, two weeks after my meeting wt Adesewa, I saw her missed calls, I was wondering why she would call me 1st, could it be that she wanted more of wat we did? But we've agreed it was a coincidence, I tried to wave it off my mind and continue my work, I got home to met my wife packing some clothes inside her traveling box, was curious and asked what's going on, she smiled and said hav u forgotten next week is my sisters wedding ceremony? Ooooo My God I screamed, darling I've forgotten, am sorry so u will be leaving for the preparation? She replied yes, the following day she left it was a 7hours traveling. Since its been 2days she hav left I try to ceased d opportunity to call adesewa back to see to the reason for her missed calls weeks ago, I dialed her num, she picked up greeted me then said we need to talk but where she is now, she can't speak freely, I asked if we can meet @ bar she said she had traveled for an occasion of one of her old frnd, dat she will be back next week, I dropped the call, thinking of wat she could want to talk about, or she want to blackmailed me? No she has a nice job than to involve herself in black mailing, while waiting patiently for both adesewa and my wife to return back to the city, I heard my phone ringing, it was my wife, she sounded so excited, I asked her what happened she said "honey I just met an old skul frnd I lost her contact 4yrs ago, I can't even believe we were staying in the same city all dis while, we will be coming home together to meet you" oooh! I replied her wt same excitement, she once told me her regret in life was not remembering her old frnd num offhand, she did sometin great for her, that she can't forget, I asked her wat did she do for you to hav said that? She always end up saying its school stuff jare. After droping the call I received another call 45mins after it was Adesewa, I picked it, she went straight to the point, "hello Tunji am 4weeks pregnant and u r responsible for it, what do u want to do with it?" Yeeeeee! I wanted to scream, I wanted to laugh, but I can't just believed her like that, the doctor said I can't father a child, how come? She was still waiting for my ans on the phone, wen she added that if I didn't believe her, she wouldn't mind to terminate it before its too late, there I shouted pls don't do that, give me some time to think it over, she said she will only give me a week, after then she won't wait before she terminate the pregnancy, has she's not ready to settle down with a married man.
Two days after I my wife called she's on her way, so I shud wait for her at home, my heart started pounding, if only this pregnancy was for my wife I would hav been the happiest person by nw, I reasoned with my mind could it be true, does it mean I cn nw father a child? Can I keep dis away frm my wife? Hmmmm so after hours of thinking I decided I must keep the secret away frm my wife no matter wat happens, then later I will figure out wat to do wt Adesewa issue, I was in the middle of this thinking wen I head a car driving in the compound, it must hav been my wife, I sensed frm the car horn, I immediately adjusted, she shouted Honey am back frm the corridor, I opened the door believe me I was about to collapse wen I saw my wife wt Adesewa smiling and laughing seriously ,we both looked shocked seeing each other, my wife said honey this is that my old school frnd I lost her contact, my wife came closer to me, saying honey she was the one that helped me with my final paper exam wen i suddenly fall sick 2hrs to the exam, adesewa sat for me to make me graduate that year, making her to hav an extra year has she finished mine before writing her own paper that day and time wasn't on her side to finish 2 questions on time............ She noticed as she was talking both of us were full of tears, Adesewa what's wrong? She asked? But sewa can't manage to say anything, than to rush out of the house, my wife turned to me, Tunji do u knw her smwhere? I said yes, but dis stupid tears spoiled the own drama, it kept rushing out........she was confused, I told her to give more time to settle down my brain, its been 3days now, my wife has been waiting patiently for an explanation, Adesewa has refused to picked my calls,..........am confused who to settle matter with first my wife or the woman with my first child, as I don't knw wat Adesewa might end up doing with the pregnancy. This is my story only a mutured advice can't help me, what should I do? Should I visit Adesewa 1st and settle with her or her my wife 1st
Will my wife understand my relationship wt Adesewa was an accident?

*Just confused*
That this point what should be my priority?

talk2tosep:
Putting 12-15yr old kids in detention is an abuse..

So if those 15yrs children gang up killing sm1 close to you, wat would u call that? Encouragement?

suraaj:
Opeyemi joshua e no go better for you in this generation.Amen.scammer.

Yeeeeeeeeee! Could dat be a rain of curse or means of expression??

Only a foool will offer u an advice........when u knw u ain't for it y did u flirt with her in d 1st place............

Akon has always been my best humble and decent musician of all time........... I hope Nigerians learn frm dis icon, not only his behaviors but he's lyrics too......especially that "Mama Africa" and the song for senegal

That mouth thou!

I notice majority of we males, hate going to night vigils........ Or someone waking you up in the middle of the night

Terribu

Carnivore *****I Over my Dick wt d blood of jesus

I will be back wen it trend

Hey most times I do doubt if God ans prayers truly, abt that Job it all over my heart, I fasted for 1st tym d decision was taken by me, I woked in middle of the night and prayed....... Only to received a message dat I was not choosen among the just concluded NIS recruitment..........since then the motive to pray just wiped out of me