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slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright....
god of men on the beat..

Women are too gullible..you can easily pull the wool over their eyes...or rather they can easily be dissuaded and persuaded

Please being duped has absolutely nothing to do with gender, when u desperately need something everything would look like it, being gullible has nothing to do with gender.

There are women very strong willed thanmost men and lots of men very strong willed than women, a thief would always look for a suitable prey. (PS it is only God that knows the real truth)

Agugbadin:
CCC is not a house of God that is referred to in the scripture. The woman made a mistake to trust a CCC pastor in the first place, they prey on women and girls.

Please if you have never attended CCC and non of you sisters or relative has been duped then don't say what u don't know, that one person stole doesn't mean every one is a thief and that u don't believe in CCC doesn't make it less of a church, it is only God Almighty that knows the truth.

kareemkamil:
Remain Oyedepo wey go enter prison soon, by the grace of God

You are just angry!

THERE IS SOME THING SPECIAL ABOUT YOU
Arise, shine; for your light has come! And the glory of the Lord is risen upon you.

People might have said to you, “Why are you so lucky?” or “You seem to be looking younger and younger,” or “There is so much bad news these days, yet you seem untroubled by them.”

Now, the people of the world don’t have spiritual discernment. They can only go by your physical appearance, behaviour and what happens to you. In other words, if they notice something different about you, it is because they see the evidence of God’s glory on your life—in your family and work life, health and finances.

Your friends and colleagues may have told you that you stand out from the rest as though a spotlight were on you. Indeed, this is so because of Christ in you, the hope of glory. (Colossians 1:27) When God’s glory rises upon you, your words carry weight, even if you are not eloquent. So when your words change people’s lives, you know that it is not you. It is the Lord!

You don’t have to be a straight-A student or someone able to speak the Queen’s English. You may be foul-mouthed like the disciple Peter, but when God changes you and His glory rises upon you, and you stand up and preach, 3,000 people get saved! (Acts 2:14–41) What is important is that God gives weight to what you say.

You might be a nobody like Joseph, a slave cast aside and forgotten in a dungeon. Yet, the greatest king on earth at that time sought Joseph out to have him interpret his dreams. In other words, God will give to you answers that the people of the world do not have.

Maybe it is your hands. When you lay hands on the sick, they recover. Maybe it is your ability to give counsel that is spot on, or your ability to speak into their future with a word of knowledge or word of wisdom from God.

“The Gentiles shall come to your light, and kings to the brightness of your rising.” (Isaiah 60:3) My friend, when you see this happening, it is because the people of the world are drawn to the glory of the Lord which has risen upon you!

Thought For The Day
People of the world are drawn to the glory of the Lord which has risen upon you!
http://www.hollanikky.com.ng/2017/09/there-is-some-thing-special-about-you.html

No evil shall befall you, nor shall any plague come near your dwelling; for He shall give His angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways.

Don’t you just sense your Father’s love in these words? Like a mother hen that spreads her wings over her chicks to protect them, God will “cover you with His feathers, and under His wings you shall take refuge”. (Psalm 91:4) So don’t be fearful of accidents, terrorist attacks, diseases or tsunamis because your heavenly Father loves you and watches over you.

One of the ways He does this is with His angels. God has declared that no evil, plague or accident will befall you or even come near your dwelling “for He shall give His angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways”. When He says “no”, He means “no-thing”! And if He tells His angels to “keep you in all your ways”, it means round-the-clock divine protection for you!

Let me share with you a true story. A Christian was flying his plane when he realized that it was low on fuel. He contacted the air traffic controller and asked for assistance to land. But he was told that he could not land because there was a heavy fog. Then, the radio went silent and the plane entered the fog.

He was flying blindly when he suddenly heard over his headphones, “Pull up! Pull up!” He pulled up just in time to avoid hitting the expressway! Then, the voice said, “Follow my instructions and I will help you land safely.”

He obeyed and landed perfectly. Thinking that it was the air traffic controller who had helped him, he immediately looked for him to thank him. But when he found him, the man said, “Listen, we lost contact with you when I told you that there was a heavy fog. None of us managed to speak to you after that.” The pilot realized then that God had sent an angel to lead him to safety.

Beloved, your heavenly Father is watching over you. That is why no evil will befall you, nor will any plague come near your dwelling. And He has a host of angels to keep you in all your ways!

Thought For The Day
Don’t be fearful because your heavenly Father and His angels are watching over you.
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Please don’t let anybody, including yourself, diminish your potential!
You are a goldmine!
You are an asset!
You absolutely have something to offer to the world!
Be willing and ready to discover who you are in Christ! And run with the picture God shows you.
We all have the potential to be positive reference points in the world but having potential is not enough! Be ready to be stretched! Be ready to be uncomfortable! Be ready to have less sleep!
Being single shouldn’t stop you!
READ MORE HERE:http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2017/02/know-your-worth-give-your-worth.html#more

Be...
...your self
...Positive
...Thankful
...Decisive
...Merciful
...Persistent
...Honest
...Excellent..........
READ MORE: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/12/be.html

PRAISING GOD (PART 2)
Second, praising God is useful and favorable for us. By praising God, we are reminded of the greatness of God! His power and presence in our lives is reinforced in our understanding. "Praise the Lord, for the Lord is good; sing praise to his name, for that is pleasant" (Psalm 135:3). 
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A disastrous foundation for marriage is basing your choice of a spouse on their physical appearance. Please note that physical appearance does not exist perpetually. You must look beyond the external when making the decision of whom to marry. Proverbs 31:30 says “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD,...........
READ MORE: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/09/look-inward.html

In today’s society many people feel their status is dependent on their job or position in the church. Because of this mindset, they’re afraid someone else may get promoted ahead of them. Jealousy causes you to try to be important in the eyes of man. If you have this problem, understand that God has you where you are for a reason. He knows what’s in your future, and He may have you in training for it right now. There’s a big difference between being able and being ready to do a specific thing.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/11/dealing-with-angergod-way-part-2.html

DEALING WITH ANGER......GOD'S WAY (PART 1)
Everybody has to deal with anger from time to time. But what’s the best way to handle it? To answer that question, we must first understand what anger really is. Anger is an emotion often characterised by feelings of great displeasure, indignation, hostility, wrath and vengeance. Many times, reacting in anger is how we express our dissatisfaction with life. It’s defined in the Greek language as the strongest of all passions. Anger begins with a feeling that’s often expressed in..........
READ MORE: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/11/dealing-with-angergod-way-part-1.html

Ask yourself " If I dont take action now, what will it ultimately cost me"
When a procrastinator has finally made up his mind, the opportunity has usually passed by. When duty comes knocking at your gate, welcome him in, for if you bid him wait he will depart only to come once more and brin seven other duties to your door.
READ MORE HERE: www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2015/10/procrastination-is-fertiliser-that.html

GET TO KNOW GOD!
by Joyce Meyer

There was a time in my life when I struggled with all types of fears and insecurities, constantly worried about the future, my job, my ministry, and my family. Needless to say, I wasn’t really enjoying my life!


However, over time, the Lord helped me to change…and He helped me understand an important key to truly enjoying life. It all begins with what the apostle Paul says in Philippians 3:10…something I believe we should all pray regularly…

“[For my determined purpose is] that I may know Him [that I may progressively become more deeply and intimately acquainted with Him…understanding the wonders of His person more strongly and more clearly]…” (AMP).

You see, when we get to know God—really know Him—it fills us with hope and confidence because we realise He’s greater than any....................
Read more:http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2015/03/get-to-know-god.html

U can't b hot n cold at d same tym, its either ure christain or a Muslim or an atheist, u av to blve in sumfin.......n infact the act of blving in God is xtianity......u can't say ure nt a christain but u blve in God n do his will......if u dnt blve in Christianity so how den do u knw DAT there is a God to blve in??

FORGIVENESS (PART 2)

The practice of forgiveness has been shown to reduce anger, hurt depression and stress and leads to greater feelings of hope, peace, compassion and self confidence. Practicing forgiveness leads to healthy relationships as well as physical health. It also influences our attitude which opens the heart to kindness, beauty, and love.
READ MORE HERE: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/09/forgiveness-part-2.html

Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offence, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.

We must forgive as Christ forgives us, when you don't forgive some one, you give them power over your.........
Read more here: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/09/forgiveness-part-1.html

THINK THANKS
Be aggressively thankful, when it comes to living, do you take things for granted or take them with gratitude? Count God's blessings, don't discount them. Thanksgiving is the attitude of a productive life, no duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks.................,
Read more here: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2015/12/think-thanks.html#more

Have you ever asked yourself why some Christians are constantly beset with overwhelming challenges, sicknesses and defeat if God’s promise, “No weapon formed against you shall prosper” (Isaiah 54:17), is true?

Well, this promise comes with a condition—“In righteousness you shall be established”. When you are.........
Read more here: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2015/03/be-established-in-gods-righteousness.html

Have you ever asked yourself why some Christians are constantly beset with overwhelming challenges, sicknesses and defeat if God’s promise, “No weapon formed against you shall prosper” (Isaiah 54:17), is true?

Well, this promise comes with a condition—“In righteousness you shall be established”. When you are.........
Read more here: http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2015/03/be-established-in-gods-righteousness.html

When I started using Biro in my primary school,
and I made a mistake, I would try hard to erase it.
Sometimes I would use chalk, but later it would
reappear. So I began to use saliva, it worked only
to leave holes in my book. My teachers.......
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THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

Set a guard, O Lord, before my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips.
- Psalm 141:3

Have you ever said something that hurt someone else…or perhaps caused unfavorable consequences for yourself?

I know I have. For years I just said whatever I felt like saying, but thank God I have learned that words are powerful. What you say has the power to impact your life—and the lives of others—for good or bad. So it is wise to think about what you’re going to say before you say it.

You should speak only words of encouragement that will build people up and make them feel better. You get many opportunities every day to put this into practice, but it requires real discipline and determination.

You may have been hurt by someone’s words…or perhaps you have hurt someone with your words. But you can change that, starting now. It will take prayer and discipline, but God will help you develop and exercise control over the words you speak.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/09/think-before-you-speak.html

It’s important to know your worth when it comes to marriage. Please don’t marry anyone who feels like he or she is doing you a favour by getting married to you.

If a man or woman feels you are unworthy of them, loose them and let them go! Don’t beg anybody to love you and please don’t claim God told you that is your spouse; God values you and He expects your spouse to do the same! Be wise! Anyone who marries you like that would never esteem you and you would be most miserable.

It is better to be on your own than live such a life. Marry the one who considers you a blessing and a positive addition to his/her life! Whether you are a man or woman, please view yourself as valuable, as top class, as unique, and carry yourself that way; stop settling for just anybody; God would send you a spouse to match your worth.
God bless you!
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/value-your-self.html

Encouraging Bible Verses for the Brokenhearted (PART 1)

The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit (Psalms 34:18). It is encouraging to read what King David wrote in the previously quoted psalm. We can be healed and delivered from a broken heart.

A broken heart can happen when we lose a loved one such as a spouse or a child or even a beloved pet. Metaphorically, it is that emotional aching in your chest that happens when you are deeply disappointed or grieved over a life circumstance. The Bible has many other verses that can encourage the brokenhearted as well. Here are just twenty encouraging Bible verses for the brokenhearted that I found.

The Lord is Strong; Do not Fear

Psalms 73:26 My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Isaiah 41:10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Trust the Lord for Deliverance and Healing

Psalms 55:22 Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.

Psalms 107:20 He sent out his word and healed them, and delivered them from their destruction.

Psalms 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

1 Peter 2:24 He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed.

1 Peter 4:19 Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/encouraging-bible-verses-for.html

NOT SELF CONFIDENCE BUT GOD CONFIDENCE

…Put no confidence or dependence [on what we are] in the flesh and on outward privileges and physical advantages and external appearances.
- Philippians 3:3

Everyone talks about self-confidence. All kinds of seminars are available on confidence, both in the secular world and the church world. Confidence is generally referred to as "self-confidence" because we all know that we need to feel good about ourselves if we are ever to accomplish anything in life. We have been taught that all people have a basic need to believe in themselves. However, that is a misconception. Actually, we do not need to believe in ourselves—we need to believe in Jesus in us. We do not dare feel good about ourselves apart from Him. In the above scripture, when the apostle Paul instructs us to put no confidence in the flesh, he means just what he says—do not put confidence in yourself or in anything you can do apart from Jesus.

We do not need self-confidence; we need God-confidence! Many people spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find that when they get to the top, their ladder was leaning against the wrong building. Others struggle, trying to behave well enough to develop a measure of confidence in themselves, only to endure repeated failures. Both of these activities produce the same results: emptiness and misery.

I have found that most people fall into one of two categories: (1) They never accomplish anything, no matter how hard they try, and end up hating themselves because of their lack of achievement, or (2) they have enough natural talent to accomplish great things, but take all the credit for their achievements, which fills them with pride. Either way, they are a failure—in the eyes of God. The only truly successful person in God's eyes is the individual who knows he is nothing in himself, but everything in Christ. Our pride and boasting are to be in Jesus alone, and He is to have all the glory (credit due) for whatever accomplishments we may achieve.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/not-self-confidence-but-god-confidence.html

SPEAK INTO YOUR LIFE TODAY!
*Your year is come! (Isaiah 63:4)

Declare: MY YEAR IS COME!

*You shall be walking in greater weights of glory in the name of Jesus!

*The things that eyes have not seen nor ears heard shall be delivered to you this season!

*Whatever is resisting your glory shall not survive this prayer and fasting season in the name of Jesus!

*Every terminal disease in your body is destroyed by the anointing in the name of Jesus!

*Breakthroughs and exploits shall be your testimony in Jesus' name!

*Every devil that dares you comes under a curse!

*As the Lord lives, beginning from this hour, every devil that dares you dies!

*Every pain and discomfort in your body disappears now in the name of Jesus!

*I command that foul spirit of infirmity to get off your life in Jesus’ name!

*Every oppression of the devil sitting on your destiny is unseated in the name of Jesus!

*That plague of barrenness and low sperm count is cursed in the name of Jesus!

*That recurrent fever in your body ends today!

*Every of your encounter throughout this prayer and fasting season shall open a new chapter in your life!

*I decree your spiritual ears open to hear what the Lord is speaking to you this season in Jesus' name!

*This week is declared your week of testimonies!

*Every of your spiritual investments in the church of God shall return this year as enviable change of levels in the name of Jesus Christ!

*Though you were pitied last year but you will be envied this year!

*Your year is come! (Isaiah 63:4)

Declare: MY YEAR IS COME!
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/speak-into-your-life-today.html

CREATING A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD (PART 2)
Daily events provide continuous opportunities to appreciate the goodness of God in our lives. The warm smile that greets you during a stressful day or the kind words that someone utters your way are some of the ways God interacts with you. Through these experiences we can sensitize our perception of God’s personal intervention, His constant presence, His love and care for us.

Express your faithfulness through action: The Sages suggest another way we can use to build a strong connection with God which is hinted to in the wordmitzvah (Torah’s commandments), the Hebrew root of which is tzavta (companionship). Through engaging in various mitzvot we may partner with God’s will through our deeds. Furthermore, Torah study gifts us with a glimpse of infinite wisdom, since He reveals Himself through the holy letters.

Keep working on enhancing the relationship:However, as with any relationship, we must expect ups and downs in our relationship with God. Life is full of stress and trying encounters which throw us into darkness and feelings of being abandoned. Yet, it is of utmost importance to stay loyal and faithful despite of the challenges. This is the definition of unconditional love.

When we find ourselves in the dark, we must remember that we are not alone. The walls are only illusions. We learn this from the verse describing the receiving of the Torah on Mount Sinai: “… and Moshe drew near unto the fog where God was” (Exodus, 20:18). Any separation is an aspect of fog, cloudiness and darkness. However, the numerical value of the words ‘the fog’ in Hebrew is equivalent to the numerical value of the Shechinah (the Divine Presence). From this, we can deduce that God is present even when we are in a place of confusion and are experiencing loss of clarity or cloudiness of mind.

In such dark times, one way of reminding ourselves that He is still there is by simply inviting Him using simple words such as ‘God, I need You in my life.’ Communication is essential when forming a healthy connection between two parties and our relationship with God is no exception. Talking things through while respecting the other’s feelings is paramount for enhancing any relationship. Hearing the other side out and trying to place ourselves in their shoes as best as possible establishes long term feelings of validation. Just as we talk with others, we need to talk to God, trust Him enough to openly reveal ourselves to Him, and listen to His response.

It is crucial to extend time and effort to foster our relationships. Recognising the other’s presence, searching and appreciating their kindnesses, following their suggestions, being loyal and faithful even when it seems that they are distancing themselves from us, and communicating our innermost thoughts may all consume a hefty amount of emotional energy. However, when we exert enough effort, we will be rewarded by finding that both during the joys and vicissitudes of life, the sunshine and the clouds of confusion and fogginess, they are right there with us.

Similarly, God is right there, lovingly directing our every step. Just as we connect to others in all walks of life, we will be rewarded by seeing God in every path of life.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/creating-good-relationship-with-god_10.html

CREATING A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD (PART 1)
One of the best investments we can make in our lives is fostering strong, healthy relationships with those we love. These relationships serve to strengthen our mind and physical health. These attachments show us that we matter to someone else, provide us with opportunities to look outside of ourselves and to give to others.

Unfortunately, the rat race of life often robs us of the time needed to devote and maintain these unions. As a result, many of us suffer without understanding why. We are seemingly thrown into exile – isolated from the world around us and those we love. Though we see the physical form of our loved ones, we cannot feel their loving presence or appreciate their love for us.

The same is often true with our relationship to God. The world carries us away on a rollercoaster ride, distracting us from focusing on life’s essence.

In such cases, we must take a few steps back, recharge, realign and focus on receiving the love that is being directed at us. How? To rebuild the relationship, the first, basic thing to do is to recognize the other’s presence and feel them in our hearts. How can we begin to connect to a Creator if we haven’t dedicated the time to first recognize His existence?

It is vital to implant in our consciousness that there is a Creator – a basic awareness of the presence of God in our lives. As it says in Psalms: “I have set God before me always” (Psalms, 16:. By doing so, we essentially ‘invite’ Him into our life and are able to begin developing a relationship with Him.
So how do we rejuvenate this relationship with our Creator in order to feel His love?

Live consciously with the thought that there is purpose to life: A first step is to actively focus on the fact that nothing happens on its own. We are placed in this world to fulfill specific tasks and must remain mindful of the quest and continually search for purpose. Simply put God is closely involved in every aspect of a person’s life. Think of life’s events as personal notes intended to convey messages. Gradually as we tune in to this idea we will be able to decipher their meaning more readily.

Be aware of life’s gifts: A second step towards fostering this relationship with God is to focus on appreciating everything He has done for us. Next time you find something you have been looking for, show your appreciation by thanking God. Or the next time you miss your bus, actively look for one aspect of goodness in that occurrence, even if it’s just the fact that it gives you an opportunity to practice this exercise.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/creating-good-relationship-with-god_9.html

IMPROVING YOUR SELF ESTEEM (SUMMARY)


Self-esteem often takes practice and commitment. You must value the importance of feeling good about yourself, having self-worth and being comfortable with who you are. The alternative is staying stuck in depression, unhappiness, and negative thoughts.

Begin to practice self-esteem fostering thoughts and behaviors. Start acting as though you believe in yourself and love who you are even if your feelings haven’t caught up. Give yourself legitimate reasons to feel proud, accomplished, and worthwhile through learning, personal growth, goal-setting and achievement.

Once you accept the unique perfection of who you are and what you offer the world, you will find that you are more deserving than anyone of your own love and affection.
God bless you and help you have courage and confidence in your self
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/improving-your-self-esteem.html

41. Be honest with yourself and others
If you are living a lie, telling yourself or others stories about who you are and how you feel, you are entrapping yourself in unhappiness. You must be authentic and accepting to open your heart to self-love.

42. Stay focused on the present moment
It is the only reality. When the past and the future feel painful, focus on the task at hand and do it with your full engagement.

43. Practice gratitude
Every day, write down encouraging words and all that you feel grateful for, all of your blessings, all of the people whose lives have touched you in a positive way.

44. Shift from an inferiority mentality to an equality  mentality
Stop comparing yourself to others and measuring your worth against what they might have and you don’t. View everyone you encounter as your equal and your potential friend, regardless of their station in life, appearance, or intelligence.

45. Keep learning
View yourself as a life-long learner and approach all things with a beginner’s mentality — open, eager, and willing to learn.

46. Re-frame fear
Begin to shift the feelings of fear to energy for change. When you feel fear, use this powerful emotion to take action on something positive and forward-moving.

47. Redefine success
What is success for you? Is it wealth, power, or possessions? Begin to view success in terms of fulfilling experiences, loving relationships, and meaningful work.

48. Set small goals
Every day, set one or two small goals for yourself that are non-negotiable. At the end of a year, you will have achieved more than you ever expected.

49. Study personal evolution
Become a forever student of personal growth and self-improvement. Read, listen, study, and learn about how to live with emotional intelligence and maturity. See personal evolution as a life-long journey.

50. Give away love
Never hesitate to show your love, even if you’ve been hurt by love in the past. The move love you give away, the more it comes back to you. Start with yourself. Begin to love yourself the way you would love your best friend or sibling.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/improving-your-self-esteem.html

31. Be a mentor
Be there for someone who needs support, leadership, and guidance. Their respect will add to your self-respect.

32. Slow down and simplify
An over-scheduled and complicated life will lead to stress and overwhelm. You have no time to make positive changes in your life that help build self-esteem. Begin to clear things off your to-do list and simplify all areas of your life.

33. Detach from the opinion of others
When you worry about what others will think of you, you never feel free to be yourself completely. Begin making choices and decisions based on what you want, not what you think others want for you.

34. Stop gossiping
Gossip may be momentarily powerful and thrilling, but it leaves you with a residue of distaste for yourself. Make a point to stop gossiping.

35. Be an initiator
Don’t wait for others to make the plans, call the shops, or come up with the ideas. Be the initiator, the first responder, the one who takes charge. Practice this even if it feels uncomfortable at first.

36. Learn to manage anger
Anger is often a response to feelings of low self-worth and despair. Find appropriate outlets for your feelings. Express them to a supportive person before they turn to anger.

37. Embrace failure as part of growth
Shift your thinking about perceived failures. See them as a necessary part of growth and learning. Failures are evidence of effort, and you always learn something from them.

38. Stop over-thinking
Jump off the gerbil wheel of repetitive thoughts that percolate constantly in your brain. Instead, take some kind of positive action that is distracting and worthwhile.

39. Eliminate time-wasting behaviors
Find productive, creative, life-affirming ways to spend your time, rather than watching endless hours of TV, surfing the net, or playing video games.

40. Be willing to ask for help
Asking for help and support isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of determination and courage. Asking for help means you are ready for positive change.
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.org/2016/08/improving-your-self-esteem-part-5.html