₦airaland Forum

By naja Haje,
For the life of me i can't remember where in the bible but there is this bit that says your body is the[b] temple of the living God and you should not misuse [/b] it or something like that.

The bible was making a reference to fornication.

It is not clearly written that it is a sin but anything that defiles your body (the temple of the holy Ghost) such as smoking is a sin. I certainly would not want this to turn into a religious discussion but permit me just this post:

The wages of sin is death (Romans 6: 23) . . . does that mean God does not love the sinner? Unfortunately the only way the blood of Christ shed on the cross avails for the sinner is only if he/she repents of sin . . John 3:16.
Its just that simple . . . you sometimes don't need the bible to put things in plain english for u before u begin to connect the dots to understand what it says.

Back to the topic . . . even moralists and atheists think smoking is wrong . . .

My question remains the same, if you see what soda does to your body or what sodium do to your blood pressure, you may think twice before taking them. lack of exercise is another major killer but it's not classified as a sin or are they all sins? ain't we defining these things more than God that created them?

What about sexual habits like cunnilingus and MouthAction b/w married couples  that can infect the giver with yorimus carinii(lol), are they also sinful since it may be abusing the body? Do you know that the female honey pot is meant to be acidic for it to be healthy? If there is any change in the body and it ever becomes neutral, it will become a lethal recipe.

By Naja haje,
Smoking is not a sin.

What it does to your body is disrespect to its creator. It is an insult to have disregard for the beauty of His work. A smoker is basically taking the p*ss with their body.

Same goes for GMF, soda,sodium we consume everyday. I am tired of so many Nigerian christians that translate the bible from their own perspective. Some will swear by their God in heaven that drinking alcohol constitutes a sin when the bible clearly states that it's only sinful when you abuse it. And, where in the bible did the body disrespect come in? that means that those that rarely wash themselves because they can't afford water or soap or toothpaste are offending God?

By Dejiman,
It's such a shame.
I can't believe the level at which we still have Star Illiterate. He as been traveling all around the world please let us ask him how many times he has been sprayed? and even besides that He only belives on what he is going to chop on peoples money.He is not looking at the future.He doesn't know they spend lots of money creating the naira notes, which the effects bounce back on the poor nigerians.
Well as for me The should enforce the law. And Nigerians should start living right. Enough is Enough

To be frank, the Nigerians here spray them with money although you cannot compare it with how much they get sprayed in Naija, besides, most of those guys that spray them are credit card fraudstars and now the feds are chasing them around, they don't usually do it again. KWAM1 is the number one beneficiary from these crooks.

By 4Him,
Dont misquote the bible . . . Love covereth all sins only in the event that the sinner recognises his sins and is repentant.

In that regard . . . no amount of love will make me marry a smoker.

Is smoking a sin? and I didn't see where the bible wrote the only in the event part. Don't add your common sense to the bible abeg.

My sister,if underwear washing was the problem with our Naija men then we have no problem.
You and I live here in America and I'm sure you must know or are friends with some divorced ladies.

The stories would make a single lady swear off Nigerian men.

Shall we start with the cab drivers married to women that eventually become nurses and inferiority complex sets in
or the "business men" that don't bring in shishi from year to year and the wife is slaving away at 3 jobs.
OR the ones that'll accuse their wives of cheating while they themselves are running around with little girls.
But come to all this kporakpo gatherings,these men are the loudest and would insist on being identified by their village titles.
The glitter on their chains and the the smell of their colognes can be perceived from across the hall.
And when you see some of them with their wives in the customary "uniforms".you'll be wondering what possesed such a beautiful elegant woman to marry such an uncooked man but suddenly you remember that his only qualification was living in America

Of course I'm not describing all Nigerian men in America but there are many of them that are a big disgrace and their families back home have no clue
that the mansion built in Mbano was from the wife's sweat and suffering.
Of course they'll never disclose that the wife is the one really working.
some of our men here need a real kick in the groins

On the issue of nurses in America, I may disagree here because in as much as they claim they make big money, they may not be making more than their cab driver husbands. We women have a big mouth especially when we contribute to household expenditure. I know what I make right now as a pharmacist and there is no much difference with what I made as a truck driver. So, If my husband is driving a truck in America, one can easily conclude that I am the chief bread winner because of my profession and you know that nurses make way less than pharmacists here. A nurse that works 16hr/day x 6 days/wk may end up making 100-120K/PA (MAX)and face IRS with their arm and leg taxes. A cab driver that works at the same rate will not make less either.

A friend of mine who's a physician told me that her husband is a car sales man and makes more than twice her salary( he makes about 350K/PA) while my friend make about 130K/PA. So, you see.

I am against those men that stay home doing nothing while expecting their wives to labour around to feed them and some even go ahead to use the money she makes on their secret wives in Nigeria. But, America has dignity in labour unlike Nigeria and we women shouldn't be biting our husband's or boyfriends because they are not nurses or doctors even if we make more than them. I know a relation here that went to nursing school on her fiancees bank account, she never worked for a day, graduated and got married to him. After a while, she's all over him calling him names and now they are divorced. She took their kids away and threatened to throw him in jail if he miss a single child support. I may be a defender of women, womanist etc but acts like that from a relation is way off the hook. If we clamour for our Naija men to respect and nurture us, we should also give something back. Don't use people to get to where you are because you'll pay for it someday. I know my cousin will one day face the music.

By Germine,
If the partner claims to love you and dosnt love him/herself someone smoking surely dosnt love him/herself

@bold, depends on your ideology. Personally, I neither smoke nor drink and am yet to have any association with those that do but, smokers will be quick to label you a hypocrite when you condemn them for smoking while carrying a can of soda or coffee or a wrap of junk sandwich. Many things are dangerous to health my dear, even love itself because it leads to heartbreak and heartbreak is the number one cause of depression in women. GMF are as dangerous as ciggy's and we eat them out here everyday. The tobacco stench gives me sleeze balls tho.

By Tpia,
is it just me, or is it always the same set of guys following hotfunmi around?

make una talk true o. All this I am fighting I am fighting- na so so emotion o.

oyb: hmmm. Men emotion no dey stable like that o- na pendulum wey fit swing from one extreme to another anytime. Trust me.

I just dey feel for that fine boy wey dey ya profile

You dey mind them, especially OYB that is tripping because he can't have a woman as hot as me. .

By Oyb,
behold, a lady of low standards. if only  all women could be suprised/pleased by washing undies!  we men would have it made! instead of expensive choclates, perfumes etal - just wash her undies!

was that your val gift? a certified commitment to wash your undies for the rest of 2008?

I am now too cheap?  expensive perfumes and chocolates, I can afford, what I literally need from a man are little little things that will please me. Funmi is not material crazy.

By OzomaTv
Babe you See where we get it difficult to handle this stuff with our own sister, they deviate it from it normal route to an authoritative command zone.
If I would do that washing of the almighty undies it will be definitely when am running the washing machine not exclusively.

this your under wears washing has a deferent undertune, it sounds authoritative and in that case you're inviting my opposition stand.

_{Funmi shakes head}, Nigerian men and their ego! How did you decipher my undertone? I think what you are feeling is your greatest fear: "women always want to command us".

By Gamine,

Love is a choice not by force

Is love really a choice? it makes some people helpless and nobody chooses to be helpless.

By skyone,
That depends if the man love you sincerely, if he does 'he will surely stop smoking even before the wedding day.

Don't rely on words from nicotene addicts. They'll always go back to the shitniz.

By Aisha,
My Ex used to smoke but he would always leave the room when he wanted to smoke. He gave it up sha on his own later in the relationship. My Life Philosophy is don't bother me, and i wont bother you. As long as what you do will not directly hurt me, then you can live your life as you please.

Isn't the tobacco stench that follows after the smoking bothering you?

Love covereth all sins according to the bible. Will you date or marry a smoker you love so much  knowing full well the health risk from second hand smoking?

hotfunmi,
as long as madam has no objections about washing my undies, whats the fuss?

moreover, it would seem there are no washing machines in maryland(abi na maryland for lagos?). . .which is why you seem to take this whole business of
' washing your significant other's pant ' so seriously.

Even maryland lagos also have washing machines, so? And why must madam first agree to wash yours before you do hers? can't you surprise your woman?

you're going too far but, if you're looking for a house boy it's another case.

It has nothing to do with being a houseboy, it's the spirit behind it that matters.

Jairinzho,
Mo da'ran ,
Funmi,I go wash your undies too?

*looks for the fastest search engine to get tips on 'washing your wife's undies'*

Are you not the same guy that threatened to slap a woman here? Na pankere i go buy for you.

someone must be obssessed with me. . .

for your information - with the exception of cooking, i engage in all household chores. so go slander someone else.

So you wash undies too ? Why can't you cook? You can learn it if you want to.

Ayettymama,
actually we do spray dollars here in london, even your precious naira!

Why not spray pounds sterlings or Euros? Do you spend dollars in London?

By Islander,
Excuse you!!!!!!!! Yea I am a WOMAN, The kind who wouldn't think twice about stepping on your ass if you step out of line( ask Eldee)

Thank you. Let him know that you are not the kind of woman that deal with BOYS.

By Almond,
Now that's what I want to know.

Like smell na crime--No be so God create am?

That is the one I do not understand. I have been looking for explanations too.

Ah-ah? Everywhere you go you keep hearing this kind of rubbish. What a whole Oyinbo, Indian, European, Hispanic you name it worship. These bush African men will be talking rubbish about it.

Highly annoying.

If it an oyinbo or akata or jammo own woman's own now them go bury them heads inside there without coming out for fresh air.

Useless people!

Na them say them like stock fish oooooooooooooooooh!

Lol, Imagine that guy saying their bum smell like carnation? These boys can go any lenght in throwing cheap shots without thinking that some stranger can google this thread online and believe the crap. Hissssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!

By OzimaTv,

I think this is the time I should surface who I'm.
In the terms of domestic works, a whitewoman knows that it's the duty of both to cook,wash,clean and take care of the babies.
While our sisters claimed that it's the job made only for them (women) since the culture saids so. .

Sisters don't claim it's a job meant for them alone, it's naija men that make it look like they cannot boil even hot water. Ask how many of them living in Nigeria when they cooked or cleaned last. The woman does the same job they do outseide the home these days, sometimes more, goes to agboju after work, cooks, feeds the kids, read lullaby to them and after that, he'll want some reciprocating in the bed at night. Where will the woman get the energy for reciprocating? is she a beast of burden?

Thank you for being a quintessential Nigerian male, I hope men like OYB will be humble enough to adopt your style. We want our men to see washing our undies as a normal routine.

By TexCee,

I TRUST NWANDO. IT'S ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE SHE RUINS THE THREAD. USELESS TBIBALIST

I think Ajisafe started it. He's so unschooled,ghetto and ignorant.

By ajisafe,
@ ALERT-EFCC,
Craze dey worry you and your folks. Na KSA you dey disrespect like that? Me I no blame you o -- mention one important and internationally celebrated artist that ever came out of your barren Iboland. O o ni sanfaani laye (Amin).

Craze and 4-1-9 na your culture for Iboland. O pari o!

Shariputra, all dharmas are marked with emptiness, they do not appear or disappear, are not tainted or pure, do not increase or decrease. Therefore in emptiness no form, no feelings, perceptions, impulses, consciousness. No eyes, no ears, no nose, no tongue, no body,no brain, no mind. No color, no sound, no smell, no taste, no touch, no object of mind, no realm of eyes and so forth until no realm of mind consciousness. You are a dharma.

Its only a matter of time . . . the name "Jesus Christ" will soon become outlawed.

whareva! Some people practising Islam are looking for the slightest excuse to destabilize the world peace. Where were they when the world was adopting the Gregorian calendar? If it were the other way round, ex: BM(before mohammed) etc, do you think it'll be a peaceful transition to BCE?

Fine! I will still wait for Osi to come and tell me where he is from, and what he is. To quote you he said "Everywhere", which means nowhere! All this one we are typing here is "our" own version. I will wait for him to define himself and I do not even think the poor boy even knows as a result of too much waka waka by the parents!

Na prodigal son now! A fine one if a may add!

Another of our "Igbo" brother when do loss!

Imagine him washing and pressing her underwears now but if na Naija chic now, he'll demand ridiculous respect from her.

By Blacklion,
come lagos, make ah show you big girls working for mtn and zenith bank who are third wives today. from there, make we go abuja, make ah show you lawyers and perm secs who are 3rd wives today

the fact is that women do not all reason the same way - just like men. there will always be women prepared to share men while the nwandos and michelins see it as an abomination. every woman's situation is different and she will respond to such issues based on her situation

e.g. the marriage options available to a 35 year old naija woman doctor in naija are not the same as she would have in the us. in america, she is an extremely hot cake just for being a doctor alone and dozens of naija guys will be begging for hand in marriage. even nurse and pharmacist sef, them dey beg them for marriage talk less of a whole doctor. but in naija, 35 year old female doctors are 2 for ten kobo. come to LUTH or UCH and you will see them plenty. so the one that is in naija's options will be more limited and she then considers being a second or third wife.

as for my personal take on polygamy? you women una wahala too much! one woman's wahala is more than enough for me for a lifetime!!!

but i respect the right of those men and women who feel they can cope with polygamy to do so as long no one is conned or forced into it

These women are desperate to attach a man's last name to theirs because the Nigerian society still frowns at women that are not married. So, it'll take some time for Naija women to understand that they don't have to be married inorder to be happy or pursue their career. Marriage is not a necessity, rather, it's a luxury and a damn expensive one at that.

By Tpia,
like Simibrazil pointed out when she was here, make all of them practice menage a trois, or menage a million, for inside bedroom.

ie no need for sex by appointment. Just have the frigging sex at the same time, with all the wives "working" on the husband.

And the 'menage a billion' will soon turn to 'menage a heart attack' one day for you.

By 4Him,
It also works both ways . . . most of the nigerian women who claim to want to "know" . . . who claim to be concerned that nigerian men are more willing to slave for foreign girls are simply two-faced. Many would drop their pants for a white boy in a flash . . . however since they know they can't get that chance (no thanks to their low self esteem . . . cloaked by pretended aggression) . . . they hate on others with foreign partners. the only difference between a white girl and a naija girl is simply the color of their skin, sometimes the white girls tend to be even more desperate to make u happy. The nigerian chic on the other hand . . . God help us!

Imagine! which low self esteem busta? You think oyibo men and AA's don't hit on us?  I suggest you beware of those 'desperate' white women because if they are all that, they won't be desperate at all. You Naija guys sure do have a very big mouth; Y'all believe you are priceless and an icon akin to P Diddy or Mike Jordan.

By 4Play,
The key underlying fact is,Nigerian men are a reflection of the Nigerian society which society,Nigerian women are an integral part of.Both genders reflect each other,both the negative and positive qualities

Really?  we are a reflection of each other? which part did women take in most  Naija men's randy nature?

By uch2nna,
We are always going to be putting down our own. Naija girls will be like , Naija men aint shit, uncouth and abrasive (to quote spoilt). I believe that at least some of u here have Nigerian dads and I don't think You see them in this light. I am still waiting to see a thread that somehow praises the African men. Mara of fact the only praise that the African man gets comes from even the unliklely quarters ( Foreign women). We just have to learn how to appreciate our own. If we don't , who will.

How do you expect 'praise' from Naija women when all you do is put them down and say their arse is smelly?

i'll personally see to it that u get the pankere u will need.

I will use your own pankere to flog you.