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Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by almondjoy(f): 5:58pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
tpia: Shhhhhhhhhhhhh! Leave them abeg, they have bonded well! |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by oziomatv(m): 6:01pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Hot.Funmi: I thank god for that. Hot.Funmi: As I said and keep on saying still stick to it, I'll do anything to keep my woman happy as long as she accept it as what we do for ourselves. But to command is not okey for 2 that live together. Why not tell me what happens in your Val. day? |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by almondjoy(f): 6:03pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Hot.Funmi: Like they do for the other "races"! Yes! Supported. I know it is a 2-way street. The guys just need to try harder since women have done that since time immemorial! The Nigerian guys do not even think not to try at all. That is the problem. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by HotFunmi1(f): 6:08pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
By Tpia,You dey mind them, especially OYB that is tripping because he can't have a woman as hot as me. . |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 6:12pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Personally I cook, wash, clean, take care of my lovely son with passion and my wife do tell me that she find's me sexy when ever am cooking. And on several occasion I visited my boss house a man with €350ml euro worth of personal assets he sometimes wash the glass he used in drinking wine without calling for help, and that never made him inferior before his wife. and assuming that I happen to stay with any black I'll do so regardless of skin and culture cause it's how I'm. oh Ozioma na true you get wife,oyibo wife plus pikin. Hmmmmmmm bless you. why then were you salivating on reloaded's mount kilimajaros I like the exchanges between oyb and hotfunmi ,I would have thought it was love but I know oyb is a happily married man. so Funmi hands off. go and find the resident nairaland loverboys aka debosky. and uche2nna Hot.Funmi: My sister,if underwear washing was the problem with our Naija men then we have no problem. You and I live here in America and I'm sure you must know or are friends with some divorced ladies. The stories would make a single lady swear off Nigerian men. Shall we start with the cab drivers married to women that eventually become nurses and inferiority complex sets in or the "business men" that don't bring in shishi from year to year and the wife is slaving away at 3 jobs. OR the ones that'll accuse their wives of cheating while they themselves are running around with little girls. But come to all this kporakpo gatherings,these men are the loudest and would insist on being identified by their village titles. The glitter on their chains and the the smell of their colognes can be perceived from across the hall. And when you see some of them with their wives in the customary "uniforms".you'll be wondering what possesed such a beautiful elegant woman to marry such an uncooked man but suddenly you remember that his only qualification was living in America Of course I'm not describing all Nigerian men in America but there are many of them that are a big disgrace and their families back home have no clue that the mansion built in Mbano was from the wife's sweat and suffering. Of course they'll never disclose that the wife is the one really working. some of our men here need a real kick in the groins. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by oziomatv(m): 6:27pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
nwando:Please let's get this topic clear, If you read well the thread I never mention taking her to my house,kissing or going deep. It's you guys that diviated the whole issue. I invited her to a party not to my house, and it's something normal to someone you find friendly. And I take it as a joke too. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by HotFunmi1(f): 6:28pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
My sister,if underwear washing was the problem with our Naija men then we have no problem.On the issue of nurses in America, I may disagree here because in as much as they claim they make big money, they may not be making more than their cab driver husbands. We women have a big mouth especially when we contribute to household expenditure. I know what I make right now as a pharmacist and there is no much difference with what I made as a truck driver. So, If my husband is driving a truck in America, one can easily conclude that I am the chief bread winner because of my profession and you know that nurses make way less than pharmacists here. A nurse that works 16hr/day x 6 days/wk may end up making 100-120K/PA (MAX)and face IRS with their arm and leg taxes. A cab driver that works at the same rate will not make less either. A friend of mine who's a physician told me that her husband is a car sales man and makes more than twice her salary( he makes about 350K/PA) while my friend make about 130K/PA. So, you see. I am against those men that stay home doing nothing while expecting their wives to labour around to feed them and some even go ahead to use the money she makes on their secret wives in Nigeria. But, America has dignity in labour unlike Nigeria and we women shouldn't be biting our husband's or boyfriends because they are not nurses or doctors even if we make more than them. I know a relation here that went to nursing school on her fiancees bank account, she never worked for a day, graduated and got married to him. After a while, she's all over him calling him names and now they are divorced. She took their kids away and threatened to throw him in jail if he miss a single child support. I may be a defender of women, womanist etc but acts like that from a relation is way off the hook. If we clamour for our Naija men to respect and nurture us, we should also give something back. Don't use people to get to where you are because you'll pay for it someday. I know my cousin will one day face the music. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 6:49pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
almondjoy: Almond,if you hear what our Nigerian men do for these women. It's highly uncommom to come to visit a Nigerian couple and the man is the one running around serving the guests. but come to these Nigerians married to Americans. One we went to see was wearing an apron I mean it we wore an apron like Emeril Lagasse and was serving us fish peppersoup as appetizers,cheerfully. Now which Nigerian woman wouldn't like a helper husband ? I ask my man to help. and it's usually manly things like cutting hen and sawing stockfish. I don't mind it,he scrubs his shower LOL (I'm a bathtub/jacuzzi person) and I know he will not cook peppersoup,bake or wear an apron,that day may never come ROFL but our Nigerian men will gladly bake and cook for oyinbo |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by bikokwe(m): 6:54pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
if e too much, make all of una come back home simple.come to the village square make we trash am out."okwaya" |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 7:40pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Hot.Funmi: hotfunmi we are not saying anything different. everyone in America knows the nigerian nurses work like Jackie to earn whatever they do. How many people in their right minds would agree to work an 80-96hr work week. Only Nigerians and some other immigrants do. They'll pick up oyibo peoples time sef most don't even spend holidays in their own beds. and the primary reason our women work this way is because the husband is not doing so good financially or they're living above their means. again this does not describe all naija men,speaking from my personal experience I was happy reading the highlighted part from you. at least now oyb knows your're not a man hater like you initially appeared to be. please keep up the new you. I love our men,I will never put all our men down. because we have great men and lovers amongst them. I've had absolutely no bad experiences with naija men but I've had divorced friends with horror stories,one in particular sought refuge in my house for a few weeks. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 7:44pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
@ hotfunmi,there's a huge difference between truck drivers and cab drivers in terms of salary. Truck drivers make more money that many physicians for a fact. I specifically said cab drivers because many Nigerian men are into it. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by oziomatv(m): 7:49pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
@ nwando the remedy I performed to hot.funmi realy works but tell her to stop over labouring the man with so many undies to wash. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Dreloaded(f): 7:57pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Rofl. You are so silly. osisi, what can mr osisi cook |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by oziomatv(m): 8:01pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
@ D- loady how're you dear? |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by almondjoy(f): 8:56pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Hot.Funmi: I just love you for you speak the truth always! nwando: "Hotty" was never a man hater--People just failed to see her message and concentrated on her "personality" which is a strong one. Anything strong that does not quote the bible like 50 times a day---is an endangered species! You guys are right. Nothing wrong with Naija men. Nothing wrong with Naija women. We just have to learn to respect eachother more and learn to get along too! |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by almondjoy(f): 9:07pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
nwando: Especially the kpali finding ones. Laff wan kill me oooooooooooooh! Apron ke? Don't worry--train am well, he will learn to cook peppersoup. I could not eat Mr. Almond's food for the first 2 years. I'm no even sabi wash meat! Now he cooks moin moin and pepper soup like an "Iya Nuru"! Now, we are working on jollof rice. One thing I cannot trust him with is eggs. This man thinks an idea of eggs na to put snails and bushmeat inside as part of the omelettes of course. If you don't watch him--he will put cowleg and chcken wings inside the omelette Gosh, I hate sardines--he loves them! But I am grateful he enters the kitchen. Because I have cooked so much I hate it now. It is a relief to have help He will even broadcast to his friends that he has kitchen duties. Look it took like 5 years to drag him into the kictchen. But he gradually loved it. I had to give him a lot of stuff to bribe him into the kitchen--both cash and kind. Spoil him rotten too. Cooks the best egusi and okro soup! So all na hard work and communication. This guy even relaxes ma hair--So it is how you communicate. Because I give him what he wants too. So, ladies if you want your Nigerian men to treat you like they treat the other races, treat them like the other races treat them. Suck it up! In other words--pamper them. It goes both ways! @hotfunmi What do you say? You must agree too that our Nigerian ladies slack in that department of the art of "pampering" a guy. I am into manicure and massages. When that dude comes home--I gat his back and front! Some weekends, if a got the power, foot soak/massages---and pimple lancing on his back! Or we both head to the nails place for foot soak and just yap away to the annoyance of those vietnamese peeps. So ladies, find out what works to keep that Naija man chained to you! E no hard at all! |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Uche2nna(m): 9:26pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
The only thing consistent about NL is its stark inconsistency Now Naija men dey do all the coooking and shopping and licking of arses of Oyinbo women. This is according to our Naija gals ooooo. But according to these so called Oyibo and AA women , Naija men are not romantic, they dont cook (which they attributed to our tradition), they dont even know how to make love (Naija men no dey go down south). Now two contrasting stories from two different groups of women. E be like say tori still dey. I will just stay tuned |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 9:44pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
almondjoy: BTW,I meant to say he had apron not "we". LOL. One thing we have in common is that you're a die hard romantic like myself. and true,it's so easy to please men,some women don't know that. It's so easy to have him eat off your palms,the woman just has to know how to get him there. I know that man would do anything for me. Mr Nwando works much by nature of his job He's a pathologist with an active research lab,teaches at a med school has post docs and technicians so I excuse him not cooking, he brings home a sizeable bacon I know he can cook,I've eaten his food but I don't expect him to cook but he sometimes makes saturday breakfast. But I know there are some stubborn men out there. Those are the ones we're referring to @ Uchenna |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Uche2nna(m): 9:54pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
LMAO @ Nwando, U are only married to one. There is no way U can pass judgement on the others u are not married to Nwando, U are happy with ur husband (a Naija man) , Almondjoy is also happy with hers (a Naija man, I presume ). We want to hear from the Naija girls that are not happy with thier lot |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 9:57pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Uche2nna: Uchenna I told you I saw an Igbo man here in America wearing an apron and serving peppersoup in his own home a man with an african american wife what are the white wives and AA wives of Nigerians in nairaland complaining about ? haven't they domesticated our men enough? do they want them to grow breasts and breastfeed the babies? I'm just saying our men should try doing same with their Nigerian wives too. It'll be appreciated. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 10:00pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
Uche2nna: and I haven't. I have a group of friends and some are divorced and some of the stories ,I know well. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Uche2nna(m): 10:25pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
As long as U are getting one side of the divorce story, it would always tend to be biased. Wetin U expect b4? If I divorce 2morrow, of course the likelihood is that I would be painting my ex in bad light. If U buy my story b4 hearing from my ex, then U are very biased. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by almondjoy(f): 11:01pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
nwando: That is rough! So you have to practically do most of the home based things since the guy is busy out there. That is a tough job! It is a give and take situation always. It is learned. It takes a while. . . . . .And communication is the key always. I hate to cook--because I am tired of cooking--not that I cannot cook. I get tired of eating my own food! We can only try that's all. If people work together, I don't think it is all that a big deal. When pride and ego and competition gets in there, then that is where the everything falls apart. Uche2nna: Of course a naija guy! We are telling you what it took to get to that stage of "happiness". You think we just woke up and booom--happiness. It was war! The point is that those things come effortlessly when Nigerian men are with other "races". We have to work to get those things done. That is the difference! Why is what I want to know. Is it because Nigerian women are not playing their parts too? |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by spoilt(f): 11:08pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
rjimid . . . welcome to the world of faceless Nigerian women who are more interested in your passport and cash than your professed love. @ 4him do you not know how to not generalize? |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by spoilt(f): 11:12pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
nwando: If the wife was nigerian then i would have whipped out his cape, crown and medal! |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by HottFunmi: 11:59pm On Feb 20, 2008 |
@ hotfunmi,there's a huge difference between truck drivers and cab drivers in terms of salary. The cab drivers still make some decent pay except those Naija men that carry women around during work hours or those that use cab as a front for some illegal credit card fraud. Cab drivers in the Tristate area make an avg of $400/day and I've heard someone say that Jitneys in LA make an avg of $300/day BUT, it's the most dangerous job in America, aaaaargggggghhhhhh. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Uche2nna(m): 12:41am On Feb 21, 2008 |
@almondjoy It is a good thing to hear that U worked for the joy U are experiencing in ur marriage. Nothing good comes easy. It does not come easy for any woman, foreign or local. Going thru posts of ladies like Simibrazil, Germanlady and a host of others shows that they too worked for thier own marriages. On the same hand I believe the men also worked on them. So, if the naija girls think that Naija men are not all dat, well guess wat, the oyinbo guys are not even perfect. Just keep ur ears to the ground and U go also hear stories about them. And even come to think of it , the ladies that are dogging naija men (at least on NL) are those that are still single and searching |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Dreloaded(f): 1:45am On Feb 21, 2008 |
yet you cry about women generalising. Osisi and AJ are married yet they too somewhat agree with the topic so what is your point? Your logic just blew up in your face. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by 4Him(m): 2:47am On Feb 21, 2008 |
spoilt: apparently not. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by almondjoy(f): 3:27am On Feb 21, 2008 |
Uche2nna: Even when you are married, you still have to make Nigerian men do what you expect from them. It does not come naturally to them. We are not dogging Naija men per se, we just want them to meet us half-way--when we try to make the effort. Most do not even try--the reason marriages pack up. But on the flip side, most Naija men would bend over backwards if they were with other races. D-reloaded: Gosh! she''s tough! Yes, we agree because we have gone through those phases and are still going through them. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by HottFunmi: 4:01am On Feb 21, 2008 |
By AlmondJoy,LMBAO, and they quickly recover their senses anytime they deal with their own women they should be worshipping. If Naija men treat their women that way, how do they expect Chinese,Caucasian or latino men to treat Naija women married to them? Charity begins at home. |
Re: Another Minute With Nigerian Men! by Nobody: 5:43pm On Feb 21, 2008 |
Nigerian men againnn!!!!!! |
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