₦airaland Forum

Nigerian men in America married to oyibo women(and some iron Naija ladies, lol) worship their wives, wash dishes, change diapers, do grocery and cooking, mow the lawn, and see their wives as queen but as soon asthey get married to Naija women, aaarrrrgh, they remember they are titled men that cannot even change their daughters diapers how much less cooking. I think Naija women are letting them get away with so much, chief ko, chief ni!


Naija women, Flog them if you can!

By Blacklion,
michelin,

do u know that there are women lawyers, doctors, accountants, bankers, permanent secretaries etc who are second or third wives to their husband? do you know that many of these women married their husbands long after they finished schooling and were already established in their professions/careers? even if such a law as you propose is enacted, there will ALWAYS be women willing to be second wives. the law will only deter the gold diggers who married the polyamous men solely for their money. but it won't deter women who have their own means but just want a husband to call their own - along with half-a-dozen other women - and be father to their kids.

Because they were under the law handed down to them by religion and ridiculous culture. How many of these women do you see today getting married as second, third wives?

even if such a law as you propose is enacted, there will ALWAYS be women willing to be second wives

Of course, afterall killing all the snake in the bush will not make them go into extinction. If intelligent men like you monopolise your brethren, we will reduce the number of women being exploited by randy men in the name of polygamy unless you are a chauvinist. Are you for women or against them?

The gradual change from BC(before christ) to BCE( before the current era) and AD(anno domini) to CE(current era) has taken effect in full speed in the US because non christians have been complaining about BC and AD. Do you think the ministry of education in Nigeria will soon adopt that reform in our schools?

Why do most Nigerian men in the diaspora that are dating or married to western women kiss the ground they walk on but when they are faced with a fellow Nigerian sister, they pick their duties and brush others off as something they wouldnt do because of their culture? What happenes to their culture whenever they are with foreign women? Is it a simple case of a prophet not being honored at home?

By AlmondJoy,
Abeg live the Ebanks girl jo! By the time this Bobo Osi is like 35 years old you can not differentiante him from "Plexaco" abi na "Texaco"! He will cease to be a Nigerian finally. This Bobo Osi cannot date a Nigerian girl and as a result he cannot marry one. So his parents can be Nigerian, but Bobo Osi can never be one!

Lol, I wonder about that too and whether he'll be 'up to' what she needs as per a western chic.

presido 1,
Beleive me its only the rubbish nigerians born overseas that claim they are not Nigeria, as such they change their name like name matters. Emaka Ndubuisi Okoye, Chiwee Ejiofor, ND Kalu, Amobi Okoye, Ugo Ehiogu, Olaruwaju's, and the rest of them still maintain their full Nigeria name so do Osi.

I am not sure of Ugo egiogu please. What of Herbie Hide and John Fashanu?

By the way,what are those unsightly scars on seal's cheeks

are they from cheek implants?

I've always wondered

He had Lupus(an auto immune disease) when he was young.

Seal is also not a prize for me.
https://bp3.blogger.com/_4s-HTiCV2F0/RbS9x-Uip_I/AAAAAAAAAsU/ppEFXBNCW8s/s400/seal.JPG

Djimon is hot even like that. It's Jimmy Jean-Louis that looks like a goat.
https://www.aolcdn.com/wireimage/E/2007-03-24/WI13314930_hayden-panettiere-jimmy-jean-louis-kevan.jpg

Are we complaining now? I thought some of us welcomed the idea of lagos adopting the sharia law when it was proposed last year?. _{Oh hail the jihadists}

By Airblaze,
the only people

who subscribe to guns

are those who havent seen what guns

can do to people,agreed for protection

but do remember there is a thin line between being the victim and the aggresor

This is like saying that the only people that subscribe to cars are those who haven't witnessed any auto crash or seen it on Tv or the only people that subscribe to marriages are those who haven't seen how marriage can wreck some people.

By Michelin89,
Let's not decieve ourselves. The first thing we notice in a possible partner is their looks so if someone says they don't care about colour or whatever physical feature i find it hard to believe them!

True, but color may be the catching factor but definitely not a factor for a long term relationship/marriage.

By Prince Onx,
Its just funny the kind of advice people give on Nairaland.

How can you advise someone to marry a man and forget his family or village like she put it? Have you thought of what her place in that family will be if the guy is no more there? For a lady to mention that she has 2 kids from previous marriage means she herself know its an issue between her, the new guy, and his family if not she wont say it! Yet some people open their mouth to say shit eventhough they never been in that position before.

What place? family members are important in a marriage but not a necessity.

By 4Him,
tough one. Many Nigerian mothers frown at marrying a woman with kids. Infact my mom told me straight to my face that she would not welcome one . . . and this from a woman who i suppose is even more liberal than most.

Does it matter what his mother thinks of her? They are both adults and can do whatever they wish with their lives. Will you refuse to marry a woman you love because your mom or dad disapproves of it?

By Morenike,
there are two advice i'll give you:
1. Don't you ever even think of aborting that baby. . .it's a Legalized Crime called Killing
2. Marry her or stay with her . . . dnt you let take care of the pregnancy alone

While I agree with option 1 but option 2 is way out of line. I don't advise anybody to marry somebody because there is pregnancy in line. He is obliged to stay with her during the pregnancy, assist her in taking care of the baby but if he's not in tune with her, why condemn him to everlasting misery?

Things actually fell apart between them during OBJ's second term. One of the reasons was when OBJ revoked one of his oil block licences.
TY should just shut up as it was the same establishment that fraudulently enriched him. He should stop playing the good guy now.
What happened to their friendship? One may also want to ask what happened to the friendship of IBB and Vasta.

It's simple. Nobody know the truth of what these guys has been up to.

I wonder, I think Obj is just watching him make a fool of himself. He that lives in a glass house should not throw stones.

Things are actually falling apart for the Nigerian high and mighty. I thought Aremu and TY Danjuma were tight friends from 15th century? What happened to their friendship? OR, Is TY dumping OBJ because he's no more in power?

T.Y. Danjuma: Obasanjo Is Running Third Term Through Yar'Adua
By Akpo Esajere (Group Political Editor)

FORMER Defence Minister, General Theophilus Yakubu Danjuma, was acrimonious during the week over the seeming influence of former President Olusegun Obasanjo on the administration of President Umaru Musa Yar'Adua.





He was particularly miffed that Obasanjo, whom he accused of allegedly encouraging corruption in his administration, has achieved his 'Third Term' ambition through President Yar'Adua.

He said: "Third Term hasn't failed; we are still in Third Term. Obasanjo is still in charge. Aremu of Ota is the de-facto ruler of this country, sitting in Ota and manipulating, the government through Umaru (Yar'Adua)."

Danjuma, a former Army Chief of Staff and an ally of Obasanjo, who said he would go on exile if Obasanjo were not made president in 1999, spoke exclusively to The Guardian in Lagos on Monday.

Accusing Obasanjo of corruption in his eight-year rule, he vowed : "We will expose the dirty details, which I have in my possession. We will make them public, to compel even Umaru to do something. Umaru Yar'Adua is a decent human being, but he is spineless."

He said that Obasanjo merits a second term in prison.
However, Danjuma also criticised President Yar'Adua, whose government, he said, was at a standstill, no thanks to the petitions against his election at the tribunal.

According to him: "Umaru started well by making all the right noises - rule of law, due process, electoral reform, bla, bla, bla and he appears to be on the right track. But if you are on the right track and you are moving but don't move fast, you will be over-run.

"Right now, we are standing still and the handlers of Yar'Adua tell us that it is because of the court case; that after the court case, he'll start performing. I doubt it. Even if Umaru has no case, for as long as Aremu of Ota is allowed to control the party and to manipulate things, so long will the standstill continue."

Danjuma argued that for Yar'Adua to perform as expected, he needed to be divorced from the former President.

He admitted that he did not know all the sides of Obasanjo from the Civil War period, through the Murtala Muhammed/Obasanjo regime and till the end of the Obasanjo government in 2007.
Danjuma, who addressed a wide range of issues in the four-hour interview, also clarified the controversies surrounding his role in the arrest and killing of Nigeria's first Head of State, Gen. JTU Aguiyi-Ironsi in 1966; the overthrow of Gen. Yakubu Gowon and his (Gowon) alleged involvement in the assassination of Murtala in 1976.

He exonerated Gowon from the Buka Dimka-led coup, in which Murtala was killed, stressing that because Gowon was never tried or convicted, as regards the coup plot, there was no need to grant him pardon, as recently reported in the dailies.

He likewise revealed why he and his colleagues in the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) preferred Obasanjo to former Vice President Alex Ekwueme in the run-up to the 1999 presidential primaries of the party in Jos, Plateau State.

Danjuma said he was coming out with a memoir he labels a "grenade" that will explode the "funning lies" and misrepresentations on his role and those of others in Nigeria's history.

the woman in the article said she is tired of giving birth to ugly children. so are black people now ugly? the parents have to be ugly for the child to be ugly. there are enough dark and light skin people that are attractive and enough light and dark ugly people that are ugly cause of their parents mostly. lol. yeye woman complaining, her child will soon knock her head for giving birth to her.

I think she found a new 'yellow' boyfriend.

Italian bishops condemned for urging actors to shun sex scenes

Richard Owen in Rome


A row has erupted over “Vatican interference” after the Italian Synod of Bishops appealed to actors to exercise their consciences and refuse to take part in “vulgar and destructive” erotic scenes in films.

The appeal follows public condemnation by the bishops of an explicit sex scene in Caos Calmo, starring the Italian actor and director Nanni Moretti, which has just been released. In the film, directed by Antonello Grimaldi, Moretti plays a television executive who experiences a mid-life crisis after the death of his wife in the course of which he has a torrid affair with a woman he saves from drowning.

Father Nicolò Anselmi, head of the youth section of the Italian Bishops Conference, said that Moretti was normally noted for his “idealistic and sensitive” films. But the “gratuitous” sex scene with Isabella Ferrari, his co-star, would have an undesirable effect on the “impressionable young” since it was shown without any context involving love or tenderness.

Franco Zeffirelli, the film and opera director, said: “The Church is full of pedants who have lost all sense of proportion.” It was a “fourth-rate” film that did not merit the publicity generated by the bishops' intervention.

He said that there was a human “right to life from conception until natural death”. He added, however, that the abortion issue should be left to the individual conscience of citizens, and disassociated himself from Giuliano Ferrara, his former spokesman and editor of the newspaper Il Foglio, who has announced that he will stand for parliament on an exclusively anti-abortion platform.

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/europe/article3371908.ece

Italian bishops condemned for urging actors to shun sex scenes
Richard Owen in Rome


A row has erupted over “Vatican interference” after the Italian Synod of Bishops appealed to actors to exercise their consciences and refuse to take part in “vulgar and destructive” erotic scenes in films.

The appeal follows public condemnation by the bishops of an explicit sex scene in Caos Calmo, starring the Italian actor and director Nanni Moretti, which has just been released. In the film, directed by Antonello Grimaldi, Moretti plays a television executive who experiences a mid-life crisis after the death of his wife in the course of which he has a torrid affair with a woman he saves from drowning.

Father Nicolò Anselmi, head of the youth section of the Italian Bishops Conference, said that Moretti was normally noted for his “idealistic and sensitive” films. But the “gratuitous” sex scene with Isabella Ferrari, his co-star, would have an undesirable effect on the “impressionable young” since it was shown without any context involving love or tenderness.

Franco Zeffirelli, the film and opera director, said: “The Church is full of pedants who have lost all sense of proportion.” It was a “fourth-rate” film that did not merit the publicity generated by the bishops' intervention.

He said that there was a human “right to life from conception until natural death”. He added, however, that the abortion issue should be left to the individual conscience of citizens, and disassociated himself from Giuliano Ferrara, his former spokesman and editor of the newspaper Il Foglio, who has announced that he will stand for parliament on an exclusively anti-abortion platform.

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/europe/article3371908.ece

By Oldie,
There are many of these detention camps, even in Lagos, where you have the so called spiritualists of shady backgrounds, pretending to heal people
Some of them even operate with the knowledge of the Social Welfare Ministry and probably with the knowledge of the police

TB Joshua's synagogue comes to mind. Lots of women are being abused there in the name of healing. God, please come and save the female gender in Nigeria.

By Eldee,
Gun ke, hmmn *picks up pen and starts to write*
Dear Hotfunmi,
                         Calvary greetings, I am very happy to announce to you that I have moved from the address I used to live, also I am very, very sorry for all that I consciously or unconsciously done to you. . .

It's like you are an expert in 'hit and run'. Be careful because chics can always get your adress from yahoo unless they don't know your names.

[b]haven't you noticed that all those rich alhajis marry yellow southern women as 2nd and 3rd wives?[/b]some shallow men still think yellow is it.
no wonder Tura and the rest of those bleaching products are making sales.
have these yeye men bothered to look at the hands,fingers and heels of their yellow wives?
black and proud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is a very shallow statement because Fulani women are very yellow and beautiful and they are not from the south or rather  ibo.

OSITADIMMA UMENYIORA

A few facts about Ositadimma Umenyiora. Both parents are full blooded Nigerians from Ogbunike in Anambra state. He was born in London on November 16, 1981. Moved back to Nigeria with his family at the age of six, and later relocated to the US in 1995 at the age of 14. He is from the Umenyiora royal family of Ogbunike, Anambra state and was bestowed with a honorary chief because of the 30 scholarships he endows each year for local schoolchildren.

http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/2008/writers/lee_jenkins/01/29/umenyoira0204/index.html

His 8 year stay in Naija may or may not have an impact on him. He moved to the US at 14 and is very capable of turning to akata before 20.

By A2J,
i wonder if by 2030,  you all will still be spraying your credit and debit cards as you say "its our culture"

Hilarious! I am sure there must be a way to do it by then,may be they'll start spraying  N100 money order.

By Rookie,
-- So because YOU couldn't sense a Nigerian accent when you heard him means that he isn't?


See? I wonder why the ones in Nigeria or Nairaland do not look like this?
I think I give them both a run as far as money isn't a factor, lol

It depends on the upbringing especially when the mother is not Nigerian. Few that grew up in the diaspora don't always relate unless they were groomed from childhood. The only star that grew up here that relates with his people is Charlotte's Emeka Okafor{ i was told that his association with Nigeria/Nigerians came from his constant exposure to his people by his parents in Houston and even at that, there will still be something different from others}

Ashually, he is not a Nigerian per se. We just wan claim am for that strong "igbo" name when im get. He was born of a think one Nigerian parent--the dad. That name "Umenyiora" cannot feature twice anywhere in the Eastern part of Nigeria like Okoro or Okolo them. He was born in London and definitely raised in UK/US. Hearing him talk during a pre-super bowl game anaysis, showed there was nothing Nigerian about his accent arrrrrrrrrrrrralll. A bet ma last farthing that this dude has never stepped into Africa not to talk of Nigeria.

I agree, it's like Sade and Seal being Nigerians. Seal even claimed once that his dad is from the Carribean; He may be right but i think it has a lot to do with dissociating himself from Nigeria.

owner and the parents if the person involved is a minor.

I didn't know some Nigerians put that into consideration as long as the person is black.

Are you affected by the color syndrome? Does color determine your potential partner? I mean, do you  descriminate against darker or lighter people while choosing a partner or do you only descriminate when the race is different?

Read the vanguard editorial on the color issue in Nigeria

Why some men find ‘yellow pawpaws’ girls more attractive!
Written by Candida
Sunday, February 17, 2008
I WILL never forget the day I agreed to have a talk with a friend who was on the verge of ditching her husband for another married man.


“I am tired of giving birth to ugly children”, she snapped at me when I broached the subject, telling her it was at the insistence of her husband, who was also a close friend. “My eldest is a boy who looks like a gorilla, my daughter is so dark I feel for her at times as there is the possibility of her attracting only ugly men.

I am dark, my husband is dark. You have seen the new man yourself, he has lovely children. Let me also have children I can be proud of too for a change!” So she left and eventually had three children by this other man.


I wish I could say they were as ugly as the ones she had with her first husband, but no. They are quite attractive and athletic and she was proud of her feet! Her husband also remarried, of course. “And his new set of kids are even uglier than the ones I had for him,” smirked my friend. Lately, I learnt both of them were thinking of going back together since they were not properly divorced. I thought the idea absurd. I would have termed it impossible, if I hadn’t heard it from the now bitter father of her 'lovely’ children, her second ‘husband’.


When she phoned a few days later, I told her of the ridiculous rumour I heard about her husband coming back to her. “Don’t mind the jerk, he’s just jealous,” she said of her now ex-lover, “by the way, Sam (her husband) is here and wants to talk to you.” “Are you back together” I asked him incredulously when he came on the phone. “Of course, we are!” he actually sounded happy.


“That stupid man is just an opportunist who wants to spend my wife’s money. He can talk until his face muscles burst, I am back with my wife. You tell him that! Let him try his luck elsewhere.”


It is true really, that some of us, dark or light, prefer light skinned mates so they could have “pretty babies” that is why skin lightening creams and horribly concocted local bleaching soaps still sell; though they are now advertised as good for making blemishes fade rather than for lightening whole complexion.


Jennifer was a dark skinned beauty in her secondary school days and had her share of boyfriends - though not particularly spectacular ones. She travelled abroad and came back ten years later almost as white as the next white-sporting multi-coloured hair extensions and wearing green contact lenses!


“When you are abroad,” she said later, “you experience a lot of racism because of your skin. It got worst when I discovered that coloured people were also picky. Being rejected by blacks because your skin is cocoa and not cream, ebony and not olive or because you are short with kinky hair instead of tall with wavy hair hurt.


“Back home, I’ve discovered that my investment in changing the colour of my skin has more than paid off. It didn’t come cheap either. Apart from very costly injections I paid to slow down the pigmentation of my dark skin, I have to keep on using expensive creams and lotions. I look in the mirror and I like what I see. It is money well spent. And my confidence has had a great boost.


“In this part of the world, it is often the ‘yellow pawpaw’ as those with very light skin are called, that reap the most attention. I mean, if someone was described that way, there was no need to say that person was good-looking. It was a given that light was lovely. It is up to those with darker skin who have to now prove themselves.


“It is a general belief that dark-skinned people often don’t take time to groom themselves - but that is not true. When I was darker, I really put in more effort than now, but it seldom showed. If we want to be frank with ourselves, we would admit that light skinned girls get picked up first - either as dancing partners or lovers. We shouldn’t be fooled by the “Black is beautiful” mantra, that died with the seventies!”


Little wonder then that men too have jumped into the “yellow-pawpaw” bandwagon with glee! Few years ago, a prominent lawmaker that was impeached in one of the Northern states proudly defended his bleached, ‘glowing’ well groomed skin, and said it had nothing to do with his efficiency. How true! But there is a limit to how far you should compete with your partner in the bleaching department!”
A colleague’s husband works with a big advertising agency and he is one of their top officers. He grew from fairly light-skinned, to albino light. “It was a bit embarrassing trying to talk him out of his stupid obsession with his skin but tried, I did” confessed his wife. “He didn’t listen to me, ofcourse. He did look better as he made the effort to slim down to compliment his new complexion - until he overdid it and spotted black patches all over his face and neck.


The chemicals in the creams he used were so potent they burnt his skin. He now has to spend a lot of money to get rid of the patches - but he still hasn’t thrown his bleaching creams away,  “As things are, I leave him to do his own thing, afterall, it’s his skin, and the fact remains that in major towns and cities, a light complexion has always been a passport to special treatment whether you’re rich or poor!”


http://odili.net/news/source/2008/feb/17/303.html

Naija women don suffer.