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ceejayxy:
*In p diddy's voice* baby u've been living in sin cos u've been really in love, but u've been living as friends...take a decision,either u define ur relationship with him or decline wateva relationship u have now....else u'll both be living in denial, and at the end of the day, i'll put my money on you being hurt more...

I should probably clear the air that we've NEVER had sex. Our relations are just cuddles and stolen kisses.

i don't know why ladies will see the signs that a guy is not into them anymore but will still want to stay around cus that's exactly what you are doing. the painful truth is that, he is only using you as his sex mate and has no future plans for you.

the reason he hasn't told you he is seeing someone else is because the moment he lets you know, it definitely means he has no key to your kingdom again..

my advice: leave him alone and move on with your life except you still want to continue with the friends with benefit package.[/quote]Maybe because we love hard?
You truly believe it's because of access to 'benefits' that he's not fessing up? Not because he loves me still?

omega25red:
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you are funny as hell. you stopped seeing him and you are just friends but you are mad about who he claims or not claim as his GF. Lets stop the b.s. you are interested in him as more than just a friend and you need to let your feelings be known before it's too late assuming it isn't seeing as he has a lady who has the keys to his home already.

no it wasn't because of the job ish. Thank you sooo much. You spoke sense to my heart.
I pray for strength now to move on and not make a bigger fool of myself than I already have

ITbomb:
The next 3 people below would be confused by just reading this

Anyway, the two of you are confused.
And why are you still single, if I may ask cos if you are in a good relationship you would be thanking God for however has come in for your bestie.

The way I see it, the guy is just a gentleman, he is ready to move on but waking up to see your good morning chat everyday makes him feel guilty that he is leaving you behind after all the groove so he is ready to move on but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Solution, get yourself a partner and let the guy be happy

thank You

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hi OP. all through your write-up all I could see was an opportunity. the fact that he was silent since had made you comfortable. God shook you out of your comfort zone because your husband needs to be saved. You don't need to confront him or fight God's battle for him. all you need do is get down on your knees and more than ever show your husband genuine love. The God you serve is big enough to take care of himself and show up when he needs to.

Dear Op; try bringing her into the decision making process. You are a man and call the shots but make her feel like it was her idea all along. for instance, she should be the one giving the household electronics to your brother instead. remember you both are one but like it or not, domestic issues is her territory. so find a way to entrust her with the money and let her be the face your inlaw sees as the giver. trust me, you get what you are still but with less stress to your marriage.