It is pretentious and educated parents who do this in my own experience. My father was one of them very pretentious and i must say it is embarrassing for me, to tell a fellow Nigerian i can't speak a language, not one. My dad was one of those who thought being oyinbo like was fantastic, i don't totally blame him his mother was a huge snob, very well educated but my family is very academic and belong to that academic snobby class of people. Which is probably why i was always the black sheep. i don't agree with class,i hate everything it stands for. Well that is my experience and really it shames me. Another thing is the colonial mentality and how some of our parents can not shake this.Hopefully things would turn around in the next generation because many young people are on the same sort of wave length in this global village we live in.

Sigh! what really is the fear? what is the big fear that as soon as homosexual is mentioned seemingly intelligent people become so small in their minds? I would like to ask the poster ''do you really think what defines your morality defines mine?'' or anybody elses? Every law across the world is born out of religions,to control people and although without laws there would be anarchy, i still think all this is control in the name of morality etc. I respect other's religion i have to say, i also like other to respect my views too. It really is not right that people of faith would want everyone to live by their own standards, its crazy to expect it.

Seriously guys there is really nothing to be afraid of about homosexuals, infact all the negativity you generate from your disapproval surely must play havoc with your soul don't you think?

i think we should agree to disagree. I hear you. Lovely chatting ,interesting to see where this topic goes tomorrow. Back to the grind tomorrow.

Kenny_G:

morally it's wrong, religion also forbids it

Ok my question is who measures morality? everyone has a different morality from the next person and what if the person doing the one night stand is not religious?

I am going to play devil's advocate now. Ok what makes it wrong? is it morality? religion that has given us a morality gauge? bearing in mind that maybe just maybe religion was designed to control.what is wrong with it really. Are we really meant to be monogamous beings? I'm just saying!

Kenny_G:

while i agree with you to some extent, people need to start taking responsilibty for their actions at some point and quit using the inadequacies of their folks an excuse, but sha some men don't have a relationship wiv daughters pass the usual give money to and ban them from seeing guys

I hear you. Still from my experience my close friends have non existent relationships with their dads and it's just been my observation that, that is the reason for their failed relationships or serial dating. Like you said some fathers just give money and what do we see these days? lots of girls want to date guys for money etc.

lol,love it. Evil is a strong word, maybe calculated?

Wow she looks amazing.

yep. When it becomes a habit they there is a serious problem. May even need therapy or something. You know what? i stand by this,if girls are brought up by their fathers toloveand respect themselves alot of girls wont go looking for it in random guys.The relationship a girl has with her dad tells alot in how she turns out.

Kenny_G:

but you might be hurting yourself on the long run

Yes that is always very likely but my thing is you only have yourself to blame.This is why i was unsympathetic to some friends in this situation. From experience many of us ladies do not separate sex from emotions. We some how can't divide the two.That is why though some girls will say they don't care about one night stands, they really do hurt afterwards

Kenny_G:

of course it doesnt and i pretty much alluded to that in my opening line, what i'm stressing here is that a woman has a lot more to lose in what is essentially a male dominated world people tend to be unforgiving of women who have rep of doing 1 nighters

yep very unforgiving. I think that people can do what they want and i know this sounds corny but as long as you arenot hurting anyone and you are safe then whatever.

Kenny_G:

Kew is down the road from Heathrow I think
@op
There's a lot wrong with One-night stand in my opinion, for a start there is the small matter of STD, if you are a lady it doesnt help your reputation at all

yeah why is that? surely a man sleeping around should not be acceptable either right?

Mr, Cork:

hottottie. ermm Sweery, are you one of those Nigerians that live in council flats in London? (no oofeinse)

No. i dont and there is nothing wrong with council flats. It beats sleeping rough on a park bench or something,right? No offence taken btw.

No not offended nothing wrong with being vietnamese. I live in Kew. You?

But still men are allowed to do it and women are sluts ifthey do it. I thought the man and woman had to be in the room for it to happen. In my circles it happens alot and its almost the norm

Mrs, Chima:

I do not partake in one night stands. I am allergic to random dicks.

wooohoo!allergic?what sort of reactions have you had? i am seriously curious.

kay-money:

@ Hottottie are you a Vietnamese

wat? where did you get that from? Naija girl here

errmm food? well its errmm, hmmm yes it's nice? lol

koolchicco:

One night stand is one night stand regardless of whatever happens thereafter.



BTW, U look good in your pix. Congrats!

Thank you. I guess you are right. It is a one night stand regardless. Oh by the way your pic is ''ouch''!

I am so amazed at the ignorance here. I am hoping some people are just spewing this hatred out of sheer bravado,it's still so uncool.  Guys just so you know irrational fear of homosexuals could be a reflection of your own sexual battles/repressions . I would take a very hard look  at yourself and if you are Gay, don't worry there are still a few of who would still love you

Nothing wrong as long as you keep it safe. For me its not what i would intentionally do,simply because i would only take it that far if i feel there is potential for a relationship,however if u meet someone and things happen and then it doesn't take off into a relationship i guess that is a one night stand.

JUST REMEMBER SAFE SEX

@Dayokanu

Like attract like, maybe he got whay he prayed for?

Well for me my secrets are my secrets the moment i tell one person is ceases to be a secret and if it gets out i don't get upset because if i didn't want Joe blogs to know i would keep my lip sealed.

My answer is NEVER. This is why i try my very best not to do anything i regret or ashamed of. Everything about you should be you,if anyone is going to be with me its warts and all.Take my advice don't have secrets

This is kind of weird, why can't she divorce him? . Is this like a christian couple?. Sorry to sound harsh but she married him,its now her bed and if it's that uncomfortable she needs to get out of it.

I am sensing this is religion related,aaahh! i don't know! when will people see sense?

I don't think you are in love with your colleague at all. It's just your need for attention and also it's probably time you moved on from your boyfriend, and don't jump into another relationship fast.







p.s
dont know why some women need men to fulfil them?

Wow what a mess.I dont think the men will ever spill so get out now before you break your sister's heart, ''what you don't know and all''. Move out of their home. Gosh some men are so gross.This is how they give their wives Aids. Gross, gross, gross.

hmmm, i  have looked at this picture from so many angles my neck is hurting, it's possible he's only 14, i mean alot of people have trouble getting the right birth certificates in Africa because of poor record keeping. Dont' think the school handled this very well. Oh black kids do mature quite quick, i think,