Let's leave love. What does the man do that she doesn't like? What does she want him to do more? She should use contraceptives until the problem is ironed out. Divorce is not so bad if there are no children involved.

Marriage is for Better n for worse she must have known dat.
No one forced her into it.
Afterall its just 2months huh?

Man-of-God:

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She is now asking what she will do since she can't divorce her husband.

Says who??
In that case, Then let her enjoy her marriage
and stop complaining.  

at above,

I second your statement

if it is that bad and she believe she cant cope, then divorce is the best option. but if she wants to die of heart attach, then let her stay for better for worst.

Lmao!!!, ,, so did anyone force her into the marraige, am sure she probably married him cos the guy had a good job or sumtin and probably even dumped a guy she realy loved for this present guy , does this her husband beat her or abuse in any form?, so what is now the problem?, am sure in her youth age she probably must have toyed with guys and must have broken innocent hearts thinking she can have it all in then honestly this is the kinda s-h-i-t that comes after, if she no one divorce d guy then make she dey there na

People need to stop viewing marriage as transitory,something they can walk out of whenever they feel like it. Marriage is a sacred bond of union,and she needs to respect it. As long as the man isn't abusing her in any way or being unfaithful,then she cannot just get up and say oh i'm tired after barely two months of being with him. She knew she wasn't in love with him before she married him. She knew what she was going into when she married him and now she just wants to up and leave the guy? A guy who has married her and is trying to build his home,a guy who probably loves her a great deal-she just wants to destroy his happiness because she's tired of making an effort after barely 2 months? That's not just selfish-it's cruel. She needs to realize that she must live up to her responsibilities and do the right thing. She has made her bed and so she must lie on it.

Atreides:

People need to stop viewing marriage as transitory,something they can walk out of whenever they feel like it. Marriage is a sacred bond of union,and she needs to respect it. As long as the man isn't abusing her in any way or being unfaithful,then she cannot just get up and say oh i'm tired after barely two months of being with him. She knew she wasn't in love with him before she married him. She knew what she was going into when she married him and now she just wants to up and leave the guy? A guy who has married her and is trying to build his home,a guy who probably loves her a great deal-she just wants to destroy his happiness because she's tired of making an effort after barely 2 months? That's not just selfish-it's cruel. She needs to realize that she must live up to her responsibilities and do the right thing. She has made her bed and so she must lie on it.

Where did you get this from your Hardley Chase Novels or your teenage friends?

Atreides:

People need to stop viewing marriage as transitory,something they can walk out of whenever they feel like it. Marriage is a sacred bond of union,and she needs to respect it. As long as the man isn't abusing her in any way or being unfaithful,then she cannot just get up and say oh i'm tired after barely two months of being with him. She knew she wasn't in love with him before she married him. She knew what she was going into when she married him and now she just wants to up and leave the guy? A guy who has married her and is trying to build his home,a guy who probably loves her a great deal-she just wants to destroy his happiness because she's tired of making an effort after barely 2 months? That's not just selfish-it's cruel. She needs to realize that she must live up to her responsibilities and do the right thing. She has made her bed and so she must lie on it.

She has said she is not happy, she has made mistake, so you want her to die for it? the world is not perfect and we have such a short time to live so if she is not happy let her leave.

maclatunji:

Where did you get this from your Hardley Chase Novels or your teenage friends?

And what do novels or friends have to with me believing that marriage is a serious commitment? Excuse me for thinking it's wrong to just walk out on a commitment you made just because you don't feel like it anymore.

hasyak:

She has said she is not happy, she has made mistake, so you want her to die for it? the world is not perfect and we have such a short time to live so if she is not happy let her leave.

Well my own opinion is that she should honor the commitment she's made. As long as he's not abusing her in any way and he's a good guy,i think she shoould try harder.

I cant blame people who have harsh words for your friend, yet in th esame token I feel reeeeaaly sorry for her and her husband. Imagine the thought of spending the rest of your life with someone you really really dont love. Tough sometimes when you paly it by societal rules. She probably did this under pressure of friends, family and the man.

For what its worth I hope she finds true happiness in or out of her marriage she needs to make up her mind about what truely works for her.

What could be so wrong about the husband? could he be like a hundred years old? See now this is the only reason why a woman should not be happy in a new marriage

She should sit with the husband and let him know how unhappy she is in the marriage she jumped into with her eyes wide open

Love is a transient state. If someone treats you right you will eventually love the person.

You must not marry who you love. Just try and love who you have decided to marry.

Man-of-God:

Someone called me for a counseling, so i need more facts to support what i want to tell her.

A young lady was about to get married but didn't have enough love for the guy she was to get married to. Thinking that may be after marriage she will develop a strong love for him since people say LOVE GROWS.
2 months now in marriage she still struggles to love the man, but no way. She is now asking what she will do since she can't divorce her husband.
Pls what do i tell her. She is seriously crying everyday.
Pls don't make a jest of this. Someone needs our help. God bless u

What was her reason for marrying someone she didn't love to begin with? Like Seun suggested she might need to figure out what it is that is stopping her from Loving the man e.g what is he not doing or what is he doing that stops her from connecting with him. She also would need to have a heart to heart with her husband if she can identify why she feels the way she does. Divorce is not the worst thing in the world if you are unhappy. Happiness is paramount

OP.
If there is something her Husband does which she doesn't like,Then she can figure it out and make things right if that's the prb.
At the sametime divorce is not too late and might solve the prb. . . . Keep using contraseptive like Seun just prescribed!

She should stay and make it work. They made vows on their wedding day and that have to be respected. She could have pulled out long ago before getting married rather than waiting till now. Marriage is all about sacrifices,whatever she feels is wrong with the marriage can be worked out. What the lord had join together,let no man put asunder. I will never be a part of DIVORCE so i will advise her to stay and make the marriage work out if she is so determined.

Man-of-God:

Someone called me for a counseling, so i need more facts to support what i want to tell her.

A young lady was about to get married but didn't have enough love for the guy she was to get married to. Thinking that may be after marriage she will develop a strong love for him since people say LOVE GROWS.

2 months now in marriage she still struggles to love the man, but no way. She is now asking what she will do since she can't divorce her husband.

Pls what do i tell her. She is seriously crying everyday.

Pls don't make a jest of this. Someone needs our help. God bless u

She should have gone for counselling before saying 'i do'. Don't know what to tell her since every case is peculiar so you wouöld need to give us more details about their relationship.

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I am sure it was part of the initial counselling she attended they told her to go ahead and marry him as "LOVE GROWS", lol.

Na wah oh, eeyah

Busy_body:

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I am sure it was part of the initial counselling she attended they told her to go ahead and marry him as "LOVE GROWS", lol.

Na wah oh, eeyah

Yeah, That's also a possibility.

If she had doubts she shouldn't have gone through with it, but then again which one of us is perfect? So since she has ruled out divorcing him I guess she has to deal with it, for THE REST OF HER LIFE! learn to love him.

Simple. Marry who you love or love who you marry.

There is more to this marriage than what we have been told. Why did she marry this guy if she had no feelings for him?

@poster
since the gal has ruled divorce out then what is there for her to do apart from sticking to this bloody sham?!
what else would you advise: suicide?!
i suggest she turn s back and go ask the %$#&* people who told her this big lie: LOVE WILL GROW rotflmao!!!!

any person who thinks that spending time with someone "you dont really love" will make you eventually love them is a damn fool and deserve whatever they bargained for!

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This is kind of weird, why can't she divorce him? . Is this like a christian couple?. Sorry to sound harsh but she married him,its now her bed and if it's that uncomfortable she needs to get out of it.

I am sensing this is religion related,aaahh! i don't know! when will people see sense?

You dont love a man yet you married him? Why did you marry him to start with?

Now you have conned a man into marriage Imagine that!! All these women sha?

Maybe the guy prayed and hoped never to divorce until he met a con-woman like you.

@Dayokanu

Like attract like, maybe he got whay he prayed for?

She should go to her parents house and stay there until she's ready to grow up.

So people told her "love will grow" and she believed that - does she always do what people tell her?

Why did she marry him in the first place? That's the question you really need to ask her.

@atreides, it's what u get when children try to answer serious questions.

I have never understood people who set themselves up to fail. Your friend has sabotaged not only her future but the future of her husband and both their families. It's a sad situation and she is now stuck in a marriage that was never intended for her. Her husband deserves a wife who genuinely loves him and she has robbed him of that. Yes love does grow over time, but before you marry there should already be a strong foundation of love and friendship. God gave us our feelings for a reason and while we should not let feelings rule our lives, they are there for a reason. She did not listen to her inner voice and now she is trapped. There is nothing you can do for your friend. She must fix this herself and in the process of doing that she may learn some valuable life lessons that will prevent her from making other bad choices. Pray for her, support her as a friend, but you cannot soften this blow for her.