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An0nimus: #blessed

I am too, thanks for asking

ATMC: i'm better than before#smile

is your phone still in the Internsive Care Unit?

An0nimus: *waving* hello girl

hellos how are you

An0nimus: kai see as ATMC dey dribble my oga

*sigh*

Hmmmm

ATMC: sugar, how you doing?

m good, and how are you?

toba: Really? you want me to believe that?

I give up

Hello ATMC

Hello boys

dagr8: [size=13pt] Waiting... [/size]

after the baby is born that is.

toba: too soon. i have to move away from u to stop hurting myself

your such a comedian

toba: he looks like u

good genes...boys in my family looks like their mothers.

toba: Then let me be. stop unnecessary indirect overtures since you no longer care

haba, I still care. A lot...

Sister Jesoul how are you? Haven't seen you around here in a while. Miss you

deleola: May Almighty God console u... I havent stopped crying. God bless Baby B

kpele... baby B will will have so many sisters and brothers soon. He will be happy because mommy will be comforted

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I'm sorry for ur loss[/quote]thank you

toba: Smh. is this an indirect way of showing how much u miss&need me? mtcheeeeeew

ask around I don't beat about the bush...don't you think I would have said that by now?

dagr8: [size=13pt]Public Eye(PE) Daily [/size]

I will mail you the full gist.

striktlymi: Olodo! Small wonder why you were kicked out of the Muslim section!

If you can't control your rage here, how then can you control same where you are involved in a heated debate with Muslims?

on point...*tripple nod*

dagr8: [size=13pt]No way!..Reveal now... [/size]

which newspaper are you working for?

To the mothers/ Parents who have lost their babies, I just checked something out, its kinda long but it will help us all.

As parents, we cannot imagine a more traumatic experience than losing a child. All parents naturally expect their children to outlive them. Such a loss is an extraordinary out-of-order event that brings with it an overwhelming sense of pain and lingering grief. It is a life-altering experience that presents unique challenges to parents as they seek to rebuild their lives without their child.

It would be presumptuous for anyone to tell parents how to handle the death of their child. However, we do know that those who yield their lives to God are more apt to recover from such a loss with a greater sense of normalcy than those without a genuine and positive faith in our Creator. With this being true, how do Christian parents handle the death of a child? Does the Bible address the subject, and if so, in what way?

First, we should note that each person handles grief differently. Emotions vary widely in their intensity. These emotions are normal and natural. Secondly, no parent ever “gets over” or “moves on” from the loss of a child. It’s not like an illness from which we recover. Most counselors liken it to a life-changing physical injury. However, we should also know that though we may always feel the loss, its intensity does diminish with time.

It is the Christian’s faith in a loving and ever-faithful God that enables us to endure and recover from the loss of a child, sometimes in ways that others find remarkable. Such was the case of David in the loss of his first child who died seven days after birth (2 Samuel 12:18-19). There are several valuable lessons we can learn from this passage of Scripture that can help grieving parents to face the future with hope.

One is that David prayed fervently for his child’s life (2 Samuel 12:16). This should be true for all parents at all times, and not just when times are difficult. Parents should always pray for our children, asking God to watch over and protect them. Likewise, parents should pray that God provides godly wisdom and guidance so that our children grow in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Judges 13:12; Proverbs 22:6; Ephesians 6:4).

Another lesson we learn from David was his reaction to his child’s death. Upon learning that the infant had died, there was an acceptance signified by His actions when he “arose from the ground, washed and anointed himself, and changed his clothes; and he went into the house of the LORD and worshiped. Then he went to his own house; and when he requested, they set food before him, and he ate” (2 Samuel 12:20). What is surprising about this passage is that David “went into the house of the Lord and worshiped.” In other words, David not only accepted the death of his child, but he gave it all over to God in worship. The ability to worship and honor God in a time of trial or crisis is a powerful demonstration of our spiritual confidence in our God. Doing so enables us to accept the reality of our loss. And this is how God frees us to go on living. What David models for us in this story is learning to turn loose what we cannot change.

The next lesson is the most revealing. It is confidence in the knowledge that children who die before they reach the age of accountability go to heaven. David’s response to those questioning his reaction to the death of his child has always been a great source of comfort to believing parents who have lost infants and young children. “But now that he is dead, why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me” (2 Samuel 12:23). David was fully confident that he would meet his son in heaven. This passage is a powerful indication that babies as well as children who pass from this world will go to heaven.

Grieving the loss of a child is a heartrending journey. There are no hard and fast rules or guidelines to teach us how to handle our mourning. However, counselors and those who have experienced the loss of a child have provided some helpful advice:

• Recognize that you are not alone. You have God. You have your brothers and sisters in Christ. You have close friends and family. Lean on them. They are there to help you.
• Don't put time limits on your recovery. Don't expect a day to pass without thinking about your child, nor should you want to.
• Talk about your child. It’s important that you share the story of your child with others.
• Take care of yourself and your other children. They, too, are suffering loss of a sibling and the additional discomfort of seeing their parents in grief.
• Try not to make any major decisions at least for the first year.
• Expect that getting through the many “firsts” following the death of a young child—first birthday, first Christmas, etc.—will be painful.

And lastly, Christians who have lost a child have the grand and faithful promise of God’s word: “And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away” (Revelation 21:4).

superbloke: Thank God. That's good to know.

uh...sorry ma'am.

your pardoned, you know I don't like those beauty contests.

Hey Evy! Missed you. Are you ok?

An0nimus: males fan ke..sounds a bit awkward he has more than enough fans already, you a fan too?

lol, you aint **** right? Was kidding

superbloke: Don't take the hype seriously. I'm not the 'mr nairaland' type. I probably don't stand a chance.
@Anonimus...sorry about your brother. Hope it's not too serious.
@HBG...what are u trying to imply?

erm, a birdie travels faster than the tornado...m ur manager remember?

meggy4real: I Love My Husband
As a woman, Stupidity is when you sitback crosslegged and search for an already made man. Incase you don't know, every already made man out there, has a woman who has been with him from when he had only a pair of shorts and a single shirt. That's why majority of well to do men, usually make you nothing but a sextoy, for you mean absolutely nothing to them. He might cheat on her with you, but truth is, he'l never leave her for you. . . .If you are guilty of hunting for an already made man, then i tell you, my dear you are such a cow, you actually need horns. When good healthy brains settles, yours floats!

That man who is head over heels inlove with you right now and you are taking for granted this minute:::::
He may not own a car.He may not earn a lot of money.
He may not live in a posh estate.
He may not be able to shower you with gifts all the time.
He may not have a great job.
But its enough to know you are the only one he craves for and loves unconditionally­.. .. ..IF
He has a heart of gold.He is Honest.
He is very hardworking.He is humble.
He keeps that smile on your face.He talks to you everyday.
He actually listens to you.He tolerates you when you're moody.
His family knows you.He tells you your beautiful all the time.
He sees you every chance he gets.
He appreciates the tiniest things you do.
He is there when you need him.He Respects you. He is proud you are his and likes showing you off.
And he treats you like a queen. . . .my dear you are indeed lucky to have him.

He may not have it all now, but one day he will...
He may not be living his dream now, but one day he will..
And as He pictures all this..He pictures You.
Ladies, there's no perfect man on earth, never you forget this fact. Learn to appreciate that man in your life who strives to be all you need. That man who promises you nothing but tries his utmost best to give you everything.

sounds like music to my ears....I hope ladies in the house are taking notes.

An0nimus: I've not seen bloke's pic. the rumour says if he contests he'll win

my bro, I'm at the hospital with him

superbloke you got fans, even thee male fans vouch for you! Man you must be hawt!

The Dana crash still aches my heart, may God continue to give solace to the families of the victims.

Life is sure full of suprises, we just say it is well nomatter the pain.

ATMC: no you'll not die cos you lived all d while you didn't have them.

you could be so blund @ times lol

Ujujoan: People are so quick to post they completely forget to read . . . How can you call a boy a 'princess'

And then went ahead to ask if he was epileptic Such painful nonchalance/callousness. . .

you should have just moved on instead of wasting cyber space!

the pictures captured her forgive her absent mind