People that watched the video should explain what he said to those of us that don't have enough data

Wow!!!
Glory be to God who is the permanent healer that used the doctors as tools.

Many deaths are also due to poverty.

U

David and Goliath






David defeated Goliath!!!

ChineduPeters:
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Do you stay in Ibadan?

Sorry, I can't reveal my identity anyway.

Gbengageorge:
You should have reacted violently, like driving her out of the house the first time you caught her, when you still have money, even though you may eventually pardon her, but because your reaction was subtle, she took you for granted that you wont do shit. So she continued in it.
Now you don't have a strong finance, she is capitalizing on that to go for more. So even if you try anything violent now, she will be like, you kuku no get money. But you need to threaten her now with divorce and see if she will be repentant. I doubt if she will be.

You are very correct. Do you know that after I poured out my heart on NAIRALAND, I went home and called wife to advice her as things are getting out of hand, and in the cause of the advice, I asked her to call the former boyfriend that is married to her cousin in my presence, and end any relationship they had, but she refused, telling me that she will call him later. This annoyed me more and i have to call her cousin myself, to tell her everything, and that she should warn her husband to leave my wife alone. The cousin later called me back to say that she knew about their relationship and has confronted the husband severally about it and he always denied it, that she have been planning on how to confront my wife, who happens to be her elder. She even thanked me profusely for being the one to bring the issue open.
For 2 days now, there is a silent war in my home but I know that God is in control.
Thanks

luxy44:


So this is where you will get solution to your marital issues....??

I just need to pour out my heart without any scandal because, the friend or the relation you tell your private problem to, will definitely tell someone else, who will, in turn, tell someone else and before you know it, the situation you want to remedy will get worse. While things are bad in the meantime, I don't want it to get worse. Thanks

AuroraB:
Oga, you are lying.

If i am lying, tell the true story then

meekah:
I strongly doubt the truism of the write up perhaps some sort of "make believe"

Why would you doubt it?

larryking540:


bro I am sorry for what u are passing Tru,

I pity us we men, this is exactly what we are facing in my home and I been d last born in our home gave my father the go ahead to divorce my mother,
when my mother had nothing she was loyal and submissive, but d moment she began to touch money ,she became something else, my father had wanted to divorce her long time ago but he just pity us we d kids, my mother day hid put money inside garri make we fit like her pass my papa, bro I will advise u, take d case to court have a recorder placed as evidence I repeat again have a recorder placed as evidence in future to show to ur kids in future becus trust me, if u divorce ur wife without media evidence ur kids go turn against u in future o, cus dat was exactly my mother's plan and I can bet u ur wife will definitely do dat ,i can confidently say na just few of ur wife cloths day ur hux, boss do d need full and still provide full financial support to your kids, ur 17 year old kid isn't a baby if na olden days he for don father pikin already, bro I repeat take a video coverage along as proof, to show to ur kids in future becus one of them go definitely ask u watin happen between u and e mama,so no much talk y am give am cus na ur kids b ur investment o,

This is a woman that knows my ATM pin. I never hid anything from her, even my phone password, but now, she is so secretive. Her phone is a no go area and she hides her money

Safitu:
Do you think you can have the strength to leave this marriage sir? Maybe not immediately but once you gain financial independence, what do you think?

I quite agree with you. My financial situation actually escalated her disrespectful attitude

kapelvej:
Do you know what it means for you to agree that your wife has cheated frequently and you are still there with her. Did you know how angry God is with you right now.

I have always hated a broken home. I just felt that things will be alright

Safitu:
Ok since both of you have cheated on each other, I honestly think this marriage is dead. Too many outsiders, too many issues, and lack of respect. I don’t expect you to leave over night, but please both of you are too toxic for one another, it’s not good for your health. You are getting older and I know you want to see your kids live to do great things. 18 years, you have tried please. Gradually take yourself out, even if it takes one year just prepare yourself as much as possible to leave. Goodluck and I hope you listen to this advice. Men are liable to die before their wives, she will outlive you and continue messing around after your death if you continue to live like this. Are you setting a good example for your children? What do you want to be remembered for? The decision is in your hands.

I have not cheated on her. My reply earlier was incomplete because my computer was hanging. I have modified it

zeb04:
so right now you are cheating on her too.

She is cheating, you are also cheating so what else do you want?

If she stops cheating, it is very unlikely that you would too so?

Am not cheating on her. I made up my mind to revenge but i restrained myself

LadySarah:
When did You notice this behavior first?What was ur immediate rxn?What did She give As excuse;small p..is,unsatisfactory sex,low libido on ur side,weight gain?
All these yrs what have You done to improve Where She complained?


Watch warroom movie .That is what they tell the women who complain here so You can find out If it Will Work for you.

Work on yourself ,ok?

She explained it away as a mistake, just fun. Am very good on bed. She just takes it as fun

JudgeOGBUNABALI:

Well, this is my 7th yr of marriage. My main problem with man and woman is not cheating but disrespect. And cheating even comes under disrespect. I don't play with respect. I give it to people and demand 110% reciprocation.
Dude here has no respect for himself. So am sure nothing, not even his children will respect him. Not to talk of the so called wife and her bonobo friends. You see, my wife, my inlaws, my siblings knows I can kill demanding respect. So nobody crosses that line. You want to mess around? First quit the marriage. Otherwise the day I find you out. There'd be double funeral and nobody will know who is responsible. My respect is more important than any blood!
That's why I wish to encounter this louse called Op. The wimp seriously need some whip

Your language is rude and crude. You are married for 7 years only. Wait till you get to over 19 years of marriage with teen children before you know that it is another kettle of fish. Thanks anyway

Safitu:
At 45 she’s still messing around, well she will never change I’m sorry to say that to you sir.

I want to ask though if you have been faithful to her all this while? You know, two wrongs do not make a right.

I was 100% faithful to her, for over 16 years till i discovered that she's something else, that she can't change, though i have been restraining myself

RESHARPENED:
Good evening, Sir.

What disability do you suffer from?.
It looks like you feel you have no options but to consistently forgive a serial cheat. Even at great detriments to your mental health?.

What are you afraid of?


When you eventually sell your land and your business is up and running, take your kids for a DNA test.

I don't have any disability. Am just down financially, which i know will be sorted out very soon

Safitu:
You got married in 2000 which means you are at least in your 40s and I’m assuming your wife is near that age too. Mr husband, your wife has left that stage of youthful exuberance, she’s a mother of 4 children and she’s still behaving like a shameless animal sleeping around with all manners of men outside your marriage. Newsflash: SHES NEVER GOING TO CHANGE! Even at 60, she’ll still be looking outside for someone to press her nipples. You guys have been together for two decades plus so it’s not going to be that easy to leave. No body here can tell you what to do, especially since she’s providing for you. You have to make a decision for yourself.

It’s either you endure her cheating and close your eyes. Or you slowly gain back your financial power and gradually make your way out. Do you want to spend your middle/old age miserable because your wife cannot stay in one place? Or are you going to keep fighting extremely hard to make this marriage work because of the kids and the time you have invested? You have to look in the mirror and make that decision. Nobody can make that decision for you. How humiliating it must be, knowing that your wife has no self control in public. She’s embarrassing you, making a fool out of you, cant you see? She probably belittles you to her concubines, and here you are trying to find a solution, Oga you are a good man. Pray. Pray. Pray. You will begin to see things that you were blind to before.

Remember sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone to see change.

I am 48 while she is 45

kapelvej:
This story is not true. However if it is true, then what is really your problem. A woman cheating on you endlessly and you come here to complain. Please get out from here, go and divorce her, then come back to tell us the good news.

This is no fiction. Am talking about my marriage.

KpagoGIN:
You ended up marrying other people's girlfriend and after going through your post the only thing I can tell you is try make heaven.

P.S All the singles in the house hope you can now testify to the wise saying " a leopard never shades it skin" and it goes both ways and all she did was to position all her cards around her by match making her ex's while you were her retirement plan and mind you nothing exonerates you from your own blame and your financial situation is now looking like the fly and scrotum legacy in fact you are the proverbial bird in the "beautiful ones are not yet born" (Chichidodo).

I had the belief then that having gone through stormy relationships, she will settle down wholeheartedly

Kingosytex:


If after all these things happened you still can't take a tangible decision, it means that you are even more gullible than Timi Dakolo and your wife will always capitalise on that fact to manipulate you till thy kingdom come, can't you see she is using your brain to play bet9ja? ...Sorry for the harsh words but i just had to pour out my mind.


In your wife is the deadly combo of cheating, lying, deceit, nudist and promiscuity. Oga, you have a very big problem. Your wife has cheated and lied to you on many occasions yet you forgave her, i must commend you for that because it is only few men that can tolerate such excesses to the level you tolerated. I dislike liars with passion and i absolutely have no second chance to offer them.


Your wife is a perfect example that Okafor's law works. I will suggest you meet your in laws and table the matter before them though i don't believe anything positive will come out of such meeting, but you have to fulfil all righteousness. I advice you to break free from her bondage, send her away, divorce her. She is a cheat and she can't change. A leopard can't change its spots, Buhari is a perfect example about that. Your wife is prepared to ruin your life, she is willing to steal your joy and happiness and she might send you to your early grave.


Remember she has nothing to lose. If you die, she will move on with her lovers. Lastly, make sure you run a DNA test on those children to determine their paternity. Don't even think of selling your house, i advise you sell the undeveloped plots instead and grow your business. I believe you will overcome, i wish you good luck!

Thanks. Her parents are dead, and capitalises on it all the time, telling me to remember that she's an orphan.

My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.