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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by DUNKA(m): 6:04pm On Aug 14
hurthubby:


Thanks. Her parents are dead, and capitalises on it all the time, telling me to remember that she's an orphan.
Bros, Biko, go and do DNA test on your 4 children let me know the results then I can give you the appropriate advise. undecided

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Safitu(f): 6:06pm On Aug 14
That is the reality of life. Women do not respect men that they are taking care of financially. You really need to try and work on yourself and do everything possible to gain that financial power back into your life. From there you will gain that self confidence back and you will have the strength to leave if possible. But you must start making steps today. Start saving money every penny counts, read upon good investments to make. Never give up on your job search. Talk to friends, even here on nairaland they’re millionaires browsing this site every day. Network with people especially in the cars and business section. You never know who might help you and last but not least pray. Just start visualising the life you want for yourself and you will eventully have it. It’s not easy, but you must make a constant effort to see results. Good luck.
hurthubby:


I quite agree with you. My financial situation actually escalated her disrespectful attitude

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Dollarseeker: 6:12pm On Aug 14
bross u Bleep up. I don't know what to tell u sef. the damage would have not been too severe the way it is now. Giving u advice now would be a waste of time. Bross 17 yrs no b moimoi....u Bleep up tete. make I save my time. You should have divorced her the first yr u got married to her. take heart. The woman doesn't deserve to b a wife....BIG MISTAKE. SORRY. Divorcing her now na rubbish cos d damage has been done already and again ur age done drop farrr.....big Bleep up bross. Even the bible permitted divorce but u foolishly forgave her or rather kept forgiving her. bye bye

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by larryking540: 6:21pm On Aug 14
hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him). I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf. In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped). Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that shes already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone. My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

bro I am sorry for what u are passing Tru,

I pity us we men, this is exactly what we are facing in my home and I been d last born in our home gave my father the go ahead to divorce my mother,
when my mother had nothing she was loyal and submissive, but d moment she began to touch money ,she became something else, my father had wanted to divorce her long time ago but he just pity us we d kids, my mother day hid put money inside garri make we fit like her pass my papa, bro I will advise u, take d case to court have a recorder placed as evidence I repeat again have a recorder placed as evidence in future to show to ur kids in future becus trust me, if u divorce ur wife without media evidence ur kids go turn against u in future o, cus dat was exactly my mother's plan and I can bet u ur wife will definitely do dat ,i can confidently say na just few of ur wife cloths day ur hux, boss do d need full and still provide full financial support to your kids, ur 17 year old kid isn't a baby if na olden days he for don father pikin already, bro I repeat take a video coverage along as proof, to show to ur kids in future becus one of them go definitely ask u watin happen between u and e mama,so no much talk y am give am cus na ur kids b ur investment o,

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by luxy44: 6:24pm On Aug 14
hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him). I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf. In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped). Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that shes already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone. My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

So this is where you will get solution to your marital issues....??
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by larryking540: 6:29pm On Aug 14
Dollarseeker:
gross u Bleep up. I don't know what to tell u sef. the damage would have not been too severe the way it is now. Giving u advice now would be a waste of time. Bross 17 yrs no b moimoi....u Bleep up tete. make I save my time. You should have divorced her the first yr u got married to her. take heart. The woman doesn't deserve to b a wife....BIG MISTAKE. SORRY. Divorcing her now na rubbish cos d damage has been done already and again ur age done drop farrr.....big Bleep up bross. Even the bible permitted divorce but u foolishly forgave her or rather kept forgiving her. bye bye

my guy it is not too late, like a stated earlier make he divorce her but make he do video coverage, it could b the spy eye glass or sly video pen, as proof, cus dis woman go so much make sure the kids hate their papa ,na watin my mama b wan to too,but go exposed her, and I the last born in d hux with my sister has given my father the go ahead to divorce her, (my mother)

Career women fear them o,i can say the few cloths of op wife even day op hux,dats how day do ,,,,call family meeting, and just let d lady go, and let ur first son b present becus na ur kids go save u financially at old age o,,and no forget media coverage,

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Dollarseeker: 6:32pm On Aug 14
larryking540:


my guy it is not too late, like a stated earlier make he divorce her but make he do video coverage, it could b the spy eye glass or sly video pen, as proof, cus dis woman go so much make sure the kids hate their papa ,na watin my mama b wan to too,but go exposed her, and I the last born in d hux with my sister has given my father the go ahead to divorce her, (my mother)

Career women fear them o,i can say the few cloths of op wife even day op hux,dats how day do ,,,,call family meeting, and just let d lady go, and let ur first son b present becus na ur kids go save u financially at old age o,,and no forget media coverage,
better...but I just de vex with this man....I for done insult am but I de hold myself.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Mutemenot(m): 6:41pm On Aug 14
How can you succeed in business when your wife fvcks up n down Better take action before you die....

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by larryking540: 6:43pm On Aug 14
Dollarseeker:
better...but I just de vex with this man....I for done insult am but I de hold myself.

no cus d guy,
men like dis they fear broken home or broken family, am sure he grew up in one and dat is what he is avoiding but he just can over look it ,,

Divorcing e wife na for 2 reason ;
1 . make the woman no go wake up say na kill e wan kill the husband becus of a new lover way she don get,
2.to save the kids from emotional truma,cus certainly street people or area people go use am laugh them, say their mama na ashawo,

and 3rdly since the woman is always traveling, I can bet u one or 2 of the kids will have difficulty relating with a lady ,if not now ,in 8 years to come op will confirm this 3rd one I just list, ,,,

make op move on and search well for a new lve, if u fit day like Dat no problem, u fit even date lady way fit just day look ur kids with u ,but op just needto move on dats the truth,

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Obakoolex(m): 7:04pm On Aug 14
JudgeOGBUNABALI:

Well, this is my 7th yr of marriage. My main problem with man and woman is not cheating but disrespect. And cheating even comes under disrespect. I don't play with respect. I give it to people and demand 110% reciprocation.
Dude here has no respect for himself. So am sure nothing, not even his children will respect him. Not to talk of the so called wife and her bonobo friends. You see, my wife, my inlaws, my siblings knows I can kill demanding respect. So nobody crosses that line. You want to mess around? First quit the marriage. Otherwise the day I find you out. There'd be double funeral and nobody will know who is responsible. My respect is more important than any blood!
That's why I wish to encounter this louse called Op. The wimp seriously need some whip

Pele o Mr respect cool....

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by dayleke(m): 7:21pm On Aug 14
OP is really in pains.
Actually in severe emotional pains.
What you want through and going through is enough to break many men.
You know what to do bro but the fear of the unknown is what is holding you back.
Please be strong o.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 7:25pm On Aug 14
How are you even certain that all 4 of the children are yours? Please do DNA test.

I will give you the same advise I will give any woman. Remove yourself from that toxic environment. That woman will kill you and I can guarantee you that she will only mourn you for a couple of weeks before she gets a live-in bf. You are only doing her a favor if you kill yourself.

I am certain that the reason why you are financially down is due to the stress of what you are going through in her hands. If you want your business to pick up again, leave that environment, work on your self esteem and self worth. Learn to prioritize yourself and be in love with yourself, all that will help you to be focused and your finances will sort itself out.

There are many good women in this world, you were just unfortunate to end up with a bad egg. Do not use her to judge all women. Don't even think about any relationship right now, spend the next one yr to work on yourself emotionally, mentally, psychologically, spiritually. After that, you will be well enough to deal with romantic relationship again. You are a soft man (nothing wrong with that) and there are evil women out there that will take full advantage of it and render you useless. It is painful right now and your probably feel undervalued, unworthy but it does get better. Please remove yourself from the environment and do DNA test. Good luck.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by hurthubby: 7:33pm On Aug 14
larryking540:


bro I am sorry for what u are passing Tru,

I pity us we men, this is exactly what we are facing in my home and I been d last born in our home gave my father the go ahead to divorce my mother,
when my mother had nothing she was loyal and submissive, but d moment she began to touch money ,she became something else, my father had wanted to divorce her long time ago but he just pity us we d kids, my mother day hid put money inside garri make we fit like her pass my papa, bro I will advise u, take d case to court have a recorder placed as evidence I repeat again have a recorder placed as evidence in future to show to ur kids in future becus trust me, if u divorce ur wife without media evidence ur kids go turn against u in future o, cus dat was exactly my mother's plan and I can bet u ur wife will definitely do dat ,i can confidently say na just few of ur wife cloths day ur hux, boss do d need full and still provide full financial support to your kids, ur 17 year old kid isn't a baby if na olden days he for don father pikin already, bro I repeat take a video coverage along as proof, to show to ur kids in future becus one of them go definitely ask u watin happen between u and e mama,so no much talk y am give am cus na ur kids b ur investment o,

This is a woman that knows my ATM pin. I never hid anything from her, even my phone password, but now, she is so secretive. Her phone is a no go area and she hides her money

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by LadySarah(f): 7:34pm On Aug 14
GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

because of the loose vagina?

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by pocohantas(f): 7:49pm On Aug 14
hahn:


I swear I was just thinking the same thing

I can't break someone's home na.
cheesy

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Safitu(f): 7:57pm On Aug 14
What about your beloved child sir? Don’t forget she’s the mother of your child, she suffers then your child will suffer. If you want to leave then fine, which one is she must suffer again? Some of you men still behave like lil boys, please grow up. Leave for your peace of mind and sanity, not because you want someone to suffer, let alone the mother of your child. Shiiiooor.
GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by FisifunKododada: 8:08pm On Aug 14
According to the great Notorious B.I.G (RIP):

What do you do when your beyatch is untrue....

you cut the h00kar off and find someone new...

I need another beyatch...I my life.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by bukatyne(f): 8:23pm On Aug 14
hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him). I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf. In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped). Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that shes already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone. My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

I Pray God gives you the strength and wisdom to move on.

If not for you, for your kids so they are not twisted.

The boys may grow to hate women for the stress your wife is putting you through and the girls may not Learn what it means to be loyal wives.

If people are not ready to build their homes, just fvck around. Don't bother with marriage.

You cannot want the coverage of marriage without wanting to put in the work.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by ImaIma1(f): 8:27pm On Aug 14
Apologies but your wife is a hopeless and unrepentant cheat. She has a wandering eye and it's apparent that she is not willing to change. She's so deep into the cheating that it will take some divine intervention for her to quit.

You have two choices. You try to change her and live it if she doesn't change or you leave the marriage.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by SirVintageCock: 8:43pm On Aug 14
Advising you to divorce this woman is obviouly an advanced form of jesting because your whole cuckold life is built around her and you ain't got nothing to fall back on.
She owns the yam and the ultra sharp Fulani knife which she will use to cut the yam and your balls if you cry wolf. Begging for forgiveness anytime she is caught is just courtesy not because she is remorseful. The brazenness of the adultery is worrisome even to the renowned sinners on nairaland--- even them are shocked.

So, please for the sake of your sanity, --- no DNA, no acceptance of further apology, no fvcking thereby opening yourself up for gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV etc....just pack and relocate. Have your kids enrolled to boarding schools.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Mstick: 8:45pm On Aug 14
All this divorce advocate that wants to break OP's hone remember God hates divorce. OP there's nothing God cannot do just keep praying for her, cook her favorite food and make sure you pray Unclad 12 midnight. Focus on your children and one day she will come back to you. Remember they're more men in the world than women.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by DesChyko(m): 8:45pm On Aug 14
Go and collect the bride price you paid on her head please undecided

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Omoluabi16(m): 8:56pm On Aug 14
Your wife is a hopeless and irredeemable cheat. For her to cheat over again shows she does not love and respect you. She is not even sorry.
For a lifetime contract as marriage, ignoring those warning signs was a huge mistake.
Conduct DNA on those kids, then opt for divorce, make BP no kill you on top a wife from hell that'll hop on the next available dicck. Very unfortunate because I can tell you're a nice person.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by bluefilm: 8:57pm On Aug 14
hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him). I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf. In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped). Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that shes already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone. My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

Nwanne, ndo.

Your case is different.

I have nothing else to say to you.
Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by franchasng(m): 9:00pm On Aug 14
pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...

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I support this comment right here shocked cheesy

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by franchasng(m): 9:03pm On Aug 14
GreatDad19:
My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.
lafmaoooo shocked cheesy cheesy




Nigerian ladies are upping their game so fast in cheating and sleeping around, this is very good for the playboys; enough pussies to keep them forever grooving grin

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by larryking540: 9:07pm On Aug 14
hurthubby:


This is a woman that knows my ATM pin. I never hid anything from her, even my phone password, but now, she is so secretive. Her phone is a no go area and she hides her money
boss wat u have been passing Tru is what my father also passed Tru, and we have had a enough of it, if we had know we would have removed it from d root but we over pampared d situation, Bros if u kw wan get high BP for nothing, or get infection such as HIV or HERPES or Hepatitis B, make u better summon family meeting of both ur family and urs, make una part ways peacefully,
change all ur atm card, and phone pin, so u don't b a victim of set up,

I advise person if u kw u want a caerrer woman, just establish a home business for her, it could be rearing of cat fish, all dis my wife works in d bank or my wife work in so so and so big company, women from time memorial are made to take care of d family but due to modenization, we changed it without knowing d repercussion, bro ur next relationship just set upa poultry farm or fish pond for ur woman, cus dis one is a lost sheep already,

who career woman help, becus she is d one sustaining d home dats y she has d infatery to sleep with men, God ur wife no do u well o,she just literally made u a laughing stuck, bro try call for family meeting, where is ur woman from, cus I kw some part of 9ja don't forbid such an act dat ur wife is doing like d igbo part of 9ja, I kw d edo people forbid it, if not it is either ur first pikin go don sick tire or u for don die self,
Where is your wife from op,

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by franchasng(m): 9:08pm On Aug 14
Safitu:
That is the reality of life. Women do not respect men that they are taking care of financially. You really need to try and work on yourself and do everything possible to gain that financial power back into your life. From there you will gain that self confidence back and you will have the strength to leave if possible. But you must start making steps today. Start saving money every penny counts, read upon good investments to make. Never give up on your job search. Talk to friends, even here on nairaland they’re millionaires browsing this site every day. Network with people especially in the cars and business section. You never know who might help you and last but not least pray. Just start visualising the life you want for yourself and you will eventully have it. It’s not easy, but you must make a constant effort to see results. Good luck.
Please can you increase the volume more so that people at the back can hear it well grin

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by franchasng(m): 9:10pm On Aug 14
larryking540:

boss wat u have been passing Tru is what my father also passed Tru, and we have had a enough of it, if we had know we would have removed it from d root but we over pampared d situation, Bros if u kw wan get high BP for nothing, or get infection such as HIV or HERPES or Hepatitis B, make u better summon family meeting of both ur family and urs, make una part ways peacefully,
change all ur atm card, and phone pin, so u don't b a victim of set up,

I advise person if u kw u want a caerrer woman, just establish a home business for her, it could be rearing of cat fish, all dis my wife works in d bank or my wife work in so so and so big company, women from time memorial are made to take care of d family but due to modenization, we changed it without knowing d repercussion, bro ur next relationship just set upa poultry farm or fish pond for ur woman, cus dis one is a lost sheep already,

who career woman help, becus she is d one sustaining d home dats y she has d infatery to sleep with men, God ur wife no do u well o,she just literally made u a laughing stuck, bro try call for family meeting, where is ur woman from, cus I kw some part of 9ja don't forbid such an act dat ur wife is doing like d igbo part of 9ja, I kw d edo people forbid it, if not it is either ur first pikin go don sick tire or u for don die self,
Where is your wife from op,
lolz even if you set up goat rearing or cattle herding business for her, she will still find way to sleep with goat buyers or herdsmen to grow her goat business cheesy cheesy

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by LilMissFavvy(f): 9:11pm On Aug 14
Truth is, your children's life will never be the same again if you divorce your wife, that's a clear fact. You have lived a good percentage of your life, while your kids are just starting. What do you think will become of your pre-adolescent/adolescent kids? Hold on to your marriage, work on yourself, because something is definitely wrong somewhere (with you)......so pls work on it, ask your wife, she will tell you. Hardly would a woman of 45 flirt around if she has a loving husband who can play his bedroom game, even if it means using sexual enhancers, no one is perfect, just work on it. Also, report her to your pastor only if he's a good one. Your wife needs prayers, stand in the gap and save your marriage, dont give the devil a chance. Even if you divorce her, I don't know if you will be able to fight for custody of all your kids, especially since she is financially strong.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by Safitu(f): 9:23pm On Aug 14
Someone that has been cheating for 20 years ??

Anyways there’s nothing prayer cannot do sha. But change also comes from the willingness of the person involved. Remember that.
LilMissFavvy:
Truth is, your children's life will never be the same again if you divorce your wife, that's a clear fact. You have lived a good percentage of your life, while your kids are just starting. What do you think will become of your pre-adolescent/adolescent kids? Hold on to your marriage, work on yourself, because something is definitely wrong somewhere (with you)......so pls work on it, ask your wife, she will tell you. Hardly would a woman of 45 flirt around if she has a loving husband who can play his bedroom game, even if it means using sexual enhancers, no one is perfect, just work on it. Also, report her to your pastor only if he's a good one. Your wife needs prayers, stand in the gap and save your marriage, dont give the devil a chance. Even if you divorce her, I don't know if you will be able to fight for custody of all your kids, especially since she is financially strong.

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Re: My Wife Is A Cheat. I Need Advice by larryking540: 9:24pm On Aug 14
franchasng:
Hahahahahaha cheesy cheesy



I support this comment right here shocked cheesy
let's b realistic for once na when op contact hiv or herpes or sti or std, or he get slaughtered by a wife who has extra marital affairs dats when u will give a reasonable answer abi

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