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The reason I thought I wanted to divorce my wife felt “simple” at the time.

The house was always messy.

I am a man who loves a clean and organized environment. But my wife? Ah… things were always here and there. Shoes not aligned. Toys scattered. Plates in the sink. It frustrated me more than I cared to admit.

So on Sunday, November 2nd, in my annoyance, I handed her divorce papers.

She didn’t shout.
She didn’t argue.
She didn’t insult me.

She quietly walked into the room, packed a few clothes, and left.

She left our four children ages 2, 4, 7, and 8 with me.

And in my pride, I told her never to come back.

Then reality visited me on Monday morning.

5:00am, I woke up to prepare the kids because I needed to be at work by 8am.

I was cooking.
Bathing one child.
Shouting at another.
Looking for socks.
Packing lunch boxes.

Before I knew it, the food had burnt.

I checked the time.

8:00am.

My heart nearly stopped.

As I was rushing everyone out, my 2-year-old said, “Daddy, poo poo.”

What kind of timing is that?

Before I could react, she had already messed herself.

As I cleaned her up, tears filled my eyes.

We finally got to school by 9am.

Then my 4-year-old calmly said,
“Daddy, my book is at home… on the chair.”

I wanted to scream.

The teacher had to calm me down.

By 5pm, the school called.

“Sir, why haven’t you come to pick your children?”

I asked, “Has their mother not come?”

They replied, “No sir. School closed by 4pm.”

That was the moment it hit me.

So this is what my wife handles every single day?

I rushed from work, picked them up, and went home secretly hoping she would be there.

She wasn’t.

Her phone was switched off.

As I stood wondering what to cook, all four children shouted at once:

“Daddy, help me with my assignment!”

Assignment?

For FOUR children?

Plates were still dirty.
Uniforms were unwashed.
The house looked worse than before.

I was shouting every two minutes:

“Stop that!”
“Leave him alone!”
“Bring that here!”
“Don’t scatter everywhere!”

I kept calling my wife.

Not even to beg her.

Just to tell her to come and carry her children.

Her number wouldn’t connect.

Tuesday was worse.

We reached school by 10am.

Their proprietress looked shocked they normally arrive before assembly.

She asked if they had done their assignments.

I kept quiet.

I had forgotten.

Completely.

I couldn’t do it anymore.

I drove to my sister’s house to drop the children temporarily.

That’s when I discovered something humbling.

She has a home lesson teacher.
A cleaner that comes every evening.
She has only three children.

And her husband still arranged help for her.

I went back home ashamed.

I called my mother-in-law.
I called her siblings.
I started begging everyone to beg her to come back.

I even lied that the divorce was a prank… a small “test.”

My lawyer laughed when I told him to cancel everything.

Only God knows how my wife does all of this daily and still shows up to work by 8am like nothing happened.

By Wednesday, the children didn’t go to school at all.

Assignments were piling up.

I was finished.

Completely finished.

Finally, both families intervened and my wife returned home.

I confessed everything.

She just laughed.

That day, my love for her didn’t just increase it multiplied beyond measure.

I immediately hired a lesson teacher to help with homework.
Anything to reduce her stress.

Those four days humbled me.

I love my wife.

God bless all mothers and wives.

Always respect your wives at every level.
What they do, you truly cannot do even if you try.

Appreciate women for their role in the home. It is not small. It is not easy.


Even the smallest things matter.

Wash the dishes.
Cut the vegetables.
Set the table.
Watch the children while she cooks.

Do not leave her to struggle alone.

The little help you offer every day will light up her heart and make her look forward to cooking again.

Husbands, cherish your wife.

She is doing more than you see.


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The gates of heaven won't be open for them

The kuffar will never enter Jannah.

"Surely those who receive our revelations with denial and arrogance, the gates of heaven will not be opened for them, nor will they enter Paradise until a camel passes through the eye of a needle. This is how We reward the wicked." Surah A'raf 7:40

The soul of kaafir will be blown away, going about till it goes back to its body.

The two angels will sit him down, they will ask who is your Lord. The kaafir that do say he's an atheist, he will regret, this day all his certificate, cloth wealth, affiliation will be gone. He has come to meet Angels where all degrees of this world are useless and can't save you.

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Nobody knows everything about being the best spouse, but here are some good ways to start:

1. Pray for your partner, both when you are alone and together.

2. Encourage them to be more prayerful; a praying spouse is a growing spouse.

3. Be willing to teach what you know to be true.

4. Be open to learning their perspective.

5. Increase your contributions around the home.

6. Smile more.

7. Communicate more.

8. Listen more attentively.

9. Be more available.

10. Show appreciation more often.

11. Give more, no matter how small the gesture. The intention behind it matters most.

12. Argue less; take time to reflect before revisiting the issue.

13. Trust more. Dare to believe in your partner because love requires taking a leap of faith.

14. Utilize your time better. Every second counts in life—there's no time for waste.

15. Take better care of yourself. Position yourself to be more valuable to your partner.

May Allah help us all.

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One of the things that has been stolen from us Muslim women is the ability to rest in our femininity while trusting Allah and trusting our menfolk.

Gone.

Stolen by modern feminism.

Stolen by hyper-individualism.

Stolen by materialism.

Stolen by the modern fixation on perpetual higher education and careerist ambition, dunyawi accolades to mask spiritual emptiness.

We modern women are trained from a young age (by public school, by social media, by others' horror stories, sometimes by our own parents) to reject men, marriage, and motherhood in favor of decades of education followed by a lifetime of paid labor at a corporate job.

We have been taught to demonize any sort of dependence or inter-dependence and obsess about our "independence."

This determination to be "independent" no matter what exhausts us women and depletes our inner resources.

We have been taught to reject the very aspects of ourselves that make us feminine: our softness, vulnerability, natural differences from men.

This is a form of self-loathing that we women got taught.

We have been taught to always hedge our bets, to always have an exit strategy, to have plan B, C, D, and E. To be prepared for disaster, just in case. To be "ready for anything" because "you never know."

We have been taught to be ashamed of our femininity.

We have learned to hide what we really want deep down: to be loved, to be married to a good man, to have children, to be happy at home as a wife and a mother and a woman unashamed of her own natural emotions, filled with love and nurturing and beauty.

We have basically learned to warp our own fitra and to reject our female human nature.

This causes depression, anxiety, hyper-vigilance, and a generalized sense of chronic panic.

It is so liberating to simply be able to let go, surrender control, and rest in our natural feminine.

It is freeing for us women to be able to have full tawakkul on Allah.

It is liberating for us women to finally learn to trust others again, including men-- our husband.

I don't mean blind trust and I don't mean that we should not take the asbab (الأسباب, the means), of course. I know that the Prophet ﷺ advises us to "have tawakkul and then tie your camel."

But in our modern world, it seems like ALL we know how to do IS tie our camel.

We no longer know how to trust.

We have little real trust in Allah or in people.

When we regain our sense of true tawakkul on Allah, and healthy trust between husband and wife, we will be much happier, healthier, and calmer inshaAllah.

When we reclaim what has been stolen from us, balance will be restored to our lives and to our inner lives inshaAllah.

Never be ashamed of being feminine.

May Allah grant us true liberation from the chains that shackle us and give us true tawakkul and the peace that comes with it, ameen!

Umm Khalid

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Mayor of New York… Muslim
Mayor of London ... Muslim
Mayor of Birmingham ... Muslim
Mayor of Leeds ... Muslim
Mayor of Blackburn ... Muslim
Mayor of Sheffield ... Muslim
Mayor of Oxford ... Muslim
Mayor of Luton ... Muslim
Mayor of Oldham ... Muslim
Mayor of Rochdale ..... Muslim.

All schools in the UK now only serve Halal meat!

All this was achieved by only 4 million Muslims out of a population of 66 million!!!

This is an eye-opener

Hamza Yakasai quotes several Western philosophers about Islam

1. Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910)
"Islam will rule the world one day, because it combines knowledge and wisdom".

2. Herbert Wells (1846-1946)
"How many generations will have to endure cruelty and destruction of life until Islam comes back into force? One day the whole world will be attracted to it, then there will be peace, and then the world will be repopulated. .

3. Albert Einstein (1879-1955)
"I understand that what the Jews cannot do, the Muslims do through their own intelligence and intuition. In Islam, that is the power that leads to peace".

4. Huston Smith (1919)
"Islam is the faith that dominates us now and better than we are in the world. How good it would be if we opened our hearts and minds to it".

5. Michael Nostradamus (1503-1566)
"Islam will become the ruling religion of Europe, and the most famous city in Europe will become the capital of the Islamic State."

6. Bertrand Russell (1872-1970)
"I read Islam and realized that it is the religion of the world and of all people. Islam will spread throughout Europe and great Islamic thinkers will emerge in Europe. A day will come when Islam will be the real stimulant. World." .

7. Gosta Lobón (1841-1931)
"Islam only talks about peace and reconciliation. Invite Christians to live the faith of the Reformation."

8. Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
"The whole world will one day accept Islam, and if it cannot accept even the real name, it will accept it in the name of metaphor. The West will one day accept Islam, and Islam will be the religion of those who study there. . World."

9. Johann Geeth (1749-1832)
"We must all accept Islam sooner or later. It is the true religion. I don't feel bad if I am called a Muslim, I accept it as the right thing to do."

*Alhamdulillah!!!*

Please forward this. Let the world know that this message gives hope to Muslims who are experiencing persecution, suffering and neglect.
Just do one thing. It is enough if the Muslim Ummah is united and good. In sha Allah!!!

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In my marriage counselling sessions, I am seeing an alarming pattern.

Many of the most toxic marriages I deal with involve one spouse with strong narcissistic traits.

Charming before marriage. Controlling after.

Confident before marriage. Defensive and blame-shifting after.

If you are serious about getting married and staying happily married, you need to know how to spot this early.

Do NOT ask someone, “Are you a narcissist?”
They will answer beautifully.

Instead, ask questions that reveal accountability, empathy and humility.

Here are some of the most revealing ones.

Q1. Tell me about a time you hurt someone
emotionally. What did you do afterward?

A healthy person names what they did, shows discomfort, and talks about repair.

A narcissistic pattern minimises it, blames misunderstanding, or tells the story in a way that still makes them the hero.

Q2. When someone close to you is upset with you, what happens inside you?

A healthy answer includes concern and curiosity.

A narcissistic leaning answer focuses on frustration, feeling attacked, or being disrespected.

Q3. If your spouse corrected you publicly and they were right, how would you handle that?

A healthy person may admit it would be embarrassing but can tolerate it.

A narcissistic pattern often includes immediate justification, subtle anger, or strong language around respect and hierarchy.

Q4. How do you feel when someone stops appreciating you the way they used to?

A healthy person reflects.

A narcissistic pattern reacts with irritation and entitlement.

Q5. What criticism about you has some truth in it?

A healthy person can name a real flaw.

Red flag answers are usually humblebrags like “I care too much” or “people misunderstand me.”

And here is the key.

It is not just about the words.

Watch how they distribute blame.
Watch their emotional tone.
Watch whether they can admit fault without turning it into a speech.

If you want a peaceful marriage, do not be dazzled by confidence.

Look for humility.
Look for accountability.
Look for someone who can genuinely say, “I was wrong.”

That is what protects a marriage long-term.


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I won’t gossip about my husband to friends or family.
What happens between us stays between us.

I won’t abuse him—verbally, emotionally, or physically. Respect flows both ways.

I won’t emasculate him, in public or private. Building him up is part of building us.

I won’t weaponize intimacy. Withholding affection as punishment isn’t love—it’s manipulation.

I won’t compare him to other men—brothers, strangers, or social media highlight reels.

I won’t air our problems online. Our marriage doesn’t need an audience.

I won’t disrespect him in front of our children. Unity in parenting is non-negotiable.

I won’t nag him into resentment. I’ll communicate clearly, then trust him to step up.

I won’t dismiss his feelings because they’re expressed differently than mine.

I won’t use his vulnerabilities against him during arguments. Trust is not a weapon.

I won’t make him choose between me and his family unless there is genuine harm—and we pray that never happens.

I won’t keep score. Marriage isn’t a competition.

I won’t stop being the woman he fell in love with just because I got the ring.

I won’t ignore his love language while demanding fluency in mine.

I won’t make major life decisions alone and expect him to simply follow.

Above all, I will choose to be his peace, his partner, and his best girl.

May you be Blessed 🙌 more and more

A Toxicologist that operates a snake farm which harbours 4,700,000 snakes in Nasarawa State was in Brekete Family Radio this morning.

He provided the following information on the things that attract snakes to the house are:

1) Egg shells can attract snakes 15 kilometers away.

2) Chickens

3) Rats

4) Frogs

And whatever it can swallow.

All snakes are poisonous except python.

But the speed of the circulation and strength of the poison differ.

Tying a bandage or tourniquet around snake bite causes swelling and can paralyze the part of the body bitten by the snake.

Trekking after a snake bite increases the rate/speed of circulation of the poison which can result to death.

Drinking cold water from the fridge slows down the flow of the poison.

Being calm and reducing movement helps.

Chewing pawpaw leaf and swallowing the liquid stops the flow of snake poison till treatment is received.

If a snake spits its deadly venom into the eye, it can be treated if the victim seeks help on time.

But if the venom enters the nose, the victim can die in a matter of minutes.

But more dangerous than snake is wall Gecko. It is deadlier than snake.

If it leaks a tooth brush and someone uses the brush to clean teeth without washing it first, the person will die.

The shit can kill. So cover your pot and water containers.

Forward to help other people.

As'allam aleykum WaramotuLlahi Wabarakatuh

It's sunnah

1. Thank you:- Jazakallahu Khairan

2. Forgot:- Astagfirullah

3. Amazing:- Ma Shaa Allah

4. Sad:- La Tahzan Inallaha Ma'ana

5. Not confident:- La hawla wa laa quwwata illa billah

6. Insecure:- Hasbunallah waniamal wakeel

7. Unexpected incident:- Qadarullahi wa ma shaa fa'al

8. Be careful:- Fi Amanillah

9. Okay:- In Sha Allah

10. If you feel jealous:- Wama Indallahi Khair

11. Get well soon:- Shifakum Allah

12. Always considered wrong:- Wakafa Billahi Shahida

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The People of the Fire Will Ask for Four Wishes And all Will Be Rejected

_(We seek refuge with Allâh ﷻ from the Fire)_

After a long torment in the Fire—its duration known only to Allâh ﷻ—the people of the Fire will ask for four wishes. Each one will be rejected.

1️⃣ *The First Wish: To Be Taken Out of the Fire*

They will call upon Allâh ﷻ:

رَبَّنَا أَخْرِجْنَا مِنْهَا فَإِنْ عُدْنَا فَإِنَّا ظَالِمُونَ

“Our Lord! Bring us out of it; if we were to return (to evil), then indeed we would be wrongdoers.”
~ (Al-Mu’minūn: 107)

But Allâh ﷻ will respond:

قَالَ اخْسَئُوا فِيهَا وَلَا تُكَلِّمُونِ

“Remain in it with ignominy, and do not speak to Me.”
~ (Al-Mu’minūn: 108)

At this point, they lose all hope of ever leaving the Fire.

2️⃣ *The Second Wish: To Be Ended Completely*

They will cry out to Mālik, the keeper of the Fire:

وَنَادَوْا يَا مَالِكُ لِيَقْضِ عَلَيْنَا رَبُّكَ ۖ قَالَ إِنَّكُمْ مَاكِثُونَ

“O Mālik! Let your Lord put an end to us.” He will say: “Indeed, you will remain.”
~ (Az-Zukhruf: 77)

They ask for death—but death will not come.

3️⃣ *The Third Wish: One Day of Relief*

They will turn to the angels guarding the Fire:

وَقَالَ الَّذِينَ فِي النَّارِ لِخَزَنَةِ جَهَنَّمَ ادْعُوا رَبَّكُمْ يُخَفِّفْ عَنَّا يَوْمًا مِنَ الْعَذَابِ

“Call upon your Lord to lighten for us the punishment for just one day.”
~ (Ghāfir: 49)

The angels will reply:

قَالُوا أَوَلَمْ تَكُ تَأْتِيكُمْ رُسُلُكُمْ بِالْبَيِّنَاتِ ۖ قَالُوا بَلَىٰ ۚ قَالُوا فَادْعُوا ۗ وَمَا دُعَاءُ الْكَافِرِينَ إِلَّا فِي ضَلَالٍ

“Did not your messengers come to you with clear proofs?”
They will say: “Yes.”
They will reply: “Then call—but the supplication of the disbelievers is nothing but in error.”
~ (Ghāfir: 50)

Not even one day of relief will be granted.

4️⃣ *The Fourth Wish: A Drop of Water*

They will call out to the people of Paradise:

وَنَادَىٰ أَصْحَابُ النَّارِ أَصْحَابَ الْجَنَّةِ أَنْ أَفِيضُوا عَلَيْنَا مِنَ الْمَاءِ أَوْ مِمَّا رَزَقَكُمُ اللَّهُ

“Pour upon us some water or anything that Allâh ﷻ has provided you with.”
~ (Al-A‘rāf: 50)

The people of Paradise will reply:
إِنَّ اللَّهَ حَرَّمَهُمَا عَلَى الْكَافِرِينَ

“Indeed, Allâh ﷻ has forbidden them both to the disbelievers.”
~ (Al-A‘rāf: 50)

Why?

الَّذِينَ اتَّخَذُوا دِينَهُمْ لَهْوًا وَلَعِبًا وَغَرَّتْهُمُ الْحَيَاةُ الدُّنْيَا

“Those who took their religion as amusement and play, and whom the life of this world deceived.”
~ (Al-A‘rāf: 51)

So their recompense will be:

فَالْيَوْمَ نَنْسَاهُمْ كَمَا نَسُوا لِقَاءَ يَوْمِهِمْ هَٰذَا وَمَا كَانُوا بِآيَاتِنَا يَجْحَدُونَ

“So this Day We will forget them just as they forgot the meeting of this Day of theirs and used to reject Our verses.”
~ (Al-A‘rāf: 51)

🤲 O Allâh ﷻ, save us from the Fire, make us steadfast upon the truth, and do not let our hearts be deceived by the life of this world.

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I had a friend who got a scholarship to study in Canada.
After three years abroad, he came back home looking fresh and full of life.

When I visited him, I joked,
“Chai, David! So na like this oyibo food go fat person? You don change finish oh.”
We both laughed.

He smiled and said,
“My brother, if you see the difference between here and Nigeria ehn, you go cry. Even the school system alone fit make you respect yourself.”

I was curious.
“What do you mean?” I asked.

Then he told me something that shocked me.

“In my school in Canada, the lecturers don’t give students zero in exams. Even if you fail, they’ll still find a way to encourage you. The lowest you can get is 40%.”

I was confused.
“Wait, you mean even if a student writes rubbish, they’ll still give him 40?”

He nodded.

“Yes. So, one day I asked my lecturer the same question. I said, ‘Sir, why not give zero? Isn’t that the right punishment for failure?’
The man looked at me and said something that broke me.”

He said,

“Young man, no human deserves a zero.

How can I give a zero to a student who wakes up early every day to attend lectures?

How can I give a zero to someone who tries, even if he didn’t succeed?

How can I give a zero to a mind that is still learning?

Here, we don’t grade just answers. We grade effort. Because everyone deserves to feel seen.”

My friend paused for a while, his eyes almost teary.
He said, “Henry, that day I knew the real meaning of humanity. They don’t just teach books there, they teach value.”

His story took me back to my childhood.
I remembered how my primary school teacher used to give me zero and then announce it proudly in class.
She would draw big eyes and mouth on my script and tell my classmates to sing “Shame, shame, shame!” while she flogged me in front of everyone.

Back then, I thought it was normal.
But now I know many of us didn’t fail because we were dull.
We failed because the system made us believe we were nothing.

Sometimes, all a child needs is encouragement, not humiliation.
Zeros destroy confidence.
Mockery kills interest.
Once a student believes he’s useless, he stops trying.

Teachers, parents, lecturers let’s change this system.
Let’s stop tearing children down in the name of discipline.
Let’s start teaching with love, patience, and respect.

We can build a better Nigeria.
We can build a better Africa.
Because every child deserves a chance not shame. 💔

✍🏽 My name is Henry Chidubem Maxwell

I write to educate, inspire, and heal hearts.
If you believe in change, share this message and follow for more touching stories. 🕊️

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