Beerbeer: We are four siblings in my family: two boys who are twins and two girls. When my mum passed, my elder sister stood in as a parent for us. She paid for our university education and sent us monthly allowances for feeding. In fact, three of us would have dropout if not for her. Even when I graduated from school, she was still sending me 30k every month, pending when I get a job. This is in addition to also sending same to my siblings and my father. She has done this for close to 10 years without complaint.
Recently, I finished a project that paid me 2.1 million. This is how I spent the money: I gave 500k to my church to thank them for getting me the job. 300k to my father. 100k to my stepmum. 100k to my second sister. Bought 700k laptop to help with my coding job. I used the rest to pay rent, change my wardrobe, clearance from school, and feeding.
My elder sister found out from my twin brother and got angry because I didn't tell her anything about the job or the money. She was also angry because I didn't set aside money for my twin brother going to law school this year.
To be honest, I didn't think it was a big deal to tell her. I knew my twin was in safe hands cos she was already handling that so I didn't bother. Before now, she had already paid the law school fees (about 500k). So I thought it was settled. I tried to reason with her but she refused to hear.
She was also angry I didn't tell her about the laptop. I knew I messed up here because she was the one that encouraged me to pick up coding and even bought my first laptop. I told her I wanted to finalize everything but it made her angry tye more. She blocked me and I also found out she blocked everyone else including our father.
All these happened in April. I thought she would calm down by now. But I just discovered that she has moved out of our state without telling anyone. She has blocked all the numbers we tried to reach her.
My twin brother said she only sends him allowance for law school (100k every month) and has blocked his number so he won't contact her. He is the only person she sends money to now as she has stopped giving us as before.
I am so confused. Why is she acting like this? Shouldn't she be happy for me? Nairalanders help me.
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She got you your first laptop and you got your first score and it didn't occur to your fluid filled head that you should be the first person to tell?
I been for swear for you for giving Church 500k but they got you the gig so they get a pass.
When next can you do? Move on with your life. Someone supported you in school and give you 30k after graduation and you are still wondering why she is angry?
Move on. Entitlement sets people back. Always Move with this mindset. "NOBODY OWES YOU ANYTHING, EXCLUDING YOUR PARENTS" When that sticks you your head. You brain will come alive.
Angelfrost: Nah... That wasn't why Nuno was sacked. Lol!
He was sacked solely because of personal misunderstanding with the owner... The owner simply doesn't like the Portuguese.
They've been falling out from day 1.
Not true. If he never liked him he won't have been there that long. If you recall the match Awoniyi got injured. He was literally limping yet the coach left him on pitch only for them to find out he had ruptured his intestinalwalls. Now the stupid owner went on to give Ange an award... this is the same thing Chelsea owner did when he brought in potter . You took out someone that gave you a champions league to bring in Graham Potter. How did it go?
In as much that is saddening. How will the child feel... . Do you know how mentally shocked she will be? A man you called Dad for years is no longer ur Dad. She will spend his childhood trying to make sense of it. Cancel the marriage straight up but be in that girls life.
I don't understand.send them home without any time served ? It does not make sense. Not that you're sending them home to Continue their prison time at home oh!
Therock5555: He should go and ask alhaji Tekno how being a solo artist feels like...
Most Nigerian acts just want to jump out and start their own record labels, mehn it doesn't work like that.
Okay in a record labels, people take care of your show venues, promotions, bookings, accommodations etc... you have access to world class features and productions.
Then you feel all high and mighty and feel you're doing so well that the record label is stealing from you and your mighty talent....
Ask Lyta, ask Lil kesh, ask Koredo Belllo etc...
Talents alone doesn't make one a successful musician.....
Na why I dey hail the few wey manage succeed after leaving their initial labels, people like wizzy and kizz Daniels. Funny thing, the later still went back to employ Emperor Geezy to still manage him, same way Tekno did with Ubi...
I just dey look my darling Asake with one eyes...
Asake has grown bigger than YBNL. Something his own manager said.
flokii: Rwanda, Uganda, Zimbabwe and many other African countries now have clean and well planned cities.. Lagos too would have been in that league but for influx of illegal migrants and economic refugees who have no business being in the State. The slow thinking leaders in Yorubaland are busy playing 'oju aiye' politics and politics of correctness till the entire South West region will turn to slum and Nigeria's waste site.
Years from now, tourists like the poster will be making videos about eyesore in Lagos while the losers calling themselves leaders, who failed to act will be rotting away in their graves. Failures.
And Riwandal, Zimbabwe do not have influx? Do you know the amount Riwanda pulls from their influx?
Ahi na the migrants dey shit for Alesh? Agungi Pedestrian bridge.
Go to the mainlane. The railwway lines at oshodi. You go see several layers of shit. ..
GistMedia0: A Nigerian man has been arrested in the United Kingdom after flying in to meet a young girl he had been chatting with online. The man believed he was a young teen girl. Authorities say the suspect had been communicating with the girl for weeks before arranging the meeting.
Upon his arrival, he was immediately arrested by undercover officers. The man is now facing serious charges, including attempted sėxual activity with a minor, and could face 10 years to life imprisonment under UK law.
The case has sparked fresh concerns about child exploitation and online grooming, leading to calls for stricter measures to protect children from online predators.
Police say digital evidence, including chat logs and planning details, were recovered and are being used in the ongoing investigation. The suspect remains in custody and is expected to appear in court soon.
HelenaWills: I wanted to get my mum a small car last year. Didn't have money for a tokunbo so I asked my brothers to help me surf jiji for any affordable car. They showed me a Civic 08 and since I drive one myself, I felt it would be nice to match with my mum.
My brothers and a Kazeem went for inspection and they discovered the car had a few things to be fixed which made them slash the price from 2.4M that we initially agreed to #2,050,000. This was in June last year.
They set out to drive the car down to my house before heading to my mum's but brethrens, since June last year till this very moment as I type this. The car has only been parked from one Kazeem shop to another, on some days it was left by the road side or a petrol station for days out of frustration. I have spent above 700k on it all to no fruition. It's been almost a year now and this car hasn't made me it my house yet talk more of sending it to my mum. I contacted the guy and he said he had tried by slashing the price and that was all he could do. At some point, he stopped picking my brother's calls. Please what advice can you give me?
Can I get him arrested or take legal measures against him at least? Or has this become my headache for life? I need chunks of recommendations please.
Count ur losses and move on. If you can salvage the car. Please do
I think religion should be redefined in Nigeria. Do tell me why Isreal as a nation has one of the best military defence system and here we are ushering prayers to end bandits or fulani massacre instead of calling out the government and security agencies holding them accountable for our tax payers money.
If you check now he went to that state with an elite security team with a Bible in his hand. Even the Pope whom are the founders of Christianity has a serious elite security team but here they keep deceiving Nigerians.
BeautifulMind2: As Ndi-Anambra prepares to welcome President Bola Ahmed Tinubu for the official commissioning of the New Anambra State government house, lodge and other ancillary buildings, Gov Soludo has broken more than three decades of jinx to give Ndi-Anambra a befitting Obi-government Ndi-Anambra. This massive legacy project can never be erased from our minds and generations to come.
You invaded a sovereign nation, seized part of their country once, did same twice in the guise of stopping them from Joining NATO and some gullible Nigerians and others believed Putin's lies that he invaded Ukraine to stop them from Joining NATO. But now that US President have made it clear that Ukraine cannot join NATO, why can't Putin withdraw his cowardly troops being wasted in Ukraine's territories and allow the war to end?
Putin invaded Ukraine just to grab land and steal their precious minerals, it was never about stopping Ukraine from Joining NATO and Donald Trump have seen the truth now and reason he is distancing himself from the negotiation and will probably start partial support for Ukraine.
You want Ukraine to accept ceasefire agreement where Ukraine alone will be the ones to sacrifice huge while Russia sacrifices nothing but rather smile with joy after invading a sovereign nation on the lie and disguise of stopping them from joining NATO. The same Ukraine you invaded overnight without preparation, killed their civilians, children, women, elderly, soldiers, etc, destroyed their national infrastructures, wasted their national resources and annexed their lands for no solid reason should forfeit all their lands you forcefully took over, forfeit all their citizens and infrastructures you killed, displaced and destroyed in order to end the senseless, needless war you started while you go home with their lands filled with precious minerals after maiming Ukrainian lives and you expect their President and the rest of the world to clap for you because they call you Putin abi Russia. Honestly Putin is making me despise Russia that I once cherished
Take it from me, Putin will regret this war.
He will waste so many Russian soldiers and all the foreign countries he has been deceiving their Presidents to be supplying him soldiers and mercenaries will soon get tired and Putin will have no enough Russians ready to fight his foolish war of ego
You the No.1 gullible Nigerian.
Now imagine If France built a Military base in Ghana. And tmrw France declares war against Nigeria. Do you think the bombs fly all the way from France to Nigeria or from the Base in Ghana?
The same NATO that refused Russia to join them years after the war and also refused Russia to build a base in Haiti wanta to now come and build a base in Ukraine?
Make una dey open una head think na.
That War is still on because of the stand up commedian..
Please, I need your opinion on this issue. So I’ve known my girlfriend since NYSC 2019, and ever since then, we’ve been best of friends. I travelled out in 2022, but we still kept in touch and from there we started dating. I’m 29 and she’s also 29. Honestly, I have plans to settle down and marry her when things are right.
A quick note: she’s been trying to come over to meet me as a student ever since I got here, but for one reason or the other it hasn’t worked out (Canada visa rejections and all). Now, she’s talking about how she plans to settle down before her next birthday and even suggested that I marry her while she waits in Nigeria for a maximum of two years before joining me. She really just wants to get married.
To be honest, I currently work and I’m also doing another master’s program in a very reputable institution here in Canada, and I will be done this year. The stress of working and schooling is a lot, and my current workplace pays the barest minimum. I literally have nothing left after sorting out all my bills and expenses. I’m not financially ready to settle down right now, and I even gave her a timeline of two years. Worst case, no matter what, we’ll settle down in two years max. Let me try and fix things for myself here. I can’t marry and bring someone’s daughter here to come and suffer.
I’m a worried person. My dreams are really big and God knows I’m working tirelessly to achieve them. She also knows because I discuss everything with her. Honestly, I understand her point of view, but I’m the kind of person that gets really anxious easily. It would kill me to get married, have kids, and not be able to cater for them.
I know you can’t have everything financially before settling down, but I want at least a moderately stable job. One that allows me to take care of her confidently even if she comes over and doesn’t work immediately. To be honest, my job pay is very low, like unimaginably low, and I’m just barely surviving. I’ve pictured every possible scenario, thinking and planning ahead, but everything is pointing to one answer — I’m not ready.
Considering her age and the kind of person she is, I strongly believe that after marriage she will want kids and to start building a family. That’s not a bad thing, but I, as a man, don’t want to get stuck in that life yet because I know the kind of future I envision. I’ve always promised myself that I won’t raise a family on “manage-manage.” I feel like if I get married now and start raising a family, my focus will shift entirely to making sure they live well, which could make me lose track of my personal goals.
I swear, I know my girlfriend loves me. That’s not in doubt. But I’ve been pleading with her to give me at least two more years. If after that things are still not great, then we’ll settle down and manage until something better comes.
Right now, to be honest, I don’t even have anything financially to plan a small wedding, and I definitely won’t borrow or ask anyone for financial support to do a wedding.
Please, I want your honest opinion. The two options here are: either get married before this time next year or end the relationship now, as there are other people already asking for her hand in marriage.
The whole situation is way tricky.
You just have to tell her that you understand that she's on a biological clock and that you're aware of that. You ain't ready for marriage financially now. You are there mentally but not financially. Say it bluntly. That you barely a penny to spare for even a bottle of beer. Once you marry a lady you're her responsibility. Now from all you're saying it seems she won't be contributing financially.
Iinform her you have two years left and you're done with your program and can foot the bill of a family. Now give her that freewill of choosing to wait for you for those 2years or opting out.
If she chooses to wait. Please save and do the bare minimum. Pau her dowry. You asking her to wait and yet you have not done anything. 2yrs time and she is 31+ .
At the end of day. You have made it clear to her and your conscience would be at ease.
If it is meant to be, it will work out. If it's not. It won't.
I thought it was airtel self. Go to shagamu axis. Go round the steel plants there. They place Nigerians on contract and pay them shit. Zero welfare. Loose a finger they just pay you ur usually weekly wage for a month or two and that is all.
The irony is that these places have workers union consisting of Nigerians but they are fine wiry it.
Family › Re: My Elder Sister Has Cut All Of Us Off - What Can I Do? by IamtheTruth1(m): 12:54pm On Sep 23, 2025
