We4all: If Davido were an ordinary man with his type of nasty attitude, spiritual forces could have broken his wings long ago. Although, no ordinary man would have his kind of attitude and he is pushing his luck because of his status.
Regardless, he is one of the most charming and charismatic celebrities and these qualities are working for him. I like him but he needs to work on his personal relationship with others as the complaints are getting out of hand.
In this case, I think it should be an issue of whether the FG was right or not, instead of how many people are affected.
What of the effect of thousands of potentially unfit "professionals" dumped on the Nigerian populace?
It's too bad this is where we are as a country, though.
Let there be thorough investigation. Maybe a regularisation system should be put in place for the current graduates and students from those schools, after which an absolute ban should be in place.
So a system created to govern a defined set of people should create law that will only suit 2% of the defined people and the laws shouldn’t be considered how it affects the remaining 98% just because the law creators feel it is just?
In Yorubaland, we don't wake up our elders with sidekicks.
We are not like some people from one region who lack home training because their stubborn great-grandfathers died like rats and couldn't live to train them
You must be a coward. Hiding under words and discretion. As man man learn to say something boldly and own up to it.
It’s not actually your fault. Generations of cowards, what more could you expect.
But wait oo, are we naturally supposed to love our mom more than our dad? please share your thoughts
Food for thought!
Let me explain something to you. A condemned arm robber can get rejected and disowned by his father but never by his mother.
People anyone misquote my analogy, my point you mother will always love you without flaws and without expectations. You knows your flaws oh but will still love you regardless and pray for you to change ur ways. A father can easily turn his back on his child for life once they child causes him pain for stuffs that bring shame to the family…. But you see mothers, You are her child for life.
Now men remember all these stuffs and whenever they become financially free, they will give their mothers more gifts than their fathers. It does not mean they love their father less.
Let me paint another scenario. A young dude studying a career course in Uni can wake to tell his father that he doesn’t want to study Law or Engineering anymore. That he wants to do music or be a comedian. Trust me, his father will cut him off and will only welcome him back when that career path he chose pays off. Look at Alibaba case. Go watch that Thehonestbunchshow by Edu wazobia. Alibaba papa no gree talk to am for over 10yrs…. Just because he said that he wants to quit law and do comedy.
FeliciaOja: I meet him July this year, everything about him is cool. My only worry is his fanatical support for arsenal which I consider the worst club on earth.
He keeps disturbing me of how his club will win the league, but whenever they lose he becomes super depressed and aggressive.
We have talked about this many times and he has sworn to change. But this night he came back very late and was making so much noise, shouting and yelling Then I googled scores and saw that his club lost today
I can't take it anymore He is not the first guy I have dated that loved football. His own is that when his club loss it affects him very bad.
I have even suggested he should stop supporting arsenal but he won't listen. After this night rubbish he just displayed I'm thinking of calling it quits.
Am I overreacting??
Please breakup and let the man be. Why do most women want men to change what they love or their passion he chooses to be with you? His passion is Araenal, WTF is the issue?
You will see ladies making a list of the nonsense traits they want in a man but will have the must shitty apologetic attitude, hiding behind zodiac sign…
You are very selfish and you only want a man that will be under ur control. Go get urself a simp
The problem is that Nigerians always react from emotions and not with their senses.
Why did the don not play the whole VN that led to his so father causing him?
If you are from a broken home. You will hear a lot of nonsense your Dad did to your mom from ur mom… you will also hear a lot of nonsense about ur Mom from ur Dad… a wise son will Never take sides… love them both. It didn’t work out with them doesn’t mean they are not ur parents…
Why will the mother bring her son for an interview to talk about the father? That’s how you know a manipulative woman… You should be protecting your children from abuse, from media not granting an interview for your son to tell Nigeria who hates his father? Who gives a Bleep? Even the Chudo is just after his content…
Ask 90% of male children, they hated their father growing up. But later on they got to thank their father for raising dem to be strong men and not acting on emotions….
At the end of the day, marry who has human sympathy oooo. Forget the “I love you” and “have u eaten” she is sending u now…
letstalksense: There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.
Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.
Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?
Pease what do you advise I do?
Thanks in advance.
In as much as I like her for being sincere, it is still a red flag.
I seriously don’t know the advice you seek… if you want an open marriage, go ahead. If not save yourself the stress and move on. Don’t to nairaland 20yrs time saying 3 of your children are not yours man. Dating a loose woman never ends Well.
Wakatumbit: My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired. She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls. The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.
If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.
If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.
As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.
I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do
No way you would say you didn’t see the 🚩. You probably thought uncontrolled jealousy is love. And people who can’t control jealousy are not stable. They day you eventually cheat just make sure u hv a will
MzansiCoolio: Award-winning South African Afro-pop singer Bulelwa Mkutukana, popularly known as Zahara, has died, the country's culture minister announced.
She had been in hospital, reportedly with liver complications, and the government had been assisting the family "for some time", Sports, Arts and Culture Minister Zizi Kodwa said.
The songstress won fame in 2011 with her album Loliwe, loved across Africa.
mcdon024: Mature advice only please. I will keep this very short. There is this her colleague she talks about almost all the time. He is also married. I became curious and decided to go through her WhatsApp chats with this guy. I saw in thier chats selfie pics she sends to him (normal selfie pics), and the one that really got to me is the part he invited my wife to come over and "lets make babies" according to him. But her reply was "No I can't, your hands are full"....Please who can decode this her reply to him?....I confronted her but she denied ever having anything to do with him beside been colleagues. But my worry is why chat flirty chats with a guy and what would give him the mind to ask her to come over and .......... Please I need mature advice only
I am trying so hard to understand you man. Someone is telling your wife to come over and let them make babies ? You are still seeking advice on nairaland?
You ought to be asking how best can your dowry be returned with a cold keg of palm wine. Your wife got so comfortable with her colleague that he is now inviting her to make babies for you to pay school fees…
LeoDeKing: Only a fool will continue listening to the million lies per second coming out of this lying machine.
Hun People like you will always be against truth. Do you even know the meaning of human development index? Dumbo. As long as your next meal is certain you don’t care about the growth of the nation.
Pls what do touts do? I used to think they extort though because they are practically jobless. Those clowns that used to bullshit themselves by telling any APC supporter to send CV for job placement, is it that they are not seeing these ones?
Also, were we not told everyone in Anambra is a billionaire?
So how can billionaires be extorting people of 50 to 100 bucks.
Or is there something I'm not understanding?
Yes, there is something you are not understanding. You’re a dumbo. Which state has touts more than Lagos? They even have political ties and. Positions. It’s only in Lagos touts will stay on the road and be asking drivers for ticket moeny
I laugh when people talk about Tinubu stealing their Money, especially IPOB youth
Well Mr Tinubu's networth and Investment portfolio is so wide you are going to loose count
Shares in Microsoft, CocaCola, Manchester Football club , INTELS Logistics, OANDO group,
Even Allison Madueke, when she had problem and needed to sell her London mansion, Seyi Tinubu's company bought it cheaply
Funny enough no stake in his name, all are in a holdings held by trustees
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Nigerians tire me. See the way it gives you pride to list the things he has acquired by looting government funds. Things he got from using his own firm that handle Lagos tax…
If it where to be China, that man suppose dey isolation camp they wait for judgement. But we are in Nigeria, where people like you rather face hardship and smile at his kin embezzling funds. Your type are only worried about their stomach.
What do you expect since some women down south complained about the price of fish sky rocketing resently so some folks don get source of proteins be that.
It’s not a new thing. Even before the inflation and all… most people in the north have been eating grass hoppers with that their pepper that looks like suya pepper
Most of the people usually killed in bars or drinking spots are usually innocent. Gunmen may wana take out someone and three other people will catch bullets. The major reason I will never sit at any bar to drink or meet someone. Most of the cult fights I have read about usually get heated up from bars. Before you know it, you that came to take cool Budweiser will be gasping for air, bullets in your body…
immortalcrown: I am not surprised. But I wish them reconciliation or peaceful separation.
The wives of Eedris Abdulkareem, African China, Daddy Shocky, M. I Abaga and Erigga are the only Nigerian ladies I believe didn't marry a Nigerian hip-hop musician for fame but for love. There may be a few others but I can't remember them now. The wife of Eedris even donated her kidney to him. 💕
If to say Israel na singer, I for say this saga na stunt to blow him next album.
Omo Erigga wife na OG! Been with him before Wild Wild West went viral in Warri. She dey for am when him be dey work for Robison plaza.
At the end of the day. Marry that lady whom was there when you had nothing to offer her. Because once the money start coming, you would be loved by all but valued by few.
It’s ironic how Nigerians spend millions to build a structure but can’t use less to install fire suppression systems. They rather use church stickers to gum their entrance door than get fire extinguishers
This man took over DSC and it was run to the ground. Thousands of people lost their jobs then. Within the next 6yrs, old staffs started dying from depression or something. Go to Delta Steel plant at Aladja now managed by Premium Steel Ltd, you will shed tears.
When will we start holding these politicians accountable?
You guys keep voting for thieves just because you rather have your tribe ruling than another than an igbo man. Some Yoruba people rather trek daily to work in Lagos than have an igbo man rule them.
I remember how Obj took from our treasury to fund DSC but Atiku used Asian firms to kill everything. Obj landed that day in DSC and sacked all the managers.
Should we talk about our refineries? The level of corruption in this country should be in Guinness Book of Records.
They took away subsidy in the name of using the funds to fund development projects yet they are still borrowing budgeting money for private yacht from Budget student loans…
Gullible Nigerians. You would rather vote a thief than someone who is accountable because you want your tribe to rule. Modern day Slavery
UnproudLife: So it happened that at this certain time, I was running a lucrative business that had so much cashflow., to the tune of about 2-4m monthly and I married my long-time girlfriend whom I disvirgined and had been dating for 7 years.
The moment we married and started the family journey, I tried making conversations about having a core family standard that would make harmony stand the test of time. Note that I am a man who is disciplined and goal-oriented. So first I approached my wife with a conversation on how to both make meaningful contributions in getting the family from point A to B at all times, to be more detailed, one of the conversations we had was about our finances because I also mentored her in the same business and she was raking in cash as well and was profitable.
I asked her that we make it a habit of both of us making contributions, having a certain joint account where we drop in cash from a certain amount we make sure we get paid monthly from our businesses. This was because while I was a reasonable spender who knows that if I go broke nobody got my back in the whole wide world. I'm the kinda person who when I spend, let's say for example, 200k just knows I'm worth times 30 of that but even with that I didn't have a concrete structure in business, I just spend money or do things as though my business was an extension of me, which the same was my wife's as well. And this was the reason I wanted us to make the conversation and also do things together. So I told her when we get paid monthly from our businesses we send a certain percentage of it to a joint account to run the family and if I was doing let's say 70k she should do like 30k because, with all honesty, I valued her business at if not half of mine or slightly above it was close at the time. And this was immediately we got married oh.
I was met with strong refusal, as she told me I married her and it was my duty to cater for everything, but as a patient person that I am in not making my judgement rashly I kept trying to convince her. I did till when it dawned on me that we was stern with her objection. And then this created in me a sense of deep selfishness from my wife and also note that I wasn't ever nosey about her income and even though I had a way to access her accounts to monitor Everything I wasn't interested and I was being the sole provider in the family while I watched my wife spend her money how she liked, making decisions that should involve me with her sister and calling some things to surprise me, and I don't mean it negatively.
It happened that i started a project in building a house 3years before we married which I'd credit to her sisters's advice and by the time we married we were already done with the roofing, remaining plastering and the rest. We were living at a very moderate house in town but had this project at a suburb in lagos which we all know that as a lagosian is still Lagos but only that the area would be less expensive. So at a time we were planning moving to a better apartment in town when her sister and her friend advised we pour money in completing our own place to move in. After much convincing I agreed and God blessed the most during this period in business so I had a dream house kind of finishing to the interior and we moved in.
During this time we were managing living at our business place because I was still accommodating her in my business space and we lived there and went home ones or twice in 2 weeks as it was easier with my driving. We then had a certain disagreement that made my wife without my agreement move her business and everything to that house and the area sighting her sister advicing it be done. I winked at it for peace to reign and because I wasn't a fool. Sorry without having to correct what I typed up there, this was the real account of what happened. When we had our first child she moved directly there and I went home weekends while running both businesses with me just directing her staffs and guiding them with discipline. We all know when you leave business for strangers it's OYO but all that doesn't mean I was also having access to her money, the money went to her while I managed the business.
This also was playing out while we dated and got married in how she never likes making any expenditure in even the cost of executing her jobs, and she would rather blackmail which I don't buy and because at those times I stick to mindset in business she'd rebel and take rash decision that would later backfire. So that was how she came one day and moved her everything to the area where we built saying her sister advised it.
I was a faithful man, a born again personality who ever since I gave my life to Christ about 5years to our marriage I stopped having fornication even with her or anyone and till that point in the marriage. So as she had moved, ye little things I knew in her business started diminishing while I was running the family financially. But this lady was always making me feel less than a man because she was so so not submissive even though I married her with the us being both core Christians and born again where she was even more fired up than me so we all knew submissiveness was the watchword but she wouldn't sub to it at this point and when I was home she'd make life miserable for me shouting in an area that the voice travels far, insult my life telling me that she regretted marrying me because I was a person who just wouldn't budge and I used to say I don't "think" as in the thinking that leads to depression and I guess this was why she wasn't having it. I always found ways to channel my thoughts to things positive that gets me going and even forgiving her on time while she sometimes take days to stop keeping malice.
This lady graduated to the aspect of telling me she stooped so low marrying me and I could go out and meet other ladies that she wouldn't even give a damn, and this went on for a long time. Without exaggeration, I myself was someone that in her words she feel for initially because of my looks although I was 5"7 and she like 5"6 in height which isn't that short for a man. I knew how young in thought and look I was when I start taking care of myself and dressing nice again and without a doubt an handsome man, so it got to a point I said to myself I've had enough. At this time I was already lusting at my spec in ladies out there in which I married her like but she refused to remain at. I brushed off and even while being in my early 30s I had several ladies saying I looked 23-26 in age and I started meeting ladies and having affairs with multiple through platforms and it was mind-blowing to me because they were telling me I looked better in person even though the profile pictures I had were compelling themselves. So I had several young ladies wishing we were dating for real but u didn't want that and wouldn't lie to get them laid with promises but the only lie I told was that I wasn't married neither with kids which some weren't even suspecting not to talk of asking such. But something was just not clicking with the way guys if this age behave when I relate with them and this is when we have more deeper relations and then they start sensing the nature of responsibility which makes them ask if I was married.
So at this point I said to myself, I was separated from my wife and I told her in several occasions because I wasn't going home as often as before she noticed all the changes in my looks but cared less. I was so far gone in having other ladies that I didn't even know what could ever make me wanna get back with her again. But in all these I was still a man who doesn't believe in divorce, which is what I always tell her made her misbehave. Then lemme note this. I was so far gone playing churchy Al these years I never knew the age had turned around and ladies were now so much for sale, I could remember hearing the word hookup for the first time 2 years ago when I had started contemplating cheating and I turned so many girls down on those platforms when I understood what hookup meant. I mostly kept them friends online for whining and all and I went off without meeting anyone until last year, that same last year by almost the middle of the year I had my first encounter with a lady who was almost begging I had s*X with her right in my car as the car was tinted at the back, and this was while being friends. I refused and explained I had never done it before. But a month later I started getting in the act until miraculously this year at mid year I had been longing for a change in lifestyle when I got the gift of repentance right in church and I just at this moment didn't care what my wife had ever done to me, I just forgave her in my heart, asked for forgiveness from God. Then it has been happening lately by then that she had been begging me and her sister was saying she in the person of my wife was already fed up and wanted to beg back in good terms with me but you know basking in the love of flesh I wasn't into it and knowing she was the kind that goes back to her vomit. But at this point I determined to make her come where I was and then we reconcile. But shortly after I did restitution with her and told her all I had done and what she made be go into but to my surprise she was so disappointed crying and telling me all sorts which was surprising to me because I expected this woman should have already seen the writing on the wall because I don't know how to pretend at all but she said she never suspected that she knew I was a Christian. Although I played a clean game but was was obvious was the fact that I changed in looks and all and shouldn't that be glaring. And now she only sober occasionally when the thoughts kicks in
My main problem now is that, while my first child is a copy of me, I started seeing the looks of my sister in law's last born in my last kid, which my mum has vaguely noted and I seconded. We can't even nurture the thought as we just said it. But personally each day I now stay with the kid I keep looking the semblance and thinking what if my bro in law which is my sister in law's hobby fathered this child. You see that would have out the child conception at about 3 months before I ever started having affairs outside marriage. I just wish to know what you guys think because I haven't even been able to ask any question relating to that as my wife just seem to off to ever fall into such.
Please ignore any typo as it was long and I'm trying to get by with a new course and it'll be hard to go through what I've written again. Pardon me
One thing I noticed in the Bible was that women where the end of many men .
Firstly, if you doubt your paternity in any child, move in silence and do a DNA test.
I always tell my friends that, dem no dey die put. The day you die another man will replace you. No matter how much you think your wife likes you.
Religion / Re: How My Father, TB Joshua Abused Me – Ajoke, Daughter Had Outside Wedlock by IamtheTruth1(m): 10:36pm On Jan 08
