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oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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The red flags will always be there but you don chose red as your favorite color. So Brace up. You have seen signs now it's time for wonders.

Busy5767:
Nigeria’s Chief of Defence Staff, Christopher Gwabin Musa, has warned that anyone supporting bandits or terrorists will be treated the same as the criminals themselves.

He made this known during a recent visit to Kaduna, where he said those providing assistance whether through trade, information, or logistics would be identified and dealt with accordingly.

The statement suggests a tougher security approach that goes beyond targeting attackers to also focus on their support networks.

Nigeria continues to face security challenges, especially in the northern region, where banditry and insurgency remain major concerns.

👉 What do you think about this approach?

Now, our new strategy: A friend of a thief is a thief. Anybody who is doing any trading or providing any support to them, we will find you together and we will deal with you like bandits, like terrorists.

- Minister of Defense, Gen. CG Musa (Rtd), stated this following his visit… pic.twitter.com/6P5l82Et71

— Imran Muhammad (@Imranmuhdz) April 13, 2026

While the terrorist will be treated as prodigal sons right? Joke of a country

Lanretoye:
If some people have the right to say Obi should be given presidential ticket unopposed because he is their preferred candidate then supporters of Tinubu have the right to have their own candidate unopposed too,otherwise let every one contest and that is why it is called democracy.
I’m still wondering how someone that can’t even win party primary want to win general election,even Sowore doesn’t struggle to get presidential ticket

Until they kidnap you , or you father or mother than your head will stop thinking not just alone about your stomach for the greater good

givedemwotowoto:
LEAKED AUDIO: Sunday Igboho Orders ‘Abduction’ Of TikToker ‘Funny Thinker’ Who Vowed Support For Peter Obi, Issues 24-Hour Ultimatum



Source

By 2029 two people go need add money just to get a loaf of bread. Just wait for renewed hope.

Zackattack:
I knew he was going to get caught. Good riddance to bad rubbish!🤧

You ain't scared of STI?

adenigga:
Source: https://punchng.com/afcon-drama-senegal-rejects-caf-verdict-moves-to-appeal

Instead of CAF to balance Morocco and both business parties move on, they want to drag African football reputation to the mud. Makes you wonder what kind of leverage Morocco has on CAF? To make such announcements after months. When Jamie comes for AFCON tomorrow, no one should attack him o because what shade of fuckery is this?

Melagros:
COMRADES, in spite of the full body guards, yet Israel was able to send the guy to the great beyond
I think I'll advice you Iranians and your supporters to just surrender unconditionally and give peace a chance

How can body guards shield him from Drone strikes?

sheedy407:
Those borrowing from opay and palmpay without paying back, una beans don done now.

Your BVN would be blacklisted.

First to comment since 2007, make i go drink Hammer Dry Gin

When you read, try to understand.

Pravedk:
Until I get the details, I don't believe any party.

The minister might be arrogant and want to flex muscles

The woman might be an opportunist or an angry abandoned side chick

E no concern me for now

So someone will be dragging for 10 good years on false accusations? Until it happens to your mother or your sister. I really don't understand wetin dem dey give una chop for APC. Once you join you start sounding different. From ignorant to full blown stupid. You didn't hear the part she said she has evidence of the dept?

DonADESIDA:
In January 2023, when the petition was followed up with the EFCC, they replied that same month that it had been forwarded to the police, without telling us where in particular.

Until May 2023, my lawyer was called by the FCT Command IGP monitoring team. We went there to mobilise them, but not much happened after Madubueze Andrew was invited, and they resorted to tracking Osakwe Ikechukwu Reginald, whom they never reported arresting.

Na wa. To Mobilise police? You IGP? It's crazy how a victim still has to give out something to get justice

Ofunaofu:
•Says it’s madness to say there’s no Christian persecution in Nigeria




https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/02/in-2023-it-was-glitch-we-dont-know-the-word-well-hear-in-2027/

Kukah finds his voice back? When delegates from US where saying that there was genocide of Christians. He had soar throat oooh!

ibrandtv:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/858230-court-sentences-winners-chapel-pastor-to-death-for-murder.html

Avoid confrontations. Learn how to manage anger. Walking away doesn't make you a weak man. The world will cheer you for delivering swift blows but no one will serve time for you.

I am over 31yrs. I can kill a snake but I can't take the life of a chicken or goat. Now, I ponder how you proceed with striking someone with a knife, even after the first cut, he shouted "Jesus" you saw fear in his eyes and still proceed?

Uncontrollable anger and lack of discipline will damn you in life, society and family

TITOPE:
Source



https://www.titopeblog.com/2026/02/17-arraigned-in-lagos-court-for.html

Dem need go arrest people for Jakande and Agungi. Agungi own na die

helinues:
Is it now that the opposition deem right to be discussing about electoral process?

They didn't even consider the logistics part of INEC.

Election is just a year but the opposition figure are not even sure of which party they will be contesting not to talk of who to vie as president.

They have failed to plan, inevitable plan to fail

Logistics part? Once APC puts food on una table una fo just sell conscious. Country way Health sector no get reach 100m

callmetade:
Internet go too fxck things up more in coming years,.. like this my mind don dey 2030

Abeg .. introduce me to your dealer. I eon dey 2050.

ParrotUpdate:
President Bola Tinubu Signs Electoral Bill Into Law




https://www.channelstv.com/2026/02/18/breaking-tinubu-signs-electoral-bill-into-law/Please

I see revolution happening after the declaration of a winner in 2027. Save the date.

buygala:
The fact that they were casual sex buddies doesn't mean Neo can't have had sex with her without her consent...

The fact that they have fvcked before doesn't give Neo the right to fvck her whenever he wants, even if she doesn't want to ....

Even married people can be raped by their spouses, much less two fornicating persons..Research "marital rape"

This is why its advised to flee from wahala.

Putindbutt:
https://dailypost.ng/2026/02/14/admitting-to-illegal-tapping-of-phone-on-live-tv-callous-omokri-slams-el-rufai/

Chief Judge Reno. This man suppose be stand up comedian

naptu2:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o02AIiuNceM?si=htxaouppyqYURdfY

Funny enough when he started, he was making sense with his teachings but I don't know if he changed his plug and started doing too much.

Is his late father a god now?

mascot87:
Facts only but if you disagree, we no really send your pap1 for here.

Who come send your own papa?

SpaceX:
Why do we always like to kneel down when someone does favour like the person is sort of God, abi na poverty mentality, can't you just shake hands and move on...

It's a sign of gratitude. It's doesn't make you less a man or take away one of your balls. People receive gifts that and go on their knees to show gratitude. Even to God. For to whom shows gratitude, deserves more.

Let me ask you. Would you even give a dime to an ungrateful fool?

Undergroundrul:
Hope others are learning. These bloggers posting anyhow go soon begin see anyhow

Lol. He whom alleges must prove

SmartPolician:
Some people are so wealthy that they don't even know what to do with money anymore. The interesting thing is that the wealthy keep getting wealthier because Seplat welcomed Elumelu to their board recently.

because they make moves needed for growth. He took loan from Afreximbank and bought shares in Seplat. Now, that's power move.

Now, let the poor pray for time and chance. Not to come online and be looking for yorubas or igbos to attack on nairaland.com

WizardOfNG:
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Please be sensible and reasonable. An autopsy is where the inquest should begin for sensible and rational people.

And you feel big organization can't play autopsy to reduce the damage they have to pay or even their stocks self.

Thought about that?

eyesoflagos:
https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/23/vdm-slams-wizkid-over-kuti-feud-what-do-you-know-about-music/

At the end of the day. Please what does VDM?

I can never take a man who has sacked another man's penis serious. You said it's because of the options you had growing up? I hv seen people do odd jobs just to earn a living and they turned out fine. Someone who sacked his fellow man penis for money is now the moral judge for Nigerians? And you see 55k likes on his post o.

Orlandoo:
Osimehn is a spoilt brat. He overates himself too much.

una dey talk oh! You know am from childhood?

Una go just buy 3GB data come online dey talk. You know the meaning of spoilt brat? If dem arrest you now...you go cold.

Racoon:
https://supersport.com/en-NG/football/general/news/3031731b-b23c-4b12-9b83-529511050990/africa-cup-of-nations-refereeing-gets-a-red-card

Watching Fifa President express disappointment in that penalty miss summaries everything

casdoruche:
Is quiet funny that people will want to buy TV and refuse to go to lg store because the lowest there is 300k.

They avoid it like plague but still want to buy same lg at 80k.


You wonder if they are okay in the head.

Son should also investigate those rubber palm and slippers imitating Gucci and Versace. How will I buy original this week then next week I see it being made into rubber. We can’t buy luxury without having to see the rubber version.

SON should also investigate fake human hair and bone straight. Because TikTok is filled with them.




Lg stores legit Dey everywhere but they will never go there to buy.

Hope Nafdac investigates all the Agbo Jedi and co.

Why should someone be selling herbs mixtures without approval. Hawking concoctions should be investigated.

I had serious malaria and went over to a friend's place and he to me to get agbo. Omo, I drank it and I watched my taste bud die.

God!

Emmalez:
Source: https://www.reportnaija.ng/2025/12/drama-as-nigerian-man-discovers.html

I still don't understand why he is still entertaining the conversation.

Be done with that lady and move on. Save your self the mental stress of discovering in the next 15yrs that your children are not.

She is okay with going over to another man's villa to cook for 2weeks.

She has the guts to tell you is no biggie..her Mom is aware.

See the way cheating has become a norm.

Vinnie2000:
As a core Obidient, I still have give Wike credit despite detesting him based on his Antecedents.

He is a VIOLENCE Wotowoto Grandmaster Politician.

Fubara thinks he is Smart but Wike could CRUSH him in 2027 and send him to Oblivion.

Wike will sponsor and Back an Opposition candidate (like Tonye PrinceWill) in the Rivers Election
And with media Propaganda and Character assassination of Fubara, Rivers Pple could vote for that Candidate and Fubara loses out totally.

Wike becomes once again the GODFATHER in the state.

Plz Fubara Fans should enlighten us on how he can defeat Wike in 2027?

There is no monopoly to madness. If I am Fubara, You see that mud, we go swim inside.