₦airaland Forum

Tukor32:
I have a passport expires this year..I just needed only $1500 for school fees and I travel to Portugal

Bishop92:
Japa ke, just 200k will solve my problem

proff010:
44, will be 45 next month.

1Sharon:
Ewedan.

1Sharon:
Are you suited to it? Tell us. Address my points.

Kobojunkie:
To what? That marriage as a fraud is a fact everywhere and not just in the West.

DaddyCoool:
Fact. You can sleep quite fine alone in a warm room in cold weather. But it feels better under covers cuddling with someone, watching a favorite movie or sport event

Kobojunkie:
A fraud in the West but not a fraud in Nigeria?

1Sharon:
See your mouth like mortgage. Who dash am? About 30% of homeowners in the UK are black. For an immigrant Nigerian, that percentage is even less.

If a Nigerian immigrant man is paying the mortgage, there is a good chance that his wife is helping him pay it.

Money stops nonsense, if women in Nigeria had the means, they'll also leave their marriages.

I always tell my little cousins in Nigeria to make money before marrying. A broke woman is more vulnerable than a broke man.

DaddyCoool:
They make for a BETTER life

DaddyCoool:
I googled it.
Women are naturally better at house-keeping, caring for things, keeping things organized


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-gZIwtSfizM?si=rxnDiyyCUyrSk4pf

DaddyCoool:
So you just be by yourself? How about sex, companionship, etc?

DaddyCoool:
Easier, yes. Better, no

eastOFwest:
First, its not pragmatic for an intelligent woman to marry for love alone in Nigeria. Nigeria is a very tough place with so many hazards and not a very female friendly place. A woman needs the protection of a strong or reliable man in a place like Nigeria. Marry for love and then experience abject poverty that will make her lose her sanity and dignity? The situation in Nigeria is not giving women the luxury of making love decisions like that. When the situation in Nigeria improves, the way women choose partners will improve. It wasn't as bad as this in the 60s and 70s when even an office messenger was able to afford to take care of a family and even buy a small Honda or Bentley motorcycle for small flex.

For men living abroad, no matter how nice your wife is, irrespective of whether she was raised in Africa or abroad, make financial decisions based on WHAT YOU CAN AFFORD ON YOUR OWN. Don't fall into that western trap of making financial decisions based on so called "family income" ie, your income plus your wife. No. Take out a mortgage based on what you can afford. If your wife wants to contribute to the deposit or furnishings or buy car out of her own free will, then by all means let her. Make moves based on what YOU can afford because if things go south, and trust me they often do abroad, you will be STUCK. Unable to move out and support yourself and your family at the same time due to high commitments and an uncooperative and sometimes hostile wife. Also, always keep your "vex money" savings handy and away from your wife so that you can easily move into a hotel, short let or air bnb without breaking sweat.

BloomingDale:
There was a social experiment in Britain where young boys and young girls were separated into different apartment for a week. The boys devolved while the girls thrived.

DaddyCoool:
This applies to women too. But most of us don't have the luxury of time to do all that due diligence. Besides, many people can hide their ugly part till years into marriage.
So either way, it boils down to luck. Just pray you marry the right person - statistics say you won't but you might get lucky and beat the odds

NairalandVDM:
Alright. Aside from childbearing and companionship, marriage is of no benefits to a Man in Nigeria

Orch1981:
Nigeria is a bad country ask I will tell you

proff010:
For me I have done everything needed by myself and submitted but the only thing that remain is to pay the visa fee which is about 1.3m for my family of four.

NDSMELODY:
I wish to go to Canada, I would need 6-10M to migrate. Alternatively as you said, I have a business idea which is selling Electrical appliances in whole sales but I couldn't gather money to start up the business.

DMechyyy:
Available

GanagiBitrus:
If you have that Timaya's mentality, you'll never settle down as a man.

You need wisdom & maturity to manage women and their stress to get the best in marriage or any relationship.

treatise:
She needs to rush the number she they desire before menopause sets in.

capatainrambo:
he’s worth it it because the banks can borrow him and he can multiply the money. This is why banks will give him. In the true sense this is why he is worth so much. His worth is the ability of his mind.

shox:
scammer werey. You no even sabi wetin you Dey sell. You and Mr Peter go kpai painful death

GanagiBitrus:
There is no woman on this earth, you co-habit with that will not stress you. What makes you wise & matured is managing the woman & her stress to get the best out of her.

MadamExcellency:
Men are commanded to give their lives for Love. You die there.

Ephesians 5:25 ESV
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

GanagiBitrus:
Kids mentality. There is no marriage without stress. It's your ability to manage the stress that makes you a wise & matured person.

Fact is, As long as you are alive, you'll always face stress either from women or from your fellow man or from circumstances beyond your control.