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yemivictor:
Clearly, you're delusional!

No need to banter words with you!!

Just leave you to your own devices!!!

Eat shit

ievbuomw:
This forum was started to help me with a project for an easy Culture class that I must finish this week. I worded it in a way to keep response open. I asked what was peoples opinion about it,  because this is a forum, does every forum have to be negative and dramatic? I have been married since December, so i changed a few things to see how the discussion would pan,  At least my forum didn't have to do with a 26 year old man pregnating a 13 year old .  Everyone had something to say about it. I opened up the forum to see where it would go, and it went places I was not expecting for sure  . It was written for you to take anyway you want to. You all did just that. So after 6 pages worth of forum, its NOW you are asking me what the question is? So I apologize for any confusion.I appreciate the responses and you all be blessed.

May 11th 2008. Thank you have a nice day Now. Anyone that has good advice feel free to blog on my page please

yemivictor:
It's a good thing we have detectives like you on nairaland, sheniqua!

Fish out the fake ass motherphockers!!

ACTUALLY I was not. Why don't you look at the forum again madame. No getting busted. I started that forum for a project- read through to page 6. If I want to start a forum I can do just that. I have been married for a year and I have been with my HUSBAND for 3 years.So yes I can do anything I want with him. In the blog I did make it seem like it was my fiance so I could get the responses I was looking for. So if you don't have input, keep your comments to yourself and go do something else better that look for rude comments to post on blogs. So for all of you,  look at it again. Don't cus at me and don't be rude. Now I won't curse you because I was raised well are older than me but check yourself before you make any unnecessary comments on my forums.

My family is interesting and I don't know why they would ask.

So you all have the nerve to say these things to me when my forum are not even HALF of the craziness that people talk about in these forums? You guys need to get new hobbies or maybe a job 

Nairaland- na wa ooooooo

newtontoyo:
mrs poster,
In my opinion,if the 2 'parties' can get their compatibilty and cultural issues sorted out just like you 'claim' to have done, there is noting wrong with it. but as for me,d last ting i'll do is to marry an American or a born,bred and brought up Nigerian-American!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes my 'claims' are true. if not, we would not be married and going on our 4th year right? It is all about upbringing. It can be done and I tell you if you would have met me 5 years ago, you prob would have married me ,  Anyway if you read through the forum, you would know that I made this forum to see were it would go, for my cultural diversity class I am taking,  Your input is valued 

Infoseye:
@ poster First of all CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Now there is nothing new perhaps it may be to u about this cultural thing i believe if u guys really love each other and understand each other there is always a way to settle such issue infact its not an issue to be worried about really unless he is been different or thinks different about the issue in picture.
The only problem I think you will have in future which I don't pray to happen to u is your children, they will be confused about where there from if they are white or simply nigerian I guess that where u come in later,

Thank you for your well wishes!!!
This is true because of American society. It happened to me in high school. I wanted to fit in so bad and I was ALWAYS in the middle. No complaints just saying that since I have been there, I will know how to talk to my children and what to tell them if certain situations were to come up that 'daddy" may not understand. Its all about compromise,  I know 

Thank you guys for your input. It has worked well for my project. I did very well presenting this and I thank you all for your honesty.

1st cousins, and my sister in law and her husband

This forum was started to help me with a project for an easy Culture class that I must finish this week. I worded it in a way to keep response open. I asked what was peoples opinion about it,  because this is a forum, does every forum have to be negative and dramatic? I have been married since December, so i changed a few things to see how the discussion would pan, At least my forum didn't have to do with a 26 year old man pregnating a 13 year old .  Everyone had something to say about it. I opened up the forum to see where it would go, and it went places I was not expecting for sure  . It was written for you to take anyway you want to. You all did just that. So after 6 pages worth of forum, its NOW you are asking me what the question is? So I apologize for any confusion.I appreciate the responses and you all be blessed.

I never said I was not compatible with my fiancee- read the post carefully. I am a Nurse and he is a Pharmacist so by no means am I with him for money or vice versa. We are far more comfortable than ever. Of course my parents would want me to marry a Nigerian what Naija mom and dad would NOT want that for their daughter who is around Americans 24-7? That is parents fears for their Naija children being raised in the States if you know anything about that, but trust me if you knew me, You would know that I followed my heart to be with my fiancee not my parents .

I hope that clears up any problems!! I made this forum to see what people thought about it, not what is really happening!!! My relationship is GREAT!! There is nothing wrong with it so far ( I hope after 3 years)!!!

Uwese!! This is wonderful, Keep them coming if at all possible

What do you do about family members that can't get out of your business? Constantly asking questions that are too personal (like how often to you have sex with your husband, ) Even though you are not that close and the only reason you contact them is because they are blood? They are older than me and I don't want to be disrespectful and I don't know what to do.

Whatever denomination they believe in, it is against their religion to use contraception so she'll probably have babies until she dies. When she had her 13th they told her that she should stop or her likelyhood to die on the ER table would be almost doubled. Crazy,

I was long distance from my husband for 3 years before we married. One thing about relationships my friend is being able to trust one another. If you are feeling insecure, you need to find within yourself what is bothering you, then talk with your fiance and see what is bothering her (in reguards to insecurities) A relationship is based on compromise and working together to achieve common ground.

If you do not address these issues now, you too will be too worried about things that do not matter (ie thinking each other is doing things they should not be) and severing the trust that you two should already have. Just like Jenny said, your relationship will crumble if not. It is tough, I know first hand but if you can make it through this part of your lives FAITHFULLY, there is NOTHING that you and your future wife won't be able to handle.

I hope that helps!!! Good luck and God bless you and your family

You make Naija men coming abroad look bad. You are a true disappointment, shey you know. I was long distance with my fiancee for 2 years before we married and we made it work,  you should pray that you don't fall too hard if this all backfires on you.you need to BE A MAN and tell her since you know you love white woman, be fair to Naija woman so she can move on. She is getting old waiting for your no good self!!! 

Sad

tpia:
na by force to love person?

the lady isnt feeling you. Maybe she's in love with someone else.

try to see her point of view sha. What if she were the one calling you all the time when you don't feel like it.

I agree but no offense sounds like a crush gone wrong- could it NOT be anymore obvious that she does not LOVE you back? be patient and if you are a Christian, pray for a wonderful mate and if you wait, she will come.

She sent you that text because it was God's way of telling you look and see what is happening under your nose. i know you must be devastated but you need to let her go. Give yourself time to heal, pray and God will BRING you that special person,

That sucks though , I wish you all the best. g][b][/b]GOD MAKES WAYS WHEN THERE ARE NONE

I want a guy that is mentally stimulating in all ways - academically, spritually, and can make me laugh.

sheniqua:
Love you dear.
I pray you have a very happy home.
I am married and I couldn't be happier.
Marriage is not as scary as people say
It has it's challenges but love and a desire to make it work makes the difference.
Don't listen to all these women lib talk about equality blah blah
Most of those people saying those have been divorced many times over and are looking for marriages to ruin.
They are frustrated women who need to be by themselves.
The Bible calls the kind of control they preach witchcraft.
From such keep away.

Thank you ma, you experienced words are greatly appreciated.

acidrop:
trust me its take little to please a real nigerian guy, n u gat d essentials, since u can cook and do house works, u jst have 2 be good in bed, and then u have d greatest understanding in the world

LOL, bluntly said  

Thank you, and as a Christian woman, I know without those 2 a house is not a home. Thank you Madame Sheniqua

Sheniqua- I have been with him for 4 years (5 in August) read the post carefully,

Wow, not was I was picturing for this forum,

My parents raised me very well. I am 22 with a bachelors in nursing that has a great future with a man I love. Just wanted to start a thread that was interesting enough for you to reply.

I am proud but unfortunately, people view me this way. I cooked egbono soup for one of my uncles this past Saturday and the FIRST thing he said was, "I didn't know Americans can cook like this" So take my thread anyway, but negative is not appreciated

Culturally- yes- compatibility no. We are alike in Sooooo many ways. I love him very much and I could not have asked God for a better half for me

I would love to get some Benin names (edo) boys, girls, unisex, and the meanings. Benin names from Edo state ONLY-Thank you!!

How do people feel about a Nigerian who has practically lived here all of their lives dating/marrying a Nigerian new to American culture? Practically dating an American? That is the situation I am in now. I have lived in the US since I was 1.We are getting married next year and although my parents raised me well (cooking, morals, etc.) I know that this can be one of the hardest things to deal with culturally, a lot is viewed differently by both of us and it took a lot to deal with those issues. What about you? I think it will be interesting to hear what others think and feel. Thanks!!!!!!!

My husband and I have been married for 3 years and we are both AS. We knew from the beginning and our love for each other is more paramount- you need it to be to deal with something like this!! My parents are also both AS and I have 4 siblings, 3 of us are AS and my baby bro is AA. None of us has SS and the is because of the power of GOD. I have 2 daughters and one is AA one is AS. HOWEVER during pregnancy, there is a test to find out if the baby will have sickle cell disease, sickle cell trait, or neither one. The test is usually conducted after the second month of pregnancy. It is very painful and you and your girlfriend need to make the decision to do that or not. That decision MAY lead to you having an abortion, its up to you two.

All I can say is there is NOTHING that God cannot do. If you love her, stay. Marriage is through the good, the bad, and UGLY. Be strong, you two will make it through.

I would love to get some Benin names (edo) boys, girls, unisex, and the meanings. Thank you!!