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All Naija parents have the dream of having their Naija children marry other Naija children. Some even say that American-born Naija children could possibly be an issue. Based on my experience, Naija culture and American culture is like vinegar and oil- it can never mix. You can try all you want to try to mesh it, but his family will not be willing to mix and it will eventually get to him too and it will affect your relationship with him too.I've seen this happen several times and I have never seen a good outcome.

I don't mean to hurt your feelings Ibukun- but that is what it is.

Yeye,

She's playing you like a 2 dollar LovePeddler  . Move on.She does not want you. If she did, she would be claiming you not dissing you 

Wow, You should not have 2 wifes in the first place. You caught wife number 2 cheating? That's what we call KARMA. Ask the white women you are screwing in London about it

Yeye idiot

biola44:
@ievbuomw: why wont u back her?, afterall u've lost count of them

What are you talking there? I HOPE you are not talking stupid to me, But anyway, Like I said I will not judge her because I don't feel that I am the one to judge her. I personally do not feel she is to be called a LovePeddler because I believe that one's past is one's past and I do not know what that entailed for her.

biola44:
@poster: nothing do d girl, 9 na single no, she never enter double, but d girl don enjoy her youth no be small,
@girls defending her: must u Bleep every guy u date?

No number is the best but who are YOU to judge her? You don't know her past life/history and you have probably screwed everything you have seen with breasts for all we know

Oxone:
@op
there is no better person to teach him how to relate with a girl but you since you are a girl.

I have tried. I am married. I am just trying to help a friend. If I was single though, I would not have given him a chance honestly

dabriggs:
Whats the big deal. If you never saw a football in your life you ll feel clumsy the first time you play. So you guys just chillout for the poor dude I beg Una.

I know you nairaland guys have got skills and swagger when it comes to hitting it off. But not every man has played football before and you might be sh coked to realise this fact. Just as you are shocked to know that the guy is a virgin at 30 with no dating experience.

Guy you must understand that the you are in for a real teaching job. You have to teach the guy o with plenty of examples. You have to approach girls and chat with them and let him watch from closeby. I no talk say toast them o! Just teach him how to get comfortable around chics and from there a romantic relationship can kick off. Otherwise he is on his own o!
I wasn't there when he remained a virgin for life. In which there is nothing wrong in that any way.

Teaching a 30 year old man to be be confortable around women is not the easiest thing to do. He needs to practice but he acts like he's scared or something.

AEjiro:
very funny! well if u re available then give him the break he needs. but think about it he be playing u. am a man i kno hw difficult it is 2 tell a lady u ve neva gotten some. it is either of u is bin economical wit d truth.

Oh he's not playing. He is too unexperienced to be playing

That is about the same I have heard as well,

So there is this friend I have that is a 30 year old virgin that has been looking for a girl for 4 years and has not been successful. He grew up in the coventry and has never even dated a girl. You talk to him about women and he asks like he is 7! I tried playing match maker and put him on a date with one of my good friends. He said he won't date her because,"her family is ugly". What the hell? He is waiting for some "Ol' fine gal" to come around but it is sad because he has NO experience with women and I don't think many would give him the time of day. My 14 year old brother could get a girl before he can. I have never seen anything like it in my life. He can't even PRETEND to have even a little experience

What should I do for my friend? How should I help him? Because it is getting kind of annoying and I don't know what to do anymore with him

Whatever it takes for her to realize,"okay maybe I should be married and not date all these rejects anymore"

She is not loose. She's experienced

Not all women are like that. Some are still not mature enough to handle a relationship and fall for lust, Not all women are that naiive. That is like asking why do all men scratch their privates in public- The world may never know

My dear

Love does not hurt. You will have rough patches but a man should never hurt you. That is not love. That is lust gone wrong. You need to find a man that will RESPECT you and that deserves you because the bastard of a man who you say you love does not,

Hi Adam

I wrote you on like page 4 or 5? I noticed you did not reply to what i wrote, did you not find it helpful or you just ignored it? i def. would like to know how you are doing with the situation and if you would like to IM with me let me know. hellobiggie is my user name on yahoo, i am not for the harsh things you said but I really think you need to sit down and really think about about where your anger is coming from, don't turn to hatred and anger. I know this world may not be kind always but you have to be optimistic in all things,

If he brings the best- and the worst out of you, he probably is the one LOL

Seriously- If you sit down and pray for God to guide your heart and show you that person and EVERYTHING is right, he probably is the one

Honey, baby, or just plain love

Why are u so angry? You really need to breathe and sit down and truly look at the situation well from a level headed stand point. This is a learning experience (or should be) and I think you should move on a stronger happier person and thanking God from protecting you from possibly marrying a woman that would not have been the one he ordained for you. Relax and take care of you before you get into relationships out of spite or vendetta.

CHILL. There will ALWAYS be relationships. And the ONE is waiting to be found. Be patient.

1. Loving-kindness. Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, to bring joy to a beloved person, it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer. To be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking toward the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly.

2. Compassion. This is not only the desire to ease the pain of another person, but the ability to do so. You must practice deep looking in order to gain a good understanding of the nature of the suffering of this person, in order to be able to help him or her to change.

3. Joy. If there is no joy in love, it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, if you cry all the time, and if you make the person you love cry, this is not really love--it is even the opposite. If there is no joy in your love, you can be sure that it is not true love.

4. Freedom. In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” This is an intelligent question for testing whether your love is something real.

Real/True love is about giving and receiving. It takes time to grow and blossom. It's about similarities and its about disimilarities.In other words for love to exist takes two, two hearts, two minds, two souls and two efforts and honesty with yourself is important . Let me explain:

So you think your attracted to him, is he attracted to you?
So you think you like him, does he like you?
So you think there's chemistry, does he think there's chemistry?
So you have high expectations, does he?
So you have certain values, does he share some?
Does he share some of your interests? Including job?
Do you share some of his interests? Including job?
Is he willing?
Are you willing?
Will you commit? (Girls are more likely to commit early)
Will he commit ? (Guys are more likely to commit later)
Is he agreeable?
Are you agreeable?

And never forget that the Bible says,

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs, It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

Not a must but it is nice to have,

You don't say it out loud!!! You mouth it!! do it in the mirror you'll see what it looks like

If you mouth olive juice, elephant juice, or elephant shoes in the mirror without saying it out loud, It looks like I love you. try it I think that is what the poster was saying,

HAAAAAAAAABAAAAAAA!!!!!

magentam:
@ievbuomw

Ewoooo! Una no go kill me. O girl, take am easy, No mind the foolish men like LAZZARO and BRASH in here.

. My sista, see question boy put for forum. That alone is too much, then you are adding fuel to the fire?Anyway, it made me feel better

Lazzaro:
What a shame that such beautiful creatures could produce such nauseating odors; is unbelievable,

IS A SHAME, !!!

[quote author=Brash! link=topic=152032.msg2628507#msg2628507 date=1218211279]it is a shame indeed! [/quote]So you farting is not a shame? When next you get jedi jedi, don't fart. It will be a shame for you.

For all of you LIARS on this thread.

Yes women pass gas. HUMANS fart. Get over yourself. And ANY woman that says they do not, say it with your hand on the bible and see if lightening will not cross for your eye @ the poster, Don't make anymore dumb threads like this again. What is wrong with people. 

tijehi:
@Rhino.
Thanks alot. The idea that you have to travel out of Nigeria to learn and assimilate all techniques of romance is so absurd. Like you said it is an individual thing. I don't need to go to Yankee to go learn true romance.

I think he was trying to say that until he married his wife,he was not as romantic as he thought himself to be until he came to the states. He is saying that what he viewed as romantic was not. Don't be brash just read. He said nothing of the sort to make you lash out at the poor guy .

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=109362.msg2622731#msg2622731 date=1218114374]Being romantic has nothing to do with where you are from or raised, it is an individual thing.[/quote]I believe so and it is nature. Women are nurturing and tend to be more romantic creatures. It is the way we were created,

I don't think you would want anyone to be ADDICTED to you  . But respect him and communicate. Talk to him and keep him happy, and he will want to do the same to you

My dad calls my mom that

My husband and i were together for 3 years before we got married and the last year before our marriage was long distance due to school (I lived in Indiana he in New York). If your love is strong you will bend over backwards to make sure things worked. We saw each other only 3 times that year (my birthday, thanksgiving, and christmas) and things were fine. It takes love and discipline. You guys will be fine good luck 

This is BUFFY THE BODY. She is a dancer and a video girl in the States. She is very popular in the music (hip hop) scene. Look her up on any search engine. Even you tube!!She PAID for that yansh. The poster got it on line,  goodness you all fall for anything on Nairaland, 

na wa ooooooooo

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