₦airaland Forum

writetopoker:
2013 when I proposed going for the first time to my inlaw's place foe introduction, after informing her 5 brother's and my people, they all came for the first intro. Low and behold that saturday morning I couldn't withdraw from my Access Bank ATM Card{financial institution not available} even when i tried about 15 different bank atm machines.

Honestly I felt like all the witches in my village was on a special assignment that day. I have to inform my wife to be then on phone, who now bought most of the things on credit, both drinks and kola with her influence. I have to pay the next day after they corrected the issue, it was really an embarrassment. But my happiness was that nobody knew about it except both of us

Sissie:
LOL, people react to pineapple in different parts of the world nah

By react I mean it causes nausea not miscarriage, causing miscarriage isn't proven.

blank:
Lagos state has taken over LCC. They just retained the name. As with anything Govt, the maintenance culture is off. That's why it hurts so bad whenever I have to pay the toll.

The road is a nightmare. Why can't they do something of good quality? There was a Monday, maybe 2 or so weeks ago that it took over 3 hours to get from Chevron to the toll gate.

I haven't really passed the Ajah bridge since it was opened. How is the traffic in the mornings?

nasonaso:
AUNTYIFY ehhh. I am trying to imagine you when you when damn young, you would be so agile and wonderful but now that strengh must have reduced :Dthat's on a lighter note anyway. Hope you are doing well?

laudate:
Are you sure about this? When exactly did Lagos state take over LCC? I have a friend who works there and he said nothing like that happened....
I just believe the company has been infected with the poor maintenance culture we have in this country. Afterall, they make a lot of money from the toll gate, so what is their excuse?

estheremma:
pls i still need a good blender n toaster,im not in lagos but can pay for the transportation.tanx

nasonaso:
Aunty ify i want to send you a pm. I want to inquire about something.

AlphaHandMaiden:
MIL should let her know now so she can make alternative plans. I think it is nice that MIL has made other arrangements for her but i feel she should ask her mum to be there for that period, even if MIL's trusted help pops in every once in a while to give some assisitance and make sure she is ok.

My reason is this:
Families are sometimes tricky to handle and i do not know the relationship she has with her mum or her reason for preference... i guess it is who will offer the most assisitance one needs to consider however ....

If you as MIL are personally going there then she can tell her mum, oh one at a time, and after MIL leaves she can come.

Now if MIL is not going to be there, the story changes dramatically. If she will still tell her mum not to come, it may not go down too well, mum may feel slighted and then cause friction or add to whatever background drama that may have been here before. and then the gist will now be that she has abandoned her mother so that one random person will be taking care of the grand child.

Let her discuss with her mum and offer her rights of first refusal abi how does the phrase go.?
if the mum cannot come for whatever reasons then.... the MIL's trusted person can move in all gun's blazing!.

I may be over dramatising the whole scenario but from my little experience families are rather complex and things done with the best of intentions can be percieved wrongly.

Ps. I dont think MIL needs to feel guilty, many holidays are booked in advance, plus i am sure the FIL's availability for time off is also essential in the holiday plans. Also, before MIL became an Omugwo machine, she was and still is wife and darlyn to FIL. Even grandmas need to flex and relax too.

She can make up to the DIL by staying a bit longer when she finally gets to visit.

forzarush:
For her to prefer MIL to MUM then there's a gaping difference but MIL wants and needs a vacay with FIL then DIL should be told on time with necessary explanations and/or briefing regarding plans in place so that she can start dealing with her disappointment and decide if she'd want MUM instead of hired hands before LO's arrival and she won't feel stranded.

Giddyperson:
If you're sure she has adequate help then biko start now to tell her so that she can adjust her expectations. I'd definitely prefer being told in advance, and maybe a promise to come and stay a little after the vacation.