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On Gratitude

Gratitude is the expression of appreciation for the kindness, blessings, or favors we receive. It goes beyond mere politeness, as it reflects a deeper sense of acknowledgment and thankfulness. There are two main types of gratitude: situational and dispositional. Situational gratitude arises in response to specific acts of kindness, such as receiving a gift or a helping hand. Dispositional gratitude, on the other hand, is a broader, more consistent attitude of thankfulness that shapes how we view life and the people around us.

Despite its importance, gratitude is something many people struggle with. It is easy to take the kindness of others for granted, becoming so accustomed to receiving favors, gifts, or support that we feel entitled to them. We fail to recognize that these gestures are privileges, not rights.

The story of Jesus and the ten lepers in the Bible offers a profound lesson on gratitude. When Jesus healed the ten lepers, only one of them—a Samaritan—returned to thank Him. Jesus asked, “Were not all ten cleansed? Where are the other nine?” (Luke 17:17). This moment highlights how often we overlook the need to express gratitude, even for the most significant blessings in our lives.

Gratitude is transformative, especially in our relationships. In marriages, for instance, showing appreciation for a spouse’s efforts—whether big or small—can foster a sense of respect and deepen emotional intimacy. A simple “thank you” for cooking dinner or taking care of a household task can go a long way in making partners feel valued.

Within families, gratitude builds stronger bonds and creates a happier environment. Parents who express gratitude for their children’s contributions, no matter how small, encourage a sense of responsibility and self-worth. Similarly, children who acknowledge their parents’ sacrifices foster mutual respect and love.

Friendships also thrive on gratitude. Expressing thanks for a friend’s support, time, or kind words strengthens trust and mutual care. Even in professional settings, gratitude plays a critical role. A genuine “thank you” to a colleague or mentor can foster a more positive and collaborative workplace culture.

Gratitude is more than a virtue; it is a practice that enriches every aspect of life. By embracing both situational and dispositional gratitude, we nurture deeper connections, foster happiness, and cultivate a life filled with contentment and joy. Let us remember to pause, appreciate, and give thanks—for even the smallest blessings can have the greatest impact.

In reflecting on the hypothetical question of choosing between my mother and my wife, I have come to the conclusion that, in such an unlikely scenario, I would prioritize my mother. This decision stems from a few key observations:

1. Unwavering Support: Mothers consistently give to their children, regardless of their age or circumstances. For example, when I recently embarked on a challenging journey to pursue my master’s degree, my mother contributed significantly, providing financial support of approximately 2 million NGN and foodstuffs for my travel. In contrast, my wife did not contribute to this endeavor but instead focused on financial demands and obligations I needed to fulfill before leaving.


2. Differing Priorities: I have observed that my wife tends to prioritize her family of origin over our household. Her financial contributions often lean toward supporting her parents rather than addressing our shared responsibilities at home.


3. Constructive Support vs. Criticism: A mother’s nurturing nature often involves understanding her child’s weaknesses and helping them grow. Conversely, my wife has been more critical of my shortcomings and has, at times, shared these with her family members, which can feel undermining.


4. Unconditional Love: A mother’s love is deeply rooted and unconditional, while affection in marriage often seems conditional, influenced by circumstances or expectations.



These reflections highlight the enduring sacrifices and selflessness of a mother, making her irreplaceable in my life. While this is a personal perspective, it underscores the unique and invaluable bond between a mother and her child.

Share your views

We are in interesting times. Some people have chosen to remain silent to the atrocious activities of the current administration because the president is their tribesman. There would have been the loudest critic if the situation is different.

May God deliver us from hypocrites.

elrufiason:
Is Lagos a city?

Lagos is a city state

Guys, I was reading a book; The Richest Man in Babylon. At a point Babylon was referenced as the richest city in the world.

While meditating on what I read, I asked myself the question, which is the richest city in Nigeria?

a. Abuja
b. Lagos
c. Kano
d. Port Harcourt

Kindly give you candid answers with the reason why you chose the city you will choose.

Your kind opinion will be helpful in drawing my strategies for this year.

If there plans had worked, the perpetrators will be termed unknown gunmen

Location and prices

Good evening. How can I reach you?

I need to buy the oil to service my car

dhemmyhardy:
@ awiriwa the Brand NorthSea is from Europe
And it come in 5 liter, you can please google the name and the engine oil. I can also send you the Data sheet if you need it just send me you mail address here or text me at my signature. 5w 20 is 7000naira and 5w 30 is 7500naira

Dhemmyhardy

Yesterday the news filtered across all platforms that effective February 01, 2020, that the Lagos State Government will ban Keke and Okada from playing on certain Local Government areas within this state.

Please state how this will affect you. Positively and/or negatively.

Has Buhari not defeated BH?

Awka amaka

tonididdy:
If you truly love her and see a future with her, marry her or be irresponsible and get her pregnant asap

I don't think the advice is correct. Getting her pregnant at this time may jeopardise your future and hers.

My sincere advise, if she wants to go let her go. Don't ever beg for love. Rather be motivated to deepen your pocket...

Area

Good one

Is this guy mad?

Awareness?

Hmmm, but you and I know that all these have some undertone. Some all the hidden things shall be brought to open.

Minjim:
The publicity is necessary to create the awareness that it's possible.
If there's no publicity, would you be aware ?

The truth is that we may never reach an agreement on this subject matter. The ruling class has taken us for a ride too long and we find it difficult to believe their acts no matter how good their intention is.

I hope the biy will school up to university level in Nigeria.

isthatso:
because he needs to set an example to other politicians. instead of asking why all the paparazzi, you should be asking if the politicians you elected are sending their children to local schools.

When certain politicians do the right thing, we the public have to meet them half way otherwise others wont bother.

If the move to enrol his son in a public school is borne out of sincerity, why all the paparazzi?

Next base jare

Still on #ChangingTheNarrative. Fun Facts About The Igbo And Igboland. - Hope For Nigeria

1) Finding a bungalow in #Onitsha is like looking for a fish in a desert

2) #Onitsha has more multistorey buildings than a combination of Oyo, Ogun, Ondo, Ekiti and Ondo all put together.

3) #Owerri has the most concentration of hotels, clubs and bars per square meter in Nigeria

4) #Onitsha is the most densely populated city in Nigeria outside Lagos

5) #Enugu in 2014 made the list of Most resilient cities in the world and the first in Nigeria.

6) #Owerri and # Aba have the most organized city masterplan, initiated by former governor Sam Mbakwe of old Imo state. Sadly, Aba has been left to rot, due to bad governance.

7)#Anambra state has the best urban and rural road network of any state in Nigeria

: For the past 10yrs, #Anambra, #IMO, #Abia, #Enugu, are the leading states in WAEC, NECO and JAMB, and are also the leading states with NYSC passouts

9) #Imo, #Anambra, #Delta presently have the most PhD holder and Professors in Nigeria

10) By premium times report, #IMO, #Anambra and #Delta are the leading states for law admission for the past 5yrs, while #Imo, #Anambra, #Delta and #Enugu are leading for medicine admission

11)#Anambra #Imo and #Enugu have the highest cut off mark for admission into federal unity schools and colleges, yet these states produce the most graduates from those colleges. For Anambra, it is 139, Imo 138, Enugu 134,

12) In 2017, #igbo students dominated the list of graduates in Engineering and medicine departments in covenant university.

13) In any city, town or village you enter outside #Igboland in #Nigeria, after the indigenous language speakers, the next are the #Igbos

14) #Igbos are the largest diaspora #Nigerians in any country in the world except in the Uk, where the #Yorubas hold sway.

15) The University of Nigeria Nsukka has the most influential alumni of any university in #Nigeria

16) #Owerri has the highest concentration of beautiful girls of any city in #Nigeria.

17) #Onitsha main market in #Anambra state and #Ariaria market in #Aba #Abia state remain the biggest commodity markets in west Africa.

18) #Igboland has the biggest and most influential Football and Nollywood stars in #Nigeria

19) #Onitsha houses the highest concentration of multi storey apartments per square meter in #Sub-Saharan #Africa

20) In 2018, the National Inland Waterways Authority(NIWA), reported that 60 Per Cent Of Cargo In #Nigeria Goes to #Onitsha

21)#Portharcourt, #Owerri, #Enugu and #Asaba airports are the 3rd, 4th, 5th and 8th busiest airports in #Nigeria respectively.

22)#Uli airport in present-day #Anambra state was the first indigenously built airport in black Africa. Built by the #Biafrans during the civil war. Though a makeshift airport, it served its purpose during the civil war but was destroyed after the war.

23) #Imo Airport is the only indigene built and the first state owned airport in #Nigeria. Built from contributions and donations from Indigenes (then #Imo and #Abia). Initiated under the leadership of Sam Mbakwe, but officially commenced operation in 1991.

Please who can give me Kashif number?

Kashif:
My Oga, your boy dey around o. A lot of iron in the furnace....

Bro please call me. Your help needed ASAP. 0 8 0 39419614

GAZZUZZ:
you quoted a 2015 post. We are in 2019 and it is still an evil gearbox, replace it.

Like how much will it cost to get another transmission for Toyota Camry 2008. 4 plugs

polyraph:
Good afternoon house n happy new year. I ve a Toyota Camry 2008 model 2day ago while driving the car it stop sellecting the only selection it does is reverse so I pack the car somewhere' yesterday I went to where I park the car n start it' it move and the selection was OK but when the engine get hot it repeated the samething. My friend advise me to change the oil n fitter's of which I did with the recommended oil WS but the car does not move moretham 60 km even if I accelerate it. Pls I need advise on what to do next

Boss, how did you resolve the issue?

Rest in peace. But ....I just can't say what I want to say

Sequel to South Africa's victory over Egypt in the round of sixteen of the ongoing AFCON, a South African fan belittled Nigeria on Twitter and you just have to see the epic response from Osaze...

homeboy205:
Was the WS recommended gear oil?

yes

Children nowadays don't even know that in our days you could be beaten for any of the following 40 reasons:

1. Crying after being beaten.
2. Not crying after being beaten.
3. Crying without being beaten.
4. Standing while the elders are seated.
5. Sitting while the elders are standing.
6. Walking around aimlessly where the elders are seated.
7. Replying back to an elder.
8. Not replying back to an elder.
9. Spending too much time without being beaten.
10. Singing after being admonished.
11. Not greeting visitors.
12. Eating food prepared for the visitors.
13. Crying to go with the visitors when the visitors are leaving.
14. Refusing to eat.
15. Coming back home after sunset.
16. Eating at the neighbour's home.
17. Generally being moody.
18. Generally being too excited.
19. Fighting with your age mate and losing.
20. Fighting with your age mate and winning.
21. Eating too slowly.
22. Eating too quickly.
23. Eating too much.
24. Not finishing your food.
25. Scraping your plate
26. Eating and talking
27. Talking and chewing
28. Sleeping while the elders had already woken up.
29. Looking at the visitors while they are eating.
30. Stumbling and falling when walking.
31. Looking at an elder eye ball to eye ball.
32. When an elder is talking to you and you blink your eye.
33. When an elder is talking to you and you stared without blinking.
34. When you look at an elder with a corner eye.
When an elder points at you.
35. When your mates were playing Street football and you joined them to play.
36. When your mates were playing and you were not playing with them.
37. When you don't wash your dish
38. When you don't wash your dish properly
39. When you break your dish
40. When you bite your nails.

Some of these reasons for beating a child may seem farfetched to children now, but they sure did give us some solid values. �

The oil was not completely dry. There was still some oil in the sump.

I used WS

Lexusgs430:
Before you topped up, was the oil completely dry? And what oil did you fill it with?....

Good evening.

Recently there was a leakage of my gear oil and I didn't observe on time. I only noticed when I found it difficult driving the car as gear was struggling to select.

Fast forward, the cause of the leakage was traced and fixed. I have to buy 2 gallons of gear oil WS.

But I now noticed that the gear struggles to select gear 1 to 3 especially 3. The tire screeches when it tries to select gear 3.

Can this be fixed and like how much should I project for it?

mynd44
lalasticlala
seun

abeg make una send this to the promise land.

Jidenna representing wella

ALL HAIL BIAFRA