modupsie:

there is more to this story!
am a woman, and i do not think a woman can just open her mouth and tell the man she said I DO to 7 months ago that she does not love him anymore.
how long did u date her? u told her u didn't have a job b4 marriage and after marriage she is asking of a car and Bb . may be she discovered u were lying to her abt your financial status

[b]was it a long distance relationship?[/b]what kind of people are aropund her? i think u guys need to talk! me too am

If every woman is like you then there will be no problem in the world, I suppose. People are different.
It was a distance relationship, u did not read the whole thread ?
She is surrounded by a host of Nigerians, she believe she is making it now. When I met her she did not have a job as well. I helped to relunch her career.

tpia.:

^^ you want us to guess her name abi.


This internet and claim claim sha.

All I have said is nothing but the truth. I have seen a counsellor and analyse the whole Issue and now arrived at a conclusion.

I want to thank all those that have contributed positively to this thread. As with all things you will always get one bad apple and you can guess who that person is,    Everyone is entitled to their opinion. God bless

Aproko:

Ujujoan, Please chill for the poster. i understand your need to try to reason the issue out, but your reasoning is actually comming out as an attack! who cares if hes making up stories, just give him advice if you feel the need to.

@ Poster,

If your wife wants a divorce because she doesnt get what she ask for on time, then there are many ways to handle the matter. but if she says she doesnt love you anymore, then i'd advice you find out how the love went out the window and what you can do to run after it. but before i say grant her divorce, i really need to know the reason you are in america & she is in nigeria. she cant love you when shes seen you only 3 times since you've been married and you guys dated online for 2 years!

you will agree with me that it is difficult to love what you dont know!

Thanks for your advice Aproko , arrangement was being made for her to join me, We've only been married for 7 months and it takes a while to get all the papers sorted.
You won't believe she is a Nigerian celebrety. I will do everything to protect her career so please don't ask for her name.

rubi:

The highlighted statement is striking me I have a red flag on that I can tolerate her demand but adding that statement Your intelligent might be played

Thanks for your observation. I am getting stronger with every comment.

@ Fhemmmy
Just leave the woman alone. I think because I do respond to her thread that is why she is going on like broken record.
She hasn't got nothing important to say. I have read all her previous contributions she is simply trouble.

woooow ujujoan or whatever be you name I nor need your advice.

Fhemmmy:

If he is divorcing you cos of all these things, then, count yourself lucky and go to church and have a thanksgiving that she is leaving.
However, when you were dating her, did u promise her heaven on earth if you do, then, u are bound by your words.

Thanks for your advice, Honestly I did not promise her anything. Even at the time of marriage I told her I don't have a job because of the credit crunch. She said we will manage.

You see, he dosen't care that she misses him or thatshe thinks he dosen't treat her well enough, he just assumed her interest is in material things because that was what he offered in the first place!



I only said I came to Nigeria 3 times because of what you said above. It seems you are not following your own thread.

wahala.

chaircover:

Thank you Ify . . . . that’s why I asked the question if he can afford it.

He says he can so he might as well just buy them if he wants to keep the marriage.

Let him get over this storm first by buying the car and the phone.

To prevent future occurrences of this kind of blackmail from his wife, he has to sit her down and correct any misjudgement that she may have about his true financial standing.

Thanks I appreciate this.

ifyalways:

Na wao for this story
She filed for divorce,u dont want her to go,then get her the darn things now if u can afford it.If u cant afford it or u can afford it but u just dont see urself getting her those things u shld be in your church having a thanksgiving.

Thank You very much. I have one week more to spare before I give up. It is not a do or die affair.

Ujujoan:

*roooollz eyez* I'm after you like she's after your wealth abi? Paranoid!

You came to Nigeria to see her cos you wanted to marry her. Dont act like you were doing her a favour!

I don't want to marry her we are already married. All your discussions are always gbegy.
Attitude .

Ujujoan:

That's because he knows that was what he used to get her, and now he dosent want to give it.

You see, he dosen't care that she misses him or thatshe thinks he dosen't treat her well enough, he just assumed her interest is in material things because that was what he offered in the first place!

I think you just after me. I did not promise her anything. Used to get her? I have been to Nigeria 3 times this year just because of her.

Ournaija:

I dont even know where to start from. Bros we need more info about you and her. Give us details of your courtship period and the 7 months of marriage

Like I said in my earlier post we did not court for long. But we've been friends online for about 2years
I found out that there was a lot of pretence before the marriage. As I don marry her now wetin I go do? leave her ?

Ladies and gentlemen I dey ask for solution that you may have. I nor say make una come attack me.

Ujujoan:

I'm sorry okay? But your story is not convincing enough!! Why would she want to divorce you cos you dont want to buy her a car

If at all what you are saying is true then the only explianation I can get is that for you to be able to afford all those things and decided to marry a woman who's divorced or widowed, den you are a probably divorced or widowed yourself.

I'll bet you are years older than her and you promised her these things just to get her to marry you. Now you are married, you want to dodge!

Majority of men are older than their wife. That is correct.
I did not promise her anything. There is an assumption in naija ,that when you live abroad you have money.
I am not dodging. I am the one trying to save the marriage.

190:

POSTER
your wife is devoricing u cos of things like dis

read
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-333780.0.html#msg4682643

Yeo @190 you are right. That is exactly what happened.
I think I have got the solution. I have to move on.
She's been married before and has a son. I was trying to save the marriage but she is bent on breaking it.

Ujujoan:

That's a very unreasonable story

Come oh, must you post a thread on NL

It is a very true story .
who is entitled to post a thread on NL ?

pc guru:

Who are all these liar opening topics just to promote gender bashing.So your wife divorced you cuz you couldn't buy her some stuffs that the biggest lie i've heard. Even sluts that are married don't divorce for that.Only in nairaland

Trust Nigerians, attitude. How can you call someone a liar when you don't know the facts.

chaircover:

Can you afford these things?

Yes, I can. I think she is taking advantage.

Just been Married for 7 months wife files for divorce.

Reasons.
She is not getting what she wants at the right time.
I have never refused her anything but provide it when i have the means.

Latest request is a FREELANDER.
last request was a blackberry storm, which she has just got.

she says she does not love me anymore.

what should I do people.