₦airaland Forum

SalamRushdie:
A friend of mine confided in me recently that his once loving wife just became rude over night and he doesn't know why and so I asked him if his wife just did aby major payment at home and he said yes she just paid thier daughters school fees for the the first time because he was having some financial difficulties, I told him when he pays her back she will change back to the loving wife she was but till then she will remain rude

I had a friend who lost his job a few years ago and his wife had become the sole provider in the home.He had been out of work for about 3months and i visited him inorder to say 'Hi". While i was there,a football match was being shown on the telly and we both sat down in the parlour gisting and watching the game.
All of a sudden,his wife stepped into the sitting room and switched off the tv from the socket.She then stared at us and said she pays the DSTV bills and we dont have the right to watch it since none of us paid for it.
Wetin concern me.I immediately got up and took my leave inviting my friend for a drink at a joint.He tried to apologise for his wife"s actions but it wasnt necessary because i knew what caused that her behaviour.
No finance,no romance in this hard-knock naija

Cinderella5:
it's easy to spot lazy men with no future ambition, you are a disgrace to men.

But when ladies especially on Nland say they want rich men and 'broke asses should stay away from them,you dont tag them as "lazy with no future ambition".MAY THE GODS PURNISH YOU!!

Jaynom:
When i have kids i'm teaching them everythig in the book of PROVERBS & 'self love'. Most Africans have been colonized mentally. We believe Europeans are the standard for beauty, we don't mind poisoning our bodies to look like em smh. "You can lighten your skin but it doesn't mean you're enlightened".

Oga,stop pointing fingers at the Africans who are "mentally colonized" because you are also in that group.Who brought the book that PROVERBS is in to Africans if not thesame colonizers you tried to foolishly criticize in your contradictory post

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

In essence,the summary of this post of yours is,the key to a man's success is to concentrate on developing/improving himself rather than focusing on courting or marrying some woman or bearing children who aren't worth the time/energy right?
I completely agree with you

cassidyjosh:
going by your name self, no wonder. Anyway a prayer for you: receive sense in Jesus name

Were my insinuations in my post true or false?You see,i have always found men like you to be very amusing and dangerous.You cant compete with "the others" so you try to create the "we vs them" dichotomy.You arent alone with this mindset though.There are many of you online and off it.The excuses are always thesame;If it isnt moslems taking your women,it is so and so ethnic group taking your jobs,if it isnt foreigners stealing your land,it is so and so group responsible for the crime wave.Its people with your same mindset that voted for Trump and attacked Nigerians in south africa.You guys even have an icon called "Elliott Rodgers".Google him if you can.The problem is from you,not from "the others" admit it and seek for help

Bahddo:
Well, I'd like to inform you that pussy has no religion

Besides more than 90% of persons claiming Christianity aren't like Christ of the Bible even in the least. They just go to church for selfish reasons.

Dont mind the OP.He is a confam loser.He cant attract the christian ladies to fucck him and he also cant attract the moslem ladies to fucck him.Who really gives a fucck what religion,ethnicity or creed a pussy is?LOSERS!!

goingape1:
did I just read single mother?

who the hell will want to date a single mother if not imbec1les

To me,single mothers are just like women over the age of 28.They can go fucck themselves

donmalcolm21:
Africa culture made for women to keep silent when Men are talking.


In African Culture a 2month old baby boy wields more power than a Matured woman



Religion and Culture has relegated women to the background

Be more specific.What "African culture" does that scenario occur in?The African culture i grew up in,taught me to be self reliant and self sufficient and if you carryout a research on some african and south american societies,you would realize some were matriarchies.There have been so many queens and trendsetting women in our civilisations unfortunately,black africans contact with the foreign religions brought confusion to us till this very day.Look at the OP for example,she talks about feminism yet she had a dp that was sexually provocative a few months ago and she is married to a man who i am sure fends for her and her offsprings survival.Was that how African women of the past were?If you want to go in,go all in and quit dilly-dallying that is my response to all of these Nigerian pseudo feminists

donmalcolm21:
Christianity and islam have a negative attitude towards women so Feminism is not compatible with christianity and islam



Christianity and islam relegates women to the background and Feminism will always be alien to both religions.

Fixed!

lelvin:
Kanye came, he saw and conquered that ass.

Ray J you mean.View his and kims' sextape again and you'll see how he almost broke kim in half with his prick.Kanye wifed an expired product.He should be mocked not praised

ifyain:
Is marriage worth all these hassles? I think the society should find alternatives to producing babies without marriage. it is very disheartening to see these violence everyday in the name of been married.I personally won,t advice anybody to engage in this thing called marriage unless you are ready to lose your sanity.

There is a monicker on nairaland called "sagamite" who always says all marriages are failures and i completely agree with him.For goodness sake,what is the purpose of marriage in todays' world?It is utter madness!!!

Ladies and gentlemen,i present to you,the "distinguished' Senator Dino and his two phones[url=


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s84e70ydBXA[/url]

Who was that guy wearing number 10 for Barca?I have never seen him before

This is just one of the mentalities possessed by the average nigerian woman that makes me hate them with a burning passion.Anyway,i blame the ever stupid nigerian men for always indulging the worthless nigerian women.If they didn't,the women wouldn't be so demanding of them

frustratedguy:
Thanks a lot. However i still maintain that there's no solution to my problem just the way anyone can't change his or her gender and so is left with no option than to live like that. unless magic does exist, but then again, magic can't do everything.
i disagree with you. family is not all that important. they only stick around when they want something you have, act like they care for a short while so as not to reveal their real intentions which is even done out of obligation, pretend having your best interest at heart, and the next minute they are gone with the wind. family sucks! we should watch out for people instead.
Bro, you still don't understand. going out of the house is a nightmare let alone entering the streets. since the dawn of this year, i have left the confines of my room for not-so-many times. people just seem to hate me for no reason which is why i said that it has something to do with my genes. maybe something is wrong with my face, i don't know i. anybody i have come across hated me without even speaking with me. something must be with wrong with me. i am scared of stepping out. i can't even look at people without assuming an awkward disposition. i am dying and my family don't bother. they only desire that their only son go to school, get a job and make some money. yes i am the only son in my family. when i talk no one understands. my sisters are only interested in watching telemundos and discussing fashion. my dad is a jerk. life has dealt me a heavy blow. i knew too well that coming to the internet wouldn't help my situation, no one can understand but i just needed to type.
i am dying

You may not believe it but i understand every single word you typed on this thread because i have felt the exact same way for many years.I would have killed myself many years ago but i haven't been able to because deep down in my heart,i am a coward.I greatly admire those who kill themselves because i wish i had their courage.I am goodlooking,financially buoyant and likable but i hate my existence and humankind in general.Why should i exist when i never asked to be born?Why do people struggle and chase things through life when they will all eventually die?What difference will it make if i die today or sixty years from today?I view death as freedom from this mess of a prison called life and its only a few people like you and i that realize it