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tanx people,i really felt ur comments,but the fact is that i also saw the writing on the wall b4 the whole thing crash-landed,i even told my friend about it,that i was going to tell this girl to plz,stay away 4rom me,and that we should draw the curtain on the whole thing,but they advised me not to be 2 4word in dismissing her,that later she might say i was the one that did away with her,that it was because i have had my fun,that was y i had 2 dislodged her,because,look,i am not being immodest,but the fact is that this is a girl,i can not count au many times i got down with her,in the balcony of her house twice,in my house more than enough times,at her friends'place at the decking,in her working place on the chair,just name it,yet i kepy liking her,plzz i am not trying to feel on top of the world with all these yearns,but it just keep baffling me,i could not believe she was the one doing those mess,when she started misbehaving,this is a girl that kept crying on my neck at the beginning that i should plz love her,she would not Bleep up,she kept reporting me to my friends here and there that i did not love her,that they should talk to me,u know,so later i now decided to give my all,i think she noticed that,that was au she started with me,even me i could not believe i could be so dealt with by a lady like that,knowing the kind of person i was b4 i fell 4 her,honestly i am not being cocky here,but the fact is that i know au i was in the female mkt,b4 i fell in the so called stupid love,hmmmmm welllllll,i promise that would definitly be the last time,i will never put my self in such a dip shit again,neeeeeverrr,so b4 i voiced out partaining the stuff i discussed with her,i was always cing lots of guys around her,i always kept mute,4 quite some time,but as the whole stuff dragged on,and i discivered her sudden change,i knew the relationship was just a time bomb,i could not bear it any more,and this girl being a girl,i make love to without protection,look,initialy i was so carefull about the sex aspect,because i just wanted to Bleep her and kick her away,until she forced me to fall in love with her,so along the line,she started complaining that don't i trust her enough,to make love to her without condom,that she is assuring me,this,that,bla bla bla,so i gave in to her request,and to be sincere then she looked a noble person,until of recent,so when i noticed all her questionable xters,like,she started lieing,she became cold shouldered towards me,my place no longer fascinate her to come to,just name it,she told me she was going some where that she would not be going to work 4 one week,i later discovered she went to her aunty's palce,that was not even the problem,when i got to her aunty's place the woman said she was there ok,but every morning she would leave house and come back late in the night around 8 or 9,4 the 4 days she stayed with her,definitly she was always going to the guy's house,and on 2 occasions i went there i saw her with this same guy,so 4 christ sake y shouldn't i voice out?and due to her age,she is just 20,i said ok,it might be difficult 4 u,and it might be somehow,nonsensical 4 me to say i should or i must be the only one she should have,i decided to tell her that she should plz play safe,that any thing she does she should plz remember my health,and hers,that she should be smart about her waka waka,because i know y i said so,she is a kind of girl very wild on bed,so not that i could not read the writing on the wall,i did,but i did not want to be 2 4ward,that was y i hanged on b4 she finally broke silence her self,because all those period the more i talked to her,the worst she became,well,my friends have told me to leave her that she only want to catch her fun,due to her age,that i should just stay away 4rom her 4 a very long time and if even possible 4 life,i know she is doing all those nonsense because of material things,because she i graduated 3 months ago,i have been so broke,ohh,GOd,it is terrible ooooo,so guys i saw it coming but,but i only took my time.

people.i broke up with my girl friend 3 weeks ago,although she was the one that ended the whole thing,she decleared by her self she no longer has interest,in the presence of her new guy,but prior to the last episode 3 weeks ago,she had succeded in frustratng the hell out of my life,4 the last three months,so in a nutshell,due to the fact that i have been uncom4table with her waka waka,of late,during those period she was mis-behaving,i decided to tell her to play safe even if she must play about,that i will never tell her to have only me,that something tells me she has started cheating on me,which she denied,but thank God subsequent event since the break up,has finally vindicated me,and my reason 4 telling her to play safe and be smart is not far-fetched,which is just the fact that,since we started the relationship she was the first and only girl in my life i would ever have sex with without condom,as in,any time we got down,i always skin-dived,due to the level of trust i had in her then,until recently when she started misbehaving,so i voiced out in my frustration,phobia,and anger,pleading with her that she should plz play safe and be smart if she must play about,and if she wants to catch her fun,she took the whole thing out of portion and blew the whole thing saying i accused her of trying to infect me with AIDS,that i said she has AIDS,HMMMM,THAT is what she has been telling her people,pzzz have i said any thing bad/?

look u people should try and understand this guy as well,although i am not trying to take sides with him,but the fact is that,4rom experiences,it is blatant that it is when u[a guy]tries to put in his all in an affair,by trying to take it to an enviable level,and by falling in love that the girl would now start misbehaving,i am not saying all ladies do it,but most of them do like that,i somehow feel the guy,because heart-break is a very serious thing ooo,y not try,i mean the lady,should try and find out more about the guy's past,though it might take hard 4 him to reveal it to u any way,he might still be taking his time with u any way.

plzzzzzzzzzz,people what does a woman want in a relationship?

Honestly this is one question i have found,and i am quite sure many other guys have found very difficult to answer,u c my reasons 4 asking this question are not far-fetched,which can be viewed 4rom the following perspective;

MATERIAL THINGS; hmmmm,ok,if u say what the lady desires are the material things like a car,cash,baffs,etc,and u decide to spoil her with those things,hmmmm,experience and research have shown that u would discover she would take u as a foolish father xmas,and she would just be dolling out ur cash,and all sought,to one street-urchin,who might just be banging hell out of her,wothout giving her a penny,u would be taken as a mumu.

THE OTHER WAY ROUND;OK,if u now decide not to spoil the girl with material things,inorder to avoid the above scenario 4rom taking place,that u do not want to look foolish b4 her,so that she would not take u 4 granted,well,she would start to misbehave,jumping here and there,and finally when every thing crashes,people would say she left u because u could not give a enough effusi,so due to the fact that another guy dangled some carrots b4 her,she decided to switch camp.

SEX;Now if u decide to treat her with dignity,and decide not to use her like a rag,due to the fact that u cherish her so much,u perhaps have plans to settle down with her,so u feel there is no need to rush things,she would take u like a mumu,she would say u are not man enough,u do not make her feel like a woman,she would quickly jump to the guy that would give it to her rough,and kick her,and treat her like an animal,so people would be like,ahhh,u did not bang her very well,that was y,she went to the guy that knows the act better.

THE OTHER WAY ROUND; And also on the other side of it,if u decide to treat her any how,bang her any where,any how,give it to her more than enough times,she would say u only want to have sex with her and dump her,that u should atleast treat her with some dignity,that u do not have plan 4 her,all u want is sex, sex ,sex,she now decide to switch camp to the person that would take it gently with her,then people with say,ahhhhh,u self wan kill am with sex?y she no go leave u.

LOVE; And on the issue of love,if u decide not to show her that u love her,despite the fact that inside u,u know u do,u do not send her 2 much text messages,she would keep crying on ur neck day and night,that u should plz show her some love,that she would never disappoint,but u persisted,she now decides to bolt away,hmm,she would say hence u do not care about her,u do not love her,she had no option than to take her love to someone else,hmmmmm.

THE OTHER WAY ROUND; AGAIN if u decide to show her that wow,u are really crazy about her,u can not do without her,hmmmm,again experiences and research has shown that when u show a lady that u can not do without her,that is definitly the begining,of the end of that person,willy-nilly,because it would get into her head,then she would begin to misbehave,u would be a sought of turn off to her,u would nauseat her,she would then be running the show,misbehaving,even start to cheat,knowing in her that u will still come back,because u have made her realise she is the only one 4 u,so my people this whole thing is so cunfusing,what exactly does a woman want in an affair.

well i some how agree with u,but one question i will never stop asking,since my last experience in an affair is just that,

WHAT DOES A WOMAN WANT IN AN AFFAIR.[plzzzzzzzz people i want u to give me a clue],because this whole thing don tire me oooooooooo.

i will die 4 the blues,and besides the footballing aspect,have u guys noticed we have some of the good-looking faces in soccer,like, micheal ballack,whom they call the face of germany,andriy schevchenko,whom they call,the baby faced assasin,jose maunrinho,whom i call the most good looking manager,he is charismatic,intelligent,handsome,just name it,john obi micheal,with his dashing looks,or guys what do u feel?

to be sincere with u people,experiences and research has shown that,atimes u discover that non of those things appeal to a lady in a relationship after all,because if u look at it most ladies do not really know what they want in an affair,especially juvenile cheeks,my reason 4 saying this is not far-fetched,which is just the fact that there are relationships u will discover that has both the love and the money,i mean the guy spends 4 the girl and also love her like mad,but u will be baffled to discover that this same lady being showered with cash and love by the guy,might still end up with a street-urchin,that is not even up to her dieing lover in the firstplace,i do not know whether u people would agree with my perspective ooo,but that is what i feel any way,so by this one would keep wondering what a lady really want in an affair,is it money,well if u give her enough,she might take that ur money and be pouring it on a riff-raff,is it love,hmm,experiences have shown that it is when u show a lady that u love her,that is when she would start misbehaving,because the love u have 4 her would get into her head,and on the issue of sex as well,if u give her enough of it,she might say u want to kill her with sex,u want to just use and dump her,bllaaaa,blaa,and again if u try to treat her with dignity,by not using her any how sexually,when u try to keep he,hmmm,she might just go to someone else to look 4 pleasure,saying u are a mumu,etc,so my people the whole thing is really confussing.

i think there is something still missing 4rom u ladies yardstick for measuring a guy u really want,which are just

[1] the size of his wallet.

[2] the kind of job he does.

honestly i think u ladies should stop being hypocritical about the above factors,because experiences and research has shown that all those qualities u ladies have been mentioning are just the peripheral factors for a guy to hook u ladies after all,the sinei-qua-non,would still count,which are just the above.

look the reality is that a man would never act strange to his girl,that is the girl he loves so much even if he sees another girl,he might just be catching his fun with the other girl,without having one bit of feelings 4 her,but his love 4 his first girl will not die,niether would he act strange,i am talking 4rom a male perspective,and i am sure most guys would agree with me on this issue,but u know the sad part?most times it is this girl he has feelings 4 that may now eventually Bleep up,u c,this is where there is diversity in the behaviour of males to females,as 4 the females,once they start seeing someone else,90% of them start mis-behaving to their first guy,they make it so obvious to the guy,just to frustrate him to drive him away,so my dear as it is how u ladies do most times,do not think that is how guys are,at least to some reasonable extent,with every other thing being equal,ok.

honestly the best thing is just to throw her out of any where,either the window,door,just name it,because look,when a lady starts cheating,and she still claims she loves u,ahhhhh pally,it is very dicey ooooo,because take it or leave it,the relationship is only a time bomb,look sooner or later she will start misbehaving towards u,due to the influence of the new guy on the block,so my guy b4 u suffer a serious heart-break,do the right thing now which is just to call the own thing a day with the girl,i just suffered a terrible heart-break two weeks ago,and this is au it all started,look when the whole thing will finally get blown open,u will discover that she had gone farer than u could ever think of,because a stitch in time saves nine.

well to be candid,i miss those hot kisses,those nasty sex bout,the rough plays,etc,but u know what?i am trying as much as possible not to flash my memory back to those things any more,because the more i remember them,the more it hurts me to have lost her,especially now that she flaunts the boy around me most times,just to make me feel the pain more,she was the one that dumped me 4 u people to know,infact the anti-climax of it all was when she walked me out of her room just in the presence of the new guy,hmmmm people nawa oooooo 4 u ladies,this is a girl i can not count au many times i slept with,in my house uncountable times,in her house at the balcony,in her working place,on the chair,at her friends place,at the decking,just name it,just because since i graduated 3 months ago,i have been so broke,so the 190 benz and the nasty camera phone this guy has swept my cheek off her feet,all this while,she kept telling me the guy is a yahoo boy,that she is only an instument 4 the guy on the net,but my close sources,actually told me that the 190 benz belongs to the boy's father,that the guy finished secondary skool 2 years ago,people this is not about immodesty,c,apart 4rom the material things my cheek,sorry my bitch,because my friends have told me to stop calling her my cheek,saw with this guy,every other things i am definitly ahead of this guy,looks,education,just name it,look people there are whole lots of gist more in that episode,so i do not want to think of those things i miss about her,and i will implore u people to plzzz follow suit,try not to flash ur mind back to those things any more just 4 ur own sake,ok,.

hmmmm,well,hence u have now come out to claim this guy now want ur hand in marriage,well,firstly,let just hope u are telling us the truth,plzzzzz try and understand,i do not mean to insult u,but if this is the case,hmmmmm,then i guess the guy must be really daft,honestly that is just the fact,just put ur self in the shoes of his new girl friend,i can imagine au this girl would feel,well,only u,the guy,and God,know the truth,any way,2 bad,4 the guy.

tanx 4 reasoning along with me,because it is very normal 4 the guy to try and hit the lady where it hurt now,because when the lady left him then,wow,i can not just imagine how traumatic the whole situation was 4 the guy,so after crying and being sober,i tell u,that is where the feelings he must have had 4 her ended,but perhaps only if the guy is foolish any way,that he would still be in crazy love with this lady again,so my dear once again,if u must go back,be ready to take sticks of ur life,yes i mean all the dirty banging,the animalistic treatment,and eventual disposal,and i bet u,if all this happens,which there are high probability of it happening,then 4rom then on,u might never have any serious man with u any more,as always the case with ladies in ur shoes,willy-nilly.

hmmmmm,it is such a pity au u ladies reason in a very muzzy way,so now that he has turned ur dream man u want to go all out hunting him back,so that u will now spoil the new girl's joy,such things happen to u ladies every day,yet u people do not learn lesson,but u know what?if i were to be the guy,i will just pretend to still be in love with u,where by during the period of the whole show i will now bang the hell,use u like a rag and chase u back to where u are coming 4rom,so u must be very carefull that might just be what the guy plans to do,because to be sincere with u,the probability of that guy still having any feeling 4 u is not even up to half,let alone 1[one],so if u like ur self,u better move on with life as the guy has done just that,and 4get about this guy,so that u will not make a big fool of ur self,ok.

tank u people,i feel highly honoured partaining the replies i saw,but i must be sincere with u people it has been very difficult to stay without this girl,but i know i will have to try,but u know what,when i went to her office to ask 4 my passport that she took without my consent then,yesterday,when she gave it to me,i told her that look tosin i know 4 sure one of us will regret this,hmmmm,she said ahhhhh,infact she will love to be the one to regret it,as i was talking,she called the new guy on the block,to come over and pick her,she called on phone,while i kept talking,she did not even care whether anybody was standing or talking,she kept painting her lips and looking at the mirror,when i told one of her neighbours this thing the guy told me that he knows the boy well,that the boy finished 4rom ibadan grammer skool 2 years ago,that the 190 belongs to his dad,ahhh,when i heard all this i was close 2 tears again.

ahhhhhhhhhhh people,it is a very terrible thing to love someone,but can't just help the person not going,my strucked me just this last friday,i suffered a serious heart-break,my was so crazy that could u believe my cheek walked me out in the presence of her current boy friend,in her own appartment,while i was weeping and begging her 2 plzzzzz,let us talk things over,infact when i got so persistent with the begging she even threatened to tell the boy to walk me out,if i persist.This is a girl that i can not count au many times i had slept with,in my house uncountable times,in her house,at the balcony,in her friends house at the decking,in her working place on the chair,just name it,i could not believe the entire scenario while it was going on,on friday,just because this boy has a 190 benz,a nasty camera phone,and some change to go with it,initially when i suspected the whole thing btw my girl and the guy,she claimed and still claims the boy is a yahoo boy,and that she is just a tool for the boy in his modus operandi of defrauding whites,well,what even baffles me the most is the fact that,besides these material things i conceded to this boy,honestly this is not about immodesty,every other thing,i am well ahead of the boy,which my cheek knows,but 4 the material things,hmmmmm,well,simply for the mere fact that since i graduated last 3 months i have been so broke,my girl's attitude changed,but thank god,my friends have been wiping my tears 4 me,with each of them telling me his own xperience,infact i could not bear it to the xtent that i told my mum,and my grand mum,and i am still roaring to tell any body that cares to listen,because i have discovered that the more i tell people,the more i get a little bit relieved,till now i still find it hard 2 swallow the fact that she is gone,my friends have told me to stop begging her 4 now and even 4 life,that she only want 2 catch her fun,that after some time she will come back to her senses,and she will be back crawling b4 me,hmmmm,all this episode i told u that happened in her house were just the anti-climax of it all,b4 that day,enough had happened,she had frustrated me 2 the core,but what will i do now,they have told me 2 leave her alone 4 now and perhaps 4 life,so people it is very difficult to ove someone and have to watch the person slip away.more of gist to come as time goes on.

honestly oooooooo

thank u very much people,honestly i really appreciate,but u c the fact is that the whole thing still look like a dream to me,u know i am now always like,hmmmmmm,so this girl is gone,will i ever see someone like her again?since that friday i have been telling any body that cares to listen,my mum,my grand-mum,etc,even my mum knows that b4 i could tell her something,hmmm,the thing has really hooked me,i am being tempted to tell my dad as well,but if i tell him,he would just conclude that i have aids already,considering the rumpy times i had with her,what baffles me most is that when i looked at the boy,the only thing i conceded to this boy are just those material things,plzzzzzzzzzzz people,this is not about immodesty,every other thing, i am ahead of the boy that i know,looks,intellect,education,just name it,infact once again,i say thank u ooooooooooooooooooooo.

hello,people,i really feel ur comments in as much as i am not quite com4table with some,hmmmmmm,i just had my heart, broken,last week friday,plzzzzzzzzzzzzz people heartbreak is a very terrible thing to xperience,let me just give u people a tip of the ice bag or the anti-climax of my,can u believe my girl friend walked me out of her house,her room,just in the presence of her new boy friend,and even threatened to instruct the guy 2 walk me out if i keep beging her,the whole thing looked so incredible 2 me,considering the fact that this is a girl i can not count how many times i have slept with her,yes it is uncountable,[in my house countless times,in the balcony of her house in the night twice,in her friends place at the decking,in her working place on the chair,just name it,]just because the boy happens to be a yahoo boy,he has a 190 benz and a solid camera phone 2 go with it,and some change in the pocket,well,my friends have told me 2 free her,that she will still come back crawling,b4 me,but right now it looks as if she will never come back and that i will never c someone like her again,just because since i graduated 3 months ago,i have been so broke.u people should just pray 4 me 2 get over this.

pally u can plzz say that again,honestly,obasanjo right 4rom time does not feel com4table working with technocrats,because he knows they are always 2 democratic and also 2 driven by things being done accordingly.And besides her resignation might not be unconnected with her griviances partaining the modus-operandi of her removal 4rom the ministry of finance 2 the ministry of foreign affairs.

yea,y not.i can marry a more successful woman,it does not matter,the sinei-qua-non thing in this whole issue is to have an understanding woman,who will be submissive,to the husband.